FAMILY SECRETS
My grandmother, a genteel woman who never spoke ill of anyone, had a brother she didn’t like. He was a good bit older than she was, and they were not close. When I asked her about him, she would only say he was “not very nice.” That’s the kind of vagueness that sets the mind to conjuring all sorts of ignominious details. Had he been a criminal, perhaps? What had happened to drive a wedge between these two siblings? Many families have secrets. There’s the black sheep who married outside the faith and then disappeared from view, or the drug addict no one talks about. In this issue, Diane Selkirk chases down the mystery of her absent grandfather (“Found Family,” page 40), which began with a photograph of her father as a…