Table of contents for 8/14/2019 in Move!

YOU can really never be too old to learn something new. And you are never too old to take up exercise either. These two facts are proven by the gogos on page 18 who have taken up boxing with so much passion and enthusiasm that they have stunned the man who is teaching them. The benefits have been great, the elderly boxers tell us. Some have used it to deal with stress, for others it has had huge health benefits that resulted in using less medication for diseases. Let us be inspired by these boxers and ensure we take in exercise too. Let us know if you have any interesting exercise groups – email us at move@media24.com THE MOVE! TEAM BE MONEY-WISE Most South Africans find themselves drowning in debt because…

THE Move! Stokvel is one of the most important things on our social calendars and we always look forward to meeting you at these special events. And now, at the next one, you’ll be meeting our brand-new Stokvel ambassador, Mathawe Matsapola. Move! caught up with Mathawe to learn more about her. A FRESH FACE Mathawe is a devoted mother of two young daughters. “My first calling is to raise them into powerful women who’ll make a difference in society,” she says. “I am the Move! ambassador who will be walking this exciting journey with you. “I am a storyteller, innovator, motivational speaker and a woman of God. I’ve been a journalist for 14 years, passionately and authentically telling people’s stories in different newsrooms.” Mathawe was born and raised in a…

IT WAS the most terrifying night of her life and it has taken a lot of courage for her to open up about it. Now Masechaba Ndlovu (35) is opening up to Move! about the ordeal she experienced when five armed men recently dragged her out of bed in the early hours one morning. The mother of two could think only about staying alive and calm throughout the violent invasion that had her feeling sheer fear. By God’s grace, she says, she and her kids, Lungelo (11) and King (6), are alive and every morning she wakes up with a sense of relief and a reason to celebrate being able to breathe. Even something as small as running a warm bath and putting Vaseline all over her body the first…

HE COUNTS John Kani as a lunch buddy, and is on a first-name basis with Pharrell Williams. He also feels like he’s known Beyoncé for ages and does not seem to be overwhelmed by working with her. It’s been a quarter-century since Lebo M shot to fame for writing and singing the opening line – Nants ingonyama bagithi (Here comes the lion) – of The Lion King. The Soweto-born singer, producer and composer has once again put his magical touch to the soundtrack of Disney’s new computer-animated remake. He’s also teamed up with Beyoncé, who lends her voice as Nala, for the hit track Spirit. FEELING THE SPIRIT Lebo isn’t blowing his own trumpet. “I hear people saying I’m successful,” he tells Move!. “I appreciate the sentiment, but I’ll be…

THE LONG AND THE SHORT A young boy has just gotten his driver’s licence. He asks his father, who is a minister, if they could discuss the use of the car. His father takes him to his study and says to him, “I’ll make a deal with you. Improve your school marks, study your bible and get your hair cut and we’ll talk.” A month later the boy comes back and again asks his father if they could discuss the use of the car. “Son, I’m proud of you. You’ve improved your school marks, you’ve studied your bible diligently, but you didn’t get your hair cut!” The young man waits a moment and replies, “Well, Dad. You know, Samson had long hair, Moses had long hair, Noah had long hair,…

COCONUT ICE This recipe is easy and you can use any colour. MAKES 25-30 SQUARES SETTING: OVERNIGHT PREPARATION: 20 MIN ■ 2 cans (385g each) condensed milk ■ 7x250ml (7c) icing sugar ■ 7x250ml (7c) desiccated coconut ■ pink food colouring TO FINISH ■ silver edible powder (optional) Line a 20cm square cake tin with baking paper and grease with nonstick spray. 1 In a large mixing bowl mix the condensed milk, icing sugar and coconut until well combined. Press the mixture together. 2 Divide into three equal portions. 3 Add a few drops of food colouring to one portion and mix well. 4 Add a little bit more food colouring to a second portion (it needs to be darker than the first part) and mix well. 5 Press the…

‘STAYING WITH HIM MADE HER REALISE THEY WOULD MAKE A GOOD COUPLE’ SCANDAL!’S Quinton desperately wants to get rid of his girlfriend, Shado, and uses his baby mama, Dintle, to do so. Dintle moves in with him and the pair pretend to be a couple. Eventually, Dintle, who had gotten used to spending time with Quinton, wants more and does everything in her power to spend time with the father of her daughter. Can they rekindle their love? NEW WOMAN IN THE PICTURE Quinton and Shados ’ paths cross at The Credential, an exclusive nightclub where businessmen acquire the services of young women in exchange for money and gifts. His real reason for visiting? He wants to save an innocent girl who had joined the club unaware of its true…

‘I NOW USE FREE CONDOMS AND VASELINE AS A LUBRICANT. IS IT SAFE?’ Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza is an educational sexologist and businesswoman. She is a member of the Southern African Sexual Health Association (Sasha) and African Society for Sexual Medicine (ASSM). Q SHOULD I BE CIRCUMCISED? I’m a 27-year-old uncircumcised male. My girlfriend is comfortable with it and I haven’t experienced any problems. I would like to remain uncircumcised. Is it advisable? ANONYMOUS, KWAMASHU A The foreskin protects the head of the manhood, which is very soft and delicate, from irritation. It also increases the manhood’s sensitivity compared to when it is exposed. Research has also shown that uncircumcised men enjoy sex more. That said, if the foreskin isn’t cared for and cleaned well, bacteria can build up leading…

Mandisa Muruge, who is a counsellor at The Family Life Centre’s Lenasia office, says: “One thing about trust is that once it’s broken, the relationship will never be the same again. It seems as if your husband loves you, but he has not healed and forgiven you for what you have done. “Both of you need to consult a marriage counsellor who will help you deal with your past. You must also look at the reasons that pushed you into the arms of another man. Have you spoken with your husband about those issues? “Communication is the best tool for every relationship. Remember if you are not communicating with your husband about your frustrations within your marriage, nothing will change. And you will keep on looking elsewhere for what you…

“We don’t have definitive data on the reasons for the high tonsillectomy rate in SA,” says Dr Jonathan Broomberg, CEO of Discovery Health. “But we believe it’s partly due to the fee-for-service payment system, which rewards health professionals for doing additional procedures.” In a fee-for-service payment model, services are unbundled and paid for separately. This gives doctors an incentive to provide more treatments, as payment is dependent on the quantity rather than quality of care.…

MBULAENI SIBANDA He seriously needs some counselling over family, alcohol and therapeutic issues. If he refuses to go for counselling, you must reconsider continuing with this relationship. He has no excuse because he knows what he does when he is drunk. STHANDWA MPANZA You need to evaluate your position in his life and this relationship. Your kids are suffering and you should be protecting them. Otherwise, you must find them a better place to live and then you can suffer alone. AVILE SHAKES KANGWENYA Your man needs professional help and you alone cannot help him. He also needs to understand that the first step to getting help is to admit he’s got a problem and he needs to be accountable for his actions.…

MOST of his peers pass their time on social media, but he spends his days on horseback in a secluded area in the North West that has barely any network coverage. Thabo Dithakgwe is no average teenager – the young man from Vryburg is revolutionising the agricultural landscape. At 19, he’s making a name for himself as the country’s youngest livestock farmer. “I didn’t just wake up and decide to be a farmer – I was born a farmer,” he says. Everything he knows he’s learnt from his late grandfather, Nasi Dithakgwe, and his father, Pushoetsile, from whom he inherited land. NEW WAYS TO FARM The Dithakgwes became the proud owners of Constable Farm after the family won a land claim under Barolong Boo Maiketso Communal Property Association from the…

THE greatest miracle that a person can receive is not prophecies, a work promotion or marriage – it is accepting Jesus as our Lord and personal Saviour. Many of us took memberships at our churches, but our names are not written in the book of life. The reality is we are all going to die. And dying without Jesus in our lives is the biggest mistake we’ll make. THE MONEY THIEF One of the reasons for Jesus not being in our lives is the “prosperity gospel”. Like a thief, this “gospel” has come to rob us of our soul and sacrifice it for materialistic wealth. Matthew 16:26 says: “What good will it be for a man to gain the whole world yet forfeit their soul?” We live in a cruel…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

HE was working as a panel beater when he got the call that changed his life. His workplace had a “no phones during working hours” rule so when his phone vibrated in his pocket, he considered ignoring it. But something in him told him to answer it, so he did. And with that call, Tshepo Senatle was on his way to becoming an actor. The call led to his big break into the acting industry, and now he’s known as Koloi on one of the biggest shows on TV, Skeem Saam. In the SABC 1 show, he is a high school learner. He lets Move! in on who he is in real life. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF Tshepo has gone from being what he calls a “township actor” at community recreational…

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TASSEL SCARF TIP Tassel scarves are great for adding dimension to a simple look. Go for a pop of colour and match it with your shoes. NECK SCARF TIP Neck scarves in trending patterns like leopard elevate your look and accentuate your face. HEAD SCARF TIP For afun, playful effect, don a head scarf. There are plenty of ways to wear it to give you a new look. INFINIITY SCARF TIP Infinity scarves are on trend and great for keeping your neck warm. Go for a printed one to lift your outfit. STOCKISTS COLETTE BY COLETTE HAYMAN 021 937 5143; FALKE 021-951-2137 FOSCHINI: 0860-104-764; MANGO.COM; MRP 0800-21-25-35; SUPERBALIST.COM; THE FIX 0860 101 048; WOOLWORTHS 0860-022-002; ZARA 021-302-1500; WE MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO PROVIDE ACCURATE PRICES BUT MISTAKES MAY OCCUR. MOVE!…

Q MY MASCARA BECOMES HARD WHEN IT’S COLD, WHETHER IT'S INSIDE THE TUBE OR ON MY LASHES. WHAT CAN I DO? A This is normal. What you can do before you apply your mascara is place it in a cup of warm water for about 30 seconds. You can also place it inside your bra as you get dressed. This will help soften the product. For the mascara not to harden on your lashes, add a few drops of argan or jojoba oil to your mascara tube. This will soften it, preventing it from hardening on your lashes. And, as an added bonus, the oil will also nourish your lashes with each application.…

MANY children contract HIV at birth for various reasons. For example, antiretrovirals (ARVs) were not available, their parents discovered their own status too late or they were reluctant to access prevention of mother-to-child transmission. However, there comes a time when it’s important for your child to know their status, as they’ll have to start taking their ARVs independently. So, how do you disclose their status and encourage them to take their meds? FIRST THINGS FIRST Living with HIV is not a clear-cut process. You must go through the phases of denial, anger, bargaining, and depression before accepting your status. Only once you’ve done this, will you be able to talk with your child. ‘YOUR SILENCE CAN BUILD UP ANXIETY AND FRUSTRATION’ If not, you might pass some of your negativity…

IT COULD either be the funniest conversation you’ll ever have, or the most awkward one. No matter how you look at it, some sex-related conversations can’t be avoided. Things like body odour, preferences, contraceptives, past lovers and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are just some of the conversations that might take you out of your comfort zone, but they have to be addressed. Whether you’ve been seeing each for a few months or years, there’s no formula to the sex talk but there are ways you can make it easier. GETTING STARTED Communication is necessary throughout a relationship, according to the American Sexual Health Association. “No matter how long you and your partner have been together, you will need to keep communicating about your sexual expectations, desires and needs, as you…

DON’T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS We must always remember that any relationship that is going to be ruined by having aconversation about feelings, standards or expectations wasn’t firm anyway, so there isn’t much to ruin. No woman should be made to feel guilty for understanding herself and choosing to respect herself first. When you know yourself, you know what it takes to love someone. This is not the kind of love that glows like a moon in the first few months and later dries out and remains as dead as a rock. If there is no open communication in a relationship, it will not work. Stand for what you believe. SARA DIMPLES, VEREENIGING…

IMPORTANCE OF AN ORDERLY CLUB Without rules and regulations, clubs are set for a painful downfall. The issue of drinking in the club, especially during meetings, should have never been allowed by members of Black Jeans Social Club. Club meetings should be treated like important business meetings because essentially that is what they are. The meetings are concerning the financial development of members and should be respected. USEFUL SOLUTIONS Members of the club can consider staying behind after the meeting and only drink then. This way there are no interruptions in the club during meetings, and members can catch up on other personal matters thereafter. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: boitumelo.matshaba@movemag.co.za…

SHE won’t let anything stand in the way of her getting the man she wants, at least onscreen. Actress Matshepo Maleme recently joined the cast of Scandal! where she plays the feisty Sheila, a woman who is forward and is a firm believer in making her dreams come true. The Safta-winning actress shares her road to her new role with Move!. SCANDALOUS Matshepo joined the show a few weeks ago and her character knows what she wants and goes after it. And what she wants is businessman Neo Mokgethi (played by Jerry Mofokeng). He caught Sheila’s eye during their first encounter and she didn’t hesitate to go for him. “My character is bold and not scared to approach a man and express her feelings. I, on the other hand, am…

1 Springbok rugby player Herschel Jantjies was born in which Western Cape town? A Paarl B Swellendam C Stellenbosch D Knysna 2 It’s said each meal should contain . . . of fibre? A 2-4g B 6-8g C 10-12g D 5-10g 3 In the sweetcorn test for bowel health, it should take . . . for the kernels to appear in your poop? A 60 minutes B 12-48 hours C A week D 4 hours 4 Before the race-group classification was abandoned on the South African ID, the number 2 indicated which race? A Indian B Coloured C Malay D Griqua 5 Which animals bring nutrients to rivers and lakes? A Hippos B Crocodiles C Fish D Sharks 6 Late soccer player Marc Batchelor played for . . .for three…

‘MY MIDWIFE REFUSES TO REFUND THE R18 000 I PAID HER’ Q CAN ISUE MY MIDWIFE? I paid for the services of a private midwife, but due to complications I gave birth at a public hospital. I went to the midwife to request she refunded me the R18 000 I paid her. She refused and said it was not her fault I gave birth at a public hospital. ANONYMOUS, CENTURION A As a client, you have aright to be refunded for services not rendered. The midwife is not legally entitled to keep your money if the services were not provided because of hospitalisation or death. Having complications and giving birth at a public hospital was beyond your control and the midwife is legally required to refer all pregnant women with…

Mama Madikgetla is a registered social worker in private practice. She provides counselling to individuals, couples and families. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work, an honours degree in psychology and is currently pursuing a master’s degree in social work. Q MY TEEN IS ACTING STRANGELY I’m a single mother to a 15-year-old daughter. Lately, I’ve noticed something is bothering her. When she comes home from school, she locks herself in her room and says she’s just studying. She used to tell me everything. With the high teen suicide rate, I’m not sure if I’m over-reacting. ANONYMOUS, TEMBA A I suggest you talk to your daughter and tell her you are concerned. Give her reasons for your concern and mention the changes you’ve noticed. Explain that it will give you…

“The tonsils are part of the lymphatic system,” says ear, nose and throat specialist Dr Khaleel Ismail. “They protect you from infection by trapping germs that might enter through your nose or mouth.” The adenoids are masses of lymphatic tissue at the back of the nasal cavity. Adenoids help to keep the body healthy by trapping harmful bacteria and viruses that you breathe in or swallow. Tonsils and adenoids are often removed together but this should happen only when they’re more of a problem than a help, Dr Ismail says. But this doesn’t mean you’ll no longer get throat infections.…

I love my man. He’s great when he’s sober, but all my problems start when he’s been drinking. He comes home, swears and beats the kids and me up. The next day when he’s sober, he acts as if nothing has happened. He lived with various relatives from time to time and was abused as a child. He is recreating his past and it’s destroying us. How do I help him overcome this or is it something he has to do on his own? ABUSED PARTNER…

1 Need your clothes to dry in a rush? Toss a dry towel into the tumble dryer (or into the washing machine during the spin cycle) for 15 to 20 minutes. The dry towel helps to absorb moisture from the other items in the machine. 2 Too lazy to handwash your delicate underwear separately? Grab an old pillowcase, put your smalls inside and tie an elastic or hairband around the top. This stops the items becoming gnarled and twisted among the rest of the clothes in the washing machine. 3 Minimise shedding from garments made of natural fibres such as wool by freezing them before wearing the first time – the fibres are more likely to remain fixed in place. Simply place in a ziplock bag in the freezer and…

FORMER Joyous Celebration singer Puleng March shares with Move! the beauty of marching to God’s beat and her ultimate hope for marriages and abomakoti (wives) in households. CONFLICTING VIEWS It is a cultural practice for a wife to listen to elders and those who have walked the path before. In 2008, just before she got married to the love of her life, Joshua, Puleng did just that. But the Ke Laolwa Ke Moya hitmaker says there was a tug-of-war with some of the advice she got, especially at her bridal shower. “As a Christian wife, my manual is the Bible but I found there were conflicting views about how to deal with issues in a marriage,” she says. The Northern Cape-born singer tried to dodge a nagging feeling in her…

LOOKING FOR AN HONEST MAN I’m a 23-year-old humble, respectful female from Pretoria. I’m looking for an honest and a caring man between the ages of 28 and 31 who is ready to settle down. He must be employed, serious about life, God-fearing and matured, and must have no more than two kids. If interested, please call or WhatsApp me on: 082-590-1190 SEEKING MARRIAGE I’m a humble, honest, caring and highly committed man. I’m looking for a beautiful woman between the ages of 25 and 35. She must be ready to settle down with a view to marriage. If interested, please WhatsApp me on: 082-363-3638 GOD-FEARING MAN I am a 53-year-old coloured woman with two sons. I live in Pretoria and I’m looking for a single, God-fearing man between the…