Table of contents for 11/27/2019 in Move!

I LOVE going home for the holidays. It’s always so nice to be a part of imicimbiwith loved ones, to eat my mother’s food and to wake up in my childhood bed. Usually, Ihit the long road in December. I wake up in the middle of the night and load my sisters in my car before we take the 750km drive home from Cape Town to Port Elizabeth. Last year, 1612 people died on the roads during the festive season – so before I do any of the fun stuff, I take my car to a roadworthy testing centre to see if it’s safe to drive so far. To help you get ready for the holidays, we’ve put together a handy guide to get your car ready for the long…

DANGERS OF CARRYING CASH Sinqobile Burial and Social Club says carrying cash can be risky for the group member depositing collections. USEFUL SOLUTION Technology is key. The club suggests that each member familiarise themselves with cellphone or internet banking. Electronically depositing all the contributions into one bank account is ideal. The advantage is that monthly statements are received, which is great for record-keeping and transparency within the group. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

IT’S a secret that would tear any family apart: a wealthy businessman fathers four children and showers them with love and affection. He works hard to give them everything they need, hoping they will follow in his footsteps and one day take over the family business. Then he discovers the children aren’t his. In a cruel twist, it turns out his brother – a pastor – is their biological dad. And just as he’s coming to terms with not being able to father kids, a young man arrives on the scene claiming to be his son. This is the sensational storyline playing out in etv’s drama series Imbewu: The Seed. BROTHERS AT WAR Brothers Phakade (played by Sandile Dlamini) and Zimele (Tony Kgoroge) are at the centre of the family…

HE KNOWS persistence pays off. Loyiso Gijana tried to make it as a singer when he auditioned for Idols SA back in 2015. He was voted off in the top five, but he always knew he was meant for the stage. Now he’s back with a chart-topping single, Intliziyo, featuring homeboy Langa Mavuso. “It’s music for the heart. It has meaning and a lot of feelings, it’s the kind of music you cry to,” Loyiso tells Move!. His hit track is about a man in a toxic relationship, who finds he has hurt his partner repeatedly. So, he asks her to leave and find someone better. “The song is doing so well, we’re definitely going to take the number-one spot,” Loyiso says. “Langa Mavuso’s voice and tone add so much…

WHILE we know that taking ARVs is a lifetime commitment, there are some of us who stop taking them along our journey. People give many reasons for this grave move. But irrespective of the reasons, the consequences of stopping your medication can be terrible. Here’s why. THE EFFECTS OF ARVS ARVs aren’t a cure for Aids but a treatment to suppress and manage it. They work by not giving the HI virus a chance to multiply. Taking them allows your immune system to recuperate and gather strength to fight off other illnesses. Since ARVs aren’t a cure, they need to be taken daily to ensure they’re always in our bodies to prevent the HIV from multiplying. WHY PEOPLE STOP TAKING ARVS They begin to feel better Many people start…

1 Vests from 3-6 months, 6-9 months and 9-12 months. 2 Car seat – always keep baby strapped in when travelling, even if it is not your car. 3 Disposable diapers in various sizes to fit as baby grows. 4 Camping cot – I have come to learn that expensive cots are not too practical. 5 Bottle steriliser. 6 Breast pump. 7 Swaddle blankets. 8 A travel system/pram – there are tons of options but look for one that fits your lifestyle. Don’t just buy it for the look of it! 9 Bottle set and some extra teats. 10 Vouchers, more vouchers and extra vouchers for mommy to go buy other essentials she may need.…

TIEGO THAMAGA Speak to your local clinic or hospice. They have home caregivers who can help people like you. Also, ask your close family members to occasionally relieve you. You can also hire a helper with a basic nursing background. SELINDA WINDVOGEL YELLOW Seven months ago I lost my husband due to terminal illness, so I can relate. Be strong and take care of yourself and the kids. You’re not alone – God gives the toughest battles to His strongest soldiers. TSHEPHO JIMMY NTSOANE I’ve never been in your position but I know that when you’re in a stressful situation, it’s best not to deal with it alone. Ask your family or close friends for advice, or go for therapy. Just don’t try to deal with it alone.…

GROWING up, we don’t fully understand the depth of life’s tribulations. We are just children with very little responsibility. Whenever something troubles us, we simply hand it over to our mother or father. As I grew up, I had to leave my parents and live on my own. That’s when I came face to face with many tribulations. At some stage, it felt like there was trouble on every corner. I asked God why He had brought me into this life to suffer. I asked Him to take away my thorn and He repeatedly said, “My grace is sufficient for my power is made perfect in your weakness,” (2 Corinthians 12:9). EXPECT TROUBLE It’s painful going to bed every night crying and looking for God in your situation. Your teary…

When news broke that the family of former Bafana Bafana goalie Senzo Meyiwa were seeking legal assistance from lobby group AfriForum, social media once again began attacking his then-girlfriend, Kelly Khumalo. Fans of the soccer player have blamed the singer for his 2014 death, bullying her on social media ever since. However, Kelly recently took to Instagram to thank her followers for their love and support. Move! readers have their say. I honestly don’t understand why people think it’s okay to bully this woman. The same people who post long posts about how depression is real. People need to grow up. MBALENTLE KASIHAYO NGOBESE Which fans? She must start preparing herself for AfriForum. MINNIE COOPER STHEMBILE The strongest lady ever. MODIBA MACHUENE BEAUTY We still want the truth out of…

HER new book is the talk of the town. Siren, her first novel, is a fictional read about the dark side of the showbiz industry – so it came as no surprise to see famous faces turn up to support new author Kuli Roberts at the launch party. Hosted at the Mall of Africa in association with Bargain Books and BlackBird Books, the event saw performances by Dumza Maswana, who got guests moving to his hit song Molo. Actress Rami Chuene was the MC and described Kuli as “nothing if not consistent”. Since the book is about the non-glamorous side of the industry, it was only fitting that Vatiswa Ndara read the prologue. The actress recently made headlines when she penned an open letter to the minister of sports,…

PENGUIN PARTY It’s a lovely sunny afternoon and not wanting to waste it, Lunga decides to go for a drive along a scenic road with 10 penguins on his back seat. He’s stopped at a traffic checkpoint where atraffic cop tells him he shouldn’t drive around with 10 penguins in his car, and that he should take them to a zoo. Lunga agrees with the police officer and drives off. The following day he’s driving along the same road, still with 10 penguins on the back seat. When Lunga reaches the same traffic checkpoint he’s pulled over by the same officer. The cop can’t believe Lunga still has the penguins on the back seat after he’d specifically told him to take them to a zoo. “But I told you yesterday…

■ Washing your face thoroughly removes impurities and make-up, preventing breakouts that cause dark marks and blemishes. ■ Exfoliating removes dead skin cells and helps reveal a brighter, more even-looking complexion. ■ Stay hydrated by drinking enough water to balance lipids in your body and skin. ■ Eat skin-friendly foods that are rich in antioxidants to help fight signs of ageing and maintain a healthy, glowing complexion. These include dark chocolate, strawberries, cinnamon and pomegranates. ■ Use a face mask at least once a week to help reduce oily sheen and soften the skin. ■ Limit your sun exposure as much as possible. It doesn’t mean you must hide in the dark, but try to avoid being directly exposed to the sun for long periods.…

‘I WAS TOLD THE COMPANY DOESN’T PAY BONUSES. IS THIS LEGAL?’ Q CAN I STILL BE DISCIPLINED? I’ve been placed on paid suspension due to misconduct at work. I’m expecting to be called in for a disciplinary hearing and I’ve decided to resign. Does the company have aright to continue with a disciplinary hearing once I’ve given in my resignation letter? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A If you decide to resign but give them a calendar months’ notice, the employer is within their right to continue with the disciplinary hearing. Should you resign with immediate effect, the employer may choose not to continue with the hearing as the employment relationship would be terminated. The employer, however, may claim damages from you as an employer for failing to stick to to the resignation…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV –20 DEC Jupiter moves into your financial horoscope. With discipline, you can grow your funds considerably. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 2, 25, 8, 49, 51, 30 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN You’re at the start of a yearlong phase of lucky breaks and opportunities. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 39, 20, 3, 37, 15, 50 AQUARIUS 21 JAN –18 FEB Celebrate friendships but joining groups of your interest will put you in contact with the like-minded. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 12, 33, 17, 30, 14, 46 PISCES 19 FEB –20 MAR Your talents and skills will be noticed, any effort should reap rewards. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 31, 33, 14, 7, 52, 29 ARIES 21 MAR –19 APR It’s a week to make use of your opportunities. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 39,…

Lufuno Raphalalani, a social worker based in Norwood, Johannesburg says: “I believe that any religion provides some sort of guidance and morality on how to live one’s life. Ask yourself what you are currently doing with this priest, who is very likely taking advantage of a girl your age. Does it align with your beliefs? Understand the basics of exactly what you are getting into. You need to step back, do self-introspection and identify your priorities in a relationship with a married man. It’s important to know what you’re signing up for, and the truth about what lies ahead of you if this relationship continues. If he’s currently cheating on his wife with you, what makes you think he won’t do that again to you? If he cheats with you,…

WHAT an unfortunate yet privileged position to be in – being such an important part of someone’s journey at such a life-defining moment of their life. Being in love with a terminally ill person is heartbreaking, yet it puts you in a uniquely honourable position. BEING COMMITTED Learning that your partner is terminally ill far into your relationship undoubtedly is devastating. Even though we’re all aware of the fragility of our lives, no one can ever be prepared for it. The whole experience is indeed frustrating, disempowering, energy-sapping, hopeless and eventually sickening. We’ve never been in your shoes and therefore can’t express enough sympathy at what you’re going through. We can only imagine the trauma. While providing the necessary support for your husband, it’s important to ensure you’re not only…

SADNESS, hopelessness, fatigue and anxiety. These are some typical symptoms of depression that are relatively easy to recognise in ourselves or someone close to us. However, in men, the signs are not as clear-cut. Men are more likely to avoid expressing the vulnerable emotions that come with depression. “Instead, they might complain about physical symptoms such as sleeping and stomach problems, headaches, back pain and fatigue,” says Cassey Chambers, operations director of the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag). “Avoidance can also lead to typical symptoms being suppressed by abusing alcohol and drugs, womanising, overspending, workaholism and other high-risk behaviours,” Chambers adds. “This hides the fact they are in need of help, and diagnosis and treatment often happen too late.” In fact, men in South Africa are four times…

■ Stop and rest about every two hours. ■ Have enough bags in the car for throwing away rubbish at stops. ■ Keep enough bottled water so you don’t become dehydrated. This can also be used to wash your hands and face as needed. ■ Stock up on wet wipes and tissues. ■ Keep emergency numbers handy and pack a first aid kit in the car. ■ Have a torch with fully charged batteries in your car. Invest in a car cellphone charger. ■ Check if there are roadworks along your route so you can alter your course if needed. ■ If you’re unsure about your car checks, refer to your car manual or ask for help at your nearest petrol station. ■ Ensure your car insurance is up to…

■ Start as soon as possible. ■ Aim to put 5% of your monthly income into an emergency fund. If this seems daunting, don’t be put off – start with an amount you feel is manageable . ■ Adjust your budget accordingly and set up a monthly debit order until your fund is at the desired level. ■ Put your money in an account with an interest rate that at least matches inflation, otherwise your money will lose value. ■ Use it for the right reasons. Birthday parties, holidays or that pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing don’t qualify. ■ Involve the whole family, even kids. Everybody needs to understand the importance so make it a family goal. ■ Capitalise on loyalty and rewards programmes. Use the points or cash…

HE KNEW from the tender age of 15 that he was destined for a life in music. Lucas Maloma (41) says he wanted to live music and make a living from it. But his passion didn’t sit well with his family. “Imagine finishing school in the 90s and telling your parents you are going to study music,” he says. “My family told me singing is for God – not a career. But they also said things would go well for me when I sing for Him.” And they certainly have. Lucas is an award-winning singer with two albums. His debut album, Praise Revival, was released to stream and download online and was a hit. His stage presence has made him one of the most sought-after gospel artists in the country.…

A CELEBRATORY, informative and inspiring get-together, the recent Incredible Women Series luncheon was held at the elegant Atlantic Pearl Hotel in Fourways, Johannesburg. The aim of the event was to share a meal and fellowship, and dish on the topic of empowerment with a group of women who are all in powerful positions in their fields. The occasion was the brainchild of Faith Makhubedu, the founder & CEO of the Kutenda Group – a 100% black women-owned group of companies, which she launched in 2017.…

SHE thought she knew what she was getting into when she wed the polygamous taxi boss. Mpiyakhe Zungu (played by Siyabonga Thwala) made no secret of the fact he was already married to first wife, Siphokazi (Celeste Ntuli), when he proposed to Phumelele (Ayanda Borotho) – but the young woman couldn’t wait to wed him. For a long time Phumelele was the perfect makoti, even when her husband started entertaining other women outside of their marriage. But then a childhood boyfriend resurfaces, promising her a life of milk and honey away from her troubled marriage . . . A SLICE OF LIFE After starring in Isibaya for seven years, Ayanda (38) still loves her role in the hit show. “Phumelele exposed me to a world I would not have really…

HER hit track has been blowing up around the globe. But Sho Madjozi didn’t think she’d ever meet the man who inspired her gqom single, John Cena. However, her wildest dreams recently came true when she met the WWE wrestler after American singer Kelly Clarkson invited the rapper to her talk show. Sho lost her mind when John surprised her on the show. The video has given everyone the feels and won Sho new fans. GLOBAL STAR Sho (27) has had a great rise. She shared a stage with Beyoncé, posed for pictures with Cardi B and made celebrity fans in rappers Jidenna and Missy Elliott. But inspiring young African girls brings her the most joy. “Of course, it’s nice when people like Missy Elliott or [Coldplay singer] Chris Martin…

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WHITE BEANS & PORK GOULASH SERVES 6 PREPARATION: 30 MIN COOKING: 2 HR 15 MIN ■ 500ml (2c) small dry white beans ■ 1,5kg pork neck pieces, with bones ■ 1L chicken OR vegetable stock ■ 500ml (2c) water ■ 45ml (3T) garlic, chopped ■ 250ml (1c) onions, finely chopped ■ 4 medium carrots, diced ■ 3 stalks celery, diced ■ 1 bay leaf ■ 75ml red wine ■ 45ml (3T) tomato paste ■ 5ml (1t) dried oregano ■ 5ml (1t) dried thyme ■ 5ml (1t) dried parsley ■ salt and pepper to taste ■ 5ml (1t) paprika ■ fresh parsley to garnish 1 Discard the damaged beans and rinse under cold running water. In a large pot over medium heat, add the beans, pork, stock and water. 2 When…

WE first got to know her when she asked the cast of the Real Housewives of Johannesburg to sanitise their hands in the presence of her baby. Olwethu Leshabane (29) is all about parenting and babies so she was the first person Anele Mdoda thought of to host her new production, Oh Baby. HOSTING EXPECTANT MOMMIES The series, produced by Anele’s company Rose and Oaks, follows the candid Olwethu as she attends baby showers throughout the country as the second guest of honour (next to the expectant mother), to see the planning and finishing of the final event. She is joined by a guest celebrity mom, the likes of Siba Mtongana and Jessica Nkosi, to assess the events based on five key elements: execution, enthusiasm, games, resilience and the mom-to-be’s…

‘ANY DISAGREEMENT WE HAVE, NO MATTER HOW MINOR, SEEMS TO ESCALATE INTO A HUGE ARGUMENT’ Q I FEEL STUCK My child was born with a disability. He can’t walk or talk and needs constant care. He is now eight years old, but the problem is I feel stuck with him and sometimes wish he wasn’t around. When I feel like this, I shout at him and end up crying alone in my room for hours. Ihave no one to help me. I feel guilty, but I also feel hopeless and know this bad feeling will come again. What can I do? DOWN, EMAIL A I recommend you seek professional counselling. You can find free counselling services from government social workers, clinics and government hospitals. Through counselling you should aim to…

‘AFTER HAVING SEX, THE INSIDE OF MY VAGINA GIVES ME PAINS’ Q SMELLY DOWN THERE I have adischarge. It’s yellow and sometimes stinks. Could it be from an infection? WORRIED, SMS A It’s normal for a woman to have discharge throughout the month. It also is expected to change its consistency and volume during the different times of the month. The colour of the discharge can range from clear to yellowish, and this is not usually associated with any form of smell. So the smell is a cause for concern. Check if there are any other signs and symptoms that will assist your doctor with a diagnosis, such as itching or bleeding when you are not having your period. It could be that there is a problem with internal structures…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman whose life has been turned upside down after learning her man is terminally ill. When I met my man, we were both fit. We ate as healthily as possible and even exercised together. Recently his health started deteriorating and we discovered he has a terminal illness. He’s upbeat and assures me he’ll beat this disease. But in all honesty, I can see he’s not the same and the doctor disclosed to me that he might not have long to live. I’m really shattered and am always in tears when he’s not watching. His illness is taking a toll on me. He can’t do the things he used to do for himself and they’re now my responsibility. I’m not taking it…

Actor Dwayne Johnson “Depression never discriminates. Took me a long time to realise it but the key is to not be afraid to open up. Especially us dudes have a tendency to keep it in. You’re not alone.” Swimmer Michael Phelps “After years and years and years of just shoving every negative, bad feeling down to the point where, I mean, I just didn’t even feel it anymore. It was a long, long, long road and I just never wanted to deal with it. “And, for me, that sent me down a spiral staircase real quick and I found myself in a spot where I didn’t want to be alive anymore.” Musician Tshego “A few years back I was stuck in some deep depression –not trying to get out of…

‘FOR CAPTURING MOMENTS AS LIFETIME MEMORIES, A SPIRITUAL CONNECTION IS NEEDED’ HAVING matriculated in 2012, she thought she had her career plans sorted. Yolanda Dandala (24) really wanted to become a business analyst. Throughout school, she’d enjoyed and was good at commercial studies, economics and business studies. A career in business just made sense. “But the universe had different plans,” she says. “I heeded the call to become a traditional healer right after matric.” Yolanda, who grew up in Soweto and Estcourt in KwaZulu-Natal but now lives in Joburg, trained to be a sangoma for two years and has since been practising. And this soon sparked the beginning of another unexpected journey – a career in photography. VISUAL STORYTELLING “The experience of my training as a sangoma ignited a deep…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details, to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you’re going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard toreaders providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…