I BELIEVE we are fully adult when:
We can be authentic with all people, including our parents, treating all others respectfully as equals, despite rank, position or the apparent lack of it.
We respect mutuality and equality, and want both in all of our relationships.
We have acknowledged our hurts, grieved appropriately, and decided to live to the fullest.
We can delay gratification.
We have stopped blaming others for the condition of our lives, especially our parents.
Ambiguity, mystery and uncertainty are allies, not enemies. We can hold seemingly conflicting thoughts and beliefs without becoming unsettled.
We are able to recognise when and how we were victimised but no longer think, speak, feel or behave like victims.
We have a small group of people to whom we talk about almost…