Table of contents for 12/11/2019 in Move!

CAN you believe how quickly the year has flown by? Just the other day we were making resolutions for the new year and now it’s almost January again. When 2020 rolls around there’s no doubt there will be lots of weight-loss resolutions, especially because we all would have enjoyed such fabulous festive feasts. But for some of us, like Julia Mothibe, eating healthily and staying fit is an all-year round practice. The Soweto resident is in tip-top shape, thanks to a healthy diet and discipline when it comes to exercise. Julia runs every day, but her biggest achievement is taking on the tough 42km Soweto Marathon last year. It was the first time she attempted the marathon, which she completed – at the age of 69! Read her incredible story…

In cases where stokvel members don’t have frequent interaction, they need to learn to trust one another. This is where constant communication helps. Livhuwani Social Club is a case in point. Their communication is hindered by the distance between the members so calling, WhatsApp, Skype and using an app like StokFella helps. A stokvel also functions well when there is a common goal. In this case, the members aim to help those in need during the festive season at the end of each year. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

FANS of Isidingo were still getting used to the shock departure of Jo-Anne Reyneke when the actress announced her return to the popular soapie. Yes, her character, Lungi Biyela, is back – and she hardly recognises her, Jo-Anne says. “She has really changed, I wasn’t prepared for it.” When she was introduced to viewers last year, Lungi was a strong, smart and level-headed woman but now she’s turned into someone Jo-Anne has had to get to know all over again. “She crumbles from little things these days and she isn’t making smart decisions,” the award-winning actress tells Move!. The opposite could be said for the star, whose life experiences have made her better. “With me, as I grow older I do better,” says Jo-Anne, who split up with former Generations…

MZANSI’S most-loved socialites enjoyed a day of polo, good music and fine whiskey at the recent Johnnie Walker Warrior Polo event hosted at the Inanda Polo Club in Johannesburg. Radio and TV personality Anele Mdoda was MC for the day and encouraged guests to engage in some action-packed sport. Afterwards, the VIPs were treated to the smooth sounds of singer Langa Mavuso. Also spotted at the event were Celeste Ntuli, Andile Ncube, Michelle Mosalakae and Tshepi Vundla.…

FUNNY THOUGHTS ■ Women should not have children after 35. Really, 35 children are enough. ■ After all is said and done, usually more is said than done. ■ I am a nobody. Nobody is perfect. Therefore, I am perfect. ■ I married my wife for her looks . .. but not the ones she’s been giving me lately! ■ No one ever says, “It’s only a game,” when their team is winning. ■ I gave my son a hint. On his room door I put a sign: “CHECKOUT TIME IS 18”! ■ If carrots are so good for the eyes, how come I see so many dead rabbits on the highway? ■ Why do we choose from just two people for president and 12 for Miss South Africa? ■…

SINCE the emergence of HIV, many people have jumped on to the treatment bandwagon. Some try to make aquick buck. Others have honestly tried to make a difference but in fact don’t offer treatments likely to have long-lasting effects, such as certain diets or the use of various herbs or pills. It’s important to not fall prey to medication and advice that won’t help us live our best HIV-positive lives. We have choices when it comes to medical care. However, it is our responsibility to choose care that has been medically proven to be effective by experts. In this way, we will be able to deal with our medical challenges successfully. ‘ARVS ARE STILL THE BEST WHEN IT COMES TO MANAGING HIV’ MAKING A QUICK BUCK There’s no denying the…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC First impressions count, a saying that applies even to a casual Sagittarius with a somewhat careless approach. The right body language and clear communication should go a long way in making a good impression. You may even want to take a step further and take your physical appearance in hand. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 43, 21, 39, 44, 2, 9 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN Your personal year is drawing to an end, which makes for a good week to withdraw from the rat race and spend some time in contemplation. You might want to look back and pat yourself on the back for your achievements, as well as mourn your losses. It may be worth taking note of self-sabotaging habits that blocked your…

Lufuno Raphalalani, a social worker based in Norwood, Johannesburg says: “You need to figure out what it is you want and do what’s best for you. Do not compromise your happiness to please your parents. In any relationship, communication is fundamental. Sit down with your parents and express how you feel. It’s your life and you make decisions regarding your life because your parents can’t live your life for you. Bear in mind dating is also for learning about yourself – your heart, your soul and the kind of partner that suits you. So, this is all about you, not your parents. If your partner or ex-partner regularly threatens suicide, particularly whenever you’re not doing something they want you to do, this is a form of emotional abuse. Your partner…

DO Be honest – with yourself and the other person – about your expectations. Be a bit flexible without straying from your principles. Make your time together fun and exciting and not simply a session in which the other person is being interrogated about their life. Tell your prospective new partner if you’re an involved parent – but talk about things other than your kids as well. Give yourself and the other person time to get to know each other without expecting aserious love affair at the drop of a hat. DON’T Compare your date with your previous partner. Let the fear of rejection rule your decisions. Get discouraged too early on. Get clingy too quickly – it’ll scare prospective partners off. Discuss your financial affairs with the other person…

ON SUNDAY 27 October my father breathed his last breath. Just like Abraham in the Bible, my dad was a great man and his charm and presence meant a lot to me in my adult life. He was there when Iburied my firstborn, he was there on the first day my daughter came into the world. Two years ago, he called me on my birthday and sang to me. I had to pull off to the side of the road to sob. This is what I’d missed growing up as a child born out of wedlock. MY FATHER’S FUNERAL A note to parents: speak to your spouse about all of your children – the “recognised” and “unrecognised” ones – to ensure they are all offered the opportunity to bury you.…

Zola 7 is determined to carry on helping others. He took to social media to plead with fans to help him help others in need, like he used to do on his show, Zola 7. He even included bank details for deposits. Move! readers have their say. It’s a good thing, especially this festive season as many people have nothing to put on their tables. MISHECK MAISVA I hope he manages to raise the funds. SINOVUYO NQINA That’s a noble thing to do. Please ask the following guys for money: Patrice Motsepe, President Cyril Ramaphosa, Kaizer Motaung, Thabo Mbeki, Tito Mboweni and Jeff Radebe. TSHEPISO MASOKA I think you must go back to the studio, make music again and make the money you want. Or open a church. MANANA MATHABANG…

LIFE has been so good to her she sometimes pinches herself just to make sure it’s real. In her seven decades on earth she’s had a successful career as an actress and singer – and now Thembi Mtshali-Jones can add another feather to her cap. The veteran TV star has published a book, Theatre Road: My Story, that highlights her golden years in the industry, and she’s absolutely thrilled about her latest achievement. “Not even in my wildest dreams did I think I’d get here,”Thembi tells Move!. Growing up in a little village in Mahlabatini, Kwa-Zulu Natal, there was no television. Radio was the only medium of entertainment. Back then she didn’t think she could cut it as an actress, let alone a celebrated TV star who has published a…

SHE’S known for bringing the heat in the kitchen. Zola Nene has been a judge in The Great South African Bake Off; cooked up a storm in her own show, Celeb Feasts with Zola; and has showed us her fun side as a food critic in The Wedding Bashers. Now the celebrity chef is sizzling up screens in SABC3’s The Taste Master. Zola tells Move! she loves being part of the new show, which challenges contestants to cook-offs. “It’s an opportunity so many people crave but never get so that’s something that makes the show special,” she says. WHERE IT ALL STARTED Zola studied law at Stellenbosch University but quit to pursue her passion for food. “I travelled overseas to the United Kingdom and worked in a restaurant for two…

FOR a while they had a happy union – even though there were three of them in the marriage. Sisters Owami and Olwethu became the talk of the town when they wed the same man. But for the twins there was nothing unusual about sharing a bed with their dream guy. After all, they’d always done everything together, like sharing a plate of food. So, it felt natural to tie the knot with Mzu Mzazi. The sisters fell pregnant around the same time too – but it wasn’t long before their marriage started to fall apart. They say Mzu, a well-known TV director they met when they auditioned for Muvhango, would remind them he gave them a roof over their heads. Owami and Olwethu (30) claim they were emotionally and…

THE poorest of the poor are counting on her. Children, struggling single parents, pensioners, people with disabilities – all those who can barely fend for themselves are looking to her to sort out the mess that has brought them to the edge of despair. Busisiwe Memela-Khambula knows she has a huge job on her hands. Through more than 17 million grants she has millions of people relying on her to put food on the table and a backlog of issues stretching back to 2012. “It hasn’t been easy,” the 61-year-old CEO of the South African Social Security Agency (Sassa) admits. “Last month was very frustrating for me. We thought we had everything under control but our system collapsed.” Beneficiaries were turned away empty-handed because there was no money at pay…

BRAIDS Tsonga musician and BET award winner Sho Madjozi is the queen of braids, wearing them in different styles and colours and with accessories for extra flair. Braids can be hell on your hairline if they’re plaited in too tightly, so ask your hairstylist to ease up on the tension if it starts feeling uncomfortable. Mix things up by wearing clip-in extensions to make a pony if you have cornrows. FAUX LOCKS This trend is still going strong and these days the longer the locks the better – just like Luthando Shosha’s. The great thing about this style is faux locks are lightweight so they won’t strain your hairline, even when they’re long. They’re also easy to wash and they dry quickly. Make sure you keep your scalp healthy by…

‘I’VE TRIED TO GET HELP FROM THREE LAWYERS, BUT THEY ALL TOOK MY MONEY WITHOUT HELPING ME’ Q IN A FAKE MARRIAGE I’ve been in a fraudulent marriage since 2001 with a man I don’t know. Ihave an affidavit and a letter from the home affairs department confirming this. I’ve been told I must file for divorce at my own cost. I’ve tried to get help from three lawyers, but they all took my money without helping me. My children and I are now suffering financially. Another lawyer I recently contacted wanted R1 500 for a consultation and another R10 000 to go further. Idon’t have that kind of money, but I need to get out of this marriage because my daughter doesn’t have a birth certificate. I tried to…

‘HIS INSECURITY IS NOT ONLY KILLING ME BUT IT’S SLOWLY KILLING MY LOVE FOR HIM’ Q MY PARTNER DRINKS TOO MUCH My girlfriend and I stay together. We have been dating since high school. We don’t have any children. Recently she started drinking a lot. She spends most of her time with her drinking friends. She is verbally abusive. She says the most horrible things to me when she is drunk and has no respect. Sometimes she doesn’t even come home. I’ve spoken to her so many times, but nothing is changing. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Your first victory is noticing the change and trying to do something about it. You noticed that your girlfriend has changed and her behaviour is having a negative effect on you and your relationship. It’s…

Q IS IT A GOOD IDEA TO FILM OURSELVES? My partner travels a lot and when he’s gone, I find myself masturbating. A I’ve asked him if we can record ourselves having sex so Ican watch it during my self-love sessions when he’s away. He supports me and has agreed to it, but is this an okay thing to do? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL It is totally normal to want a tool to help keep you satisfied while your partner is away for long periods. We are undoubtedly at a time when we must embrace technology, even on a sexual level. At the same time, we also must guard against its risks, such as the recording ending up in the wrong hands. Phone sex might also be an option. This way, you…

I’m a26-year-old wife of five years with a child. My husband and I live like brother and sister. We share the same apartment and sleep in the same bed but aren’t intimate. I’m no longer physically attracted to him largely due to his unemotional behaviour. He’s a very traditional man and he stopped touching me a long time ago. He’s emotionally unavailable to me and deals with our child harshly at times. We never really dated long enough for me to notice this behaviour before we married. He makes no advances on me and I also turn the other way. I would like to know what the impact of not divorcing but having separate lives is. Can something be done as a last resort before considering divorce?…

IT CAN be quite a shock to the system to re-enter the dating game decades after you were “single and ready to mingle”. After years of the comfortable companionship that marriage can provide, suddenly finding yourself single and out there trying to meet people can be nerve-racking and leave you feeling vulnerable and unsure of yourself. Whether you’re single again due to death or divorce, dating later in life has its unique challenges. Here’s advice on finding love at a later stage in life – and tips on how to cope with the challenges it may present. HOW TO MEET PEOPLE The first step is just to leave the house and venture outside of your comfort zone, Durban psychologist Carol-Ann Dixon says. “Go to places where people your age might…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

IT WAS a perfect sunny day in November when Andile B married Dintle Mofokeng at Uniondale Game Farm in Paul Roux in the Free State. The couple were surrounded by family and friends who were delighted to witness the beginning of their journey together as husband and wife. Dintle, an account executive at SABC, says planning the wedding wasn’t easy “but it was worth it because our day was perfect. Being surrounded by loved ones was the cherry on top.” Gospel star Andile added, “I married the woman I’d been searching for all my life.” Here’s wishing the newlyweds many years of wedded bliss. Halala!…

THE South African legal system had failed me. I was not about to fail myself. While the rape charge was changed to attempted murder due to the level of brutality, he was sentenced to 10 years of which he served a fraction. I am told the church provided a character reference for his shortened sentence. I wasn’t the first girl in the church he had raped. I pray I was the last. I chose to let go, rather than to hold onto a past, however unfair some of it seemed. What good would it possibly serve me to hold on? GRATITUDE In so many moments of my asking ‘why?’ I had to remind myself to be thankful, to be grateful. I was thankful that it was 45 minutes of brutality…

SHE’S used to setting stages across the country alight with electrifying performances, but when we meet for a catch-up at her home, Winnie Khumalo has less pep in her step. The songbird is dressed comfortably in a vest, tracksuit pants and socks as she takes time out to nurse her health. Winnie has spent the past decade dealing with one health crisis after the other – stomach ulcers, asthma, chest pains and fainting spells have seen the singer in and out of hospital. And lately, her ulcers have been acting up again. “When you are on the road a lot it is not easy to watch what you eat,” Winnie explains. “Sometimes we are in places where the only thing we can eat is fried chicken and I cannot have…

‘WE WOMEN HAVE TO WORK MUCH HARDER TO PROVE OURSELVES’ SINCE she was a little girl Mandisa Radebe (27) – better known as DBN Gogo – has loved music. She would belt out bangers at the top of her lungs while playing the piano at her parents’ home in Pretoria. “It’s something I’ve always wanted to do. I’ve always just been very musical. I used to play the piano, sing and dance. Music sort of found me,” she says. Although somewhat new to the music scene she’s fast making a name for herself at major events like Ultra South Africa, Rosefest, the Vodacom Durban July and last month’s MTV Strongbow BIG Picnic. She’s also performing at Afropunk in Jozi later this month. Her first single, LA (with Tumza D’kota and…

1 Energy company Sasol uses a special process to turn . . . into petrol? A Wind B Coal C Oil D Water 2 What do you call a surgical procedure in which a cut is made to open an airway in the throat? A Hysteroscopy B Tracheotomy C Tonsillectomy D Mastectomy 3 Which of these religions is the youngest? A Sikhism B Hinduism C Buddhism D Taoism 4 Which animal is on a R200 note? A Lion B Buffalo C Leopard D Rhino 5 The idiom “up the ante” comes from which card game? A Canasta B Bridge C Blackjack D Poker 6 A . . . is a person who can speak several languages? A Polyglot B Linguist C Dragoman D Glottologist 7 DJ Sbu recently announced his…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s MEGA EGGS BENEDICT ON RYE The rye bread offers a healthier alternative to the English muffin traditionally served with eggs Benedict. This dish makes a satisfying breakfast or lunch. MAKES 1 LARGE PORTION PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN HOLLANDAISE SAUCE ■ 2 egg yolks ■ 15ml (1T) cold water ■ 150g butter, melted ■ 15ml (1T) lemon juice ■ pinch each of mustard powder and salt TO FINISH ■ parsley butter ■ 2 slices rye bread, toasted ■ 4 bacon rashers, fried OR a few strips of smoked salmon ■ ½ avocado, thinly sliced ■ salt and freshly ground black pepper ■ 3 slices mature cheddar cheese ■ 2 eggs, poached ■ salt and pepper 1 Hollandaise sauce Put the…

WHAT could be better than escaping to a tropical island for a few months? Winning a cool R1 million on top of your beach break! This is what contestants of the popular reality TV series Tropika Island of Treasure can look forward to. Back for its ninth season, the competitive show will be filmed on the picture-perfect Dutch-Caribbean island of Curaçao. As usual, contestants will include members of the public – who will only be revealed next year – as well as a host of Mzansi’s favourite celebs. CELEBRITY CONTESTANTS Anyone familiar with the show will know a big part of what makes it so entertaining to watch is the celebrity contestants. In season 9, viewers can expect to see familiar faces. These inlcude singer-songwriter and actor Bouwer Bosch (35);…

SOME women consider wild pubic hair to be unsexy and even unhygienic. But did you know that removing your pubic hair has no health benefits? In fact, getting rid of your bush is more likely to expose your vagina to bacteria that can lead to infection. It can also cause ingrown hairs, irritation and even scarring. But it remains popular to trim down there and if it ups your self-esteem and makes you feel sexier, go for it! STYLES There are many different grooming styles and shapes to choose from. These include: Bikini line Removing only the pubic hair sticking out at the sides of your panty. Hollywood The removal of all the hair on your pubic area, labia and your bum. All gone! French wax Removal of most hair…

IT’S only natural to slow down as we grow older. There may be health problems, weight issues or worries about falling while exercising. But research shows that an active lifestyle becomes more important than ever to our health as we age. Not only does working out cut the risk of stroke or heart attack, it also leaves you feeling younger. While most people their age complain about body pain and aching joints, thanks to their training routines, these senior citizens have a new lease on life. We speak to three golden oldies who are fighting fit. GLADYS NGWENYA (77) She moves swiftly in the ring as she punches her coach’s boxing gloves. It seems like she’s been training her whole life, but Gladys fell in love with boxing just a…

It’s not uncommon for grown-up children to struggle with the idea of a parent dating later in life –they might have complex feelings about loyalty towards their other parent and concern for your wellbeing. But they do need to understand that the human need for intimacy and companionship doesn’t change, no matter your age. Don’t exclude your children from your private life or avoid the topic, Durban psychologist Carol-Ann Dixon says. “Talk to them and explain that you’re lonely and would like to meet someone. Adult children can complicate matters by wanting to give their stamp of approval for your new partner.” Tell them you understand their perspective and fears, but don’t be embarrassed by your desire to have a fulfilling relationship. Also, bear in mind the reactions of your…