Coach, I used to have a great bunch of mates. We’d do everything together – chill at the pub and play pool, watch the footy, go out cruising for girls at clubs. But now, they’re all pairing off and getting engaged or married. I hardly get to hang out with just them anymore. Where’s the loyalty?
Buddy, I could ask you the same question. If these blokes really are your mates, you should be happy for them – they’re moving on to the next stage in their lives. Now, I’m not saying that everyone should rush out and get married, but it’s a fact that a lot of people do. And just because your mates all have a plus one now, it doesn’t mean you’re no longer part of their lives. My old man once told me that to have a friend you need to be a friend, so put in the effort and start spending time with your mates and their girls. Sure, you might put in fewer hours at the pub, but that can only do you – and them – some good. Another plus: all these women will have friends – single friends. Who knows? You might meet a plus one, too. And on another note, remember that around half of all marriages end in divorce, and when that happens to a mate of yours, he’ll need good friends around to get him through it. See, marriages might end, but mates are for life.
Hey Coach, I feel like I’m stuck in a rut. My job’s going nowhere, my wife is always busy with the kids or the house or her work, and I’m sick of the sight of my gym. Is this a mid-life crisis? What do I do about it?
Mid-life crisis? Nah, mate, I reckon you’ve just got lazy. Job’s going nowhere? Do something about it – speak to your boss and tell him you need a challenge. Or find a new job. Hell, go back to uni and pursue a new career path. As for your marriage, well, maybe if you spent a bit more time looking after the kids and helping your wife out around the house, you’d have more time to spend together. Plus the extra time with your kids will bring you closer to them. See, kids have a funny way of giving your life meaning. Then there’s the gym, and this is the easiest one. Stop going. Yep. Find other ways to exercise that don’t involve treadmills and squat racks. Head outside. Take up running. Try bodyweight exercises at the local park. Join a swimming club. The world really is your oyster, mate. You just need to make the dive to catch it.
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