Table of contents for 7/31/2019 in Move!

IT IS so important to know your HIV status. Not just for yourself, but also for your family, your partner and anyone who loves you. Knowing your status could save your life because only then can you make the right decisions for your health. Decisions that could ultimately see you live a long and happy life. The people of Eshowe in KwaZulu-Natal know this very well and they have broken records set by the United Nations Programme on HIV/Aids (UNAIDS), which aims to end the Aids epidemic by 2020. Read more about what they have done in this town where so many people have the disease but are living healthy lives (see page 20). There are many lessons to be learnt. THE MOVE! TEAM TEACH KIDS ABOUT UBUNTU We keep…

HE’S come a long way since he first broke into the industry as Zolani in drama series MTV Shuga. Now Tokollo Sebothoma, affectionately known as TK, has bagged a prized role as Tebza in Mzansi Magic’s all-new series Impilo: The Scam. Move! caught up with him to talk about his road to stardom. HUMBLE BEGINNINGS The 25-year-old was born in Mamelodi in Pretoria. TK’s energetic personality made him want to try out several of the extracurricular activities his school offered. “When I was in school I was the kid that tried out everything, especially sports. Acting wasn’t something I was doing then,” he tells us. He was an avid hockey and basketball player. Then his drama teacher suggested he audition for a role in the school play. “I auditioned, got…

HE’S a musician, actor and brand ambassador, and one of SA’s hottest guys. Anga Makubalo (32) recently featured in the Distruction Boyz’ new Gqom single, Sinenkani, alongside DJ Tira. The song was released this month and it’s already a club banger. He also recently announced his partnership with international denim company Soviet Jeans and his ambassadorship with nutrition company NPL. But it’s his role on Isidingo that has fans all atwitter. Since his return to the SABC3 soapie in November 2018, playing the role of Obakeng, a gun-slinging, fearless gangster, viewers are kept on the edge of their seats with every episode. LOVE IN THE AIR Obakeng has found love and is in an interracial relationship with Anja Lategan, played by Lee Visagie. “For the first time, race does not…

IT WAS a battle between male and female home cooks on this week’s Rate My Plate. Twenty-eight-year-old Martin Mhlongo, a rugby commentator and animal nutritionist, proved he’s a jack-of-all-trades and a master in the kitchen – wowing Chef Dede Wyt before he beat fellow contestants Faro Moshidi and Norah Gontse to the title and winnings. Martin’s love for food grew from watching his mother prepare meals for his late father, and everybody on the show could feel the love in his dish. Try his hearty meal and share the smiles around your dinner table. SHORT RIB WITH CHIMICHURRI SAUCE PREPARATION: ±20 MIN | SERVES 4 PEOPLE COUSCOUS 500ml (2c) Harvestime Mixed Vegetables 250ml (1c) Harvestime Peas 2 chicken stock cubes 20 ml olive oil 3 fresh garlic cloves, chopped 250g…

WASHING your face should be simple and quick, right? But most of us don’t pay much attention to how we do it. If you’re scrubbing too hard, using water that’s too hot or the wrong products, you won’t be doing your face any favours. Do it correctly and you’ll avoid problems such as clogged pores, flaking skin, irritation and rough patches. THE BASICS The right way to wash your face differs from person to person because our skin types vary, but getting the hang of the basics is a good start. Follow these easy steps then customise with products suitable for your complexion. STEP 1 First remove all makeup. If you're wearing eyeshadow and lipstick, run cotton wool soaked in makeup remover over your eyes and lips for a few…

Q I SUSPECT I GOT HIV FROM MY GIRLFRIEND ‘HOW CAN I SUE MY GIRLFRIEND FOR INFECTING ME WITH HIV?’ I had unprotected sex with my girlfriend and six months later I took an HIV test – something I do regularly. My test results came back positive. What are the legal requirements of bringing a case against my girlfriend because I suspect I got the virus from her? ANONYMOUS, MAHIKENG A Suing someone for infecting you with HIV isn’t an easy case to win. You are responsible for taking care of yourself, which includes having protected sex. If you have unprotected sex, you are acting negligently and voluntarily putting yourself at risk. No one is legally obliged to disclose their health and medical information, and this includes your girlfriend. There…

‘I WAS DENIED JUSTICE BY MY MOTHER BECAUSE SHE WAS PROTECTING HER BROTHER’ Q I’M WORRIED I AM FAILING HIS CHILDREN I’m taking care of my late brother’s children, aged 15 and 12. They recently changed their profile pictures to that of their mother. The children were very young when their parents passed away in a car accident, so they never really knew them. Am I doing something wrong for them to miss their mother? ANONYMOUS, POLOKWANE A It’s normal to wonder if you are doing everything right because once children lose their parents, the caregiver wants to do everything possible to close the gap left by the parents. The reality is that gap cannot be closed, and it has nothing to do with you – it is the nature…

WHEN you put your trust in Him, it’s like investing money in a bank that will guarantee safe-keeping and sure-profit for tomorrow. Research shows that the word trust appears 191 times, in different variations, in the Bible. Every believer must have confidence even during a storm, troubles and/or afflictions. Psalm 34:19-22 warns: “Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. He keepeth all his bones, not one of them is broken. Evil shall slay the wicked: and they that hate the righteous shall be desolate. The Lord redeemeth the soul of his servant and none of them that trust in him shall be desolate.” The following is critical for a believer who desires to win at the end of it all. TRUST…

Former Miss South Africa Basetsana Kumalo has called for women to be more actively represented in lobola negotiations. Move! readers have their say. Is this how makoti does things in the Kumalo family? ELIAS MAKAU I saw the ladies in the lobola negotiations of Zodwa Wabantu. They looked lost and agreed to every thing those men were throwing at them. They first need to try to learn more about this culture. Yes, I agree they have to be involved, but a little bit of learning more about it could help. SIZWE DLAMINI Where is South Africa heading? If they are not taking their lobola from their parents, they are paying lobola themselves. Now they want to head the negotiations. I think this lobola thing should be scrapped. THEMBA RADEBE In…

Many clubs are started by people who know each other well and have good relationships. Things can become tricky when other members from outside their circles join the club. This can cause tension and conflict, leading to the failure or dissolution of the club. TO BE CONSIDERED It is a good idea to invite only people you know to join your social club, but this option may limit the growth of your social club. Stokvels can also consider people who may not necessarily be friends, but they are people they know are reliable and trusted, such as colleagues, to join the club. Of course, this does not guarantee that there will be peace in your club, but at least you will know the people you are dealing with and know…

SHE can switch from playing the role of a 16-year-old girl to a 35-year-old lady. This versatility means Khayakazi Kula (33) will never have to be stuck in one particular role. She saddened fans when she posted she would no longer be playing Martha on Mzansi Magic telenovela The Queen, a role she’s had for over two years. “Argh man, all good things come to an end.” BEING MARTHA “Everyone knows Martha was always dishing out advice. Although she can’t claim to be perfect, she always wanted the best for her family and friends.” This is a trait Khayakazi and Martha shares. “Martha is caring and always willing to help. She is honest and holds family in high regard. I’ m also a family-oriented person and I related to that.”…

CELEBRITIES were invited to the premiere of a movie called Secrets. But guests were pleasantly surprised when a secret was revealed: after watching the 15-minute film, they realised it wasn’t a movie! It was a Nedbank campaign about people’s relationships with money. The short film features Lindiwe Dim, Hlubi Mboya and Brett Williams. The bank is encouraging consumers to see money differently and highlighting how our upbringings, cultures and experiences shape the way we feel about money, and how these emotions inform our financial behaviour. A panel discussion was led by radio personality and author Redi Tlhabi. Actress Terry Pheto, singer PJ Powers and radio personality Nick Hamman were among the guests.…

EMPLOYEES at the Jinke Property Group in Jinan, capital of Shandong Province in East China, were shocked when a man showed up with about 16 bottles full of coins. The local corner shop owner decided to invest in a property inside the Jinkecheng Residential District. Seven Jinke staff members started counting the coins with another 26 joining them, but soon gave up and used a scale. The coins weighed a whopping 83kg, an amount of R315 000, which was later confirmed by the two dozen bank staff who counted them. The homeowner bought a unit worth 430 000 RMB/ Chinese Yuan (about R923 000) and is expected to make further payments using more of his coins, which he has at home. “I sell fish, tofu, and bean sprouts. I get…

IT’S GOOD TO BE OVER 50 ■ Kidnappers are not very interested in you. ■ In a hostage situation you are likely to be released first. ■ No one expects you to run into a burning building. ■ People call at 9pm and ask, “Did I wake you?” ■ People no longer view you as a hypochondriac. ■ There’s nothing left to learn the hard way. ■ Things you buy now won’t wear out. ■ You can live without sex (but not without glasses). ■ You enjoy hearing about other people’s operations. ■ You get into a heated argument about pension plans. ■ You have a party and the neighbours don’t even realise it. ■ Getting high means it’s time to take your blood pressure medication. ■ You no longer…

BAKED CHICKEN WITH PRUNES Prunes and peas add fibre to this tasty dish. SERVES 6-8 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 40 MIN ■ 8 chicken portions ■ cake flour, seasoned with salt and pepper ■ oil ■ 2 whole cloves ■ 6 whole allspice ■ 3 cinnamon sticks ■ 2 onions, sliced ■ 3 garlic cloves, bruised ■ 3cm fresh ginger, grated ■ 60ml (¼c) tomato paste ■ juice and zest of 2 lemons ■ 250g prunes ■ 50g Turkish apricots ■ 250ml (1c) chai-spiced rooibos tea ■ salt and pepper ■ 375ml (1½c) peas TO SERVE ■ chopped parsley or fresh coriander ■ cooked basmati or brown rice Preheat the oven to 180°C. 1 Coat the chicken in the flour and fry in oil until done. Remove from the pot.…

‘I WAS HURT IN MY PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP AND NOW JUST WANT TO HAVE A SEX PARTNER’ Q SILENT LOVER It frustrates me that my partner doesn’t talk or even look at me during sex. What can I do? ANONYMOUS, DURBAN A Different strokes for different folks. Have you ever thought that your partner may not be comfortable communicating during lovemaking? There is no right or wrong way to go about it, but when two people come together in conversation and share their likes and dislikes with one another it may make sex more enjoyable. When you reach an understanding on how both of you can be fulfilled, magic will happen. Although sex is an individual journey, you also have a responsibility towards the shared moments. Q FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS I…

Wilma Calvert, a counsellor at Families South Africa in Joburg, says: “Your parents have your best interests at heart. They have more experience of life and may see problems ahead that they want to protect you from. “If he's not ready to commit after three years, perhaps he is stringing you along. “You obviously don't know what his real intentions are, and you should not risk getting into major problems such as falling pregnant again and finding yourself raising the children alone. “I suggest you have an honest and open conversation and tell him your concerns. Ask him if he sees a future together with you and your children? “This will help you work out whether you can trust him to care about your future too. Remember, your children should…

I’ve been living with my man for 10 years and we have two kids. We are madly in love but we are not married. By the looks of things he’s too comfortable, as he never mentions committing beyond this. I want to bring up the subject of marriage but don’t know where to start. I thought he would have proposed after 10 years of dating, but nothing. How long is acceptable to date before getting married? And if your man is too cosy in a relationship, how do you bring up the topic of marriage in a constructive way?…

■ All South African citizens aged 60 and over qualify for a pensioner’s card, which they can use to snap up discounts. Pensioners who receive state pensions will be given a South African Social Security Agency (Sassa) card, which they can present in stores and elsewhere to show they qualify for special savings. ■ Those who are members of a private pension fund will usually be supplied with a pensioner’s card by their employers when they retire – but this applies mainly to people working for big companies. ■ Apply for your own card through the South African Association of Retired Persons (SAARP). They work closely with various companies to provide competitive rates and prices for pensioners. Contact SAARP on 021-592-1279 or email info@saarp.net.…

‘GOD WANTS TO KNOW WHAT IS IN YOUR HEART’ HE WALKS into the room confident and cheerful. He’s always ready to talk about how good God has been to him, he says. Tshepo Theko (29), known in the gospel industry as Tshepo Price, looks more like an R&B star than a gospel singer. But as soon as he starts to talk, it’s clear he’s a man who loves God and the industry. A LIVING TESTIMONY He didn’t know his mom until he was 22, he says, but the pain of that made him into the man he is today. “I’m a living testimony. My life could’ve turned out any other way, but it didn’t. I live for giving others hope and faith through my music because I have witnessed God’s…

DIVORCEE WANTS A MATURED GENTLEMAN I am a 44-year-old divorced woman from the Western Cape. I am looking for a matured and single gentleman. He should be between the ages of 45 and 50. If interested, please contact me on: 072-739-5431 ARE YOU A GOD-FEARING, SINGLE WOMAN? I am a 35-year-old single man from GaRankuwa, north of Pretoria. I have no children. I am looking for a good and well-mannered woman between the ages of 28 and 40. She must have no more than two kids. She must also be God-fearing and ready to settle down. If interested, please call or WhatsApp me on: 072-146-3241 LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP I am a 36-year-old single guy from Gauteng. I am looking for a serious relationship with a single woman between…

IT was a great day filled with friends and family when Virginia Mboyi celebrated her birthday. The dress code was dusty pink with blue jeans and heels. “I love going out with friends and family so this was a perfect outing,” she says. She celebrated this milestone with her cousins and friends, Murendeni Mametsa, Vuledzani Liphadzi, Humbula, Angelina and Gracious, as well as several other people who joined them at the restaurant. They all danced the night away – in heels, of course.…

THEY say every dog has his day, but in this case guard dog Jita got more than she bargained for when she was seriously wounded during an attempted break-in. Lucky Joseph Machwiswa’s dog was stabbed by intruders and the loving owner vowed to do anything to ensure his loyal companion survived. Lucky (44), from Lomanyaneng near Mahikeng in the North West, was determined to get help for his pet even if it meant walking 6km to do so. SAVING JITA “I think these people were trying to break into my house,” Lucky tells us. He says criminals would usually kill the dog to get to the owner. “The dogs not only become your friend but also your alarm.” Fortunately, Lucky, who’s a contract worker, was working night shift on Friday,…

WHAT do you do when the girl you love doesn’t love you back? Well, if you are Vukosi Moyo, you blackmail her parents into giving you her hand in marriage. Giyani: Land of Blood’s Vukosi (played by Fumani N Shilubana) started off as a councillor and a “yes” man for the Mudau family. But all this time the sneaky man was quietly studying the family and collecting any leverage he can to use against them. In no time he manipulated his way into becoming a mayor and into the family, and is now marrying the Mudau daughter Khensani (played by Mathabo Mothibe). Will this marriage last? What else does Vukosi have up his sleeve? Move! gets a sneak peek into all the drama surrounding the wedding on the SABC2 show.…

MOST people will remember him from Jam Alley but Nimrod Nkosi has come a long way since those early days in the TV industry. These days he’s busy reuniting families in the emotional reality TV show Utatakho and shooting for his new role on e.tv’s Isipho. And there’s someone else occupying his time. The 47-year-old is father to a rather active five-year-old boy. We catch up with Nimrod to talk balancing work and home life. TAKING ON A NEW ROLE On e.tv’s new TV drama Isipho, Nimrod plays the lead role of Moses Shezi, a principal of a school for the supernaturally gifted. He has a wife, Nkayezi (played by Xoli Zondi), and daughter, Ntombi (played by Precious Ngidi). “Moses sees a vision that changes his life,” Nimrod says. “He…

1 Singer and actress Halle Bailey has landed the role of . . . in the upcoming Disney’s The Little Mermaid remake? A Alana B Ava C Arista D Ariel 2 Legendary singer Stevie Wonder recently announced that he’s going to have a . . . transplant surgery? A Cornea B Kidney C Liver D Heart 3 The Kellogg brothers invented which breakfast staple by accident in 1898? A Special K B Rice Krispies C Corn Flakes D All-Bran 4 A nimbostratus is a type of . . . ? A Dog B Cloud C Storm D Plant 5 A . . . pregnancy is one that occurs anytime a woman is over the age of 34? A Geriatric B Ectopic C Molar D Phantom 6 The passage way from…

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TUBERCULOSIS (TB) is a bacterial infection that attacks the lungs and causes coughing, weight loss, fever, fatigue and night chills. Anyone can get TB, but if you’re HIV-positive your already weakened immune system is less able to fight infection, making you more likely to develop the disease. For many years, TB was treated for about six months. Since treatment was lengthy, some people didn’t complete the full course, which led to more severe forms of the disease known as multidrug-resistant TB and extensively drug-resistant TB. Fortunately, you don’t have to go this route. Not only are there vaccines to prevent TB if you’re HIV-positive, newer drugs taken over a shorter period are currently being tested. ‘ONE OF OUR SHORTFALLS AS HUMANS IS IGNORING SIGNS’ PREVENTING TB If you are HIV-positive,…

LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG First impressions count this week, whether you want to charm a lover or influence the outcome of a work interview. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 20, 32, 38, 40, 43 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEP Instead of changed schedules, you can expect a week of efficiency. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 5, 16, 25, 29, 39, 51 LIBRA 23 SEP – 22 OCT Providing you don’t procrastinate, things could speed up in terms of your professional life. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 10, 31, 35, 47, 52 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV It’s a week where you’re in the limelight. Your reputation is on the line, for better and for worse. Use your power wisely. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 5, 22, 25, 30, 42, 49 SAGITTARIUS 22…

TSHEPISO MASOKA Don’t push him into a corner. Let him do this of his own free will. If you feel you need to take your relationship to another level then talk to him about it. But know there's a possibility he has other plans and may not see you as a wife. SHEROLL DELSILE I made the same mistake of staying with a guy before we got married. I'm happy to report that as soon as I moved out, I found a man who married me within two years. It's not right to stay with someone who doesn't intend to marry you. NOMTHANDAZO MABENA You are past the stage of asking that question because you've made him too comfortable. You’ve been acting like a married couple for years and have…

“Parents should be concerned if the conflict starts to disrupt the family’s daily functioning or the kids’ emotional and psychological wellbeing,” says child counsellor Kirsten McLeod. Signs include nail-biting, increased anxiety, a change in appetite and sleep patterns, a lack of motivation in general (including schoolwork), isolation within the family, and behaviour regression such as bedwetting. “If you notice that conflict between your kids is damaging their self-esteem or that relationships within your family are becoming dysfunctional, family therapy is advisable,” McLeod adds. It’s when siblings don’t have the necessary tools or techniques to deal with conflict that things can become problematic – which is why therapy can help. “Some therapy practices run emotional and social skills programmes for children where they learn how to manage the way they think…

1 Do you know how much money you have in your bank account right now? A Yes, down to the last penny. B You have no idea. C Roughly. 2 Have you ever arranged your CD/book/tape collection into alphabetical order? A No. B Yes. C You did, but then it got messed up. 3 Do you have a nickname? A Yes, but not a complimentary one. B No. C Yes, a fun one. 4 Do you look the same today as you did five years ago? A No, totally different. B A little changed but nothing major, like a new hairstyle. C Just older. 5 Do you use the same access password or code for everything from the internet to your bank account? A Yes. B No, you have two.…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…