Table of contents for 8/28/2019 in Move!

WHAT a glorious day it was when Move! readers came out in their numbers to celebrate Women’s Day with us at our recent event, which was held in East London (see page 36). It was a sea of red and white as we celebrated being powerful women, learning more about how to improve our lives and generally having a good time. Our sponsors were as generous as ever and our guests were delighted with their goodie bags. But our sponsors shared more than just products – their experts were on hand to discuss the issues that affect women and helped us get better at solving problems. Cape Town, we’re coming your way next (see page 51). Book now to ensure you have a seat! THE MOVE! TEAM LET’S TAKE EDUCATION…

‘PEOPLE WILL FIND IT INCREDIBLY SURPRISING TO KNOW THAT I AM REALLY SHY’ HE LIVES and breathes drama, which he says is his first love. But he wishes people could tell real life from fiction. Actor Paballo Mavundla (20) had people fired up over his role as the rebellious teen Nkosana on The Herd. The young man, who is nothing like Nkosana, says, “It’s actually quite crazy how people see your character on television and immediately assume that is how you really are.” Instead, he describes himself as a humble, shy and somewhat extroverted person from Meadowlands in Soweto. “I am an extrovert, but people will find it incredibly surprising to know that I am really shy, and it takes a while for me to open up,” he says. THE…

EDIA personality Thando Thabethe recently hosted her annual Thando Thabethe Women’s Day Netball Challenge at Klipspruit Multipurpose Centre in Gauteng. Since 2014, Thando and her celebrity friends have gone head-to-head in a women versus men game of netball. This year, funds generated will go to Masimanyane Women’s Rights International. The actress says it’s her way of using her celebrity influence to support and empower women. The men were victorious with a six-four win.…

THE first thing you see when he says hello is the number 86 on his chin. He had it tattooed there for a reason, Ndumiso Ramate tells Move! when we visit him at his tattoo parlour, Soweto Ink. It signifies his commitment to never return to a corporate job. “Who would want to hire me with a tattoo like this?” the co-founder of the well-known body-ink business asks. A BODY OF ART It’s not the only ink on his body. Even though he’s wearing a long-sleeved sweater, the tattoos on his neck and hands are visible. In fact, Ndumiso has tattoos all over his body. People look at him in a funny way because of stereotypes around people who are inked, but it doesn’t bother him. “All of these tattoos…

MOCK MEATLOAF WITH CHUNKY TOMATO SAUCE PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 40 MIN SERVES 4 ■ 15ml (1T) oil ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 4 cloves garlic, crushed ■ 1 celery stick, chopped ■ 2 carrots, diced ■ 125ml (½c) sunflower seeds, toasted ■ 250ml (1c) oats ■ 375ml (1½c) cooked brown lentils ■ 30ml (2T) tomato paste ■ 15ml (1T) brown sugar ■ 2 eggs, whisked ■ 10ml (2t) dried herb mix ■ salt and freshly ground pepper TOMATO SAUCE ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 2 cloves garlic, crushed ■ 30ml (2T) tomato paste ■ 1 can (410g) chopped tomatoes ■ 15ml (1T) brown sugar ■ pinch of cayenne pepper TO SERVE ■ fresh herbs (optional) Preheat the oven to 180°C. Grease 6 hollows of a large muffin pan with…

‘I HAVE A PROTECTION ORDER AGAINST MY FATHER BUT I WANT TO CANCEL IT’ Q RECKLESS LENDING One of the well-known banks gave my 18-year-old son a R35 000 loan. My son is still in school and not working and I don’t understand how the bank loaned him the money. Is there anything that can be done against the bank? ANONYMOUS, DURBAN A You can report the bank to the banking ombudsman. What the bank has done is called reckless lending. In granting your son a loan, the bank firstly had to determine if he could afford the loan. If it failed to do an affordability assessment, it will be guilty of reckless lending. Q WHAT’S IN A NAME? Is it compulsory for an unmarried mother to give a child…

‘I WANT HIM TO MARRY THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD, NOT THIS NEW GIRLFRIEND’ Q MY SON’S NEW GIRLFRIEND I’m a mother of three. My husband passed away 10 years ago. Our children are grown. My 28-year-old son now wants to bring a girl home as his new girlfriend. At first, I didn’t think anything of it as I thought he and the mother of his child would get back together. It’s been six months and I haven’t seen the mother of the child, although the child visits. They won’t tell me what’s happening. My son just says they’re not together. I want him to marry the mother of his child, not this new girlfriend. What do I do? ANONYMOUS, E-MAIL A What you want for your son is what…

You’re more likely to get a urinary tract infection (UTI) if you: ■ Are a woman ■ Have had UTIs before ■ Have a condition that affects your bladder’s nerve supply such as diabetes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease or spinal cord injuries ■ Have been through menopause ■ Are overweight ■ Have something blocking the passage of urine such as a tumour, kidney stone or enlarged prostate ■ Use a contraceptive diaphragm or spermicide for birth control ■ Have a catheter (a tube placed into the bladder to drain urine into a bag outside the body) ■ Are HIV-positive ■ Are a man who hasn’t been circumcised.…

Some people want to defend fake hair. Natural hair stood out. She had not been reduced to a R30 haircut but she shines brighter for her effortless beauty. MANDISA ZUKISWA NTABA R30 haircut, R3 million in the bank. THEMBA MAN I get DJ Cleo’s point. He is not insulting those in weaves but simply stating that you don’t need a R5 000 weave to look good. MANAPE DOLPHINE RAMPHELE I’m just happy for her, with or without a weave. I don’t think her haircut contributed much to her winning the title. I hope people are not that stupid. It’s just a hairstyle choice, nothing much to it. Lots of people rock weaves, natural hair and baldness. TSHEPISO MMAGO BASHIMANE…

We spend a great deal of our lives at work, making it a convenient place to form clubs. However, clubs can become problematic especially if they affect your work. For example, holding meetings during working hours when you are paid to work can have serious consequences. If discovered, a meeting with your Human Resource manager can result in a formal warning. Also, unresolved issues or other disagreements could result in the company needing to get involved, which may lead to the company banning the club from the work space. CONSIDER THIS If your club needs to have a physical meeting, make sure it is after working hours and it doesn’t affect your work performance. Consider WhatsApp groups where club matters can be discussed freely without the need to physically meet.…

HE still can’t believe it. An out-of-control lift speeding towards the 26th floor, and a woman’s chilling screams haunt his dreams. When Zwelethu Mambane took the lift to the ground floor of his Johannesburg apartment building one morning, he didn’t think he’d be wheeled into hospital hours later. Instead of going down, something caused the lift to shoot upwards. As it came to a halt on the top floor of the high-rise complex in Doornfontein, he hit his head and blacked out for a few minutes. When he regained consciousness he heard screams, and realised it was the woman who was in the lift with him. WAKING UP “She was screaming, ‘I’m dying, can you help me,’ ” he recalls. Her forehead was bleeding. Zwelethu (26) felt dazed. When he…

Q WHAT IS A DUSTER COAT AND HOW SHOULD I WEAR IT? A This coat originated during America’s Wild West days, when the cowboys of yesteryear wore it to protect their clothes from dust and debris while on horseback. The era of the cowboys, and using a horse to get around, is long gone, but the Wild West trend is having a moment and dusters are big fashion! This light, loose-fitting, long coat is a must-have item in your wardrobe. It’s so versatile you can pair it with almost anything.…

YOURS AND MINE Two drunks are in a bar. The first one says, “My wife is an angel.” The other replies, “You’re lucky! Mine is still alive.” SIGN OF THE TIMES As a little girl climbs onto Santa’s lap, Santa asks, “And what would you like for Christmas?” The child stares at him open-mouthed and horrified for a minute, then gasps: “Didn’t you get my e-mail?” EMERGENCY SERVICES A couple of hunters are out in the woods when one of them falls to the ground. He doesn’t seem to be breathing and his eyes are rolled back in his head. The other guy whips out his cellphone and calls the emergency services. He gasps to the operator: “My friend is dead! Help me!” The operator, in a calm and soothing…

‘I BECOME ABNORMALLY WET WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE SEX’ Q I’M TOO WET I have a serious problem that is starting to affect my marriage. I become abnormally wet when my husband and I have sex. We enjoy the first round but when it comes to the second round it’s too much. I feel like someone who has slept with many men. I tried to consult my medical doctor about this but nothing helps. He gave me a vaginal cream but it didn’t work and the problem is getting worse. My husband and I are always fighting about this. Please help me. ANONYMOUS, EMALAHLENI A Research has shown that some women take a bit longer to be fully aroused, so this can contribute to the first session being…

Mandisa Muruge, a counsellor from Family Life Centre in Lenasia South, advises: “The most important things in a relationship are love, trust, honesty, respect and faithfulness. “It seems as if all of these are lacking in your relationship. Love should not be one-sided. You have evidence that your boyfriend is cheating on you, he has even admitted it, and this gives you a choice about how to deal with the situation. “Ask yourself if loving him is enough. Happiness should go hand in hand with love. You don’t seem to have stability in your relationship. “Every relationship has its challenges, but we make choices about how we want to live our lives. Whether we want to be miserable for the rest of our lives or whether we want to move…

Your savings plan should be anchored in sensible and realistic ambitions for your children, says Kim Potgieter, a certified financial planner and life planning director at Chartered Wealth Solutions. It’s natural for parents to want the best for their children. “But at what expense?” Potgieter asks. You need to weigh up what is more important in the long term and the short term. “What are you willing to sacrifice as a family? You don’t want to be so busy working and chasing money that you end up not being able to spend time with them.” Don’t live beyond your means, she advises. And have a clear strategy when it comes to saving. “Remember to keep contributing to your retirement funds and investments to safeguard your own financial future.”…

SPIRITUALITY and religion are two concepts that are often confused. Religion is the rigid stance in the belief and worship of God or gods and involves practices and worship of a superhuman controlling power. Spirituality, on the other hand, includes a sense of connection to something bigger than us, and it involves a search for meaning in life. WORSHIP IN SPIRIT AND TRUTH We invest so much time and energy in the things of this world. We care so much about the world’s standard of success. The reality is that all those things are fleeting – all that will last is our obedience to the higher power. This is what we need to focus on if we are to grow spiritually. Once we reach a level of maturity, we will…

1 Have you gone several days at a time without speaking to or even being texted by your bae? A Yes, sometimes you think he must have forgotten you. B No, he makes sure he texts you at least once a day. C Never a day goes by without him phoning you. 2 You and your guy are having a romantic meal in a restaurant when one of his friends and their partner arrive. What would your guy be most likely to do . . .? A Invite them to join you. B Go over and chat to them, leaving you on your own. C Just say hello or wave a greeting. 3 Do you ever feel your man treats you as one of the boys, rather than his girlfriend?…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

WHEN you have a 12-letter name and, at the age of 11, you still can’t spell it properly, you probably dislike school. This was actor Letlhogonolo Saint Seseli’s experience. It wasn’t easy but things changed when he discovered drama lessons at school. Saint (46) finally found his calling and Tuesdays and  Thursdays at school were never the same again. The father of two now plays the role of Pastor Rametsi in e.tv’s Isipho: The Gift – a role that has made him reflect on his parenting skills and how he was raised. MAMA’S BOY The actor, the lastborn who has two sisters and a brother, has always been the centre of attention as the youngest in the family. Now he takes care of his 83-year-old mother in Rockville, Soweto. “I…

‘I QUIT MY JOB WHEN COLLEAGUES REALISED I’M BONANG’S COUSIN’ SHE’S anxious as she arrives. She bites her fingernails and Tebogo “PinkyGirl” Mekgwe doesn’t look like a slay queen. Two hours before meeting us, she explains breathlessly, she received notifications on her phone that someone had fraudulently taken R6 000 from her bank account. “I am so stressed. This person started with R100, then R3 000 and another R3 000. I had to call the bank now and block my card.” Every time her phone beeps, she gets a shock. The thought of someone helping themselves to her bank account sends shivers down her spine. “I am very careful with money and I work hard for it,” PinkyGirl tells Move!. “For someone to just come and take what’s mine is…

DARING DREADS Dreads can be styled in so many ways – contrary to the popular belief that they’re not versatile. And if you’ve run out of styles, you can always add colour for a totally different look. Nombulelo Sokoyi Age 29 FromThokoza, Johannesburg Occupation Merchandiser STYLIST SAYS “Nombulelo’s blonde colour wasn’t looking vibrant and didn’t suit her skin tone, so we added a pop of rusty red that was bright but not too shocking. “The colour goes well with her skin tone.” TIP Ask your stylist for advice on hair colours that suit your skin tone. You may find the shade you want doesn’t actually complement your complexion. TRY THESE TIP Dreadlocks can suffer from colour damage, so ensure you treat them regularly after colouring. COOL COPPER EXTENSIONS Ntomboxolo has…

ALCOHOLISM and drug addiction are rife in our country. This is because of various factors that drive people to heavy drinking and drugs. HIV infections are partly attributed to these habits, since they also lead to irresponsible behaviour. As a person already living with HIV, you might have opted for drinking or taking drugs to ease the strain. However, your engagement in these habits may have negative effects on your health. THE RISKS When you engage in alcoholism and drug addiction, you are exposing yourself to complications that are not ideal for victory in your journey with HIV. ■ Immune system and CD4 count Engaging in heavy drinking and the use of drugs is scientifically proven to suppress your immune system. And this is dangerous because our immune systems are…

VIRGO (23 AUG – 22 SEP) Your planet Mercury moves into your sign this week, which could have positive spinoffs. Things seem to be going your way, so look forward to a super week. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 3, 13, 24, 25, 39, 42 LIBRA (23 SEP – 22 OCT) Overdoing things could tip the scales and cause some stressful regrets so resist temptation. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 17, 22, 25, 37, 46, 51 SCORPIO (23 OCT – 21 NOV) It’s a week to focus on long-term financial goals, whether it’s owning a home or fiscal independence. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 7, 15, 33, 43, 52 SAGITTARIUS (22 NOV – 20 DEC) You could be on the receiving end of some lucky breaks. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 4, 21, 27, 36, 52…

WOMEN STAND A HIGHER CHANCE OF GETTING A UTI, BUT MEN ARE NOT IMMUNE YOU constantly feel an urgent need to go to the bathroom, but when you do there isn’t a massive stream like you’d expected – just a trickle. And yet it feels as if you haven’t quite emptied your bladder. Sound familiar? If it does, you’re not alone. Urinary tract infections (UTIs) are one of the most common infections, affecting about 150 million people worldwide a year. Women have a 50% chance of getting a UTI in their lifetime, experts say, and around 30 to 40% of patients get repeat infections. UTIs are bacterial infections in the urinary system and can occur anywhere from the bladder to the kidneys. The vast majority are caused by the E.…

MUTHIVHI RETSIBILE This situation is not easy. But if I were the friend I would prefer to tell them. I once had a friend who told me that my boyfriend was cheating on me. Even today I’m still grateful because that helped me discover a lot of dirty secrets about my ex-boyfriend. MILLICENT SIBITANE This depends on what your principles are as a person and what you stand for as a friend. If things were turned around, would you prefer your friend to tell you if your boyfriend cheated on you? Your answer should point you in the right direction. NNANI KHUMALO I once told a friend about her partner who was cheating on her. She told him what I had said. Then the boyfriend came to my house and…

ISAIAH 43:1-3 “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Saviour...” “I didn’t have a job for four years when I came back from overseas, but I didn’t fear anything. Why must I fear when I know that He is with me all the days of my life? When I walk through darkness, He is with me.”…

BETWEEN 0-10 Your friends must be wondering why you are still with this guy, because they can see the truth about him, even if you can’t. He doesn’t appear to worry about your feelings. You could drop subtle hints, but it is unlikely he would make changes in his behaviour. BETWEEN 11-20 It is clear to you your guy is not treating you right. Unfortunately, he believes he is. You can’t really be angry with him because he no doubt thinks he is doing his best. Unless you are prepared to put up with things as they are, you need to let him know. BETWEEN 21-30 You are very fortunate to be with this guy, as it is obvious he treats you very well. You are very special to him,…

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