Table of contents for 10/30/2019 in Move!

LOVE FOR MONEY AND FAMILY I’ve come to realise how some families never have time to be together, talk to one another, share a meal and just bond. They’re forever running after money and end up forgetting to keep in touch with their loved ones. They’re always in and out of business meetings and if they’re not attending meetings, they’re focused on their phones. Chatting the weekends away on social media when they should be spending quality time with friends and family. I urge people not to let their love for money replace their love for family. At the end of it all, family is all we have – money or not. Let’s not take our loved ones for granted. LEKALAKALA MATHAPELO, MOKOPANE WOMEN DESERVE BETTER Cheaters are cowards that…

A meaningful life isn’t about being rich, popular, highly educated or even perfect. It’s about being real, humble and able to share ourselves and touch others’ lives. True wisdom comes when we realise how little we understand about lives, ourselves and the world around us. Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers because a wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer. Learn to attract what you expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect and mirror what you admire. ‘OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED, DON’T WASTE IT LIVING SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE’ Our time on Earth is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. The next level of your life demands a different you.…

A COMMON VISION When starting a stokvel, it’s important to share your goals with one another and brainstorm ideas on how you to reach them. Drawing up a vision and mission statement with your stokvel members is a good idea as it sets out the common goals the group hopes to achieve and the ways they want to do so. The statement should also entail information on how the members should conduct themselves and what the consequences will be should they not follow the rules. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

SHE felt like royalty. When an opulent, glitzy party – complete with a red carpet – was hosted in her honour, she was a little overwhelmed. But there’s nothing like being celebrated while you can still enjoy it, Skeem Saam actress Lydia Mokgokoloshi has learnt. The room glowed as Lydia and the Skeem Saam cast – dressed in black and gold – celebrated the actress’ 80th birthday at the lavish The Venue, Melrose Arch. She steps onto the red carpet, dazzling in a three-piece suit. She takes off her sunglasses and prepares to be pampered. “I’m so happy. I never thought that something like this could ever happen to someone like me,” she tells Move! SECOND CHANCES She was 72 when she got the role of Koko Mantsha in Skeem…

SCORPIO 23 OCT –21 NOV It’s a week to occupy the mind with deep issues. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 6, 40, 32, 49, 23, 10 SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV –20 DEC It’s a week to seek out enjoyment and fun. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 2, 33, 52, 7, 21, 37 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN It’s not a week to go at it alone, but to rub shoulders with others. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 12, 42, 17, 50, 22, 46 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Take time to review and reassess your life’s direction. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 7, 42, 11, 31, 51, 15 PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR It’s a week where you could enchant people who might support a cause you’re campaigning for. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 52, 11, 20, 48,…

1 Stay in the moment. Often people worry too much about ageing, their weight, size or shape that they forget that their body is a source of great pleasure. One minute you're having sex and the next you're worrying about what he thinks of your cellulite. Change the conversation in your head. Rather think along the lines of "it feels really great when he touches me there, or I really like this part of his body, or I love how he smells." Be in the moment and experience the physical sensations during sex, rather than judging or just being a spectator. Focusing on your senses puts you in the here and now. 2 Aim for the 20:60:20 ratio. If your sexual experience is very good 20% of the time and…

Mandisa Muruge, a counsellor at The Family Life Centre’s Lenasia South office, says: “So your ex is blackmailing you into another relationship with him by threatening to release the videos and pictures of you when the two of you were making love? If you go back to him because of the fear of being exposed, what kind of relationship will that be? Your ex-boyfriend is trying to hold on to what is no longer there. You cannot be forced in to a relationship if you don’t want to be in that relationship anymore. What your ex is doing is a crime on its own – blackmailing a person is a criminal offence. You can stop him from exposing you by getting a protection order against him, which you can get…

MBALENTLE KASIHAYO NGOBESE I’ve never stayed with anyone who’s cheated on me. It’s very important for me to respect the man I’m with and once he cheats, I lose all respect for him. When I no longer have respect for a man, it’s game over. LEBOGANG SOLLY LEFYEDI If they show remorse, and their wayward conduct has improved, then it is possible. Although I think it will take a great deal of forgiving and learning to trust them again. THATO BALOYI I’ve tried staying and it just wasn’t the same. He really tried to show me that he was sorry. But I had to set him free because I knew I could never forgive him. Some people stay because there’s more happiness in staying than leaving.…

THIS is your season for your restoration. Do not allow your environment to speak louder than the word of God. Genesis 28:19, “And he called the name of that place Bethel; but the name of that city had been Luz previously.” God chose to reveal Himself to Jacob at a place called Luz. This was when Jacob received a death threat from his brother Esau and was running to his uncle Laban. Why did God choose the place Luz? The word ‘Luz’ means ‘almond tree’. I believe this has a prophetic connotation to us. THE ALMOND TREE Trees are symbolic of people in the Bible. Psalm 1:3, “He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water.” When an almond tree blossomed, it was a sign to Israel…

IN SEARCH OF A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP ■ I’m a 35-year-old man. I am HIV-positive and from Johannesburg. I’m looking for a serious relationship with someone loving and caring. She must not drink or smoke. If this is you, you can send me an email at: sepeng231@gmail.com ■ I’m a 42-year-old man from Johannesburg South. I’m HIV-positive. I am looking for a serious woman with the same status. She should be aged 25 and over. She must be willing to commit to one man. No chancers please. Call me on: 060-729-9489 ■ I’m a man looking for a real relationship with a lady between the ages of 40 and 50. If you are working, have two kids and from Gauteng, you are welcome to contact or SMS me on: 064-707-7712 ■…

WHAT if I fail? What if I don’t pass well enough? What if I don’t get into my desired course next year? What if? These are some of the questions that may be worrying matriculants’ as they start their final exams. We’ve been conditioned to think that these exams can make or break us – if we don’t do well, nothing else will ever go right. Matric exams are important. It’s vital to be prepared. To do your best, study (sometimes in the dark since Eskom has started loadshedding again!). You’ve spent 12 years preparing for this. But if you don’t do well, or even fail, it’s not the end of the world. We live in a country of second, third and fourth chances. You could write the exams again,…

The popular former Umhlobo Wenene presenter has Zola Kaso-Majiza died. She spent almost three decades in radio and was fondly known as Makazi or MaZoe’s. Move! readers have their say. Regrettable indeed. I grew up listening to her shows quite a lot. The broadcasting industry will be poorer without her beautiful voice. BONGANI MGUBELA Rest in peace, Makazi, you will forever be in our hearts. NDOMZA MTAKATANA Oh my goodness. Makazi, bethune! Rest in peace with your beautiful voice. KHANYA BOLOMBELO This was shocking news for me. Umntu onobubele indlezana. May her beautiful soul rest in eternal peace. LIZIWE SENTI [She’d say] “Ayman”, when a good song is playing. I will miss her. Go well, mama Zola. KUMALO SIPHAMANDLA Inkcopho, my kind. We live to part and part to live,…

‘BEING CONSISTENT ... HAS BEEN THE REASON BEHIND MY COME-UP’ HE’S always been in love with music. He can’t remember a time when it wasn’t a part of his life, from when he played sports in high school to when he was a breakdancer. Metro FM DJ Phind’Gcobe Madubela (30), better known by his stage name DJ PH, has come far since the days when he was on the dance floor. Now he spends most of his time behind the decks, getting others to dance. And contrary to popular belief, his stage name has nothing to do with water or the ph formula. “The ph comes from the first two letters of my name which people have always found a mouthful to pronounce,” he says as he laughs. “There’s humour…

THE long-waited film, Zulu Wedding, has finally hit the box office. At a recent screening at the Sandton Ster-Kinekor, celebrities, including those who star in the comedy, came out wearing outfits in celebration of the film. The film was shot in New York, South Africa and Botswana. Directed by Lineo Sekeleoane, it tells the story of a woman, played by Nondumiso Tembe, who leaves her Zulu/Sotho heritage to become a dancer in America. There, she meets and falls in love with an American man who she brings back home to introduce to her family. But she soon discovers that she's been promised to aZulu king to repay an ancestral debt. Drama!…

According to legal insurance company, Law for All’s advocate Jackie Nagtegaal, bullying (including physical, verbal, social and cyber bullying) is not considered acrime in South Africa. However, a child’s rights are still safeguarded. The South African Schools Act states that all public schools must enforce a code of conduct. It should contain a set of rules regarding learner behaviour as well as specific procedures to deal with cases of bullying, including consequences. The act also gives every South African child or their guardian the right to bring a case of bullying to court. In some cases, a school can be held liable for damage, injury or loss suffered by a learner. For example, if aschool was aware of the learner’s difficulties with bullies but failed to intervene. The Protection from…

Q & A ■ How do you keep your husband from reading your e-mail? Rename the e-mail folder “Instruction Manuals”. ■ Why do parents give children a middle name? So the child knows when it’s in serious in trouble. ■ What would you get if you crossed a cheetah with a beef burger? Really fast food. ■ What do people in prison use to communicate with one another? Cell phones. ■ What happened to the man who lost his left arm, leg and eye in an accident? It was touch and go but he's all right now. ■ Why do “no-frills” airlines never show movies in their flights? They don’t need to. You keep seeing your life flashing before your very eyes. ■ Why did the room packed with married…

VEGGIE LASAGNE CUPS MAKES 8 CUPS PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 15-20 MIN ■ 250g lasagne sheets ■ 4 baby marrows, grated ■ 1 onion, chopped ■2 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 1-2 chillies, chopped ■ 10g fresh coriander, chopped ■ grated zest of 1 lemon ■ 1 tub (250g) cream cheese, chive flavour ■ 250ml (1c) grated mozzarella cheese ■ salt and freshly ground pepper TO SERVE ■ fresh coriander and sliced chillies (optional) Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease eight hollows of a muffin tin well with non-stick spray or butter. 1 Bring a large pot of salted water to the boil. Cook the lasagne according to packet instructions but still firm. Drain. 2 Line the muffin tin hollows with lasagne sheets. Cut the sheets if necessary to make them…

Q BROTHER WANTS US TO SUPPORT HIM FINANCIALLY Is it possible to sue a sibling for maintenance? My 30-year-old brother is unemployed and has refused a job offer of gardening and manual labour. He is threatening to take my sister and I to maintenance court. He wants us to financially support him. FED UP, EMAIL A No. There’s no legal obligation on siblings to support each other. If your brother has a disability that is making him unable to work, he can approach Sassa for a disability grant. If your brother doesn’t have a disability, it’s simple – he must find a job. You and your sister can get a protection order against him if he keeps harassing you about financially supporting him. ‘MY ADULT BROTHER WANTS MY SISTER AND…

Q PAIN DURING INTERCOURSE I experience a sharp pain in my vagina during sex. It happens just as soon as my husband penetrates me. It now puts me off making love. What’s causing the pain? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A It’s not normal to have pain during sex. Clearly it’s unbearable enough for you to not want to have sex. Some factors causing this could be a lack of or very little lubrication, inflammation or the presence of a growth. The pain could also be coming from a body part or system near your vagina, such as your urinary tract system, gastrointestinal tract or uterus. The best thing to do is see a doctor who will determine the cause through a thorough examination. ‘TAKE THE TIME TO EXPLORE AND MASTER YOUR BODY’…

SHE drifted in and out of consciousness as she was groped, then raped, in the bedroom of a friend’s house one Sunday afternoon. Because of her experience three years ago, Tshiamo Molotsane, a university student, and her friend Molefiseng Tlou have founded a nongovernmental organisation (NGO) called She Spoke Organisation. It offers support to victims of domestic violence. “Because I had experienced domestic violence and rape, Iwanted to do something that would help others and heal my soul,” she says. PASSING ON THE LESSONS Surviving gang rape, then an abusive relationship, left Tshiamo, from Potchefstroom in the North West shattered. “It made me lose myself. Ididn’t know my worth and I thought it was all my fault,” she says. It was the most difficult period in her life. “I had…

WHEN the things that cause you to drift away from God are the very things that bring you to your knees and back to him –you know you are called for a higher purpose. These are the sentiments of music sensation, Unathi Mzekeli. He has been on the grandest stages in the country performing with multi-award-winning ensemble Joyous Celebration and has worked with the likes of the great Benjamin Dube. And since 2013, Unathi has been spending extended periods of time performing abroad between Europe and the United States. He admits that there were times when he found himself straying from the will of God. AWAY FROM HOME “I started getting into bad habits while trying to find myself,” he tells Move!. “It was also very easy for me to…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Exams are taking place in various centres all over the country. The critical part is that they will serve as a compass for each candidate next year. To those who have studied, do your final revision and write what you know. I remind every pupil that copying of any kind is not the way to pass your exams. Try, by all means, to avoid the temptation to do this. ‘COPYING OF ANY KIND IS NOT THE WAY TO PASS YOUR EXAMS’ Being sober is critical as you go through exams – not only inside exam venues but throughout the exam period. One of the enemies of a sound mind is booze. If you spend your weekends and free time on booze instead of studying, you place yourself at risk of…

HE’S picky about the roles he takes. After leaving Mzansi Magic’s drama series The Queen, he’s kept a low profile. But now he’s back firmly in the spotlight with two very different roles. Veteran actor Sello Maake KaNcube (59) is the host of the new Mzansi Wethu show, Abobaba (airs Saturdays at 7.30pm, DStv channel 163). It’s a reality show aimed at helping parents who have lost contact with their children after a separation or divorce. He will also star alongside KB Motsilanyane, Bahumi Madisakwane, Khabonina Qubeka and Peter Sephuma in the upcoming six-part BET Africa series, Dream: The Lebo Mathosa Story, which will illustrate the life and times of one of South Africa’s most adored musicians. The show will air on Wednesday 6 November. PLAYING THE PREDATOR Sello has…

SHE’S bubbly, fun and gorgeous. But she’s not the social butterfly everyone thinks she is. After more than five years in the spotlight, Omuhle Gela (29) has learnt to take things as they come. And she’s super excited about her new role, playing the fashionable and feisty Khumbuzile in The Queen. WHERE IT ALL BEGAN Omuhle got her big break in 2012 when she was cast to play Busi Motsamai in SABC2’s Muvhango. Since then, she’s starred in several local shows and landing a role in The Queen is a dream come true. The Johannesburg-born actress completed drama studies at Afda and the CityVarsity Film and Media School a few years ago. She’s been on- and offscreen for seven years. She’s quite exhausted as she adjusts to her new role…

IT WAS a heartbreaking sight for Mpho Mohlolo. The floor was covered with young children, some with cerebral palsy, and all with some sort of disability which prevented them from sitting comfortably. Mpho (33) was visiting a disability centre in Mpumalanga where he’d once been a patient. He promised himself he would do something to help these children. As a youngster, his family nicknamed him the “handyman of the house” because he’d always been good at fixing and building things, and that’s the talent he put to work. Over the past two years he’s built a variety of sturdy, inexpensive chairs and tray tables for the children at the centre, as well as for other children in need at hospitals and other centres. His kind spirit and ingenuity recently won…

ONE of the notable signs of HIV having gone too far is losing weight at a fast rate. However, when you start taking ARVs that should change and you can expect to gain a healthy amount of kilos. WHY YOU SHED WEIGHT Losing kilos occurs as a result of HIV damaging our cells. As the virus replicates, normal cell functioning and metabolic processes are disrupted. The inner lining of the intestines are damaged, resulting in inadequate nutrients and water supply to your body. Other opportunistic illnesses which causes weight loss can also arise. These include diarrhoea and tuberculosis. So if HIV multiplies unabated, it causes weight loss. IF HIV MULTIPLIES UNABATED, IT CAUSES WEIGHT LOSS However, as soon as you start taking ARVs, your body starts to take a U-turn,…

Q GETTING A BIRTH CERTIFICATE I have a niece who I love dearly. Her mother is a drunkard who doesn’t have an ID. My niece is 10 years old and her school has asked for a copy of her birth certificate. Her mother can’t find it – and isn’t making an effort to get a copy. My grandmother has tried many times to convince her to get an ID so her daughter can get her birth certificate but she won’t. Is there anything we can do to get a copy of her birth certificate without her mother’s ID? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A I suggest that you report the matter to the nearest department of social development office. They can do an assessment to find the most suitable intervention. The social worker…

MOST of us love food. Sitting down with family and friends to tuck into a delicious meal – complete with dessert – can be a wonderful experience. But if you can’t eat certain foods, mealtimes can quickly become a nightmare. Fortunately, food intolerances don’t have to mean the end of eating well. Here’s a list of what you can eat and what to avoid if your body doesn’t agree with gluten. In our next issue, we’ll provide lists for when you’re trying to cut out dairy and sugar. GLUTEN INTOLERANCE There’s much uncertainty about three closely related conditions – celiac disease, wheat allergy and gluten intolerance. The culprit in all three is gluten, a protein found in grains such as wheat, barley, rye and spelt. Gluten intolerance Gluten intolerance is…

I’ve been with my man and father of my two children for almost five years but I can’t trust him. He’s cheated on me so many times and I keep forgiving him – but I’ve never actually trusted him again. As a result of these trust issues, I’m insecure in our relationship. When he goes out with his friends, I worry that he might be lying and really going to his nyatsis. How do I overcome these trust issues? Why is trust important in a relationship and how can we, as a couple, work around the issue so that I don’t feel so insecure? WORRIED WIFE WHILE cheating in a relationship is universally seen as a negative, the question of what to do when your partner’s been unfaithful is a…

1 On Valentine’s Day, your friends are choosing romantic cards to give to their partners. What type of card would you be most likely to buy? A A seriously romantic card that declared your full feelings for him. B One that was a little romantic, but nothing over the top. C A funny cartoon card that would make him laugh out loud. 2 After you have been dating a guy for a couple of months he arranges a romantic dinner for two. Arriving at the restaurant, you see that the table is decorated with roses. You’re convinced your man is going to ask you to marry him! How would you react if he were to propose? A By saying “yes” immediately. B By asking if you can delay answering him.…

IT WAS a glamorous affair when Xolani “Mthofi” Goge and Nomcebo Gwala held their white wedding reception at Braeside Weddings & Functions in Ballito, KwaZulu-Natal. The bride wore an elegant full-sleeve dress with a beaded bodice, while the groom looked dapper in a white shirt, a waistcoat, bow tie and blue tuxedo. Nomcebo chose dark-green dresses for her bridal party and the groomsmen wore suits in trendy light grey. The special moments of the day were captured by Malulu Legacy Media Pro in the venue’s enchanted garden, surrounded by 100-year-old pine trees.…