Table of contents for 1/1/2020 in Move!

IT’S a new year, a time for resolutions, a time when most of us vow to eat better, to exercise more, to be healthier and to basically do more. But come February, all those resolutions have been chucked to the back of your list, to be tackled again closer to spring. We are all guilty of this – of shuffling our dreams to live in the now. But our recently crowned Miss Universe (see page XX) has taught me something. If you want something bad enough, you will work for it. You will speak it into existence, you will actively pursue it and you will get it. I hope we all pursue our resolutions with Zozi-like precision this year. Until next week, LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR Lack of respect towards our…

ABIDE BY THE STOKVEL RULES It’s certainly worked in their favour so the group recommends starting a stokvel with people you know quite well. When they started their stokvel they also made sure to get good financial advice to help them manage their money. They did so through a qualified and registered financial advisor at the bank who helped them explore anumber of options to grow their money. They have also found that drawing up a constitution helps members understand what the rules and expectations are. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to move@media24.com…

SHE’S an influencer, a businesswoman, reality TV star and model. She had a big year: from releasing her MMC, House of BNG, to winning the African influencer of the year category at the E! People’s Choice Awards. It’s safe to say Bonang Matheba – Queen B to her hive, the BForce – is winning at life. And she plans to keep up the momentum in 2020. She lets us in on how she does it. SECRET TO SUCCESS “Every day I take the decision to see through the things I’ve started, even though it is not always easy. I always remind myself why I started something and that drives me to bring it to finality. I believe success needs completion. At all times I want to be focused, to be…

HE PLAYS a villain and gangster viewers love to hate in Uzalo. But in real life, Masoja Msiza (55) is a softhearted family man, totally different from his character, Nkunzi. He is an artist at heart and has immersed himself in different types of art – he acts, dances and does poetry among other things. THE ACTIVIST Masoja uses artistic platforms available to him to speak out against gender-based violence (GBV). It’s an issue he is passionate about and he believes the government is too sloppy in punishing perpetrators. “The sloppiness of the law makes people take advantage because they know nothing is going to happen. The punishment is not as harsh as it should be. People disregard the law. That is why there is a story of a woman…

1 Which product did media personality Zodwa Wabantu add to her brand last year? A Champagne B Makeup C Perfume 2 Actress and TV personality Vinolia Mashego landed a role in which soapie? A Generations B Skeem Saam C Giyani: Land of Blood 3 Which former Idols SA contestant got married and welcomed a baby boy? A Mmatema Moremi B Shekhinah C Yanga Sobetwa 4 Which American artist sings in isi­Xhosa on Amanda Black’s Power album? A Alicia Keys B Anthony Hamilton C Babyface 5 Former Isibaya actress Linda Mtoba gave birth to ababy girl. What is the nickname that she calls her daughter? A Baby Peas B Banana C Baby Bean 6 What phrase did actress Sonia Mbele shout from the stage at this year’s SABC Crown Gospel Music…

SHE’S bright and witty – and has a story to tell. The young author published her book, Rejected Treasure, that details her story of being rejected by her father. Olwami Shangase, a Grade 6 learner at Umbogintwini Primary School in Durban, says she needed to get the story off her chest in order to heal. The 12-year-old tells a powerful tale about accepting being rejected by her father and how it helped shape her into who she is. THE DAY THAT CHANGED HER LIFE She felt so displaced the day her mother, Sindi Shangase (34), told her that her stepfather, Witness Shangase (39), was not her biological father. “I was seven years old when my mother told me,” she tells Move!. She started constantly questioning her identity and existence. “I…

1 Which rapper’s sports management company did Springbok captain Siya Kolisi recently sign with? A Jay-Z B Kanye West C Dr Dre D 50 Cent 2 Which colour won’t you see in a rainbow? AViolet B Red C Magenta D Indigo 3 The Roman Catholic Bible has . . . more books in it than the one used by Protestants? A 2 B 7 C 9 D 11 4 . . . is an inflammatory disease caused by the immune system attacking its own tissues? A Lupus B Coeliac disease C Multiple sclerosis D Sickle cell anemia 5 Which Ancient Egyptian goddess was depicted with the head of a lion? A Hathor B Sekhmet C Bastet D Ma’at 6 This year’s team of the year category at the SA Sports…

CURLY HAIR NEEDS LOTS OF MOISTURE SO USE A LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER TO LOCK IT IN School mornings can be such a rush –you need to pack bags, sort out lunchboxes and make sure your kids are neat and tidy. Give yourself a break and try these simple hairstyle ideas – they’re perfect for when you’re pressed for time. LOOK 1 Bantu knots What’s great about this hairstyle is it will last for a day or two and when it’s released it creates a defined curl. ■ Comb and section hair into seven parts. ■ Twist each section from root to tip, and wrap the twist around itself until it stays in place. LOOK 2 Flat twisted braids ■ Use acomb to section hair into four parts. Start with…

Q MEDS KILLED MY DAD The clinic where my father received his medication was giving him the wrong pills since 2014. He became very ill. His stomach was swollen and his kidneys didn’t function properly because of the incorrect medication. Doctors at two hospitals have confirmed this. He died last year. How do we take legal action? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A The first thing you need is an autopsy report that confirms that your dad died as a result of wrong medication. If he was taking the meds from 2014 and died in 2018, it must be shown that there was adirect link between the time when he started taking the meds and when he died. You need to get an attorney who specialises in medical negligence (do an online search…

Q I ABUSE MY MAN When my husband and I argue I say horrible things that I always regret. Ican’t control my anger. I’ve called him simple-minded and weak and I’ve thrown things at him. We’ve been married for four years and he’s the best man, but when I’m angry it feels as if I really hate him! How can I stop hurting him? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A There’s nothing wrong with being angry if your husband’s done something that upset you, but it’s a problem if you’re unable to control your anger. The positive thing is that you acknowledge you have a problem, which is the first step to making a change. I recommend you get counselling to help you learn healthier ways of dealing with your anger and to…

Q CRAVING SEX I’m a 20-year-old woman. Usually, I don’t think about sex often, but a few days before my period, sex is all that is on my mind. Is this normal? ANONYMOUS, SMS A Yes. The human body is amazing. Before your menstruation, the womb naturally prepares itself to become pregnant. To do this, signals are sent to your brain and your desire to have sex increases. It’s nature’s way of ensuring reproduction occurs, so there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Use this time of the month to awaken and transform your sexual energy and journey. But remember to always practise safe sex – use condoms to protect yourself against an unwanted pregnancy as well as STIs. ‘I BECOME REALLY TURNED ON WHEN I LOOK AT AND TOUCH MY…

I’ve been married to the father of my children for more than 10 years. I want a divorce but it is so hard for me to go through with it. I don’t know why. My husband has cheated so many times and has even had kids with other women during our marriage. When I first discovered he was committing adultery I forgave him but I can’t anymore. He is also emotionally abusive. The result is that we are married but live separate lives. He comes in and out as he pleases and sometimes doesn’t come home at all. I don’t play my role as a wife anymore – I won’t cook and wash for a man who doesn’t respect me. Do I have sufficient grounds to divorce him or can…

LIFE seems to get busier and busier, especially over the holidays. Between the hustle and bustle, it’s important to spend time bonding with your child. Soon, there will be lunchboxes to pack and homework to be done, so now is the perfect time to connect. To raise a confident, well-adjusted child who will go out into the world and become a capable and responsible adult, it’s important to meet their emotional needs, says Claudia Abelheim, an educational psychologist from Johannesburg. Building a bond with them will help improve their self-esteem. “It’s important for children to feel a connection and unconditional love from their parents so they grow up believing they are worthy of good things happening to them.” CONSISTENCY IS KEY Abelheim says it is through consistency of actions that…

‘GOD IS GOOD AND HE DOESN’T MAKE MISTAKES’ LAST year his life changed forever. Chumani Ngojo (36) and his wife, Liyema Ngojo, were held up at gunpoint and robbed of everything in their Khayelitsha home in July. They were shaken up but happy that neither of them was hurt in the incident. But just a month later, devastation struck again and Chumani lost the love of his life. Liyema developed a bad chest infection and died about a week later, in August. Chumani says that although he misses his wife immensely, he’s doing okay thanks to his faith. He describes 2019 as bittersweet – having to deal with the loss of his wife and being announced as best gospel songwriter and best gospel artist of the year at the SABC…

SOMETHING SERIOUS I’m a 45-year-old guy looking for a serious relationship with a lady aged 30-40. If you are interested call me on 076-353-2355 CONNECTING WITH AN HIV POSITIVE LADY I’m a 35-year-old single guy from Gauteng and I’m HIVpositive. I would like to meet an HIV-positive lady aged 27-35. Call or WhatsApp me on 074-971-4949 SEEKING MATURITY I’m a 35-year-old employed man looking for love in a permanent relationship with a lady aged 25-38. I’m looking for someone who is mature, independent and fears God. If you’re interested and serious please email me on maxwellmnguni@yahoo. com READY TO SETTLE DOWN I am originally from Venda but currently in Krugersdorp. I’m looking for a lady aged 24-28 of any culture around Gauteng and Limpopo. She should be a Christian and…

Don’t give out private information such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you’re going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard toreaders providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

IT WAS fun and educational for all ages at the Activate! Change Drivers event aimed at sexual and reproductive health education. The organisation wants to take their campaign – Sexual and Reproductive Health for Your Information (SRHFYI) to other areas in Gauteng and Limpopo. The launch was in Atteridgeville, Pretoria, and it provided a space for young and old to interact and discuss everything sexual health-related in a unique, fun way. There were several speakers, including experts from the Women’s Health Service organisation, Marie Stopes, as well as games and entertainment.…

Dineo Ranaka released a song, Sibahle, that she wants to be known as a female anthem for the festive season. She said it was “aimed at us women to remind ourselves that we are beautiful, independent and loyal in our relationships”. Move! readers have their say. Can she sing? SPHIWE D THUSI Next year we will hear about her new political party. Watch this space. This is a real hustler, she does everything. KGADI YA-MAMAILA Faith nketsi motivated people. THEMBINKOSI CADRE TINGANE II Yeah, it’s a hit! Sibahle . . . sibahlehle. BOIKHUTSO ON LINE I know one of her songs, Survive . . . think it was 2012. ROSE LILY FLOWER I’m so surprised. MARIA CHARITY…

READY for the back-to-school rush? Head to PEP, your No 1 school shop at the lowest prices by far. Almost 8 million kids walk in PEP school shoes – and more than half of South Africa’s kids are dressed in PEP school clothes, thanks to the low prices on offer, so be sure to cash in. And if your child is heading to Grade 1, you could win mega cash prizes for you and your child’s school. Talk about a winning first impression! Simply take a photo of your little one all dressed up in their school uniform and you could win your share of R28 000. COMPETITION RULES, TERMS AND CONDITIONS The competition runs from 15 to 31 January 2020. Your child’s first day of school must be in…

HE WAS a man of pure heart, who loved God sincerely. That’s how Dr Nelisiwe Sibisi Zimu (47) described her husband, late gospel artist Neyi Zimu. “He was an authentic man,” she says. The gospel star’s death in December shocked South Africans who had joined thousands of fans to pray for his healing. But it wasn’t meant to be and the celebrated singer died after battling skin cancer. Since then, social media has been full of rolling tributes to the It is Well singer. He was upbeat and positive until the end, his family and friends tell Move!. REMEMBERING NEYI At one of his memorial services at a packed Change Bible Church in Katlehong, his wife told of a man who kept his faith right up until the end. Nelisiwe,…

‘EVERY PIECE IS UNIQUE AND VERY CLOSE TO MY HEART’ EACH animal is a distinctive rainbow of shades. At a glance, the colourful collection of beasts appears to be made of play dough or plastic but on closer inspection their hides are revealed to be a familiar rubbery texture. Artist Davis Ndungu’s creations feel a lot like a flip-flop – because that’s exactly what they are made of: discarded sandals. He recycles around 7 000 flip-flops in a year to create about 2 000 sculptures. Davis (42) has been recycling old beach sandals and turning them in to sculptures ranging from giraffes to warthogs and rhinos for the past 10 years. He’s now experimenting with making furniture from them, for sale on his website and at the bustling Watershed at…

JUST LIKE MAGIC A magician on a cruise ship entertains a different audience each week by doing the same tricks over and over again. However, the captain’s parrot sees each show and begins to understand how the magician’s tricks work. Eventually the parrot becomes bored by watching the same act repeatedly and starts shouting in the middle of the shows, “Look, it’s not the same hat!” or “Look, he’s hiding the flowers under the table”, or “Hey, why are all the cards the ace of spades?” The magician is furious but can’t do anything about it because it is, after all, the captain’s parrot. One terrible day, the cruise ship is hit by a hurricane and it sinks. The magician ends up on a piece of wood in the middle…

OAT AND PEANUT MUFFINS Sugar-free peanut butter is a tasty spread for these muffins. Dates provide the sweetness. MAKES 8 LARGE MUFFINS PREPARATION: 15 MIN BAKING: 30-45 MIN ■ 5ml (1t) bicarbonate of soda ■ 250g dates ■ 180ml (¾c) rooibos tea, hot ■ 250ml (1c) oats ■ 180ml (¾c) desiccated coconut ■ 250ml (1c) stone-ground white bread flour ■ 10ml (2t) baking powder ■ 5ml (1t) cinnamon ■ pinch of salt ■ 250ml (1c) peanuts ■ 2 eggs ■ 30ml (2T) canola oil ■ 60ml (¼c) brown sugar OR honey ■ 60ml (¼c) peanut butter (sugar- and salt-free) ■ coconut shavings to finish TO SERVE ■ peanut butter mixed with a little honey ■ fresh berries to garnish (optional) Preheat the oven to 180°C. Grease the hollows of a…

IT ’S the first of its kind in Mzansi. While we’ve had singing, dancing, acting and all other kinds of TV competitions, we can now look forward to a preacher’s talent challenge. Calling the Called: Preachers Challenge is a 13-part series focusing on unearthing talented pastors. THE GOOD GOSPEL The show will be hosted by actor Tshepo Maseko, who is no stranger to gospel-themed shows. In 2011, Tshepo was a judge on the ONE Gospel reality competition show Shine and in 2012 he hosted the second season of SABC2’s Gospel Classics. Tshepo says that if television can show nudity, vulgarity, crime and drugs, why not the Word of God? “It’s about time television gets a bit of good news. Everyone needs to hear words of encouragement. We live in the…

IT COULD cause you to go blind or your genitals to fall off – just two of the myths about masturbating you may have heard while growing up. But according to science, masturbating is safe and it actually has a lot of health benefits for your body and mind – as long as it’s not done excessively to the point where it affects your day-to-day living and it’s not done in public. “I recommend masturbation to the women I treat,” says US-based women’s mental health expert Kelley Kitley. “But a lot of women are embarrassed by it. “My hope is that we can normalise it for women because it’s such a natural function. I like to refer to it on the same level of importance as eating, sleeping and brushing…

WENDY SITHOLE Divorce is imminent. In fact, long overdue. If you still have feelings for him and feel like you want to salvage this marriage, it means that you have issues, not him. He is living his best life and you’re miserable. NKOSI MENZI A woman with a low self-esteem would stick it out. But if your sanity and self-esteem are still intact, divorce him and get out of this toxic relationship. If respect is no longer served at a table, you walk away. ADROMANDO NEWAN You are teaching your daughters that it is normal to be treated badly by a man and your boys to have no respect for their future wives. It is better to be a single parent with values and morals than to be stuck in…

DOES going to work feel like a drag, when you used to be enthusiastic about it? Maybe you’re so demotivated that even your salary isn’t enough to get you out of bed in the morning. That’s because we aren’t motivated to work purely for money, says career coach Khanya Matlala from Midrand. “Some of us choose to work because we have a deeper set of goals – to have an opportunity to do what we do best every day,” Matlala says. When our job no longer offers us this opportunity, we start to rethink our options – perhaps we need a different position or a change of career. Both prospects bring exciting possibilities and challenges. So how do you figure out what’s the right move and the right set of…

1 While making plans to marry your rich guy, he asks you to choose a honeymoon destination. What would you most likely to choose? A Monte Carlo or Las Vegas – where you could enjoy yourself at the casinos! B An exclusive island in the Bahamas, where you and your loaded hubby would be the sole guests. C A small cottage in a forest somewhere that allowed you to be alone together. 2 When friends ask to see your engagement ring, what would you hope to show them? A A diamond, sapphire and ruby cluster. B A large, solitaire diamond. C A small and simple diamond. 3 What wedding present would you most like to receive from your fiancé? A A Ferrari or Porsche. B Buying your parents a small…

NO WORDS will ever really express what the absence of my father caused in my life. Life was difficult and incomplete without him. I think things would have turned out differently for me if he stayed. Thankfully, my mother was by my side through thick and thin. She tried to be strong but I knew that she was deeply hurt. Still, she tried to fill the space that was left by my dad. My mom told me my father left because he got a job in the other province. She trusted him and let him go. He promised that he would contact her and send money as soon as he was settled in the new job. But these were all lies. He forgot about us the minute he was out…

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WHILE growing up, it was almost every child’s dream to be a TV presenter – to have fun on television while gaining fame and fortune. And it was no different for Expresso Presenter Search on 3 winner Jamie-Lee Domburg (26) who now gets to live that dream. She won the competition in October and has been on Mzansi screens since November. It’s been an adjustment, she admits. Because the show is live, the pressure is challenging and the fear that came with her new job initially held her back. FINDING HER RHYTHM She has now let go of the fear and is ready to help people kick-start their day with a vibe she calls the “gara” – a word she made up, found catchy and ran with it. Jamie-Lee hopes…

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FOR most of us, the summer holiday is the busiest time of the year. However, for those of us living with HIV, let’s ensure that our celebrations over the festive season don’t hamper our overall wellbeing. MEDICATION In between all the partying and travelling, remember to take your ARVs daily and at a set time. Taking ARVs is a lifetime commitment and they must be taken daily to manage HIV. Some people get so caught up in the excitement of the holidays that they forget all about appointments and medication. But it would be a grave error to neglect your health as you enjoy the festive season. REMEMBER TO TAKE YOUR ARVS DAILY AND AT A SET TIME Set an alarm on your cellphone to remind you to take them.…

CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN It’s a good week to pay attention to your appearance. It may be time to upgrade your wardrobe – a haircut or a manicure may also be appropriate. If the festive season caused havoc with your waistline, it’s time to get back in shape. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 48, 9, 4, 10, 32, 43 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB A lot is happening behind the scenes, which means you might not get the recognition or praise for your good deeds. It’s probably going to be a week where self-satisfaction will be your best reward. You may also have to lend a hand with a relative who’s unwell. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 27, 49, 24, 1, 50, 11 PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR Dynamic Mars…

Gladys Pule, a life coach and registered professional nurse based in Johannesburg, says: “The issue of falling in love with a cousin has existed for years and in some cultures, it is even encouraged. In your case, it looks like it may not be acceptable as you are already worried about everyone else’s reaction. My advice is if you can’t enjoy it openly, if you have to wonder if it is right or wrong, if you are doing something because you don’t want to lose – then that thing is not right for you. So don’t do it. The feelings have been acknowledged but they don’t have to have power over you. You can also discuss the issue with your mom (or a close adult family member) who will be…

THIS time of the year can be both exciting and frightening. One year has come to an end and you need to start believing that your next year will be better. I’ve seen people with extraordinary faith, ordinary faith and less than ordinary faith. I’ve seen how their faith in God moved them from sickness to health, from broken to whole. Their faith moved them from blindness to vision, from lame to strong. There is no doubt in my mind that we all need faith. It is such an important gift to a believer that God says it is impossible to please Him without it. But what do you do when you seem to be lacking in faith? SIMPLY ASK FOR IT In the book of Mark in the Bible,…