Table of contents for 12/18/2019 in Move!

What a year 2019 has been – so many highs, so many lows and not a lot of middle ground. But we’ve made it to the end. It wasn’t easy and I’m sure at times it felt like the longest year ever, especially when the dice were stacked against you. But against all odds, we are here. As we wrap up the festive season and head towards the new year, I hope you are filled with hope. Hope that the things you didn’t get to in 2019, you’ll accomplish in 2020. Hope that your dreams, aspirations and goals will come true. That your health will improve, your finances will stabilise and you’ll finally get that job you’ve been eyeing for months. Hope that the business you’ve been working on for…

SHE’S one of the most streamed female artists in South Africa, with seven albums to her name and a string of chart-topping hits. And she’s had quite a big year. Lebo Sekgobela (38) says she’s grateful for each and every blessing God has sent her way. “It’s been a good year for me and I’m still counting my blessings,” she says. “Anything could have happened but God saw me through.” GRATEFUL HEART The Lion of Judah hitmaker has just finished a tour to promote her sixth album, Umusa, when we catch up with her. “It’s been a hectic year with back-to-back gigs but God has always been on my side,” she says. “I’m happy that I’ve achieved my goals for 2019 – Umusa, which I released in 2018, is doing…

HE’S one of the most recognised faces in the country as the man who portrays Sechaba in Isidingo. But after playing the scheming character for 10 years, actor Motlatsi Mafatshe (36) hopes fans will get to know him for another one of his talents: making music. He recently released a single, Thando. MUSIC MAN It’s not the first time he’s ventured into music. In 2012 he shared a stage with US superstar Usher at his show at Orlando Stadium after beating dozens of competitors vying for the opening spot. Music is a beast that keeps calling him, Motlatsi tells us. “She’ll keep you up at night, she’ll haunt you until you heed the call. I’ve been cheating on music with acting for a long time, so now I’m going back…

SHE twirls and spins on the roller-skate track at the Hammanskraal Sports Complex in the scorching sun. Effortlessly moving around on wheels, she’s dressed in a flowing blue dress when we meet up at her favourite place. Keamogetswe Masango (16) is a little shy when she starts talking about her journey with rollerskating, but her eyes light up when she describes the moment she first saw roller-skates as a child. Her 11-year-old mind was intrigued by shoes that had wheels on them and she could not wait to see them on her feet. “I had never seen anything like that and seeing people just gliding in them seemed so cool to me, I wanted a pair,” she says. She got her first pair in the same year and fell in…

MOM’S LOOK TIP Colour coordination is key for mom’s classy Christmas dinner look. Wear shades that complement each other, mixing bright colours with subtler tones such as black or nude. TIP To pull off the casual dad look this festive season, mix formal pants with T-shirts and pair the combo with a classic watch or shades. DAD’S LOOK YOUNG GIRL’S LOOK TIP To create a modern-day Disney princess who will light up any celebration, pair a floral dress with a headband and add a gorgeous bag for that extra touch of magic. YOUNG BOY’S LOOK TIP Comfortable pants combined with colourful striped tops is the combo that’s going to bring out the cheer this Christmas. Add sneakers and a sports watch for that cool and playful vibe. STOCKISTS BARETHREADSFASHIONS.COM; EDGARS…

ONE of the important aspects of conquering HIV is feeling good about yourself. Each little victory counts, and completing another year is an achievement. Mastering aspects of being HIV-positive makes one ooze confidence and determination to be on top of it. At times, the world around you may be ignorant of your little strides, so it’s important that you pat your own back when you accomplish victory over hurdles. Don’t view yourself as a failure if you haven’t achieved everything you wanted to. Instead, let it serve as a compass to direct you. ‘BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR HANGING IN THERE’ As the year draws to an end, it’s a good time to reflect on ups and downs, things you were able to overcome and things you couldn’t. This is…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC Tact may be somewhat in short supply. This trait can cause unhappiness at home, so tread gently. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 26, 49, 30, 13, 43, 16 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN Make arrangements for a celebration, whether it’s family or friends at a party. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 27, 41, 5, 18, 31, 14 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Put obligations on the back burner and have fun. A solo trip to a weird destination may be an idea. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 23, 47, 20, 4, 15, 50 PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR Channel your dreams and visions into professional endeavours. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 26, 6, 42, 10, 52 ARIES 21 MAR – 19 APR It’s a period where career goals…

‘I CAN ONLY ORGASM WHEN CHOKED AROUND THE NECK DURING SEX’ Q I STRUGGLE TO GET WET I’m a 23-year-old woman and my man and I have been together for two years. We’ve started having sex and I’m having problems getting wet down there. I’m not using contraceptives or anything. It’s just that the moment we start kissing and undressing, I freeze. My vagina doesn’t become wet during foreplay so it’s painful when he penetrates me. I’m not enjoying myself, and I only get wet after it’s over. Please help. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A It’s okay that your body takes a while to become excited and release the mucus needed to lubricate the vagina. This just means that you and your partner need to be patient during foreplay. Find your body hotspots.…

If you wake up with a hangover you’ll be more likely to crave a greasy breakfast because you’ll be dehydrated and your body will want to counteract the effects of your alcohol consumption, explains Jason Burke, an American doctor who’s made a study of hangovers. He suggests you drink plenty of water before you go to sleep, and have a snack that’s high in fibre and protein, such as a high-fibre cereal with yoghurt. This will help your body do its job of breaking down the alcohol and make you less prone to hunger when you wake up. Avoid cocktails and sugary mixers – they cause radical spikes in blood sugar, meaning you’ll become ravenous and be more likely to indulge in unhealthy snacks. Before you start drinking, have a…

THANDOTHANDO MNCUBE I don’t think it’s possible to keep them both. You must delete one. Let your man know that you are not comfortable about this and speak to your friend. See if there is any change. Then make a decision. NONTOBEKO MLAMBO My dear, where there is smoke there is fire. Know your worth. If it means losing both your friend and your boyfriend, so be it. Everything and everyone has its season – teaching us lessons in life. LULUCHA KUNENE Your problem is that you made your friend your man’s friend too. It will be difficult to fix the mess now unless you cut ties with one of them. My husband’s friends are not my friends as much as my friends are not his. This is where we…

If there are red flags, such as large amounts of debt or a bad credit record on either of you, the other partner might be tempted to say, “it’s your problem”. “There might be consequences when you want to buy a house together or build savings,” warns Eunice Sibiya, head of consumer education at FNB. “It doesn’t mean you should start paying off your partner’s debt, but rather be supportive and negotiate the problem together.” The first step is to find out why this has happened and to get to the bottom of it, advises Thuli Bottoman, a senior counselling social worker at The Family Life Centre in Johannesburg. “The person who messed up needs to own up and take responsibility for the debt. The couple can then discuss and…

RAGE, anger, depression, jealousy and gender-based violence – these are just some of the behaviours and tendencies that describe Saul, son of Kish, in the Bible. We see the same behaviour and actions in many people today – especially men. Saul was affected despite being considered handsome (1 Samuel 9:2), anointed (1 Samuel 9:16), qualified to lead (1 Samuel 9:17), favoured (1 Samuel 9:24) and divinely appointed (1 Samuel 9:17). Despite all this, he was envious, vengeful and murderous (1 Samuel 19:10). What happened to Saul? SAUL’S DISOBEDIENCE Saul’s weakness is the same weakness that engulfs many humans today – envy. Saul’s case was made worse by fear of the enemy, fear of taking the kingship role, and fear of people he was about to lead (1 Samuel 15:24). When…

FINDING FRIENDSHIP I am a 29-year-old female. I am looking for a South African male friend with clean habits. He must be an academic, employed and between the ages 30 and 36. He can have at least one kid. Time-wasters need not reply. Call me on 073-216-0353 SINGLE MATURE MAN I am a 55-year-old lady working around Gauteng. I am looking for a single, mature man. He must be between the ages of 50 and 59. He can be from any province but he must be working. Feel free to SMS or call me on 082-429-8535 RELATIONSHIP READY I’m a 37-year-old man from Johannesburg. I’m looking for a mature, loving, caring and God-fearing lady aged between 30 and 40. If you are ready to start a good relationship, call or…

“Dear Mom, 2019 was a tough year. So many things changed, even me. I suddenly had mood changes without knowing why. The one moment I would be on top of the world, and the next I would feel like the whole world was hating me. School was really tough this year, every teacher said that they have to be tougher on us to prepare us for high school. Mom, I don’t understand why they have to wait until my last year in Primary School to do it. Do they not know that I am already dealing with all these other changes too? Mom, I am scared. They say that high school is hard. They talk about older kids bullying the younger kids. I heard kids talk and say that if…

In this tutorial, we will be painting a late afternoon scene with the sun’s rays poking through the branches of a tree. Watercolour is all about building up thin layers, one after the other. It is very important not to go dark too quickly, but rather to add slightly darker tones one at a time. I will show you my approach. I am not going to name each colour I use, but let that creative decision be in your hands. Watercolour paintings might seem daunting because people believe that once you have made a mistake you cannot repair it. But I’ve found that it is possible to “lift” a mistake by carefully wetting the area of the error and immediately drying it. However, this is dependent on the kind of…

IF YOU didn’t know better, you’d never say they had a very public break-up just a few years ago. He dumped her for the queen of the Mzansi entertainment scene and she was left holding a baby and nursing a bruised ego and a sore heart. She put on a brave face and got on with it – after all, DJ Zinhle is no wilting wallflower. But true love will find a way and the music-maker and AKA got back together again. However, if she’d hoped the  public would be happy for her, she would’ve been sorely disappointed. People took to social media calling Zinhle everything from desperate to an ambassador of forgiveness, but she isn’t letting it get to her. OPPORTUNITY TO RECONCILE Yes, they’ve had their ups and…

SHE never imagined she would make it in the music industry and was planning a career in the health sector – but fate had other plans. Now Sha Sha, real name Charmaine Shamiso Mpambiro, is the voice on several popular amapiano songs. All it took was for friends to believe in her voice more than she did. FINDING HER VOICE Sha Sha (25) was born in Mutare in Zimbabwe and lived in various parts of the country after her parents had separated. Her grandmother used to take her to church every Sunday, where her talent was discovered and nurtured after she’d joined the choir. “I didn’t always know I could sing and that’s something people find really odd.” Her friends kept telling her to pursue music as a career, but…

AGRANDMOM is often seen as a modest, knitting, cooking, sweets-carrying woman. But not Canadian gogo Robin Hillis, a professional bodybuilder with muscles any man would envy. She got into the sport after high school when she joined a gym to overcome her shyness – and fell in love with weightlifting. FINDING HER PASSION Robin (48), from Cambridge, Ontario, loves that her physique is an advantage in her job as a correctional officer – no one would dare to mess with her. She’s also a fascial stretch therapist and personal trainer. Robin, who has two daughters and three grandkids, follows a strict diet and spends six days a week in the gym. She has no plans of slowing down – it’s how she maintains her 90kg weight and 43cm biceps. She…

PLUM PERFECT Welcoming in the New Year is the perfect excuse for an OTT look, so opt for dramatic colour on your lips and eyes. EYESHADOW Put a piece of tape on the outer corner of the eye. Apply shimmery plum eyeshadow over the entire eyelid, then gold up until the crease and purple on the outer corner. BLEND Gently swipe a clean brush over the areas where the colours meet to blend them seamlessly. EYELINER Using the tape as a guide, make a winged line with gel or liquid eyeliner. Allow the liner to dry before removing the tape. Add two coats of mascara on your lashes. LIPS Be precise when applying dark lip colour. Use a lip brush if the product doesn’t come with an applicator. GOLDEN GIRL…

‘HE LOCKED ME AND OUR TWO CHILDREN OUT OF THE HOUSE’ Q LEGAL SERVICES DIRECTOR What are legal services directors, what do they do and what studies do you need? FUTURE STUDENT, EMAIL A In terms of the Companies Act, a director is a member of the board of a company. Every company must have a board of members. The main role of a director is to act in the best interests of the company. The business and affairs of a company must be managed by or be under the direction of the directors. To become a director, you must know the laws regarding operating a business and the legal obligations. It’s advisable to do a course in business studies and have a master of business administration (MBA). It’s possible…

As a solution to money squabbles, couples might want to consider a joint account for the running costs of the home and a personal account for each individual’s needs, says Thuli Bottoman, a senior counselling social worker at The Family Life Centre in Johannesburg. “It works when both have budgeted for and agreed upon it. Money that goes into the joint account can be used to spend on household expenses and savings. “If, in the budget, each couple has an agreed amount for their personal spending that can create a more harmonious financial relationship,” she adds. The pros of a joint bank account include better control over your finances, saving on bank charges, being able to pay off a bond quicker and less room for secret spending. The cons include…

AFTER a few rocky years, he’s finally dropping new music. Gospel singer Thabiso Moloi (37) released a new album, Thabiso Royal Prince Moloi, earlier this month. Speaking to Move!, Thabiso says the record was supposed to be released in 2017 – but then fellow gospel singer Lundi Tyamara died. He was one of Thabiso’s mentors and the singer was grief-stricken. “His death really hit me,” he says. “And after him my grandmother, Mmatieho Moloi, passed away too.” Thabiso says at the time he couldn’t focus on being himself through his music as he was in a dark space. He wanted to take time to fully mourn his losses before he could begin writing again. “After healing I had to come back strong, and I did,” he says. “A lot has…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Welcome to our annual special issue of MarsMag. This publication is available every four months and is jam-packed with great articles on art, craft and design. We also love featuring you, our valued artists, as well as other initiatives that we are continually involved with. We are also exceptionally active on both Facebook and Instagram and invite you to follow us and engage with us by showing us your incredible arts and crafts. We will also be running a new chapter in our ambassadors’ program as well as running exciting competitions. This year has flown by, and as we step into 2020, we would like to take this opportunity to thank all our loyal customers and wish you all the very best in the year to come. Enjoy your holidays…

This Fimo tutorial is especially for the children and of course, Mom and Dad are also allowed to play along. It is an easy little project, but Mom and Dad might need to help a bit here. We are making a tree today using green, yellow and red. However, feel free to modify the tree and make it your own by changing the colours and the shape of the tree. What you need. Step 1 & 2 Get your goodies ready! You will need about a half-block of green, one-eighth of red and yellow. Step 3 Flatten the green with your hands first until it is about 5mm thick. Using a roller, or the STAEDTLER roller, roll the clay until it is even. Take care not to make it too…

ABIDE BY THE STOKVEL RULES Tshomishano stokvel members have found that showing compassion within the group goes a long way. They practise this by being lenient when members are unable to pay their monthly contributions on time. Communication is also a key aspect when it comes to running a stokvel. Tshomishano encourages its members to voice their concerns and suggestions. The group also uses money wisely – including withdrawing money from the stokvel account only when there’s a burial, and not for any other emergencies. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send your contact details and a picture of your members to: move@media24.com…

WHEN she woke up one morning last year her voice wasn’t as smooth and sweet as usual. Simphiwe Dana put the huskiness down to having given it her all when she sang at Mam’Winnie Madikizela-Mandela’s memorial in Jozi. UNDER THE KNIFE She knew something was wrong and wasted no time getting a professional medical opinion. Simphiwe (39) was stunned when doctors diagnosed her with vocal dysphonia, a disorder where the vocal cords periodically go into a spasm. “I thought I was going to lose my voice forever,” she tells Move!. Simphiwe’s always sung her heart out. “When I perform my spirit takes over and I’m in a different space. I’d been straining my voice for years and ended up with holes in my vocal muscles.” She needed surgery but was…

WORTH THE COST At an auction, a man’s eye catches the most beautiful parrot he’s ever seen. Determined to have the bird, he begins bidding. Each time he bids, someone outbids him. Higher and higher the bidding goes until, finally, he wins the bird. As he is paying the auctioneer for the parrot, he comments, “I certainly hope this parrot can talk. After what I’m paying for him, I’d hate to find out he can’t.” “Talk? Don’t you worry, he can talk,” the auctioneer replies. “Who do you think kept bidding against you?” WORK VERSUS PRISON When you think about the differences between work and prison, maybe prison isn’t so bad. ■ In prison You spend the majority of your time in small cell. At work You spend most of…

‘MY CHILD IS STRUGGLING TO KEEP UP WITH OTHER CHILDREN IN HIS CLASS’ Q BEHIND IN CLASS My child is struggling to keep up with the other children in his class. I’ve tried helping him with school work but we don’t seem to be getting anywhere. He is in Grade 4. His teacher says he should see an occupational therapist but I can’t find one. Is there anything else we can do? CONCERNED PARENT, EMAIL A It’s important that you get your son assessed by a suitably qualified professional. There are occupational therapists who practice privately and if you have a medical aid you can ask your family doctor to recommend one. Alternatively, you can take your son to your local clinic or government hospital for help. The sooner he…

Gladys Pule, a life coach and registered professional nurse based in Johannesburg, says: “Laxatives are a type of medication used to relieve constipation. People without constipation sometimes take laxatives thinking that passing more stools will lead to weight loss. This method of losing weight is not healthy at all, as it interferes with normal bowel action and can cause a lot of health complications. You sound afraid of picking up weight and this has gone on for a long time now, so it might be more psychological than physical. You can’t be controlled by fear. I encourage you to wean yourself off these laxatives. Begin by reducing the frequency until your bowels are no longer dependent on them. Begin a journey of falling in love with you as you are.…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman whose boyfriend has been paying special attention to her visiting friend. I cannot shake the feeling that my man is falling for my friend and vice versa. Whenever my friend visits our place and he is around, he gets fidgety and gives her these looks that he used to give me when we started dating. They go for smoke breaks together and laugh together. When I ask them what they’re laughing about, they say I won’t get it. It’s really uncomfortable and I can’t ignore what my sixth sense is nagging me about any longer. They even exchange WhatsApp messages that he doesn’t tell me about. I feel like an extra in their movie. I love him and I’m not…

1 You are sitting in a train with a friend. She’s excitedly telling you all about her new job. But you’ve noticed a great looking guy sitting behind her who is obviously flirting with you. How do you react? A Ignore him. What your friend has to say is more important. B Flirt back. C Leave your friend sitting alone and go over to him to introduce yourself. This is too good an opportunity to pass up. 2 When you need a new outfit for work, what would be your main reason behind the choice that you make? A It was good value for money. B It was comfortable, yet stylish. C It made your figure look fantastic. 3 Which of the three following environments would you prefer to work…

THE Breakfast Club is a social gathering where like-minded women meet over breakfast or brunch, once every two months. Their mission is to provide a space for women to network, reflect, be rejuvenated and empowered. Each event has a different theme and a diversity of guest speakers to impart nuggets of wisdom on subjects like navigating life’s challenges, entrepreneurship, fitness, parenting, relationships, marriage and more. They also call in experts to give masterclasses on fashion, makeup, hair and self-image.…