Table of contents for 10/9/2019 in Move!

THIS can’t be real, I still keep thinking. Even as I look at a picture of myself in one of my favourite magazines. I keep asking how a Port Elizabeth born-and-raised girl, who went to township schools all her life and was taught English in isiXhosa is working with words for a living?! Then I remember the school holidays I spent reading instead of playing. The days when I would pack a book to a party (yes, I was that annoying person) and the nights spent reading when I should have been asleep. That’s how I got here. I’m a reader who became a writer. I read books, magazines, Chappies’Did You Know? If it had words, I would read it. So I hope that as we get closer to the…

ATTENDANCE ISSUES The stokvel is quite small which does make it easier to keep track of how many members have contributed financially. However, they still face issues with members being unable to keep their word when it comes to attending their monthly meetings. The use of a WhatsApp group chat has made communication easier. But some members have data issues which means that they don’t get the messages on time. To make things easier in terms of communication, an agenda is created beforehand for every meeting and on the day, they discuss all the matters that need to be resolved to avoid the need to address important issues on the group chat. Another issue which they have faced is helping out when one member loses a loved one. The agreement…

TWO years ago, she was a mess. She witnessed the love of her life take his last breath. But now actress Simphiwe Ngema (30), who plays the role of Phindile in SABC 3’s Isidingo, is able to sit and talk about that part of her life without breaking down. She’s in a much better space now, she tells Move! at the launch of her partnership with fragrance brand, Gold Series, at The Venue at Melrose Arch. Simphiwe’s husband, musician Dumi Masilela, was shot and killed in August 2017 in an attempted hijacking. “I’m in a good space right now. It hasn’t been easy, but I’ve been better,” she beams. FINDING HEALING And she’s made peace with the fact that her husband was killed just two months after their wedding.“I know…

LOCAL celebrities and influencers celebrated Heritage Day by taking a journey through the historical Cradle of Humankind, Sterkfontein Caves. It was something out of the ordinary from what the A-listers are used to. They swapped the heels for helmets and flats as they journeyed through the caves. The likes of actress Enhle Mbali and international designer Rich Mnisi attended the event hosted by Johnnie Walker aimed at celebrating culture and tradition by unveiling the NOMAD limited edition bottle with prints of the most iconic places such as “Hole-in-The-Wall” tidal archway.…

IT WAS all meant to be so different. She was scheduled to have life-changing surgery in May last year that would’ve given her a shot at a normal life. But instead Charlene Moses is in agony. Apart from walking to the local spaza shop and her visits to the community clinic, she doesn’t leave home. “I can’t take a taxi because the drivers aren’t willing to drive me. And if they are, they overcharge me – probably because I’m the size of two people.” HOPES CRUSHED She refuses to join her family on shopping trips because it’s impossible to move around easily. Charlene can’t even enjoy the sights of Hout Bay harbour just below Hangberg, the Cape Town neighbourhood where she lives. The only view she has of the bustling…

WE ALL appreciate a quick meal that’s big on taste and easy on the waist – even better when it’s easy on the wallet too. Readers have been tuning in to Rate My Plate weekly for recipe inspiration and we’re loving the opportunity to see how South Africa shares smiles around the dinner table. This week’s winner shared her pork fillet and baked veggie recipe, so now you can try it too. Keep having fun in the kitchen while experimenting with new dishes using Harvestime’s range of meal extenders. Enjoy! PORK FILLET & BAKED VEGGIES SERVES 3-4 COOKING: 40-60 MIN PORK FILLET 30ml (2T) paprika 30ml (2T) chilli flakes 30ml (2T) salt 45ml (3T) black pepper 30ml (2T) olive oil 45ml (3T) soy sauce 500g pork fillet barbecue sauce, to…

1 MYTH If you’re not wearing makeup you don’t have to wash your face at night. FACT Our skin is always busy sweating, producing oil and shedding. On top of that, it’s exposed to pollution and bacteria. This means it needs to be cleaned in the morning and evening, whether you’re wearing makeup or not. Use products that will help you achieve your skincare goals, such as better hydrated skin or less oiliness. 2 MYTH Putting on makeup every day is bad for your skin. FACT Daily makeup shouldn’t be an issue if you remove it properly before you go to bed and maintain a good skincare routine. Most makeup products don’t contain harmful ingredients that will affect the appearance or wellbeing of your skin. 3 MYTH Sleeping with makeup…

‘A CREDIT PROVIDER HAS THE LEGAL RIGHT TO REFUSE CREDIT’ NOT PAID FOR BEING SICK Q I have been permanently employed for nine years at the same company. Recently, I was not feeling well and I stayed at home for two days. I didn’t have money to see a doctor and treated myself with over-the-counter medicines. When I came back to work my employer asked for my sick note. He says if I don’t produce it, he will not pay me for those two days. I think this is unfair and a violation of my rights. ANONYMOUS, PIMVILLE A Each company has its own policies regarding the bringing of a medical certificate to confirm that an employee was not fit to come to work. You need to check what the…

‘MY FRIEND IS VERY DEFENSIVE OF HER ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP’ BECOMING A SOCIALWORKER Q My daughter loves your column and would like to become a social worker. What does she need to do to become one? She will be in matric next year. ANONYMOUS, DURBAN A She can begin by making enquiries regarding admission requirements at the universities because each one has their own requirements. After her mid-year exams next year, she can use her report and begin sending her applications for the next year. Social work is broad and has unlimited opportunities. She can conduct some research to expose her to these and then decide if she has the personality that is required by the profession. SHE’S IN DENIAL Q A close friend is in an abusive relationship. Her man…

SPRING is in the air, and suddenly more and more people are exercising. They’re out on the roads running or cycling, or they arrive at work lugging their gym bags. But for those of us who’ve been vegetating on the couch, the thought of that kind of activity is daunting – even if we know we really should do some form of exercise. The good news is you don’t have to tackle marathons to reap the benefits of exercise. Even running for as little as five to 10 minutes a day can reduce your risk of dying from heart disease and increase longevity, according to research published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology. What’s more, you can run on your own or as part of a group.…

SELBY MAHUMANE I suggest you call a family meeting and discuss the matter. It sounds as if it's affecting the kids, which isn't good for their upbringing. Kids learn from situations like these and might abuse their partners when they have their own family. EVELYN CHABELI Let that man go. You’re not a rehabilitation centre for broken men. If you don’t leave him while you can still walk away, you might end up leaving in a coffin. MASITENG QUEENLUKHANYA You can take the horse to the river but you can’t force it to drink. Take your children away from that man if you don’t want them to model his behaviour in the future.…

GOSPEL star Babo Ngcobo always strives to change the lives of others through his music. “I was given the gift of sharing music with others,” he says. “And not just any kind of music but music that sparks a change in hearts. Music that makes people look deep into their hearts and if they see that there is something that needs a positive change, then it inspires them to change the way they live their lives.” A DARK TIME Changing is something he knows all too well, Babo tells Move!. He often strayed from good when he was younger. Although he was completely aware of how harmful his actions were, he convinced himself that living the way he did was the best way. “I would say I was a bad…

BETWEEN 0-10 It’s obvious that you’re definitely in your partner’s shadow. All your actions show that you put your guy’s feelings before your own. You need to ask yourself why you are behaving in such a meek way. Be fair to yourself by putting you first occasionally without thinking of it as selfish. BETWEEN 11-20 You are subservient to your guy. One the other hand, on occasions, he’s subservient to you. It’s as if you have an unspoken agreement under certain circumstances. At different times, one of you is prepared to stand in the background while the other is more dominant. It’s unusual, but it does seem to work. BETWEEN 21-30 It’s clear you and your partner are absolute equals. Your guy has a great deal of respect for you…

Somizi Mhlongo and Mohale Motaung have had the country excited about their traditional wedding which took place at the end of September. While most of the details were kept under wraps, they did give a sneak peak into their big day with fittings, music and of course, the step. Move! readers have their say. May the Lord bless them with many children. - SIYABULELA NGQONGA Somizi, you still have a chance to cancel this. This guy doesn’t love you one bit! - SISIPO CANDY MINXIZA NQADINI I’m so happy for you guys. Maybe one day you’ll adopt three kids! I love you guys. - TSHEHLA MEAHACK Good luck my guys! - KOKETSO FOXY-BROWN MALEKA Love them. - LILLIAN MARIBADZI When is the wedding? I really don't want to miss the…

IF there’s one thing they have in common, it’s the multiple times Mamlambo and Qhabanga have fallen in love with different people on the SABC 1 drama, Uzalo, in a very short space of time. Now the two have fallen madly in love with each other and are planning a wedding to solidify their ‘godly’ union. Is this wedding really going to happen after all the drama that’s led to their relationship? There are already signs of doubt from Mamlambo, played by Gugu Gumede (27). Her character is a spiritual woman who’s the face of the church but who’s often called out for repeatedly taking other women’s men. THE NAME CALLING She has been called many mean names and is often referred to as ‘our very own Brooke Logan’ in…

The term refers to swelling, usually in the arms or legs, caused by a blockage in the lymphatic system, which is part of your immune system. The disease is similar to elephantiasis in that lymph drainage channels in the body are blocked, but the causes differ. Elephantiasis is usually caused by the bite of a worm-like parasite, says Professor Elmin Steyn, head of surgery at Stellenbosch University. “The parasite is transmitted by mosquitoes. When someone is infected, the small lymph drainage channels in the body are blocked, causing severely swollen limbs.” It is commonly caused by lymph node removal. It’s not clear what caused Charlene’s lymphedema.…

1 Bonang Matheba recently announced plans to build a . . . in Soweto? A Clinic B Gallery C School D Club 2 Billy Porter recently made history when he became the first openly gay black man to win an . . . award for best actor in a drama series? A Oscar B Emmy C Golden Globe D Screen Actors Guild 3 . . . is a French dessert made of custard topped with caramelised sugar? A Croissant B Crème brûlée C Petit fours D Gateaux 4 Rapper Sho Madjozi’s latest hit track is named after which WWE star? A Dave Bautista B Dwayne Johnson C John Cena D Triple H 5 The Statue of Liberty was gifted to the United States by which country? A England B China…

EASY MOSBOLLETJIE RUSKS They’re lighter in sugar and butter than other recipes but they’re just as delicious – and affordable. MAKES 36 RUSKS PREPARATION: 30-40 MIN RISING: ABOUT 1 HR BAKING: 40-50 MIN DRYING: OVERNIGHT DOUGH ■ 1,5kg stone-ground white bread flour ■ 10ml (2t) salt ■ 20ml (4t) aniseed ■ 20g (2 sachets) instant yeast ■ 200ml sugar ■ 150g butter ■ 750ml (3c) lukewarm water ■ 250ml (1c) lukewarm milk SUGAR GLAZE ■ 30ml (2T) sugar ■ 30ml (2T) lukewarm water Preheat the oven to 190°C. Grease 1 large loaf tin (36 x 13cm) and 1 medium loaf tin (20 x 10,5cm) well with nonstick spray. 1 Dough In a large bowl, mix the flour and the salt. Add the aniseed and instant yeast and mix. 2 In…

IT’S something most families battle with – the relationship between a mother-in-law and her son’s wife. This is why Moja Love TV has made it into a show, in the hope of addressing long-standing problems and rivalries that have been known to break family relations. BRIDGING THE GAP Mamazala, with double bill episodes, airs on Saturdays at 19:30 and 20:00. Hosted by Dingaan Khumalo, Mamazala explores the dynamics of in-law relationships and challenges through dialogue. The word mamazala is derived from IsiZulu and can be loosely translated as ‘mother-in-law’. The show is definitely going to bring drama and entertainment. But most importantly, it will also give viewers insight into how to deal with underlying relationship issues they may face with their in-laws. Dingaan is no stranger to moments where confrontation…

■ As with any new kink, start small and work your way up. This way, you can really take note of your partners feelings about what you’re trying. ■ The perfect experience will involve something both of you are into, even if that experience offers you different things. The goal is always a shared eroticism so that trust can grow. ■ An adult kink is something to acknowledge and share with the person you love. Neither of you are ever going to be happy if you remain silent about the things you enjoy in the bedroom.…

The schedule doesn’t dictate on which days you have to do what, so it’s pretty flexible. But it’s best to plan your week so you have at least one rest day between training days if possible. “The rest is as important as the training days, as it gives the body time to recover and adapt to the load of exercise,” says Steve Attwell, a coach at fitness organisation Embark. “Also remember to listen to your body during training sessions: don’t overdo it.” WEEK 1 AND 2 20 minutes, three times a week In the first two weeks you’ll only walk: 20 minutes of easy walking, three times a week. It’s not ambling, like a stroll in the mall, but walking with a purpose – like you’re on your way to…

WE LIVE in a time and society where many people are faced with situations that cause them frustration and desperation. Many people have committed suicide during these pressing times. They feel it’s better to escape life’s troubles and challenges through death. “Today, I seek to make you to see beyond your pressing, far beyond the horizon of your pain and setback,” says 2 Corinthians 4:7-8. “But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair.” WHY WE ARE PRESSED In this passage Apostle Paul reveals the reason why we are so pressed. The reason we are hard pressed is the treasure within our…

SINGLE GUY LOOKING I’m a 32-year-old single guy from Dobsonville Ext 3, Soweto, Johannesburg. I’m searching for a single lady who’s willing to start a new relationship. She must work or be independent and be 32 years old or older. Any race welcome. If you’re interested, WhatsApp or call me on: 065-344-1713 SEARCHING FOR COMMITMENT My name is Phuthi and I’m a 34-year-old guy from Gauteng. I’d love to meet a mature, beautiful lady between the ages of 20 and 30 who’s ready for commitment. She must be single and reside in either Gauteng or Limpopo. If you’re serious, WhatsApp or call me on: 083-861-5637 I WANT TO SETTLE DOWN I’m a 33-year-old man who’s ready to settle down and I’m looking for a woman who’s also ready to settle.…

HE should be enjoying retirement. After 47 dazzling years in showbiz, he certainly deserves to kick up his feet and bask in his golden years. But Don Laka can’t seem to stay away from work. At 60, he still has much to give. The maestro has been hitting the studio to record new music. His latest album, Passion, has been a long time in the making, says Don. He’s back after taking an eight year break from the music scene. The jazz icon and record label boss is dressed in his signature waistcoat when he pops into our offices for a catch-up. He doesn’t look a day over 50, we remark. “A lot of people think I should’ve taken a break when I turned 60 because I’m now a Sassa…

‘IT WAS THE BEST DECISION FOR ME BECAUSE IT OPENED DOORS’ WHEN Courtnae Paul (27) left Durban, she wasn’t sure what the future will hold for her. All she knew was that she wanted to make it big and conquer the world. And she’s now living her dream. She’s just returned from a gig in the Seychelles when we catch up with her and is preparing to travel again so she’s quite exhausted. But the show must go on, she says. MAKING WAVES Everything in her life is coming together, she says. The choreographer, DJ, B-girl (break dancer) and a judge on SABC 1’s Break Da Beat moved to Johannesburg in 2011 to pursue her career. “I was 21 when I decided that I wanted my career to go beyond…

‘BE THE PRODUCT OF YOUR DECISIONS. THE TRUE DISABILITY IS A BAD ATTITUDE.’ AS YOU might expect from someone who works with words, the young author’s directions to his house are detailed and precise. It’s a scorching hot Monday afternoon in Pretoria as the Move! team make their way to the home of Kamogelo Calvin Mogajane (20). “At the T-junction, turn left. You’ll see a car wash on your right, go past it. Turn right before the school, then count six streets until you see a blue salon on your left.” A few turns later he guides us into his street and ends the call, saying, “You’ll see me outside, wearing a pink shirt.” We spot Kamogelo but he doesn’t see us. He’s blind. REMARKABLE ACCOMPLISHMENTS Kamogelo, who’s a twin,…

‘EVERY FIFA WEEK IS IMPORTANT FOR THE NATIONAL TEAM’ HIS life has been moving at breakneck speed. One minute Molefi Ntseki was in Bloemfontein with his family, the next he was told to report for duty in Joburg as Bafana Bafana’s new coach. The former caretaker coach was as surprised as the rest of football-loving Mzansi when Safa appointed him as the permanent replacement for Stuart Baxter – and the team is in safe hands, he assures us. We’re catching up with Ntseki (50) at his new office at Safa House in Nasrec, Joburg. It’s a few weeks into his new job and he admits it’s been a baptism of fire. He had just a few days to prepare the national squad for their friendly against Zambia, but the match…

AN ACCOUNTANT FOR THE MOB The accountant for a crime syndicate happens to be deaf and mute. While working for the criminals he collects more than R500 000 by stealing from their books. The crime boss finds out about this and sends two hitmen to his house. Since the accountant is deaf and mute, the hitmen bring an interpreter to translate what the accountant says. “Where is the money?” the one hitman asks. The accountant signs that he doesn’t know and the interpreter translates. The hitman then says, “Tell us where the money is or we will kill your wife and kids, burn down your house and chop off your feet!” The accountant signs fast and furiously that the money is in a safe that is hidden in the floorboard…

Q SHOULD I WEAR SHAPEWEAR EVERY DAY? A That’s a big“yes” from me! Shapewear is design-ed to contour your body into a more flattering shape. When wearing a body shaper in the right size you’ll look more slender and clothes will look better on you. So, my advice is to always wear shape-wear under your reg-ular clothing. Modern shapewear is designed in such a way that it’s safe to wear. Unlike the corsets and girdles of years past that were painful to wear and restricted breathing and blood flow, today’s items can be worn daily with no ill effects. Just remember that exercise must also play a part in your efforts to shape your body and lose weight. Shapewear is just a trusty wardrobe tool to help you create your…

MAJOR pharmaceutical companies, GlaxoSmithKline, Pfizer and Shionogi have developed a wonderful new HIV treatment. It is a two-month-injection, as effective as daily doses of ARVs in suppressing the virus. The injection is made from a combination of two drugs, cabotegravir and rilpivirine. They are the first of several long-acting antiretroviral HIV medicines in development. They each block HIV from replicating but in different ways. The medicines remain in the body’s tissues and leach out over weeks. It’s set to bring alternative treatment to the pills taken orally on a daily basis. This is especially good news for the elderly and for teens who find taking daily doses tiresome. PATIENTS TREATED WITH THE NEW INJECTION PREFERRED IT WHO WILL BENEFIT? The injection is a Line 1 regimen, meaning that those who…

LIBRA 23 SEP – 22 OCT Mars is in your sign this week which should be of help to a Libra who tends to compromise as you may find it easier to stand your ground and be less gullible. Conflict could be part of the deal so face your fears. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 52, 46, 38, 30, 40 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV This could be the week you attract the person pulling your heartstrings. But jealousy could ruin the day so don’t give in to unfounded suspicion or mistrust. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 18, 42, 51, 7, 23, 44 SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC It’s a week to be part of the group rather than going it alone. There’s a lot to be gained by listening to…

“How do you think telling her will impact upon your friendship and the couple’s relationship?” asks Thuli Bottoman, a senior counselling social worker and head of communities at The Family Life Centre. “Consider what it is you want to get out of telling her.” You need to ask yourself the following questions before making a decision on whether to tell your friend: You tell your friend and she doesn’t seem concerned – she just brushes it off based on the particular and unique rules of her relationship with this man. How would you feel then? Or do you just want her to have the information so she can decide for herself? If she confronts her boyfriend and it results in a huge fight that ends their relationship, how would that…

‘HOW CAN I EXPLORE MY SEXUALITY ON MY OWN AND IS IT HEALTHY?’ TOYS OVER BOYS Q I am a 43-year-old woman. When I use sex toys on my own, I achieve multiple orgasms. When I have sex with my partner of seven months, I never have an orgasm. Am I addicted to my toys? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Getting to know each other’s bodies might be the magic that you need. The beginning of a relationship, when things are still very exciting, is a great time to explore this. I advise that you don’t waste time. Talk to your partner, let him know that you want to introduce sex toys into the bedroom – with him! One of the reasons why it’s easy to reach orgasms on your own is…

1 Stretch your leg muscles beforehand “It’s important to stretch and warm up your muscles, especially if you’re unfit or sit in an office from nine to five,” says Adidas Running Club captian, Ndyebo Mapekula. 2 Get good running shoes with the necessary support These shoes might seem expensive but they’re essential if you want to avoid injuries – especially if you’re going to run on a tarred road. Visit a professional sports outlet where an expert can help find the right shoes for you. 3 Run in a group “Running is a universal language. Wherever you go, people go through the challenges with you – like struggling to make it up a hill. Group dynamics can make the training fun,” Mapekula says. What’s more, the other members of the…

I love my man. He's a great guy and a family man – when he's sober. But when he drinks, he comes home and starts swearing. The kids and I have to hide for dear life because if he find us, he'll insult us and beat us up. The next morning when he's sober he's a completely different man. It’s as if the previous day’s bad events never happened. He had a lot of issues growing up – he lived in a home with abusive parents. But now the very past he escaped is haunting him. He's destroying everything I've built with him, and he won’t talk about it and deal with his issues and the causes of them. What's the best way to cope when your man has issues…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

AS A woman celebrating Women’s Day in South Africa, I expected to have a great day. To be celebrated. But it turned out to be one of the worst days of my life. I remember it being sunny when I woke up that morning. I checked my phone and found a sweet message from my fiancé. He wished me a happy Woman’s Day. We had been dating for just over a year. I considered him to be my dream man. He supported my dreams and he was selfless and kind. I suggested we meet up for lunch on that day, which we did. We spoke about our upcoming wedding and future plans. After lunch, we kissed goodbye and went our separate ways. A DARK TWIST The woman’s conference I attended…