Table of contents for 9/18/2019 in Move!

SHE could barely sit still in the cinema. Nqobile Khumalo was a bundle of nerves at the preview of the new political thriller she stars in. The actress has had plum parts in several drama series, but until recently she’d never seen herself on the silver screen. In her first feature film Nqobile plays Aluta, a brave woman who takes on a corrupt mining magnate after her sister is murdered. BIG-SCREEN BREAK Starring in Uncovered was a rollercoaster ride. “This movie was emotionally and physically exhausting,” Nqobile (27) tells Move!. “It has love, loss and tragedy, and it’s packed with action. It’s really heavy – but necessary.” The star-studded film, helmed by award-winning director Zuko Nodada, was shot in Newcastle, KwaZulu-Natal. It follows Aluta as she investigates the death of…

HE KNOWS he has big shoes to fill. When Mangosuthu Buthelezi stepped down as president of the political party he’d founded, he carefully selected his successor. After 44 years at the helm of the Inkatha Freedom Party (IFP), the stalwart tasked Velenkosini Fiki Hlabisa to lead the party into the future – and he’s more than prepared for the job. “This is one of the biggest achievements in my political career and I’m ready to take the baton and run with it,” Hlabisa (54) tells Move!. We’re meeting the new IFP leader at his office at the KwaZulu-Natal provincial legislature. “I’ve already settled in to my position and I’m ready to deliver,” he beams. SERVING THE PEOPLE With 24 years of unbroken service as a councillor, the former IFP secretary-general…

A PRINCIPAL caught on video slapping several pupils at the Bopedi Bapedi Secondary in Ngwaritsi Circuit, Sekhukhune in the South District in August. A teacher punishing pupils for being late to school. A father allegedly beating his 12-year-old daughter to death for spending three nights away from home in July. These are just some of the examples of punishment suffered by children at various schools and homes across the country, even though it’s been banned for years. In the last incident, the father handed himself over to the police. “It is alleged that on Tuesday, July 22, the suspect brutally assaulted his 12-year-old daughter after she had apparently slept out for a period of three days. The following day her parents noticed that she was unresponsive as they were trying…

BOTTLE TROUBLE A woman is trying hard to get the achar to come out of the jar. During her struggle the phone rings so she asks her five-year-old daughter to answer the phone. “It’s the minister, Mommy,” the child says to her mother. Then she adds, “Mommy can’t come to the phone to talk to you right now. She’s hitting the bottle.” HIS WILL A man and his wife are sitting in the living room discussing death and his will. “Just so you know, I never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluids from a bottle. If that ever happens, just pull the plug.” His wife gets up, unplugs the TV and throws out all his beer. ONE-LINERS ■ Ambition is a poor excuse…

Q DO YOU HAVE TIPS ON HOW TO DEAL WITH“CHUB RUB” AND FRICTION? A It’s almost“chub-rub”season. When it’s hot you don’t want to wear extra layers, but chafing can be painful. Rub some petroleum jelly on the insides of your thighs before you get dressed. This relieves pain, helps to reduce friction and protects against further chafing. Or rub baby powder on the area. The most effective way to stop chub rub, though, is to wear clothes in an appropriate size. Do you have a query regarding wardrobe styling or need advice on fashion? Let our fashion editor Peta-Lee help you. Send your questions tomove@media24.com or write to Move! PO Box 784072, Sandton 2146…

CHICKEN WALDORF SALAD WITH SORGHUM FLATBREADS The chunky flatbread adds a lovely crunch to this salad. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 7-10 MIN FLATBREADS ■ 375ml (1½c) cake flour ■ 125ml (½c) coarsely ground sorghum ■ 160ml ice water ■ 60ml (¼c) olive oil ■ 5ml (1t) salt GARLIC BUTTER ■ 60ml (¼c) butter ■ 4 cloves garlic, crushed ■ handful parsley, finely chopped SALAD ■ 1 iceberg lettuce, shredded ■ 4 sticks celery, chopped ■ 1 cooked chicken, deboned and roughly shredded ■ 50g walnuts or cashew nuts, roughly chopped DRESSING ■ 60ml (¼c) mayonnaise ■ 60ml (¼c) full-cream natural yoghurt ■ finely grated zest of 1 lemon and 45ml (3T) of the juice Preheat the oven to 200°°C. Grease two large baking sheets with oil. 1 Flatbreads…

‘I AM NOT INTERESTED IN HAVING SEX WITH MY HUSBAND AT ALL’ Q A LOW LIBIDO My partner and I both have a low sex drive and neither of us knows what is causing this. We’ve been together for two years and this is the first time neither of us is excited about sex. I’m worried as we are planning on getting married soon. ANONYMOUS, KWATHEMA A Planning your sexual journey with your partner is as important as planning anything else in your lives. Sit down together and create a sex plan that includes sexual goals you both want to achieve. Also make time to be romantic, go on dates and do fun things together. You can even plan a sex holiday! Change your plans as your sexual journey and…

Claudia Abelheim, educational psychologist at The Family Life Centre and head of youth services including Education for Living, says: “It is very normal to have these feelings after having a baby. Not everyone feels that immediate rush of love for their baby, especially if you had a difficult birth, or if you have a fussy baby. “Many things can contribute to this including hormones, lack of sleep and adjusting to your new life as a mother. “Some mothers also struggle with the newborn phase, as there is very little engagement with your baby [because they are so small and mostly sleep]. “Sometimes it can feel like you are giving your baby everything you have, and you are not getting much in return. “Give yourself time to get used to your…

I HAVE been single for the past year or so and I'm slowly approaching 40. I have lost all hope of ever finding Mr Right. I want stability but I seem to go for men with issues – men with baggage or those that feel threatened or intimidated by my success. Can you tell me what I need to be on the lookout for in order to attract the right guy? What are the important factors to consider when choosing a partner you hope will be marriage-material? SINGLE AND AVAILABLE FINDING love is one of the most challenging exercises, even in this day and age when everything we need in life is at our fingertips. What makes it challenging is that deciding to be with one particular person for the…

LOOKING FOR LOVE ■ I’m a single 32-year-old father. I’m also a Christian looking for a well-matured, single woman around Johannesburg, with or without kids. She must be willing to settle down. If interested, call or WhatsApp me on: 063-107-2041 ■ I’m a single 37-year-old man looking for a matured lady in South Africa. If interested, call me or WhatsApp me on: 083-965-8479 ■ I’m a 50-year-old who’s currently incarcerated in Johannesburg prison. I’m searching for a woman aged between 25 and 40 anywhere around SA. If interested, and you like to read books, you are a calm person and fun, WhatsApp me on: 073-308-4959 ■ I’m a 38-year-old woman with three kids. I’m looking for a single man with kids. You must have a job and be a God-fearing…

WHAT KIND OF SOCIETY HAVE WE BECOME? The incidents of rape, abduction, abuse and killing of women are really a cause for concern. Have we accepted violence as part of our everyday lives? Not a day goes by without a woman being raped or killed in our country. What kind of society have we become? What saddens me the most is these women are abused by the very same people whom they must seek protection from. The problem with us men is that we think that we own women. Since when have women became our properties? Just because we are in relationships with women we tend to treat them as inferior, second class citizens, inadequate and incomplete. We can’t rely only on our courts to stop these gender-based violence incidents.…

Sibongile Khumalo, product head FNB Savings and Cash Investments, says, “Work with people you trust – ensure there’s a common goal you are working towards. Make sure there’s transparency – by creating a constitution and ensure there’s proper recordkeeping.” Khumalo adds that having a constitution is crucial as it will ensure that you identify the rules which everybody is bound by, like: ■ Contributions, new members joining the stokvel, members exit ing the stokvels, etc. ■ The governance structure for the stokvel – what roles do you want to have for your office bear ers, for example. Will you also have deputies for each role? ■ The constitution needs to be reviewed at least once ayear to ensure it is still relevant and to ensure new members are also clued…

HER past haunts her and she’s willing to do whatever it takes to make sure her secrets are buried deep. For a while, her plotting and devious plans seemed to work although she had been slowly but surely digging herself further into trouble. Scandal!’s Boniswa Langa has gone from sweet to dangerous – very fast. The dignified mother, wife and businesswoman has turned into a murderer and liar. Viewers didn’t see this coming and it’s about to get even darker, Lusanda Mbane, who plays Boniswa, promises. SO SCANDALOUS Lusanda is the first to admit Boniswa Langa is just making a mess of things on e.tv’s Scandal!. “I think she must ease up and understand that her past does not define her. She is becoming way too sneaky trying to hide…

According to a study by nongovernmental organisation Rapcan, 57% of South African parents interviewed use their hands to spank their kids while 33% use other objects, such as belts. Parents must deal with their frustrations without using violence, says Reverend Patrick Godana, of Sonke Gender Justice. He believes hitting a child simply erodes that child’s self-esteem and confidence. “There are no benefits to smacking,” Reverend Godana adds. “Children must trust their parents, not fear them.” Other arguments against smacking include that it teaches children they don’t deserve respect, that it leads to children becoming indifferent to the pain of others, and that children who are spanked are more susceptible to delinquent behaviour. While the act of smacking a child is abusive, it doesn’t necessarily mean the parent is abusive, Childline’s…

BE A BRAAI MASTER Whatever the occasion, braaiing is the perfect way to entertain your friends and family. Help ensure your braai tastes perfect every time and with the NEW Royco Marinades. Bring on the flavour with Royco Sticky Sweet, Smokey BBQ and Garlic & Herb marinades. Suggested RRP is R21,99 for 200g and R39,99 for a 400g bag. VIP NEW SCENTS Playboy Deodorant has launched a trio of sprays inspired by the party capitals of the world. From the oriental and woody Playboy VIP Ibiza scent to Playboy VIP Miami with notes of amber and vanilla – all the way to Playboy VIP New York, characterised by aromatic scents of lemon and patchouli. Available in stores now. Visit @planetofattraction on Facebook or Instagram for more. NEW SEASON, NEW STYLE…

IN THE field of HIV, there are always new discoveries and developments. One of them has been the assertion that undetectable means the virus is untransmittable. It has been discovered that if you correctly adhere to taking ARVs for at least six months, you will suppress the virus to an undetectable viral limit. This undetectable viral limit, also known as LVL, makes it impossible to transmit the virus to another person. While this is positive news for many reasons, it is also important to lay down strong caution. ACHIEVING “UNDETECTABLE” Adherence to ARVs The core of suppressing HIV is the correct intake of ARVs without fail. ARVs play three vital roles in curbing HIV. ‘THE LVL IS NOT INACTIVE – IT CAN CHANGE ANYTIME’ Firstly, they stop the HIV copies…

HEART DISEASE It’s one of the leading causes of death globally, but also one of the most preventable health conditions. Are you avoiding the high-risk factors? Do you regularly consume fried or salty foods? Yes: 0 points | No: 1 point New research suggests that cutting out these two types of foods will affect your blood pressure and cholesterol enough to reduce heart disease risk by 30%. Has your mother, father, brother or sister had a heart attack before age 60? Yes: 0 points | No: 1 point Studies suggest having a close family member with heart disease doubles your risk of a cardiovascular event. If you ticked yes, it’s vital you know your blood pressure and cholesterol levels. If you don’t, make an appointment with your doctor. Do you…

MIMI MAKAPELA There is no such thing as Mr Right. You will travel to the tip of the universe and you won’t find him. Go out and live a little. The one who is for you will find you. Don’t be too quick to dismiss a man because he doesn’t fit your ideal guy. BOHLALE TSONGA Live your life, stress less about what others are doing (romantically), focus on yourself and let love find you. The minute you act desperate for love that’s when vultures out there will capitalise and use it to hurt you. PRECILLA MASHILWANE Not all of us are meant to have partners. If you are looking for Mr Right, are you Miss Right? Just enjoy your successes and be grateful for your life. The right man…

YOU might have the perfect skill set, experience or educational qualification for that vacancy you’re applying for. You might also be awesome at making a good impression in person. But what if your potential employer or recruiter requests an online interview? Interviews using online video platforms such as Skype, Zoom, BlueJeans and even WhatsApp video are becoming increasingly popular. And while preparing for it might be similar to preparing for a face-to-face interview, there are some key differences you must be aware of if you want to be successful in getting the job. WHY IT’S CONVENIENT Virtual, or video interviews, are being used more and more for several reasons and have distinct advantages for both the employer and employee, says industrial psychologist Phiona Martin. “The emergence of virtual working teams,…

A child who frequently misbehaves is neither happy nor confident. Here are some tell-tale signs to look out for: ■ Your child is disruptive at home and school ■ You and your child’s teachers have no control over them ■ They intentionally embarrass you in public ■ They bully other children ■ They engage in illegal activities such as vandalism, theft and drug abuse ■ They are often involved in fights ■ They are manipulative, as well as uncooperative and controlling ■ They throw temper tantrums whenever they don’t get their way ■ They are good at hiding the fact they caused the trouble. encouragement or assistance. Be sure to let your child know you are proud of the effort they’re making to change their behaviour. Praise is just as…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Umhlobo Wenene presenter Lulu Haarmans has been fired from one of the most popular shows on the radio station. Move! readers have their say: I will miss her voice. The mid-morning show Khanya Gqiyazana will never be the same again. – BEAUTY MAGODA Hopefully, she will get a new home and bounce back even though they don’t want to share what led to her dismissal. – LUXOLO WILBERFORCE Nobody is perfect in this world. I appeal to Umhlobo Wenene to bring back Lulu Haarmans. – SBUSISO COLLIN DYALIVANE Her music collection was great. I will miss her. – MDU DOBO I will miss her music. It was very good especially to someone who knew the music of the old Radio Xhosa. She was really one of a kind. Surely her…

SHE’S sipping a cup of warm water with ginger and lemon slices when we meet her. “It helps clear my throat,” Ami Faku (25) tells us. And of course, it’s important for her to protect her precious voice. Ami, real name Amanda Faku, got her big break in 2017 when she was on The Voice SA. Her rendition of John Legend’s ‘Ordinary People’ blew the judges away. She’s come quite far since then.  She chats to Move! about her journey. LIFE IN MUSIC She’s releasing her debut album this month but her latest single, Love Drunk, Ndikhetha Wena, and her feature on Sun-El Musician’s Into Ingawe has given her fans a taste of what to expect. “It’s such an overwhelming feeling to know how people have received the music. It…

HE’S gone through all the highs and lows of the industry. Money issues, relationships falling apart, changing labels – he’s been there, done it and got the T-shirt. Now Donald Moatshe (34), who goes by Donald, is putting it all in his latest album, Her Name Is, released this month. He’s older, wiser and a more seasoned performer after almost 10 years as a solo artist, he tells us. His new album is for every woman to personalise and make it their own. We catch up with him. THE TIME IS NOW The jam-packed double disc album has 20 songs. Fans will be treated to a familiar house sound from Donald on one half of the album and a more Afro-soul sound on the other. This one has been particularly…

GOSPEL icon Sipho “Big Fish” Makhabane’s live DVD recording took place at the Victory Celebration Church in Mahikeng, North West. His supporting acts included some of the biggest names in the gospel industry, such as Neyi Zimu, Zaza, Thobekile, Thina Zungu, Israel Mosehla, Omega, Shongwe & Khuphuka Saved Group, Phindile Phoky, Ayanda Shange and Mpumalanga Praise. Sipho shares that he gave 20 aspiring musicians from around the North West a platform to showcase their talent and each of them had a solo performance on stage. The show began at 8.30pm on Saturday and only ended at 5am the next day after the audience kept chanting for more. “I’m so happy it worked out,” Sipho says.…

1 Nomzamo Mbatha will star alongside Eddie Murphy in a follow-up to which ’80s flick? A Trading Places B The Golden Child C Coming to America D Beverly Hills Cop 2 Tooth decay is caused by the combination of a high-sugar and starch diet and . . .in your mouth? A Viruses B Fungi C Protozoa D Bacteria 3 The most common system for the symbolic representation of numbers in the world today (eg 1,2,3) is called . . . numerals? A Arabic B Phoenician C Greek D Roman 4 Kendall Jenner and several other celebrities are being sued for endorsing the disastrous . . . Festival in 2017? A Fyre B Forever C Freedom D Fate 5 Which item is named after a character in a classic children’s book?…

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Q HOWDO I USE CONCEALER WHEN I APPLY MAKEUP? A Concealer can be used to hide dark marks or it can be used to highlight your whole makeup look. When hiding marks, use a concealer that’s similar to your foundation colour. Apply it over foundation and dab it in to blend. To highlight, use a concealer two shades lighter than your skin tone. Apply it under your eyes, in between your brows towards the middle of the forehead in an upside-down triangle shape, and on your chin. Blend it in by dabbing it with a flat brush or sponge.…

‘HE HAS BEATEN ME UP TWICE AND HAS THREATENED TO KILL ME’ Q I’M SCARED TO DIVORCE I have been married in community of property since November 2015. Although my husband and Ihave a child together, we are now separated. I am working and my husband is unemployed. He is a hustler but hides money from me. He wants me to work for him. We don’t communicate about our problems. He has beaten me up twice and has threatened to kill me. I want to divorce him but now I’m scared that he will take half of my assets. Please help. ANONYMOUS, TEMBA A You firstly need to get a protection order against your husband from your nearest magistrate’s court. You also need to report his threats of killing you…

‘I LOVE THIS MAN, BUT ICANNOT TAKE THE ATTITUDE HIS CHILDREN ARE GIVING ME’ Q HIS CHILDREN HAVE A BAD ATTITUDE I am dating this man and he has two children. He was married to their mother and they are now divorced. The children are so mean to me and act as if I am responsible for their parent’s divorce. When I met him, he had been divorced for two years already. I love this man, but I cannot take the attitude his children are giving me. ANONYMOUS, PRETORIA A It is possible that the children think you are the reason their parents are not together. This may be their reality and their perception of their situation. This is because they are hurt and need someone to blame for their…

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No matter where or how you’re being interviewed, these interview preparation tips from industrial psychologist, Phiona Martin, will ensure you stand out at your next job interview. ■ Research the company. Check out their website and social media accounts to familiarise yourself with what kind of company culture they have and what they do. ■ Ask for the job description ahead of time if you’ve only been informed of the job title, and use the job description to research similar jobs to get an idea of what the job entails. ■ Make notes of positive attributes about yourself that speak to the job at hand. Try and have actual examples of how you have demonstrated this skill in the past. ■ Record a mock interview with a friend. Watch it…

HAVING FAITH The Gospel of Mark presents us with a story of Jesus’disciples facing a great storm. One evening, he said to his disciples,“Let us go over to the other side.”Leaving a crowd behind, they got into a boat. A furious storm came up and the waves broke over the boat, and it was nearly swamped. Jesus was in the stern sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said ,“Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?” He got up and rebuked the wind and said to the waves,“Quiet! Be still!”The wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to his disciples, “Why are you afraid? Do you still have no faith?” They were terrified and asked one another, “Who is this? Even the wind and waves…