Table of contents for 10/2/2019 in Move!

It’s almost crunch time for matriculants. They’ve been preparing all year, going to study camps, weekend sessions and often spending time away from home, all to make sure they give the final exams their very best. While they are the only ones that can study and write their tests, there are ways you and your family can make it easier for them to handle the stress of exam time. On page 60, we look at how you can help your child, sibling or grandchild get through the tough times ahead. On page 20, we also look at jobs that are still in demand in these trying times. These are jobs that don’t all require degrees and where the right experience could help you move up the ladder. Till next week!…

■ Avon Justine’s Nomvula Mazibuko will introduce the speakers on the day and share how you can become an independent Avon Justine representative and earn extra money. ■ Ratna Siriah, business head for Zee World, will be speaking about the new series Mehek – a world first for an Indian series to feature an African cast. Zee World is invested in local talent and bringing the best of Bollywood series. ■ Apostle Negross Manana will open the event with a prayer and sermon to start your day. ■ Motivational speaker Pastor Sols Memoka will close the event with a motivation. ■ Legendary gospel artist Sipho Makhabane and the Mpumalanga Praise Choir will entertain you with gospel songs.…

CONCENTRATING intently, Nhlanhla Ngcobo* carefully marked six numbers on the Lotto slip at the petrol station: 2, 8, 9, 14, 29 and 30. She whispered a quiet prayer as she had done every time she’d bought a Lotto ticket over the past 19 years. She paid for it and hoped for the best. Nhlanhla (54) could barely afford the R7,50 ticket. Even though it was the beginning of September and she’d been paid her salary just a few days ago, she had just R300 to her name. Like so many South Africans, she was up to her neck in debt and sinking fast. AGAINST ALL ODDS “God, please bless these numbers,” she murmured. Against all odds, her prayers were answered with a tsunami’s worth of blessings. But Nhlanhla still can’t…

EVERYWHERE she goes, it’s the first thing people notice about her. But she’s had enough of the attention. Alice Whiskin, from England, says her large boobs have turned her life into a living hell. Her already big breasts ballooned up four sizes in just a year. They went from being H-cups to the now unbearable L-cups. “I have been given a lovely gift of having big boobs,” the 26-year-old says. But they are unbearable so she has decided to do something about it. MAKING THE DECISION Alice qualifies for a breast reduction from the National Health Service (NHS), England’s version of public health. With the operation, she hopes to not only get rid of her too-large breasts but in the process, to help other women. She’s found an unusual solution…

FABULOUS IN FLORALS Be bold and wear floral prints together or play it safe by matching them with solid colours. TIP Fitted or fancy free – play with silhouettes and cuts to vary your look. PRETTY IN PASTEL Summer is the perfect time for soft, calming, candy-inspired hues. TIP Mix pastel items in various tones for a soft yet bold look. TERRIFIC TIE-DYE It’s the biggest trend of the season. Add it to your wardrobe to be one of the cool kids. TIP Tie-dye is busy and often colourful so pair it with simple accessories. CITRUS FEVER Celebrate the African sun by wearing this bright hue. Wear it from head to toe in different shades if you want to make a statement. TIP Bright yellow and neon green go together…

STICKY GINGER SESAME CHICKEN SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN SAUCE ■ 60ml (¼c) honey ■ 60ml (¼c) brown sugar ■ 60ml (¼c) soy sauce ■ 2 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 10cm fresh ginger, grated ■ 10ml (2t) fish sauce ■ 10ml (2t) apple vinegar CHICKEN ■ 4-6 chicken breast fillets, cubed ■ salt and white pepper ■ 125ml (½c) cornflour ■ oil for shallow-frying ■ 45ml (3T) sesame seeds STIR-FRY ■ 15ml (1T) oil ■ 1-2 chillies, chopped ■ 2cm fresh ginger, julienned ■ 1 cucumber, julienned ■ 4 spring onions, chopped ■ 3 heads pak choi (Chinese cabbage), leaves separated 1 Sauce Heat all the ingredients in a saucepan, stirring until the sugar has dissolved. 2 Simmer slowly for 10 minutes or until the sauce has…

Employees in all income groups and job levels can be retrenched if the employer has valid reasons for doing so. Employers must follow the law: first they must issue a notice that explains how many people are being retrenched, and why and when. Employees can negotiate this and make alternative suggestions. If the employer offers you another job as part of the process, think carefully before saying no, unless you have a good reason – it could mean that you forfeit your severance pay. TAX-FREE Since 2014 the first R500 000 of your severance pay is tax-free. This doesn’t include payouts for pro-rata bonuses, which are taxed according to your individual tax rate. To get this tax break you must receive a lump sum from your employer for being retrenched.…

KGADI MAPHAHLANA Age is just a number. If he makes you happy, respects you, loves you and cares about you, I say ride that Ben 10. People will always talk whether you do good or bad. Your life, your rules! SIDNEY GIWU You’re thinking of entering into a relationship with him but does he feel the same? You can do whatever you want to. People will judge anyway. Don’t be afraid, just go for it! Just make sure you’re both on the same page. BERLINA NYAZIMBA They say love can come in all sizes and shapes so follow your heart. If he makes you happy and is as mature as you say he is, he's a keeper. People will always have something to say, but your happiness comes first. Enjoy…

PRESIDENT Cyril Ramaphosa has appointed a new Commission for the Promotion and Protection of the Rights of Cultural, Religious and Linguistic Communities (CRL), headed up by Prof Luka Mosoma and Dr Sylvia Mmamohapi Pheto. There are certain areas I feel the commission has made mistakes in. I’ve written to the portfolio committee of Cooperative Governance and Traditional Affairs to note them. NOT LIVING UP TO THEIR NAME The CRL must act without fear or favour in promoting and protecting the right of a cultural and religious organisation. There’ve been three incidents where they have not done so. The previous incumbent Thoko Mkhwanazi-Xaluva called religion in South Africa a “thing” and belittled the cultural significance of Christianity. The CRL has the power to investigate and report on abuses in cultural communities.…

1 If your partner was alone in a bar and approached by a beautiful woman, what do you think he would do? A Try to arrange a date with her. B Smile politely but have nothing to do with her. C Chat her up and buy her a drink. 2 You come home unexpectedly and you find your man talking on his phone. As soon as he sees you he hangs up. What do you think? A That his call ending as you arrive is a coincidence. B He has another woman. You’ll press redial when he’s out of the room. C He’s planning a special surprise for you and doesn’t want you to find out. 3 You find a blond hair on your partner’s jacket. He says it must…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/ activity.…

The Constitutional Court has ruled it is now illegal to spank your child at home. This comes more than two decades after corporal punishment was banned in schools. Move! readers have their say. Well, if you want to tell me how to raise my kids in my own home please feel free to pay my rent, buy their food and also pay for their school fees. - TAAHIRA HOOSEN The law doesn’t apply to me because I don’t spank my children. - ZANDILE BHUKULA If the government shared labour pains with me then they would be free to tell me how to raise my child. - SINAH MAPONYANE It will apply at our president’s home! - JAY P MOKOKO Our government is smart. They are trying their best to make…

WHEN she revealed her baby bump for the first time on social media last month, her fans and followers were so delighted that her account was flooded with congratulatory messages for weeks. But she has another surprise lined up – she already gave birth to twins weeks ago. Skeem Saam’s Makgofe Moagi, who plays Charity Ramabu, is good at keeping secrets because she was taught not to “run her mouth” as it might delay her blessings. Now that her bundles of joy have arrived, she’s ready to tell the world. She hasn’t been a regular feature on the SABC 1 drama series for months now, but it was only because she was pregnant. “Yes, I am now a mother of four,” she proudly tells Move!. She had twins - a…

IT was a sensory explosion at the Sir James van der Merwe venue at Katy’s Palace Bar in Kramerville recently. Some of Mzansi’s famous faces gathered all in the name of feeling the flavour with Flying Fish. The event saw South Africa’s very first live ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) show. The idea of ASMR has taken the internet by storm, with videos going viral of people creating scintillating sounds which provoke a physical response in the human body – whether it be by something they say, eat or even sing. In the theme of tantalising senses, attendees were in for a treat as their sense of hearing was definitely stimulated with live performances by the likes of Rowlene Bosman, Manu WorldStar, Una Rams and hosted a few other recognisable…

1 Nandi Madida recently announced the name of her baby, Queen . . .? A Cleopatra B Hatshepsut C Nefertiti D Nefertari 2 A sudden episode of intense fear or anxiety and symptoms such as palpitations and shortness of breath is called a . . . attack? A Panic B Heart C Spasm D Asthma 3 The Jehovah’s Witnesses are a . . . denomination? A Catholic B Hindu C Jewish D Christian 4 Prejudice against people from other countries is called . . .? A Racism B Xenophobia C Ethnocentrism D Xenophilia 5 Cats can become addicted to . . . which could cause them to stop eating other food? A Tuna B Milk C Chocolate D Ham 6 This year’s event in Japan is the . . .…

Q WHAT DRESS SHOULD I INVEST IN THAT WILL ENHANCE MY BODY SHAPE? A Well, immediately I’d say a wiggle-style dress – the figure-hugging style can greatly enhance a woman’s shape. And you can wear it at work and after hours. So naturally I think this dress should be part of any woman’s wardrobe – it’s a huge asset! One of the most important things about wiggle dresses and skirts is choosing the right size. You don’t want it to be too big, as that will take away from the wiggle effect. But you also don’t want it to be too tight, as this will be super uncomfortable. So, how do you pick the right size? Start by getting accurate measurements of your waist, bust and hips.…

HAVING a baby is one of the major concerns of people living with HIV. You may wonder if the baby will be HIVpositive. Or how you can conceive without infecting your partner if they are HIV negative. The good news is you can have a baby. Whether the baby or the HIVnegative partner can be infected depends on you following the right procedures. Many people overlook the importance of conceiving with the help of a medical doctor or clinic. This can put the life of your baby and partner, if they are HIV-negative, at risk of contracting the virus. ‘WOMEN SHOULD UNDERGO TESTS BEFORE AND DURING PREGNANCY’ DO THE TESTS There are several tests that should be done before you try to conceive. ■ The viral load test The chance…

GLAMOROUS holidays, posing for Instagram, invitations to premium events . . . to many that sums up the life of a social media influencer. It’s no surprise that “social media influencer” is one of the most popular career aspirations for people these days. But Sean McCollet (27), model and host of SABC1’s docu-reality series Instapreneurs, says it’s not that clear-cut. The series follows the lives of social media influencers and shows how they create content, how they keep their social media posts fresh and relevant, and how they engage with their followers. WHAT IT’S ALL ABOUT Instapreneurs showcases the hard work influencers put into creating content on their social media platforms. It details their journeys to success and their inspirations. The show has featured Mihlali Ndamase who gained prominence with…

Q HIS SHOUTING PUTS ME OFF My partner never beats me but he shouts at me when he’s angry. This puts me off having sex completely. In fact, I am so dry that we can’t even achieve penetration. ANONYMOUS, PORT ELIZABETH A Sex is much more than a physical act. It is also an emotional, mental and spiritual act. For you to enjoy sex fully, all of these factors should be present. Once any of the factors are battered, you will not find joy. It might help to visit a clinical psychologist and clinical sexologist as part of healing. It will be good for your sexual journey. Also be patient and kind to yourself. And speak to your partner about how his behaviour affects your journey. ‘I HAVE A PHYSICAL…

1 Can I get retrenched while I’m on leave? Yes, you can be notified of the process, but your employer must follow the legal requirements. 2 Can employers cancel the notice period? The employer can come to an agreement with the retrenched person that they don’t have to work for the notice period. But the employee must still be paid out for the period. 3 Where can I complain? If you belong to a trade union and think your retrenchment wasn’t handled fairly, you can ask your union to take your case. Or you can approach the Commission for Conciliation, Mediation and Arbitration (CCMA). 4 Is the employer’s contribution to your medical aid included in the severance deal? Yes, it is part of your remuneration. 5 How much of my…

MARK 11:22-24 “And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” “This scripture speaks of the power of faith, which I believe is a gift from God. Faith is not something that we automatically have, it’s something we receive in measure from God. I find this verse powerful because when I had doubts in my life this verse reassured me that I just needed to trust in God.”…

BETWEEN 0-10 There’s no doubt that you have total faith in your man. Just ensure that your trust isn’t misplaced. If you’re positive that he’s 100% reliable then you have no need to worry. But if you ever have the slightest suspicion that he’s never honest with you, talk to him about what is going on. BETWEEN 11-20 In some ways you have faith in your man but in other ways you don’t. He may have given you grounds to be suspicious because of his actions in the past. But you now have to consider whether that is enough reason for you to continue to mistrust him. Perhaps the time has come to give him the benefit of the doubt or have a talk about trust. BETWEEN 21-30 You don’t…

READY to finish this year on a high note? We’ve been travelling around South Africa and now our much-loved event is heading to Mbombela. It’s your turn to treat yourself and be a part of the Move! Stokvel magic. We all need that extra helping hand and what’s better than sharing in the success? Let’s be inspired, network and gain new ideas for a fruitful year ahead. You’ll get to enjoy all the motivational speakers while having lunch and refreshments – and you’ll even leave with a fab goodie bag. Here’s to you. Here’s to reaching your goals! See you there, Mbombela ladies.…

KEEP COMMUNICATING Some stokvels may face communication issues as some of their members do not have access to smartphones. A WhatsApp group plays a crucial role in informing members on any of the developments of the stokvel or whether the meeting time or day has been changed. The stokvel therefore faces issues as these messages cannot reach every member which makes them rely on word of mouth as a means of communication. This is not always effective. One solution could be to meet more regularly. The club executives could also write up memos that can be delivered to the homes of those who do not have phones. Each person who doesn’t have a phone can partner up with someone who does and that person can take on the responsibility of…

IT’S a moment he will never forget – the day he proposed to the love of his life. Now, they are they’re expecting their first child and preparing to walk down the aisle. Skeem Saam actor Clement Maosa (31) is living his best life. And it’s partly thanks to his late friend Akhumzi Jezile, who was at the forefront of planning the special proposal. Akhumzi died the day Clement’s family paid lobola. “We are living on borrowed time. His death really made me value life more,” he tells Move! Now he celebrates every moment and is especially eager to be a father. BECOMING A FATHER AND HUSBAND Seeing his fiancée, who he tries to keep out of the spotlight, go through the phases of pregnancy has been a magical experience,…

SHE turns heads in an African print dress with black and white sneakers. She’s hard to miss as she walks into the Move! offices – her hair is dyed blond; she’s carrying a Gucci sling bag and she keeps her sunglasses on. With a bounce in her step, Gogo Dineo has arrived. Known as a celebrity sangoma because of her close ties to some of SA’s stars, she’s used to being in the spotlight. She’s been seen with celebrities like Boity Thulo and Masechaba Ndlovu and has frequent radio and TV features. And often, how she looks has people talking. “There’s this stereotype that a sangoma has a look. I mean, no. We look like this now,” she jokes. In fact, she looks so good, people can’t see the troubles…

IT SEEMS grossly unfair. They’ve studied for years and worked hard to get good marks – then, when it comes down to it, there just aren’t any jobs. The latest figures released by Statistics South Africa drive home just how dire unemployment is: 29% of our country’s working-age population are jobless. That’s more than 15 million people who are unable to find work in the formal jobs sector. And among the youth the picture is even more dismal. It’s estimated that 56% of South Africans under the age of 24 are sitting at home twiddling their thumbs because they can’t find work. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t jobs. SA needs 80 000 artisans annually – yet there aren’t enough qualified people to fill these positions. Plumbers, carpenters, electricians, truck…

THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR BOSS ■ When you take a long time, you’re slow. When your boss takes a long time, they’re thorough. ■ When you don’t do it, you’re lazy. When your boss doesn’t do it, they’re too busy. ■ When you make a mistake, you’re an idiot. When your boss makes a mistake, they’re only human. ■ When you do something without being told, you’re overstepping your authority. When your boss does the same thing, they’re showing initiative. WHAT TO SAY IF YOU’RE CAUGHT SLEEPING AT YOUR DESK ■ They told me at the blood bank this might happen. ■ I wasn’t sleeping! I was meditating on our mission statement and envisioning a new project. ■ It’s just one of those 15-minute power naps they taught…

‘CAN I SUE MY HUSBAND FOR FORCING ME TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM?’ Q NOT LEGALLY MARRIED I have been married traditionally to my husband for 15 years. He only paid half lobola. We have also moved in together but now he doesn’t want to finalise anything officially. Please help. ANONYMOUS, KWAMASHU A If your partner only paid half lobola, in terms of the law a valid marriage has not been entered into. This means he’s not your husband but still a boyfriend, even if the two of you have lived together. Unfortunately, you cannot force your partner to marry you. If he doesn’t want to make you his wife, you can consider terminating your cohabitation relationship with him, or continue in the cohabitation. Q PAYBACK FROM WAGES My domestic…

LIBRA 23 SEP – 22 OCT It’s a great time to attract lucrative business opportunities as you may meet people with financial know-how and sound economic advice. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 12, 17, 25, 31, 48 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV Whether you want to promote a cause or need tips to succeed, mixing and mingling might connect you with the right person. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 14, 16, 33, 44, 52 SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC It’s a week to focus on friendships. Whether they’re currently playing a supportive role or are the one in need of some cheering up, make time with your friends a high priority. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 5, 10, 25, 30, 42, 50 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN Whether you want to…

Q ARGUING IN FRONT OF OUR KIDS My husband and I have been going through a rough patch. We love each other but have financial issues. We also haven’t been communicating well. When we talk, it ends up in an argument. We have two children aged 10 and three. It’s not always easy to move to another room when we’re both feeling heated during an argument and we’ve been arguing in front of them. He doesn’t think it’s a problem and says children need to understand that people aren’t always calm. I’m worried it’ll damage them. What’s normal for them to witness and what isn’t? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A It’s true that people aren’t always calm. We all lose our temper sometimes. It’s normal to be overwhelmed and emotional, but this…

I am a 42-year-old woman. I’m thinking of dating a man 14 years younger than I am. He is such a great guy. He calls often to check up on me, he’s taken me out on several dates and paid for the bill. He massages my feet when I visit his place after work. He wants to settle down. He is more mature than most of the older men I’ve dated. But my friends are adamant he is acting this way because this is the start of a relationship and that, like all men, he will change. I like him very much but I'm worried about the age factor. Is age everything or just a number? Can I go ahead and date a young man without being scared of what…

AS a child, I never had a problem with my dark skin. I saw people’s skin almost as a mix of different flavours. I was just a dark flavour. But as a teenager, I all really wanted to be accepted. I had a teacher who would pick on me often. She would say, “hey, you! Blacky! You’re making a noise.” It sounds absurd now that a black person would call another black person “Blacky”. When she first said it, I thought it was harmless. But when I saw the facial expressions of those around me, I understood that I was being attacked. It became a habit of the teacher, cripplling my self-confidence. I BEGAN TO HATE MY SKIN The emotions I had towards her grew intense because a part of…