Table of contents for 8/7/2019 in Move!

IT has been 63 years since some 20 000 women marched to the Union Buildings in Pretoria to protest against the apartheid government’s law that black people need to carry a pass. On that day the country saw how powerful women can be. How they can change the world and how they can influence the future of a nation. Let us be inspired by these women as we celebrate Women’s Day this year. Let us find the strength within ourselves and believe that we can be powerful and that we can change the world. We must have faith in ourselves and trust that we can achieve great things. Our families, our communities, our country will all benefit from it. And, of course, so will we. We hope you have a…

HE HAS fans swooning over his good looks and acting skills. But he still can’t believe he’s on his way to becoming a household name in South African television. Siyabonga Sepotokele (23) tells Move! he always wanted to become a musician, but it all changed when he got the role as Lehasa on SABC 2’s Keeping Score. It all started when he met actress Florence Masebe (46) in his matric year. She saw something special in him and told him he would do well as an actor. Now he’s come full circle and stars alongside the veteran actress on Mzansi Magic’s The Republic. HUMBLE BEGINNINGS Siyabonga grew up in Orlando East, Soweto. His parents, dad Shadrack “Ta Sello” Ntsibande and his late mom, Phyllis Sepotokele, were unemployed but made sure…

‘I REALISED I CAN’T STAY THIS BIG BECAUSE HOW WAS I GOING TO PLAY WITH MY KIDS?’ I DON’T want to die before my time he says sorrowfully as he reflects on his life. He’s been in the industry for 17 years and in all that time, he’s been popular for his silky voice as well as his size. But Nkanyiso Bhengu (43) tells Move! he’s done with being overweight. The TV personality launched Walk It Off with Nkanyiso, a nationwide anti-obesity campaign, in July. And he wants to be the first success story. HOW IT ALL STARTED “I’ve been obese for more than half my life,” Nkanyiso says. And he now wants to lose weight and live healthily for the sake of his children. “When I was younger I…

THE SHINY BOX A young rural boy and his parents are on their way to visit family in the big city. The bus stops at a shopping mall where his extended family promised they are meant to meet them. The young boy and his parents are amazed by almost everything they see. The mother tells the boy and his father to wait on a bench near the entrance while she goes into a shop that sells more dresses and shoes than she’d ever seen in her life. As they wait, the father and son are especially fascinated by two shiny silver walls that move apart and back together again by themselves. The lad asks, “What is this thing, father?” The father, having never seen a lift before, responds, “I have…

DAY LOOK Keep it light for a daytime date. STEP 1 After applying foundation, fill in your brows with an eyebrow pencil. Highlight your brow bone using the lightest colour in your eyeshadow palette. Apply a golden or nude shimmery eyeshadow to your upper eyelid. STEP 2 Using your fingertips or a blush brush, apply highlighter on your cheekbones and a little on the apples of your cheeks. STEP 3 Apply a nude lip gloss. Tip Matte nude lipstick is a good substitute for lip gloss. Line your lips with a slightly darker lip liner so they don’t look ashen. NIGHT LOOK Go for glamour on a night out. Tip Have a bit of fun by choosing a head accessory to match your outfit. This will complete your look. STEP…

‘WHAT HAPPENS TO SOMEONE’S SALARY IF THEY DIE BEFORE PAYDAY?’ Q MY FRIEND WON’T RETURN MY CAR I lent my friend my car. He has now driven to another province without my consent. Can I report the car as stolen? ANONYMOUS, TEMBISA A The car can’t be reported as stolen because you gave it voluntarily to your friend. If you want the car to be returned, you need to contact your friend and demand that he returns the car. If he still refuses to return it, you can go to your nearest police station and request that they contact him and warn him to return the car. If he still refuses, you can open a criminal case against him. Then, when you demand your car back and he refuses to…

‘WE NEVER AGREE ON DISCIPLINE AND I’M WORRIED OUR CHILDREN WILL TURN INTO DELINQUENTS’ Q I WANT TO GET MARRIED I’ve been in a relationship for over five years and want to get married. My boyfriend said he’s not ready for marriage yet. I want to leave him as I feel he’s wasting my time. ANONYMOUS, CAPE TOWN A It’s important for two people in a relationship to talk about their individual goals and their goals as a couple. This is to ensure they are both on the same page. If it turns out there are differences, honest discussions can help you see how both of you can adjust and move forward. You and your boyfriend have done the review part. Now, honestly discuss how to deal with the different…

YOU’VE found out that you didn’t marry an angel, right? Many of us knew this even before we got married, but a couple of months later things just seem too much. Often, couples realise that what they found cute while dating is now one of the most annoying things about their spouse. So, what are your spouse’s most annoying habits? Is it the way he eats, sits, cleans up, uses the bathroom, squeezes the toothpaste, leaves stuff lying around, or snores when he sleeps? Does he perhaps talk through the movie or crack his knuckles? ANNOYING HABITS VERSUS ANNOYING ACTIVITIES Whenever we deal with this subject, we always encourage couples to distinguish between habits and activities. Annoying habits we count as behaviours that are done repeatedly and habitually without thought.…

■ It’s all very well to have a business idea, but do you have the credentials and credibility to run the business? Ask yourself what qualifies you to get into that kind of a business. ■ Don’t be in a rush to quit your job to start your business. Run your business on the side and resign once the business gets off the ground. ■ Not all businesses require lots of money to start. Use what you have and don’t assume that no-one will inject money in your business. Knock on as many doors as possible. ■ Research is very important when you want to start a business. It can save you a lot of money and time. ■ Make good use of social media. We have received business from…

THE term double-minded comes from the Greek word dipsuchos, meaning ‘a person with two minds or souls.’ James 1:8 reads: “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.”This verse rings true for many of us. We will come across people who live lives of double-mindedness and sometimes even find ourselves in this position. It’s time to identify the signs and address them. ■ They talk about faith but live in doubt. James 1:6-7 reads: “But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.” ■ They are easily…

Speculation has been rife about who will replace DJ Fresh on Metro FM, with some calling for Anele Mdoda to take up the reins. But she’s made it clear she doesn’t want the job. Move! readers have their say. Whoever (is) going to replace DJ Fresh has some big shoes to fill! SNACKS MADOLO Imagine Anele and Relebogile (Mabotja) both in one show with their talkativeness? Indlebe zethu zinga shushu (Our ears will be hot). FRIDA MAPULE KGWEDI Yoooo! I love Anele on the (94.7) Breakfast Club. AYANDA AMANTOMBAZAN MAVILAKAZI Could be better if someone can replace him though (other) than this Anele what-what. She seems to be pretty boring already. SEMMO LINCON Relebogile (Mabotja) and Angie Khumalo are doing well so far, so they mustn’t change the team. BHEKI…

It can be disheartening to work so hard to save money only to find out that it had been stolen. Fortunately, you can take legal action against the people involved. WHAT TO DO According to Johannesburg attorney and law researcher Refilwe Lechaba, taking stokvel money without the club’s knowledge is stealing. “Because the members were not aware of the money being taken, this is classified as theft. “The club can open a case with the South African Police Service and an investigation will be conducted. “The members could either get a fine or spend time in jail,”she explains. However, the club cannot hold the bank liable because they gave money to the correct signatories, she adds. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact…

‘I WILL MISS THAT GIRL – SHE WAS CRAZY, BUT IT WAS TIME FOR HER TO DIE’ IT’S been more than a month since her beloved character was killed off and fans are still coming to terms with her death – but for Sibusisiwe Jili, it felt like a weight had been lifted off her shoulders when Zanele was laid to rest. For five years the Isibaya actress played the club manager whose life spirals out of control when she starts dating the son of a ruthless taxi boss. “I will miss that girl – she was crazy, but it was time for her to die,” she says. Zanele’s death came at just the right time for Sibusisiwe, who has been wanting to spread her wings for a while. THE…

INTERNATIONAL gin brand Tanqueray launched Tanqueray Flor de Sevilla, an exciting new addition to their family made with all the glory of the Spanish city of Seville’s sun-soaked oranges, with much ado. TV personality Lorna Maseko, who was the host of the touch of orange-themed event, took pleasure in teaching attendees how to pronounce the new product’s name. The luxurious event took place at Beechwood Gardens in Sandton, and had the likes of model Blue Mbombo, actress Faraida Matsileng and visual artist Trevor Stuurman sipping away.…

IT TOOK 49 carefully chosen words to close one chapter of her life and begin another. “I am a rape survivor,” Zizo Apleni typed. “Was raped by my father for seven years. I became pregnant, that’s how it came out. I wrote a book about my story: My Father Took Away My Innocence, purified and sanctified at last. I do not have money to print the book.” She pressed the tweet button and those sentences took a life of their own, popping up in feeds across Mzansi and around the world, accompanied by the viral hashtag #ojewakeeng, sparked by the Sotho phrase “O jewa ke eng?” meaning “What’s bothering you?” (see box). HOW IT STARTED In response to Zizo’s tweet came promises of financial support for the printing of her…

Naturally neutral Tip Beige is anything but boring. Wear various patterns and textures – such as pleats, faux fur and suede – to keep the look interesting. Yellow fever Tip When dressing in all yellow, stick to simply tailored items and minimal accessories to avoid looking over the top. Berry blaze Tip This deep colour is perfect for winter. Wear it in a mixture of shades and complement its richness with red accessories. Pink passion Tip Pink can be elegant and cool. Play with textures such as satin and wool, and combine items in various shades to highlight individual elements of your look.…

CORNED BEEF HASH Instead of shredded beef, we used corned beef for this dish. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 5 MIN COOKING: 25 MIN ■ 450g potatoes, peeled and cut into chunks ■ 45ml (3T) olive oil ■ 1 large onion, sliced ■ 2 cloves garlic, crushed ■ 2 sprigs thyme leaves ■ 2 red peppers, sliced ■ 1 green pepper, sliced ■ 1 x 200g can corned beef, cut into large chunks ■ eggs (optional) 1 Boil the potatoes in salted water for about 8 minutes or until nearly done, then drain well. 2 Heat the oil in a large pan and fry the onions for 5 minutes or until soft and translucent. 3 Add the garlic, thyme, peppers and potatoes and continue to fry, stirring as little as possible, until…

WHAT do you do when your wife defies your decision for her not to go back to school, sleeps with your boss and then decides she wants a divorce? Faced with this situation, Scandal!’s Mlungisi (Patrick Mofokeng) finds comfort at the bottom of a bottle. A HAPPY HOME Mlungisi and his wife, Zinzile (Gcina Nkosi), created a simple yet happy home for themselves and their two children, Scelo and his younger sister, Lindiwe. They were married for many years, and their relationship is built on love and loyalty. Although they are not educated, they encourage their children to get a good education and make a success of their lives. Strangely, it’s this belief that leads to their marital problems. TROUBLE IN PARADISE Zinzile shares her dreams of going back to…

‘I’M SUCH A FLIRTATIOUS PERSON THAT I DO IT EVEN IF I HAVE A PARTNER’ Q MY BREASTS ARE DIFFERENT SIZES My breasts are not the same size and shape. This makes me feel embarrassed to take off my bra in front of my boyfriend. ANONYMOUS, KOMANI A It’s natural for anything in the body that comes in pairs to not match perfectly. The breasts are no different. Most, if not all, women’s breasts look different. If the difference is hardly noticeable, you can live with them. But if they are too different from each other and you suspect that there might be other factors such as growth, please urgently contact your doctor. Q ARE COLD SORES AND GENITAL HERPES THE SAME? During winter I’m very careful and make sure…

Jennifer Papers, a counselling social worker at the Family Life Centre in Alexandra, says: “Your fling is obviously an exciting distraction from the tension in your marriage. I’m wondering, are you perhaps mistaking this for love? “Loving two people at the same time is not a crime, but how do you plan to keep both your husband and lover around? What would happen if you were to tell your husband about your affair? Will he accept a second person in your marriage and move on, or will this destroy your marriage? Ask yourself these questions before it blows up in your face. “It’s time to be honest about the deceit and stop stringing these men along to satisfy your own selfish desires. You owe this to your husband. My advice…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman on how to deal with her husband’s bad habits. My husband and I have been married for two years, after dating for a year. He’s a very nice man, but he has annoying habits that get on my nerves. It’s more than him leaving his socks and underwear lying around or messing the toilet seat. I’m a very neat person and like to have a tidy home. I’m scared that his behaviour will influence our child to behave the same way. How do I handle his irritating behaviour?…

THEY told her that she’s cursed. That her ancestors were trying to tell her something, and that initiating as a sangoma was the answer to her problems. Lindiwe Ndlovu has lost count of the number of prophets she visited to get rid of the bad spirit in her home. A spirit, she was told, that caused both her and her daughter to give birth to sons with autism. The 47-year-old nurse from Edenvale in Ekurhuleni had never come across anyone with autism and only learnt about the disorder nine years ago when her now 12-year-old son, Ofentse, was diagnosed with the condition. THE EARLY YEARS At three years old Ofentse wasn’t talking, didn’t sleep at night and was hyperactive. Lindiwe wasn’t too worried – in fact, as a child, she…

THERE’S a divine power that wouldn’t let gospel artist Nkosikhona Tembe give up on his dream of ministering through his singing, even when the odds were against him. Nkosikhona (42) was born in the rural area of Umhlab’uyalingana in KwaZulu-Natal and worked as a police officer from 1999 to 2004. But his dream was to be a gospel singer. “Where I’m from the next best thing to be – especially during those times – was a teacher, nurse or policeman, so my options were limited.” But he couldn’t ignore the calling anymore and after four years he took the plunge and entered the music industry. KEEPING THE FAITH It wasn’t easy. He released two albums – both failed to launch him in the industry and only sold about 700 copies.…

GROWING up, he wanted one thing – to have a proper conversation with his parents, hear what they had to say and tell them what was going on in his life. But he couldn’t. Lucky Netshidzati’s parents are hearing-impaired – his dad, Abraham (51), is profoundly deaf and unable to speak while his mom, Selinah (45), is partially deaf and battles to cope in the hearing world. Lucky (26) was frustrated by his inability to communicate with them. He then came up with a potential game changer for the deaf. His brainchild is Communi*Care Glove Sensors, a clever device designed to allow communication between the hearing impaired and those who are able to hear. COMMUNICATING COMBOS It’s based on communication between a special sign-language glove and a mobile app that…

SHE woke up next to him for 36 years, he took care of their kids when she worked – a man she could count on. So the past two months without him have been hard. Actress Thembsie Matu (53) is still trying to adjust to life without her soulmate, Peter Sebotsa, who died in June when he drowned in the pool of their home, east of Joburg. She and her two kids are still in so much pain, she tells Move!. But she’s found a way to heal. The country’s favourite domestic worker on The Queen has gone back to work and she’s launched a new clothing line for ordinary women to feel beautiful. THE LOSS OF A SPOUSE When Thembsie and her two children, Neo Unathi (27) and Namosa…

IT’S an hour before we’re scheduled to meet but he has something he needs to attend to. He must pick his son up from school, he tells us – but he’ll make a plan because he always honours his appointments. Dr Tumi, real name Tumisang Makweya, is a busy man but he’s making time to speak to Move! today. He’s just finished working on his new album, due for release in a few weeks, and he fields hundreds of messages from followers daily on his social media. STRANGE BUT TRUE The weirdest message he’s had so far was an offer to join a shadowy secret society, the Illuminati. “So earlier today they tried to recruit me to join an Illuminati society,” he wrote on Facebook last month. Before long the…

1 Actor Clement Maosa recently summited . . . to raise awareness for the Caring4Girls initiative? A Ben Nevis B Mount Kilimanjaro C Mount Everest D Lhotse 2 The first mass-produced toothbrush in Europe was created in . . .? A 1922 B 1840 C 1602 D 1780 3 Which country was officially known as Zaire between 1971 and 1997? A Democratic Republic of the Congo B Ethiopia C Mali D Ghana 4 The . . . court recently found that public protector Busisiwe Mkhwebane had acted in a “dishonest” manner during her Reserve Bank investigation? A High B Supreme C Constitutional D Electoral 5 If a person is . . . they can use both their hands equally well? A Dual handed B Ambidextrous C Lateral D Mixed handed…

Q WHAT TREND SHOULD I TRY? A I’d say bike shorts! You heard me. It’s a fun and exciting trend that suits most body types, so give it a go! They’re versatile and there are so many ways to style them. Wear them as pants with a cropped T-shirt, layered under a shirt dress, or with sneakers for a chill daytime look or heels and a skirt for a glamorous night out on the town. They also double up as shape-wear, so say bye to your nude shaper and let your bike shorts peek out under your skirt.…

WHAT do you do when your ARVs are in a different package than the one you are used to? The obvious thing would be to panic, but don’t. Sometimes your health provider will source medication from different companies, hence the packaging will be different. The colour and size of the pills may also look slightly different, but the chemical make-up of the pill is still the same. In other words, it contains the same drugs that tackled your HIV before. FIXED-DOSE COMBINATION ‘EVERY SIX MONTHS OR YEAR, YOU MUST DO A BLOOD TEST’ HIV treatment is made up of three or more ARVs taken together. To make it easier, the government introduced a fixed-dose combination (FDC) to replace the three pills that were initially taken when I started the treatment…

YOU’VE been flirting for days, weeks or even months, have gone on numerous day and night dates, and you think they might just be the one. You and your new bae are now ready to take your relationship to the next level – your very first sleepover. While it can be exciting, it can also be unnerving, experts say. So, what can you do to make it easier for both of you? RELAX INTO IT Don’t expect your sex life to be at the same level as the scenes you see in movies, dating guru Natasha Ivanovic writes on LovePanky. “It’s not real, first of all. What you need to focus on is the sex you’ll have with this new person.” Try to relax and don’t drink too much, she…

AS A child, he watched as the elderly and the sick who lived in his town in a remote corner of Mpumalanga travelled to distant clinics and hospitals where they queued for hours to collect their medicines. His dad, Johannes, was one of them, spending R40 and travelling 30km every time he needed to collect his blood pressure medication. Now that tedious and often costly journey could soon be a thing of the past thanks to an ingenious invention by a 28-year-old Mpumalanga pharmacist who plans to change the lives of thousands of South Africans. Johannes Mangane has created a system he hopes will deliver medicine directly to people’s doorsteps – even in the remotest parts of South Africa. A TAXI FOR MEDICATION His invention, an app called PillDrop, will…

JEAN NDOLWANE You need to find out what makes him behave badly. You both need to be relaxed. Then make him realise that you are not comfortable with his bad habits. Let him know that it’s not nice to clean up after someone, especially an adult. BIGSHIZZY MOS I’m very sorry but this seems to be our weakness as husbands. No matter how I try to be clean, I always find myself in trouble for scattering my socks or whatever item around the house. I feel bad about it. Maybe it’s a curse. DANNY MOREO It is important that you sit down and discuss with your man in a non-confrontational way. He needs to know that cleanliness is next to Godliness. If he continues with his bad habits, then you…

Vicky Lamb, the national education facilitator for Autism South Africa, says autism is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects how the brain works. “People on the autism spectrum think differently, they play differently, they socialise differently, and they behave differently.” Signs include: ■ Not playing interactively with other children ■ Avoiding eye contact ■ Self-injurious behaviour like head banging, scratching or biting ■ Unusual habits such as rocking, hand flapping, etc ■ Learning to speak late ■ Uncomfortable being touched, held or cuddled ■ Changes in routine may cause distress ■ Sudden laughing or crying for no reason ■ Screams or cries to express their needs ■ Abnormal sleeping patterns ■ No real fear of danger. Vicky’s recommends that parents with access to social media platforms such as Facebook should visit…

1 When you think of Sthandiwe Kgoroge, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? A The old Generations. B Her husband, Tony Kgoroge. C She’s a great actress. 2 One of the boys in your class asks you for assistance with his maths homework. You do so because . . .? A He’s the cutest guy in school. B You like to help whoever asks. C He’s a good friend. 3 There’s a boy you’re crazy about, you’ve plucked up courage to telephone him and ask him if he wants to go out. When he answers the phone you . . .? A Pretend you are a friend of yours and ask if he will go out with you. B Panic, tell him you have the wrong number and…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

I fell pregnant at 23, and my baby daddy showed his true colours. He went from being a supportive boyfriend to someone completely different. He made it clear that he didn’t want to have a baby with me and forced me to have an abortion. I decided to keep the baby and found myself on the receiving end of his insults and accusations. A CHALLENGING TIME I gave birth to our beautiful daughter and fell in love with her instantly. When I told him, he said he didn’t want anything to do with us – he even went as far as saying the baby isn’t his. I was unemployed at the time. So were my parents. My daughter had no clothes, no food or nappies. But God never failed me,…