Table of contents for 1/8/2020 in Move!

THERE is beauty everywhere. Sometimes it just takes vision and the right kind of motivation to bring it out. This is what Fernando Mucavele saw and did with his state-of-the-art shack in Langa (see page 18). He didn’t let the rubbish strewn around the streets stand in his way, he didn’t let the naysayers win when they told him he was wasting his time. He knew that even though he lived in a shack, in a shanty town in a city that’s considered to be one of the most unequal in the world, he didn’t have to fit into the mould. He chose to build his own paradise right in the middle of the informal settlement, using everything at his disposal to do so. It’s proof that your circumstances do…

SHE’S going to have a super-busy year: from releasing new music to shooting a new season of her family reality show. And she doesn’t mind one bit. When we meet Dineo Ranaka at Kota Joe restaurant in Edenvale, Joburg, she’s in a cute, coordinated outfit – a purple tracksuit pants and matching cat-eye sunglasses. She lets us in on how she plans to win 2020. A WINING START Because of a very tight schedule, she didn’t get to spend as much time with her family and children over the Christmas period. “I have added music and deejaying to my career now and the gigs are coming in hard and strong. We will catch up when things start to settle down a bit.” She has a new single out called Sibahle…

SHE walks into people’s lives at their happiest – when they’re planning to welcome their bundle of joy into the world. Olwethu Leshabane (28) has landed a presenter gig on Anele Mdoda’s Oh Baby show – and it all began with her TV debut as a friend of Brinnette Seopela on the Real Housewives of Johannesburg (RHOJ). THE RIGHT TIME Olwethu steps into our Jozi offices looking as lovely as she does in her Instagram posts. Wearing a white linen shirt, long green pleated skirt, gold earrings and showing off her natural hair, she makes herself comfortable. She first hit our screens with a little controversy – she’d asked the stars of RHOJ to sanitise their hands in her baby’s presence. “I was surprised people were stressed that I whipped…

‘THEY DIDN’T BELIEVE I COULD DO IT’ STEPPING into Fernando Mucavele’s home is like entering another world. Immediately our eyes are drawn to the recessed ceiling, lit by carefully concealed LED lights, all remote controlled. The lights cast a colourful glow on the queen-sized bed framed by four gleaming white pillars. Artfully positioned throw cushions are arranged on the pristine duvet cover, complete with meticulously rolled towels that would not look out of place in a hotel. Indeed, his beautiful home could easily be mistaken for a high-end Japanese boutique hotel, given its compact size – a mere eight by four metres. The floors are finished with light oak laminated flooring and built-in cupboards discreetly flank the bed, while his bathroom boasts a rainfall showerhead and a glass basin. His…

NOTE WELL A husband leaves a message for his wife: “Dear, I’m just having my last glass of beer and coming home within 40 minutes and if I don’t make it in time, please read this same message again!” A QUICK DRINK A guy goes into a bar, orders 12 shots and starts drinking them as fast as he can. “Whoa, why are you drinking so fast?”the bartender asks. The guy replies,“You would be drinking fast too if you had what I had and needed to run.” “Why, what do you have?” asks the bartender, intrigued. The guy stands up quickly, gets himself ready to go and says, “75 cents.” SHOPPING REVENGE “Cash or card?”I ask after bagging all the grocery items the woman wishes to purchase. As she fumbles…

MAKEUP can be a drag when temperatures soar, but you don’t have to go au naturel. Knowing what to use and when can come in handy. Some items in your cupboard can double up as two-in-one products, and you can keep others for special occasions only. LIGHT COVERAGE In the same way you choose a lighter summer wardrobe, you don’t have to weigh your skin down with too much product either. You still want flawless, radiant skin, and there’s a way to achieve it without going overboard. TRY THIS ■ Substitute your moisturiser with BB cream, so you won’t have to wear many layers of product. ■ Swap your foundation for CC cream. It gives enough coverage with a lightweight feel. ■ If you want a matte finish, use powder…

‘I DON’T WANT MY EX-BOYFRIEND TO BE GRANTED CUSTODY OF OUR KIDS’ Q GRANTING CUSTODY What can I do if I don’t want my ex-boyfriend to be granted custody of our kids in the event of my death? I would like my sister to raise my children. ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A In terms of the Children’s Act, only you and the biological father have parental rights and responsibilities. In the event of your death, only the father will have parental rights and responsibilities. This means only he has a right to have primary residence, formerly known as custody, of the children. Your sister can’t be granted primary residence unless this is done by the father or the court and only if it is in the best interest of the minor children.…

‘IT IS ALWAYS BEST TO INTRODUCE YOUR CHILDREN TO A MAN YOU KNOW VERY WELL’ Q HE SAYS I’M UNSTABLE My partner has been beating me. After speaking to a social worker, I am trying to find a way to leave him. The thing is, he denies hurting me. I have told my parents and his mother about the abuse. He spoke to them afterwards and convinced them I am the one who is mentally unstable and I don’t know what I’m talking about. I have no support. How can I get them to believe me? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Your partner is not only physically abusing you, but he is also doing what is called “gaslighting”. This is the type of psychological abuse in which the abuser denies the victim’s…

‘SIZE IS NOT THE ONLY THING THAT DETERMINES FULL SEXUAL ENJOYMENT’ Q MY FOOT FETISH I’m a 32-year-old man and I’ve always had a strong desire to kiss women’s feet. Is this weird? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A It is not weird at all. In fact, you fully embrace the understanding that all body parts can be considered sex organs. Just make sure the person whose feet you’re enjoying thoroughly washes them beforehand. Happy feet kissing! Q I CAN’T SATISFY HER My entire body is stiff due to a spinal injury. I don’t feel like the man I used to be as I can’t have sex like before. What can I do to satisfy my partner? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A Firstly, share your concern with your partner. Then realise that sex is not…

Capricorn 22 DECEMBER – 19 JANUARY Love Saturn and Jupiter, who’ve been creating a powerful tension between empowerment and constraint, both leave your sign. Your love life is bound to feel a whole lot lighter and less restricted by mid-year. With this will go some of your sense of security. Slowly, after working hard at grounding your love, life will open up a fresh realm of romantic possibility. Money After a seven-year visit, Saturn will move out of Capricorn by mid-year. Though he’s given you the structure you’ve needed to get by financially for all this time, his conservatism is now an obstacle. Economics have to be re-imagined if we’re to add sustainability to the equation. Survival is a pretty solid motivator, so there’s every chance a systemic shift will…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

THE bright lights were blinding as she opened her eyes. Madosini Latozi Mpahleni was surrounded by unfamiliar faces looking at her. They spoke, but their words made no sense. She had no idea where she was, or how she’d ended up there. Bewildered and alone, the 76-year-old woman – widely regarded as the queen of Xhosa music – started to cry. It was only when her friend and travelling companion Pedro Espi-Sanchis – a musician and educator with whom she’d been performing in France and Switzerland – appeared, that Mama Madosini calmed down. He explained that she was in a hospital in Annecy, France and that she’d been diagnosed with a faulty heart valve which had caused her to collapse a few days earlier. LEFT IN THE DITCH As far…

SHE spent a long time imitating A-list presenter Bonang, in the hopes that she’ll follow in her footsteps. Now Kuhle Adams (23) gets to be a role model for other up and coming presenters, after landing a job on SABC 3’s Expresso. She was chosen alongside Jamie-Lee Domburg after a presenter search in October. CHASING HER DREAMS It wasn’t the first time she entered a presenting competition. In 2017, Port Elizabeth born Kuhle entered the MTV Base VJ search. She made it to the top three and was inspired to keep going. When she was younger, she was a fan of Top Billing, she tells Move! and spent a lot of her time imitating Bonang Matheba. “I was an aspiring TV host for the longest time, I would always look…

How would you describe your style? My style is easy. It’s not forced. It’s never loud, but always simple and clean. What’s your go-to outfit? A beautiful, flowy dress. Do you have any style tricks? A bold lipstick and sunglasses are the only makeup you need on a lazy day. What’s your top styling tip? You’ll never go wrong with a pair of blue jeans and a crisp white shirt. WOW IN ONE Jumpsuits are super stylish. Find them in prints or bright colours. Pair yours with heels and don’t forget your floppy hat. MAKE A STATEMENT To give your shorts an instant update, pair them with a brightly-coloured blouse with statement sleeves. PRINT QUEEN Dresses in prints are pretty and perfect for the warm weather. Be bold and match…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s POTATO AND PORK PATTIES SERVES 8 PREPARATION: 15 MIN CHILLING: 1HR COOKING: 4-8 MIN PER PATTY PATTIES ■ 250ml (1c) mashed potatoes ■ 400g pork mince meat ■ 30ml (2T) all-purpose flour ■ 1 egg, beaten ■ 60ml (4T) fresh chives, chopped ■ 30ml (2T) fresh parsley, chopped ■ 2,5ml (½t) salt ■ 1,2ml (¼t) pepper CRUMBS ■ 60ml (¼c) flour ■ 2 eggs, beaten ■ 310ml (1 ¼c) panko breadcrumbs ■ 30-60ml (2-4T) vegetable oil TO SERVE ■ 60ml (¼c) mayonnaise ■ 1 garlic clove, minced ■ pinch of salt ■ 7,5ml (1½t) lemon juice ■ side salad ■ burger buns (optional) 1 Patties In a medium bowl, mix all the ingredients together until well combined. Take a portion of…

AS THE economy continues to tumble, and the cost of living spiral upwards, a chunk of money is something everyone could use right about now. But making or winning millions of rands doesn’t always guarantee an easy life, as is shown in season 2 of documentary-reality show, I Blew It. It follows the lives of South Africans who unexpectedly receive windfalls, going from rags to riches to spending it all within months. From Lotto winners and life-insurance beneficiaries to former Orlando Pirates and Mamelodi Sundowns star Benedict “Tso” Vilakazi (LEFT), participants reveal what happened to their money. THE SHOW I Blew It is divided into three segments: getting to know the person and learning how they received the money and how much; how the money was spent; if they have…

WHEN it comes to satisfying your sexual appetite, there are countless avenues that can be explored – from basic to kinky. Whichever floats your boat, you can bet your personality traits and day-today activities influence your decision. The way we express ourselves between the sheets says a lot about our lifestyles and who we are. THE WILD CHILD There’s plenty that can be said about the femme fatales who fall into this category – those who are outgoing, ready to embark on new adventures. These are the types of women who don’t hold back when it comes to broadening their sexual horizons. They’re the first to suggest the use of toys . “It’s the open-minded and outgoing women with a lot of energy who are more open to mixing things…

My man and I have been together for two and a half years. We had a good relationship thanks to our compatible lifestyles. We loved partying with friends. But he recently became a born-again Christian and we are completely different now. His interests and personality are no longer compatible with mine. He recently told me he has a calling to be a pastor and can no longer entertain the life we lived. He says he doesn’t want to part ways with me, but that we must change our lifestyle as a couple if I am to become a future mamfundisi. I am struggling to adapt to his growing demands. Do I stay or leave? CONFUSED, EMAIL…

“A vaccine is a type of medicine that trains the body’s immune system to fight a disease it hasn’t come into contact with before,” explains medical doctor and health advocate Dr Sivuyile Madikana. “Vaccines are designed to prevent a disease rather than treat it once you’ve caught it. “They contain the same germs that cause disease – for example the Hib (Haemophilus influenzae Type B) vaccine contains Hib bacteria – but they have either been killed or weakened to the point that they don’t make you sick. “The vaccine stimulates your immune system to produce antibodies, exactly like it would if you were exposed to the disease. “After getting vaccinated you develop immunity to that disease without having to get the disease first. “This is what makes vaccines such powerful…

AFRESH start brings new hope and new opportunities. But I am often amazed at how new beginnings are birthed. Most of the time, pain is involved in a new start. I’ve met motivational speakers, pastors and artists who decided to start afresh after they’d experienced terrible pain. Pain can certainly motivate individuals to walk into their greatness. GOD’S REGRET Genesis 6:5-7: “The Lord saw how great the wickedness of the human race had become on the Earth, and that every inclination of the thoughts of the human heart was only evil all the time. “The Lord regretted that he had made human beings on the Earth, and his heart was deeply troubled. So the Lord said, ‘I will wipe from the face of the earth the human race I have…

1 You’re at a party with friends when the electricity suddenly goes out and someone grabs hold of you. How would you react? A By throwing a punch at the person. B With a loud scream. C With a fit of giggles. 2 After six months of dating the same guy, you’re not sure where the relationship is going. He is very reluctant to talk about his feelings. What do you do? A Keep your options open by dating other guys behind his back. B Ask him outright if there is a future for you as a couple. C Tell him that unless he makes a commitment, you will dump him. 3 The topic being discussed on a call-in radio programme is one that you feel strongly about. Would you…

KEEPING TRACK Even though the social club keeps a record of members’ payments, individuals are encouraged to keep track of their contributions as well. This way they know how much they are saving and won’t be surprised when it seems like they have contributed a lot but have not in reality. They have avoided disputes so far because the members understand the importance of respecting one another and keeping lines of communication open and honest. The biggest lesson they have learnt is to save money over time and not look for big returns as fast as possible. They save at an easy pace and have found it to be effective. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your…

SIT. Stay. Fetch. Roll over. These are all standard tricks pet owners love to teach their precious pooches. But for Harlso, as he’s affectionately known to his humans Jennifer Scott and Paul Lavery, these commands are just so last year. With his big eyes, stumpy legs and droopy ears, the delightful little dachshund from Belfast in Northern Ireland has become Instagramfamous for his most unusual party trick: his jaw-dropping balancing act. Whether he’s working with a doughnut, an avocado or a cup of coffee, Harlso has the uncanny ability to hold an item perfectly in place on his adorable little head. Harlso was taken in by Jennifer (29) and Paul (30) when he was four months old. “When Harlso was two, I was playing fetch with him at home,” Paul…

Q DO YOU HAVE ANY TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE HIGH HEELS MORE COMFORTABLE TO WEAR? A They may look fab but walking on high heels the whole day can really hurt! First things first – make sure your heels are the right size. Your foot size can change over the years, so have them sized every now and then. Choose chunkier heels and thicker soles, because these tend to be more comfortable. Silicone shoe inserts, which you can buy at pharmacies, can help alleviate the pressure on the ball of your foot.…

I HOPE you’ve had a good festive season and a smooth entry into the New Year. As we welcome 2020, we are blessed to be alive and kicking. However, life is not only about counting years, it’s also about making each year count. Having HIV can entrench the belief in us that our victory over the illness is limited to only counting years living with the virus. But this is being imprisoned by a victim mentality, and we ought to be triumphant. FROM VICTIM TO CONQUEROR The journey towards being triumphant starts with fully embracing HIV. Eliminate self-pity because it pushes you to only see yourself as a victim. ‘YOU ARE ALIVE AND FULL OF POTENTIAL’ Take it a few steps further and live a full life with HIV. A…

CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN It’s a week to make the most of your innate strengths, what with the sun still residing in your sign. You should be able to use your practical nature, organisational skills and responsible streak successfully. It’s also an opportune time to go for gold, whether you’re targeting a professional goal or a personal aspiration. Don’t let doubts block you. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 28, 43, 10, 25, 19 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Venus, planet of attraction, moves in to your money horoscope this week, smoothing the road for ways and means to boost your finances. You may meet souls with fiscal know-how or attract money-spinning ventures and beneficial deals. However, it’s also true that must-have items might lure you in to spending.…

“Firstly, if your partner or someone close to you truly wishes to die and has a plan and intention to follow through, get immediate help,” says Lufuno Raphalalani, a social worker based in Norwood, Johannesburg. “Currently your spouse is facing a tough time, so are you. You must have com-passion, patience and insight to get you through this. “You should let your husband know you are there for him if he ever needs to talk. Encourage him to go for counselling, and you too. Support and communication in any relationship is fundamental. Keep in mind the mourning process takes time, and remember there’s no right or wrong way to mourn. Give him the time and space he needs, while standing by with love and support. “You also need to be…

GOOD daily habits are the building blocks of a healthy lifestyle, and a healthy lifestyle has benefits both now and in the future. In the short term, it ensures you get more out of life because you feel energetic and positive. It helps to protect against lifestyle diseases and safeguards mental health. “A daily routine of good choices is absolutely key to overall health,” says Dr Marike Ransome from The Family Doctor in Rondebosch, Cape Town. The word “routine” may sound intimidating, so keeping things basic but consistent is important. “We all need to slow down and aim for balance and that means making good choices every day,” she adds. BE AN EARLY BIRD Being ahead of the clock is the best defence against a morning routine that leaves you…

LOLO CRY MONAMISTO It sounds unfair as there’s a drastic change you need to make. I don’t blame you if you decide to call it quits. If you decide to support him, you’re going to grow and God will reward you. Decide through prayer. SISANDA MASISA MANQOLO This is what Apostle Paul talks about when he says we shouldn’t be “unequally yoked”. Sit and talk to him. Be honest about how you feel. But him finding Jesus is the best thing and if you’re not going to be his true helper, you should end it. PATRICK RATHOKOLO In life we must socialise and communicate. Support him but he should not be too protective or he’ll concentrate too much on you and not his calling. As long as he’s not abusing…

NO MATTER how much your salary is, it’s likely you feel you’re not being paid enough. But how do you know for sure? Most people don’t know if their salaries are market-related (the average salary for a particular job in a particular industry). Here’s how you can ensure that it is – and what to look out for when you apply for a new job. FIND OUT IF IT’S A FAIR OFFER When applying for a new job, it’s important to know the minimum and maximum salaries for that level of position in your industry. Firstly, this allows you to make sure you aren’t being offered too little. Secondly, it shows your prospective employer that you’re knowledgeable of developments in your industry and capable of making informed decisions. Here’s how…

HE WAS recently awarded gospel song of the year for Engipha at this year’s SABC Crown Gospel Music Awards. It’s from his second album, Ungikhathalele. With two successful records, the first being Siyaya released in 2016, Lwando “Jumbo” Nyangiwe says he is grateful for his career and fans. But the person he is most grateful for, he says, is his mother, Mantombi Tshali (69), who inspired most of the songs on his albums. MOM’S GUIDANCE His mother plays a huge role in his songwriting, he tells us. She taught him the song Singenise, which featured on his first record and for which he also won a gospel song of the year award at the Crown Gospel Music Awards in 2017. “My relationship with my mother is lovely,” Jumbo tells us.…

LOOKING FOR LOVE I’m a man looking for a professional lady aged between 45 and 60. She can be from anywhere in South Africa and have kids or not. If interested, call me on 064-707-7712 I’m 51-year-old mother of one from Cape Town. I’m looking for a single or divorced, honest man who is aged 55 or older. Feel free to WhatsApp me on 076-465-3317 I am an HIV-positive man from Limpopo. I’m looking for love from any race, anywhere. Please call me on 079-902-9880 I’m a 25-year-old HIVnegative woman from Mandeni, KwaZulu-Natal. I am looking for a man who is between the ages of 27 and 40. I have a son so I don’t mind if the man has kids, but not more than three. I’m okay with a…