Table of contents for 9/4/2019 in Move!

COME DOWN HARD ON DRUG DEALERS South Africa is facing a growing drug epidemic and drug dealers do as they please. We can do as much as we can to stop our youth from using drugs, but we are not going to win this fight if dealers are not arrested. Drug dealers and suppliers feed on the wider community, which suffer the consequences of these crimes and behaviours. Drug dealers are seen as a key part of the problem of addiction in our communities. I wish there can be a unique punishment for the drug dealers. ‘OUR COUNTRY MUST BE FREED FROM HEARTLESS DRUG DEALERS’ Other countries like Indonesia have introduced a capital punishment or death penalty against drug dealers, drug traffickers and people in possession of modest quantities of…

SHE was just about ready to give up. After months of searching, going door to door, and audition to audition with no success, she started thinking maybe it’s time to pack it all up and move back to KwaZulu-Natal. Then Precious Ngidi (23) got her big break. She’s now working on her first TV role as Ntombi Shezi on e.tv’s Isipho, alongside legend Nimrod Nkosi. ALMOST GIVING UP After three months of going to auditions in Johannesburg, Precious had had enough. Nothing was coming her way and the youngster decided she was heading back home to be with her family. The money she’d moved to Johannesburg with and that was to sustain her until she got a job was also running out fast. On the day she was to head…

Q WHAT ARE THE NEW SUMMER TRENDS AND HOW DO I WEAR IT? A This summer, floral is still hot but tropical chic and neon are all the rage this season. One trend that is lovely and easy to wear is a printed tropical maxidress. It may cost a bit more but you can wear it in many different ways so it will be worth it. If you want to show off a really high fashion trend, then try neon biker shorts. You can wear both trends with block heels or dress them down with sneakers. If this is too wild for you, tropical or neon accessories will add touches of the new season to your wardrobe to make it trendy.…

THERE is a growing trend among friends who are on ARVs. At times, they lend each other ARVs mainly because the other is short on medication. And once they’ve collected their own pills, they replace the ones they borrowed. Although this practice is done with no harm in mind, it’s not ideal in terms of ethics, adherence and may even have very harmful medical setbacks. ARVS ARE PRESCRIBED MEDICATION Prescribed medication is recommended by a health professional to a patient. It takes into consideration the patient’s medical condition as well as the overall suitability of the patient before they are given the medication. ‘ARVS...CATER TO THE NEEDS OF THE PERSON THEY ARE ISSUED TO’ If you give your friend your meds, you are breaking the rules of prescribed medication. Yes,…

APPLE It may sound like a cliché, but apples really do work to keep the doctor away. This is due to their high levels of nutrients – vitamin C, beta carotene and B complex vitamins. They also contain potassium, phosphorus and calcium. BROCCOLI It’s been classed as a superfood as it boosts the immune system and contains more calcium than any other vegetable. It’s also been linked to fighting cancer and is rich in iron and folic acid. CARROTS This root vegetable will boost immunity and eye health. It’s rich in antioxidants and minerals, and just half a carrot will give you all the vitamin A you’ll need in a day. DARK CHOCOLATE A treat that’s actually good for you – as long as you go for the slightly bitter…

BOHLALE WAMO TSONGA Marriage is not a competition. Take your time, fall in love, and nurse your ambitions because ‘forever’ is a very long time to be unhappy. It’s better to be single and happy rather than be married and miserable. MANTABE MARIRI Don’t judge yourself by your marital status. You don’t need to get married to be happy. Live your life happily as a single person and avoid being put under pressure. Be proud of whom you are. The right time and the right person will come. FREDA MOAVODI That’s how you choose to perceive it and allow the society to define you. Don’t get married because of other people’s expectations. You need to get married because you want to and it is the right thing to do for…

THE uMemulo (coming of age) of Sandy Mo Khwela and her late twin Sandile (represented by poet and singer Khonza "Kho" Khwela) was held in Durban. The event was also attended by Nompilo Maphumulo, best known for her role as Nosipho on Uzalo. The guests wore traditional outfits before changing to modern fashion.…

IMAGINE being excited about having your baby, planning for his arrival and bonding with him as he grows in your belly. Then imagine going into a painful labour session and being ignored by nurses – then your baby slides right out of your body onto the floor. This terrible state of affairs is what happened to Theresa Ngwendu recently. The devastated mom tells Move! about her horrible ordeal that led to the death of her baby (page 20). If all the details are as she claims, then it will be a truly shocking thing. The nurses involved should have to answer and we hope the investigation into the horrific incident will shed light on what happened that day. For Theresa and her partner, Tinashe Zisani, it will be only a…

Not all challenges are necessarily problems. Gatshwaragano Social Club has only one male member in the club. This does not affect their functionality as a club or their progression. The lone male member is not uncomfortable in the presence of all the female members. In fact, he has been part of the club since its inception. USEFUL SOLUTIONS Gatshwaragano Social Club is already struggling to get members to attend meetings and adding more members to the club might make it worse. The club should rather focus on increasing their monthly contribution and buying more equipment that benefits their club. They would then be able to do more when a member loses a loved one. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and…

COUNTLESS albums, 32 years of music and 21 SAMA awards. That’s the legacy she wants to be remembered for. That is why Queen of Gospel Dr Rebecca Malope (51) is handing the microphone over to the next generation of singers while she’s still on a high. The star officially announced her retirement from the industry, telling devastated fans that her latest album, Lord You Are Good, will be her last. It wasn’t an impulsive decision, she tells Move!. She thought about it long and hard before deciding to quit the industry. But now she’s done, she says. THE END OF IT ALL She’s been working so long that she believes she’s accumulated enough wealth to sustain her for life. “In fact, I have five paid up houses. Three of them…

THIS year’s annual Fairlady Santam Women of the Future Awards was a fabulous affair hosted at Summer Place in Hyde Park, Johannesburg. An exclusive VIP lunch saw local celebs Basetsana Kumalo, Wendy Luhabe, Miss South Africa 2019 Zozibini Tunzi, Sonia Booth, Lesego Tlhabi aka Coconut Kelz, Zoe Mthiyane and Liesl Laurie celebrating phenomenal women. The event was MCed by entrepreneur Johanna Mukoki, who was also on the panel of adjudicators that included Fairlady editor Suzy Brokensha, former public protector Thuli Madonsela, Santam’s Enid Lizamore, social entrepreneur Dawn Nathan-Jones and former Miss SA Jo-Ann Strauss. The winners were Phillipa Geard of RecruitMyMom.co.za who won the woman of the future award, Renshia Manuel of Growbox who won the social entrepreneur award and Nondumiso Sibiya of Boombadotmodi who bagged the rising star award. They’ll…

CREDIT CARDS Tshepo: Tendai, I know you like to keep a sharp eye on your bank balance so I must warn you, there are criminals about. My wife’s credit cards were recently stolen. Tendai: That’s terrible! When and how did this happen? What did the police say? Tshepo: Actually, I’m warning all my friends but I’ve decided against reporting it to the police – it’s criminal, but as it turns out the thieves are spending far less than my wife! A GREAT DISCOVERY Teacher: Bongani, go to the map and find North America. Bongani: Here it is! Teacher: Correct. Now, class, who discovered America? Class: Bongani! SECRET SOCKS Teacher: What a pair of strange socks you’re wearing, one is green and one is blue with red spots. Bongani:Yes, it’s really…

NO MATTER how fantastic a lipstick looks on you, the last thing you want is for it to dry out your lips. So when shopping for beauty products, keep in mind that lipsticks that add shine aren’t necessarily hydrating. Of course, these lipsticks that lend moisture don’t necessarily add gloss so you must decide what is most important to you. Hydrating lipsticks often emphasise moisture or hydration on their packaging, while ones that don’t moisturise make claims about how long they last. Be cautious about buying lipsticks or glosses that are long-lasting, because they often dry out your lips instead of nourishing them. But if you have your heart set on a long-lasting product, use petroleum jelly as a base before applying the lip colour. This locks in moisture and…

‘CAN I OPEN A CASE OF KIDNAPPING AGAINST PEOPLE WHO LEFT WITH MY TEENAGE DAUGHTER?’ Q DAUGHTER LEFT WITHOUT CONSENT My 16-year-old daughter went away for the weekend with a group of teens without my permission. I don’t know the people she went with. Can I open a case of a kidnapping? ANONYMOUS, SPRUITVIEW A You cannot open a case of kidnapping because your child was not kidnapped, but voluntarily left with the group of people. Although she is a minor, the people she left with cannot be held liable as they didn’t take her against her will. If she doesn’t return when she said she would and you cannot find her, you can open a missing persons case at your nearest police station. Q MY PARENTS DIED BROKE My…

‘I FORCE MYSELF TO HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND BECAUSE I DON’T LOVE HIM’ Q BOYFRIEND NOT READY FOR PARENTING I’m 25 and have been dating my man for two years. I have a six-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. Her father is very involved in her life and knows my boyfriend. We are co-parenting with no problems. My boyfriend doesn’t have a child and has accepted my daughter. We moved in together after eight months and my daughter occasionally visited. She’s now living with us after he agreed to it. Now he says he’s not sure about being a father to her because her staying with us is not the same as having her visit. I love my boyfriend and don’t want to lose him. How do I get…

ONE of the biggest delusions about marriage is believing that you’ll be happier married rather than single. That somehow, the ring is a magic wand that suddenly lights up your life even when it was gloom while single. Nothing could be further from reality. The idea that if you’re uncoupled or unmarried you’re missing out on happiness is a lie. Not only that, it’s dangerous and has unintended consequences like the following: WE FAIL TO CELEBRATE SINGLENESS Too often in our society, especially in our religious culture, single equals incomplete and married equals complete. This belief often causes single people to generally feel ‘less than’, in a culture and within institutions meant to point everyone towards fulfilment and happiness. Not everyone is keen on marriage, and therefore, not everyone is…

Bonang Matheba has revealed the kind of man she’s looking for: a man who makes equal or more money than she does and someone who is kind and peaceful. Move! readers have their say. I hope it’s not AKA. SFISO SIMELANE My uncle is available mughel, plus they call him Mr Millionaire ka mam rubee. So I think he’s your perfect match because he also doesn’t want broke gals since he’s broke. ZELO LICIA MAZIYA It’s fun how some women keep on looking for the ideal kind of man until they get expired . . . then fall for Ben 10. SNACKS MADOLO On behalf of South African men, I’d like to say . . . we prefer women who live in backrooms and shacks than these millionaires. SPEECH SPHIWO…

Here at Move! we are big fans of stokvels. It is a great way to meet new people or bond with old friends. It is good for having networks and building communities who can support us when we need it most. But most importantly, stokvels help us to improve our lives and achieve our goals. We would love to hear from you if you are part of a stokvel so you can feature in our stokvel pages (see page 6). We need to know more about your stokvel, how you formed, when you meet, what your rules are and more interesting facts about your club. We also need pictures of the stokvel, preferably in your uniform, if you have one. We would love to hear from you. Send your information…

SHE’S gorgeous, talented and has been in the industry for almost 10 years. No one would be surprised if she considered herself an “IT” girl. But Moneoa Moshesh still has trouble seeing herself as famous. The star broke into the industry in 2012 when she burst into song during a night out with friends and was quickly introduced to producer Vusi Ndlovu. Months later she was recording her hit single Is’bhanxa and it wasn’t long before she released her debut album, Coming From Going To. Now she’s evolved into an all-rounder after venturing into TV. She’s the leading lady in a South African movie called Back of the Moon, which will premier in cinemas this month. She chats to us about her journey. LEADING LADY The 29-year-old KwaZulu-Natal-born star has…

‘THE WHOLE THING FELT LIKE A BAD DREAM’ HIS blood ran cold as the enraged man charged at him. Primary school teacher Patrick Buthelezi wasn’t quite sure what was going on but there was no mistaking the old man’s fury – or that it was directed at him. “You raped her!” the old man yelled. And so began a nightmare that would see the 48-year-old Durban teacher spend more than a year behind bars for a crime he didn’t commit. He was eventually acquitted after his alleged victim admitted she had lied and the magistrate found no evidence linking him to any crime. Patrick is now suing the National Prosecuting Authority (NPA) for damages “of between R1 million and R2 million”, his lawyer, Viren Singh, says. “Mr Buthelezi was in…

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‘MY HUBBY HAS BEEN UNABLE TO GET AN ERECTION FOR OVER TWO MONTHS’ Q DRUGS MAKE ME SEXUAL I have been on drugs for six years and every time I smoke, I get sexually high. What can I do to stop this? ANONYMOUS, JOBURG A Drugs can influence how comfortable you feel and might lead to you feeling very sexual. But remember that drugs are illegal and addictive. They don’t come with medical information that will outline the risks and possible complications. You don’t need drugs to have sex, unless you have a medical condition that has been diagnosed (for example, low testosterone), but your doctor will help you with that. Illegal drugs shouldn’t be your answer. Rather give yourself time to learn how your body works and pay attention…

Claudia Abelheim, an educational psychologist at The Family Life Centre in Joburg and head of Youth Services including Education for Living, says: “This is a very difficult situation to be in. “Try to figure out what about your sister’s husband that attracts you. Sometimes when we have feelings for an inappropriate person it is a message to ourselves. Perhaps spending time with them is making you realise that you are ready for a more serious romantic partner in your life. “If this is the case, it is natural that the closest person you see in this role would become the object of your desire. It’s also human nature to glamorise what we can’t have. “Remember, no one is perfect and your brother-in-law will have faults too. Try and distance yourself…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman who wonders why singleness is so vilified in our society I’m a single woman in the age range that’s generally regarded as “marriage ready”. I know this for a fact because literally everywhere I go – whether home, church or family events – the common question is when am I getting married? Most of my friends are in fact married and this places so much pressure on me – such that I sometimes feel there’s something missing about me. I don’t quite feel the urge to marry, and am not in a relationship by choice. I feel inadequate as though I cannot make any contribution to society just because I am single. I really need your help. Why is it…

THE toughest thing for a leader is accountability. In a democratic society, this must be an ethos of leadership, but it is not always so. Today we have many commissions appointed to foster responsibility in those who thought the public purse was theirs to squander. We look at why accountability is an obligation placed on those who lead. AMONG PEERS In 2003, the African Union established the African Peer Review Mechanism (APRM) for “sharing experiences, reinforcing best practices, identifying deficiencies and assessing capacity-building needs to foster policies, standards and practices that lead to political stability, high economic growth, sustainable development and accelerated sub-regional and continental economic integration”. The APRM exists to ensure high levels of accountability among leaders and nations in Africa. In scripture, God uses a peer review mechanism…

1 After you have had a hard day at work your boss asks you to stay on for an extra hour. Would you agree to stay? A No, you’ve had enough of work today. B Only if you get overtime and a bonus. C Yes, if you thought it would help your prospects. 2 You are out for the evening with your partner when your phone rings. The display shows it’s your boss. How do you react? A Switch off the phone, and check your voicemail in the morning. B Let the phone go to voicemail then minutes later check to see what he wanted. C Answer straight away as it could be something important. 3 You have a terrible cold, but it’s important that you go into work. What…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…