Table of contents for 11/13/2019 in Move!

SOCIAL media is a powerful tool. We’ve seen people get jobs through social-media posts, and ordinary people turned into overnight celebrities, just from one tweet. People have been reunited with loved ones and the destitute have had their school fees paid for by strangers they’ve met through social media. People have lost jobs because of what they post on Facebook. Thousands of people have been united or torn apart by online posts. With one click, lives can change. Something Sophie Lichaba (page 11) knows very well. Someone took the time to start a rumour that she’d died, which had disastrous consequences for her and her loved ones. Before you post, think: is it kind? Is it true? What you post today, could haunt you forever. So post responsibly, always. THANK…

START A STOKVEL WITH PEOPLE YOU CAN TRUST The key to any successful stokvel is trusting the members in your group from the get-go. Along with creating a disciplined savings habit, stokvels have a great social element where members meet to share stories, ideas and have social events to get to know each other. Getting together as regularly as possible makes it easy to get to know or to keep up with the lives of the people in your stokvel as well as where and how you can get hold of them and their families in times of need. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

SHE’S never shied away from any topic. Whether it’s industry woes, sex or life in the spotlight – nothing has ever been off limits for her. Now she’s taken all that and put it in her debut novel, Siren, which was recently released. It’s all about drugs, lies and deception, Kuli Roberts tells Move!. It’s not just a rags-to-riches story, it’s also an erotic novel, she adds. Kuli (46) says her new book is an honest account of the dark and not so glamorous part of the entertainment industry, which she’s been a part of for 25 years. LIFE IMITATING ART Although the characters in her novel are fictitious, she knows many women who have gone through what Zinhle, the main character, has gone through. “It’s a story about a…

HE’S been described as a try-scoring machine on par with Bryan Habana, and dubbed “a natural-born predator” by former Springbok wing, Breyton Paulse. His rags-to-the-World-Cup story has inspired fans all over the world, especially after his contribution in the early days of the tournament, which helped the Springboks to the final. It all started when the 29-year-old winger scored two tries in South Africa’s 57-3 thrashing of Namibia in Japan, the Boks’ second game of the tournament. The mighty Mapimpi scored five tries in four matches at the World Cup before the Springboks made it to the semis. The five-try haul followed a hat-trick he scored in a pre-World Cup game against the Japanese – three sizzling tries that helped the Boks to a 41-7 victory over the team that…

1 Amanda Black’s new album, Power, is her first after splitting with . . .? A Sony Music B Gallo Record Company C Ambitiouz Entertainment D Mabala Noise 2 A big reduction in the amount of urine you produce could be a symptom of . . .failure? A Kidney B Liver C Heart D Pancreas 3 The Hindu festival of . . . symbolises the spiritual victory of light over darkness, good over evil and knowledge over ignorance? A Holi B Onam C Rama Navami D Diwali 4 Politician Gwede Mantashe reportedly lied about trying to bribe journalists to kill a story about his alleged . . .? A Dodgy expenses B Extramarital sex exploits C Racist remarks DTraffic violations 5 The way Santa Claus is depicted, in his red-and-white…

Q HOW DO ITAKE CARE OF MY SWIMWEAR? A Bathing suits can be expensive so you need to look after them. SAvoid sitting on or leaning against rough surfaces like rocks, as these can damage swimwear material. SAvoid getting excess oils and lotions on your swimwear. Oils such as sunscreens can cause discolouration and leave stains that eventually breakdown the fabric. SHand-rinse swimwear in cold water after each wear. This helps to wash away bacteria and harmful chemicals like chlorine. SLet the swimwear dry by laying it out on a flat surface to prevent water retention and stretching the fabric.…

‘NOW THAT HE’S GONE, HIS FAMILY HAS KICKED ME OUT OF OUR HOUSE.’ Q MY HUSBAND’S FAMILY WANT HIS ESTATE My husband passed away last year. There is adispute between me and his family. He paid lobola in 2017 and now that he’s gone, his family has kicked me out of our house. They are saying I’m not his wife. There was no handover of documents and home affairs doesn’t have a record of our marriage. They are even claiming his estate. What can I do so I have something in my name? WIDOW, EMAIL A The first thing that must be determined is whether you entered a legally recognised customary marriage. If lobola was paid and you were handed over as a wife, your marriage will be legally recognised.…

What was your favourite childhood game? AM Snakes and Ladders, definitely! JG Monopoly for sure! AT I used to love playing dodgeball. When it came to board games, Snakes and Ladders was the one. What’s your current favourite game? AM The board game Cards Against Humanity. JG I never understood the fascination people had with the card game Rummy. I started playing it recently and now I get it. AT I enjoy Scrabble, Monopoly and 30 Seconds. Which three celebs would you invite to agames night at your house? AM Julius Malema, Helen Zille and Cyril Ramaphosa. I want to show them what they do to us when they play games with us. JG Minnie Dlamini-Jones, Donovan Goliath and Nicholas Goliath. I’d pick strategic players who play to win. AT…

JUST a glance at the symptoms of common STIs (sexually transmitted infections) is enough to make anyone rush out and buy condoms in bulk. They’re uncomfortable, painful and if you have unprotected oral, vaginal or anal sex, easily spread to others. STIs can be life-threatening, and passed from mother to child during pregnancy and at birth. Here are some of the common STIs, aside from HIV. GENITAL HERPES Symptoms: Itchiness around your genitals followed by small blisters that ooze puss or blood, accompanied by fever and headaches. Symptoms often appear a few weeks after infection. Treatment: Antiviral medication prescribed by a doctor. Ingrown hairs and pimples can be mistaken for herpes. A doctor can confirm by doing a blood test or swabbing a sore and testing it. GENITAL WARTS Symptoms:…

THE role you played in your family may have become entrenched as you were growing up. But as an adult, this label (a peacemaker, baby, entertianer or rock) can have negative consequences as you try to live your own life. Take this quiz and based on the results, see how you can better your situation according to your label. Circle the coloured square in front of the comment that most applies to you under each number. Then add up the circles for each colour to see which one you picked most. 1 There’s a big family party coming up. As the day approaches, you feel: ■ Completely exhausted from organising the event. ■ A bit worried about whether everyone will get along. ■ Excited. It should be a fun family…

DEUTERONOMY 1:6, “The Lord our God spoke unto us in Horeb, saying, ye have dwelt long enough in this mount.” Israel had been delivered out of Egypt. They had been camped out at Mount Horeb for about a year. However, this was not the Promised Land. Now it was time to move on. WHAT IS MOUNT HOREB? Horeb is thought to mean heat, which seems to be a reference to the sun. Being in the sun can be a good thing as it provides light and heat. But there is danger in staying in the heat of the sun for too long. This is why God instructed the Israelites to move from Horeb. CREATURES OF COMFORT Most of us have been in places where we are comfortable and warm. This…

1 Have you ever suspected that your partner has secretly been checking your texts or emails? A Yes. You know that he does. B No. He trusts you completely so there is no need to. C You think he may have done so, but you’re not sure. 2 What do you and your guy usually do on a Saturday night? A You go out with the girls. He goes out with the guys. B You both go out with friends for a meal or to a club. C You stay home with popcorn, a DVD and snuggle up on the sofa. 3 On a girls-only night, a gorgeous man flirts with you. When your guy asks you if you had a good time with your friends, do you mention the…

Singer Zahara says she’s tried to find the Qwabe twins, Viggy and Virginia, after their Idols SA exit, without any luck. She says she offered to help them. The twins, however, were later seen with DJ Tira. Move! readers have their say. Hope you find them for the sake of your peace. MAMLEBOGE THA Leave them alone, wena, Zahara. Just focus on yourself. MAHWASANE MAHWASANE DAKALO Za-sisi, work on yourself first. If and when the twins want your help, they will reach out to you. Go claim your millions from DJ Sbu and forget the twins. MONDLI SHANGE MZULWINI The twins are not ready for this industry. Let them grow up. TIEGO THAMAGA Tira overtook you my dear. They are with him now. NOKONWABA GQALISISA KOTA It’s a sign that…

‘I WANT PEOPLE TO GET TO KNOW WHO DOT IS’ SHE describes herself as fun and vibrant and that’s exactly what comes across in her songs, Volcano and Amadlozi. The Kwazulu-Natal-born Nomcebo Mthethwa (25), stage name DOT, was just playing around in the studio when she came up with two gqom hits. But she says she doesn’t want to be known for gqom alone. “ I love gqom but what I really want to branch into is RnB,” she says. GIVING IT HER ALL She’s currently juggling a career in music with studies. She’s in the second year of a Bachelor of Arts in Film and Media Studies at the University of Kwa Zulu-Natal and it takes a lot of sacrifice to make it work. “It’s a lot of work…

THE remote village of Komkhulu in the Eastern Cape is the picture of serenity. This little community is nestled amid rolling green hills. The Tsitsana River, which separates the village from the nearest town, Mount Fletcher, completes the picturesque image. But its tranquil appearance is deceptive. It’s claimed at least 10 lives in recent years. After years of waiting for local authorities to act, while villagers risked their lives daily crossing the river, one pensioner decided enough was enough. A bridge would be built, even if he had to do it himself – and that’s just what he did. Neo Lebatla (72) grew up in Komkhulu and retired there last year, after decades working deep under the earth in the mines in Gauteng. “When I was working at the mines…

THE PUNS ■ Two antennas meet on a roof, fall in love and get married. The ceremony isn’t much, but the reception is excellent. ■ Two peanuts walked into a bar, and one was a salted. ■ A man walks into a bar with a slab of tar under his arm and says: “One beer for me and one for the road.” ■ Two cannibals are eating a clown. One says: “Does this taste funny to you?” ■ Two cows are standing next to each other in a field. Daisy says to Dolly, “I was artificially inseminated this morning.” “Really?” Dolly asks. “It’s true, no bull!” Daisy exclaims. ■ An invisible man marries an invisible woman. The kids are nothing to look at either. ■ I went to buy some…

I KNOW how you feel. You are confused – they insist that you take these tablets every day. There are many questions you want to ask. At school, your friends may tease you about the way you look. They may mock you for having the virus. Inside you, there is anger, pain and confusion. At times, you hate yourself and feel you were let down by your parents. I’m your uncle, father and big brother – so I’m talking to you today. Here are a few things you should know that might help. WHAT IS HIV? HIV is a virus found in blood and sexual fluids. In South Africa, there are about eight million people with this virus. I’m one of them. I got the virus in 1995. This virus…

SCORPIO 23 OCT –21 NOV Mars moves into your sign this week, which should boost your energy levels and your drive. So if you want to make headway with a challenging job, hard project or compete in a physical sport, your passion should be charged and spirit strong. If you’re a Scorpio with a sting in the tail, be mindful that you’re poised for action. Provocation could unleash a destructive blow. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 14, 41, 38, 16, 25 SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV –20 DEC Your personal year is drawing to a close, which means it will soon be your birthday and your new year. It’s an opportune time to review the past 12 months and set goals for the year ahead. There might be professional goals to chase, personal…

Busisiwe Malangwane, a registered counsellor with a degree in psychology and her own practice in Midrand says: “I am sorry you had to go through so much hurt and pain at such a young age. Ibelieve you have been neglecting yourself and putting other people’s feelings ahead of your own for a very long time. You now need to put yourself and your wellbeing first. Your mother has never been in your shoes and therefore does not understand the hurt and trauma you’ve had to go through all these years. I believe that is why she brushed your problem off. I suggest you seek professional help, such as a social worker who can guide you or an organisation for abused women, to help you deal with the childhood trauma you’ve…

DO YOU often feel tired, light-headed and irritable – especially on blistering hot days? The answer to your woes could be as simple as increasing your water intake. These symptoms, along with  frequent headaches, dry skin and constipation could be aresult of constant dehydration. Here are 10 of the top reasons why we should be drinking enough water daily, plus tips on how to make sure that we do. 1 IT’S VITAL Our bodies are made up of about 60% water. Every day we lose some of it through sweat, urine and even just breathing. If we don’t regularly replenish what is lost, our body doesn’t have enough water to maintain certain functions and tries to tell us via messages of thirst, headaches and fatigue. Water also plays a vital…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman who is confused about consent in her relationship with her boyfriend. I consider myself very giving when it comes to sex with my man. I very seldom hold back when he wants some. We go out a lot together and drink as a couple. However, recently I find myself asking questions about whether or not he's raped me. For instance, after a night out drinking I often find myself wet in the morning. I don’t remember us having sex, even though my vagina feels like we did. Recently, on two occasions he forced himself on me when I truly was not in the mood for sex. He keeps saying if I don’t have sex with him, he’ll be tempted to…

If you’ve circled mainly RED, you’re the peacemaker You’re a natural diplomat who can see two sides to every story and come up with a compromise. You’re the one who’s most likely to intervene during conflict. You’re seen as a wise soul and your siblings often come to you with their problems. Peacemakers are often middle children, or the oldest sibling who grew up with bickering younger ones. Your natural diplomacy means you’re comfortable socially and you are a good team player. How it holds you back You’re inclined to put yourself last and neglect your needs, so your wellbeing can become compromised. You can end up feeling resentful and tired, especially during conflict, and you’re prone to anxiety. Losing the label Being compassionate doesn’t have to mean being a…

IMAGINE it – you’re on the couch with your husband, watching movies. You pause for a quick snack break and log onto social media. There, you find out that you’re trending. Why? Because apparently, you have died! And the rumours have already caused a stir within your close circle of family and friends. MALICIOUS Actress Sophie Lichaba says she thinks the people who started those malicious rumours about her are bored and don’t realise how hurtful they are. “I’ve spoken in public about the fact that I have diabetes. Both my parents had it and I never thought I would get it. But this is now my reality. I was sick, and I lost weight. Yet every day I thank God that I’m alive to see another day. I live…

WELCOME gqom’s newest album release by none other than Thobeka Ndaba aka Tipcee. The singer launched The Snyper at Universal Music’s studio in Rosebank, Johannesburg. The 16-track record, in partnership with DJ Tira’s Afrotainment and Universal Music Group, dropped recently. The launch party had good music, dancing and performances as DJ Tira took to the decks and Tipcee took to the stage with NaakMusiQ, who features on her album. “Kokuhlakanipha ukumesaba uJehova (The beginning of wisdom is to fear God),” Tipcee said on social media after singer Busiswa blessed her record with a prayer at the launch.…

SHE has always enjoyed and excelled at science and she’s determined to use that to make a positive difference in the world. The first thing she decided to tackle was chalk dust after spending years in a classroom, breathing in dust from chalk, watching it settle around the class and seeing it cause her classmates with chest issues to cough. So she made it a personal project. Maluta Gcabashe (13) from Chesterville, Durban, created edible low-dust chalk. The Grade 7 learner and her friend, Azile Machi (12), are not just class prefects but the cream of the crop at their school. FINDING INSPIRATION Maluta used her passion and knowledge of science to create the chalk, which comes in a variety of colours. “I became aware that the chalk I created…

BRINJAL CURRY WITH COCONUT MILK SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 35-40 MIN ■ 30ml (2T) oil ■ 5ml (1t) each turmeric and cayenne pepper ■ 10ml (2t) garam masala ■ 7,5ml (1½t) ground cumin ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 2 garlic cloves, chopped ■ 4 brinjals, cubed ■ 250ml (1c) coconut milk ■ salt TO SERVE ■ 1 green chilli, chopped (optional) ■ handful of fresh coriander, chopped ■ cooked rice or rotis (optional) 1 Heat the oil in a pot or saucepan. Add the spices and stir-fry until fragrant. Add the onion and garlic and stir-fry until the onion is soft. Add the brinjal and stir-fry for 1 minute. 2 Pour in the coconut milk and simmer slowly for 25-30 minutes or until the brinjals are cooked and…

THERE are plenty of laughs and tough competition in E! Entertainment’s Celebrity Game Night. On the show, local stars battle it out playing hilarious and outrageous party games that test their pop culture knowledge, acting skills and nerves of steel. MEET THE TEAM Anele Mdoda will host, as well as guide team captains, Ayanda Thabethe and Jason Goliath and their teams of celebrity guests, on the rules of the games. She shares some highlights of the show, which includes discovering how much fun Ayanda is. “She’s so pretty, so cute and dainty and then you find that she’s just …” “conniving, sneaky and intelligent,” Goliath jumps in. They believe they were chosen because they compliment each other. “Everyone understands their role and what they bring. It’s not something we had…

‘MY PARENTS PUT ME UNDER A LOT OF PRESSURE AND EXPECT ME TO COOK, CLEAN AND WASH CLOTHES FOR EVERYONE’ Q IT FEELS LIKE EVERYONE IS PREGNANT EXCEPT ME I’ve been married for three years and we are struggling to fall pregnant. This year, three of my friends have got pregnant – and so easily. Only my husband and close friends know the struggles we’ve been through, but everyone else always asks when we’re going to have children. They keep asking what I’m waiting for. How do I tell them to back off without telling them my business? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A It’s unfair of you to compare yourself with your friends. We all have our individual journeys in life. The focus should rather be on you and how you are…

‘KEGEL EXERCISES CAN STRENGTHEN THE VAGINAL MUSCLES AND LEAD TO BETTER ORGASMS FOR YOU’ Q HE DOESN’T LAST VERY LONG My current partner only lasts about a minute during sex before he ejaculates. This leaves me unsatisfied. Ispoke to my friend about it and she says it sounds like premature ejaculation. I want to know if it is that and what he can do to last longer. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A There are two issues that you need to work on with your partner to achieve sexual peace and increase your love intelligence. First is to make sure that you reach your orgasm every time you get into a sexual dance. Second is to get to the bottom of premature ejaculation. You need to talk about these issues in a constructive…

■ How much water should you drink per day? Cape Town-based lifestyle expert Lisa Raleigh recommends one glass (250ml) for every 10kg of body weight. ■ Want to know if you’re dehydrated? Your urine can tell you. If its pale, you’re hydrated. If it’s a dark yellow, you need more water. ■ If you struggle to remember to drink water, fill a botte and keep it with you at all times. You can also set reminders on your phone or create habits such as having a glass or two of water before or after meals. ■ Some meals contain more water than others, such as soup, as well as foods in which the water content is high. These include cucumber, celery, tomatoes, watermelon, strawberries and grapefruit. ■ Juice, coffee, tea…

AVILE SHAKES KANGWENYA I know someone who is being raped in her marriage. The moment you don’t want sex with your partner and he forces himself onto you, that is rape. You can lay criminal charges against him. KEITUMETSE MHLANGA Yes, it is. The definition of rape is sex without consent. The relationship you have with the person and the previous sexual acts with consent should not have any bearing on your current state. MALAKE NGWANA WA KGALAKE Nothing, and I mean nothing, can ever make forcing yourself on another person okay. If she’s not in the mood, she’s not in the mood. Sex should be a mutual activity. It’s rape if you continue when the other person says no.…

1 Don’t burn your bridges A few years ago, I attended a final round for a job interview. When the interviewer saw where I worked two jobs ago, he realised he knew one of the directors at that company (that particular director was not even in my references). At the time I didn’t know, but the interviewer called him to ask about me. A year later I bumped into the director (I had got the job, by the way) and he told me about the call. Principle: everyone you engage with in the world of work, even those that you think you will never need, can have an impact on your future. 2 Don’t underestimate your current workplace Do your homework and research before moving onto “better” prospects. If you…

‘I REMEMBER CRYING AND ASKING GOD WHY THIS WAS HAPPENING’ HE’S always believed that God gave him his talent so he could share the word of God through music. In 2018, gospel singer Xolisa Kwinana’s faith was put to the test when he discovered he had a brain tumour the size of agolf ball. GROWING HEALTH CONCERN Xolisa had been experiencing severe, blinding headaches a year before the brain tumour was found. He thought the headaches were a result of him working too hard. “When I was performing at a show in Tembisa, I felt really dizzy and then I just collapsed on stage,” he recalls. He was rushed to the hospital where a doctor ran some tests. Nothing abnormal was detected. “My health has always been on point, so…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…