Change Your Life

Change Your Life

Issue 5

Whether you want to make a few tweaks to the way you live your life or find a completely new way of working, living and being, Change Your Life will help you create the life you really want. You may want to change your job, create a new business, reinvent yourself or the way you’re living your life. Whatever your quest, this series will inspire you to make the changes that you want, prompt you to answer life changing questions, and take action. We cover everything from how to consciously create a great start, operate with a beginner’s mind and overcome procrastination to inviting you to explore your greatest, grandest dreams. Imagine if you freed yourself to truly ‘think big’ for the future? Let’s pull back the layers shrouding our dreams, stopping them from seeing the light of day. Prosperity, a job we really love, romance and good health – what if you could have it all? This Change Your Life series will also help you if your goals seem too lofty and float out of reach. We feature experts who help you go back to basics and take sustainable action by practicing positive practical habits and baby step by baby step start building strong foundations. Change Your Life encourages you to be braver, inch out of your comfort zone, stop procrastinating and crack on with creating a life you love.

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12 min.
find your voice and be heard

The other day, I found myself in an uncomfortable situation. I wanted to address someone’s behaviour, but found it challenging. The person is the leader of a group I belong to and uses his position to make catty comments under the guise of ‘banter’. ‘Someone needs to have a word with him,’ I fumed to a fellow group member. As long as that someone wasn’t me… Hold my tongue Why is speaking up so daunting? I am no shrinking violet, yet I agonise over turning down an invitation or questioning a decision with which I don’t agree. Often, I find it easier to put up and shut up – after all, no one else seems to have a problem with this guy. ‘It’s just his sense of humour,’ said my friend after…

5 min.
what stops you having your say with conviction?

1 Past regrets about speaking out revolve around: ♥ Getting too emotional ◆ Embarrassment or feeling exposed ● The impact on relationships Feeling you can’t defend your position 2 Generally, your biggest barrier to self-belief is: Taking yourself seriously ♥ Your critical voice ◆ Comparing yourself to others ● Feeling overwhelmed 3 Planned speaking out usually involves: ♥ Overthinking and overpreparing ● Being pushed to your limit ◆ Other people who take the lead Raising questions to spark thinking 4 Before a big social event, you worry that you will: Be a bit bored ♥ Make a fool of yourself ◆ Not click with anyone ● Find it too much 5 You’d speak out more if you knew: The right time and place ♥ How others felt ◆ It really mattered to you ● The possible outcome 6 When you can’t sleep, you often worry about: Whether you’ve made the…

8 min.
divorce settlement

My son and I were out walking on New Year’s Eve when a couple crossed the road in front of us, hand in hand. It was my ex-husband of 25 years with the woman he had left me for five years ago. It was the first time I had seen them together. Thirty years ago, this man and I would have been celebrating the new year as newlyweds. It was clear that he had moved on. Watching them, I might have been devastated – but, in that moment, I realised that I was finally over him. Point of no return Six months before, a friend had told me that the man who had once been the love of my life was engaged. It sent me into a tailspin. I believed I had healed,…

5 min.
mindful ambitions

Most of us link our careers closely with the modern definition of success – the aim is to achieve as much as possible professionally and financially. It was hardwired in me: my academic upbringing, societal expectations and our materialistic culture all taught me a ‘good’ career would serve me well. So, I went out and got it all – a prestigious job in finance, a fancy title and a high salary. But I soon realised that success isn’t just about prosperity – my work lacked meaning and my work-life balance was nonexistent. According to a study, many of us see success as more than a hefty pay packet.* The top qualities employees desire in their profession are permanent flexibility, work that has purpose, and commitment to health and wellbeing at work.…

7 min.
little miss important

Previously, I did not think that I had an ego problem. That was when I associated big egos purely with loud, brash, shamelessly self-promoting bores, who droned on about their achievements, completely oblivious to my eyes glazing over with disinterest. I have since realised that ego issues are far more complex, and that I might have a ‘difficulty’, after all. For example, at a recent business meeting, when I was introduced as a ‘stay-at-home mum’ instead of a freelance writer, I was shocked at my visceral reaction. I felt my cheeks redden, while my inner dialogue went berserk. I spent the rest of the meeting distracted, trying to assuage my dented ego, dropping comments about how busy I was writing all day, and not sitting on the sofa. It didn’t help…

4 min.
are you crippled by loneliness?

The events of this year have thrown a spotlight on isolation. Short-term feelings of loneliness are part of life, but there are times when they can be debilitating. Unaddressed, they can affect our wellbeing and even our health. In this month’s podcast, I chat to UKCP therapist Stephen Westcott about the complexities of loneliness, and how to find ways to make changes. CEO of the UK Council for Psychotherapy Integrative psychotherapist Stephen Westcott explains how to understand and manage feelings of disconnection and loneliness Living in forced isolation and choosing to be isolated are different, but both can have a real impact on us. While some people love their own company, a stigma still exists around being alone, associated with having no friends and not being socially fulfilled. However, that isn’t always the…