Table of contents for 1/15/2020 in Move!

‘IT’S TIME TO START DOING THINGS DIFFERENTLY’ TIME FOR CHANGE It’s the beginning of another year and time to plan how you’ll reach your next set of goals. From past experience, you might find that as the year goes by you end up doing the same things you did the year before, and the year before that. If you truly want to change for the better in 2020, it’s time to start doing things differently. Time is your most precious asset. If you spend it unproductively, positive change won’t be possible. Most of us know when we’re wasting time, whether it be watching TV, scrolling through social media or playing video games. Sometimes we need to kick back and relax, but this needs to be balanced with activities that’ll take…

A LITTLE bit of drama, a lot of talent and someone who believes in them. That was the recipe that got the Qwabe twins their first hit – and they’re looking forward to many more. The popular twins hit the ground running after their controversial exit from TV singing competition Idols. There were allegations of bullying and mistreatment, but Viggy and Virginia Qwabe (22) have moved on from the drama. They released their first single, Hamba – featuring DJ Tira – in time for the festive season and the video for the track has had thousands of views. “Our sound is afro-pop and afro-soul but we don’t want to limit ourselves,”Virginia explains. “We won’t mind doing any type of sound to accommodate everyone.” LEARNING THE ROPES The twins have been…

Summer sun and carefree days were in store for many of our local celebs who took some time to relax and unwind during the December break. Here’s a look at what some of them got up to:…

THEY were a mom and dad with a dream to see their daughter walk on her own two feet in a pair of pretty shoes. Now their precious little girl is living proof that dreams do come true – and testimony that sometimes parents should stick to their instincts, no matter what medical professionals may tell them. After a year toing and froing between home in Jozi and Florida in the US, the Moropa family loved being back together for the holiday season. And bubbly little Phenyo (3) is indeed standing on her own two feet – and even trying out a few dance moves. COSTLY PROCEDURE “It’s nice seeing her walk, play around and do things,” the tot’s mom, Gillian (30), tells us at their Midrand home.“She’s adjusting and…

HE’S happiest with his shirt off and in the open air with his four-legged buddies – some of whom weigh four times more than he does and could kill him with one swipe of a giant paw. Meet Kody Antle, a real-life Tarzan who’s become a social-media sensation thanks to his incredible bond with wild animals. The 29-year-old’s Instagram account is filled with videos of him play-wrestling Bengal tigers, monkeying around with chimps and hanging out with Bubbles the elephant, all of which reside at his family’s Myrtle Beach Safari park in South Carolina in the US. “I believe I have some otherworldly connection with these animals because of the way I’ve been raised,” he says. “We have this Tarzan-like connection.” Kody may be “the only person in the world…

1 Foundation Apply face primer. This keeps the foundation in place for longer and helps to keep your skin looking matte. Next, apply foundation with a foundation brush or a beauty blender. Start on the areas that need the most attention, like dark spots. Blend in a rolling motion, making sure the foundation is blended well. TIP You can spray a setting spray on your beauty blender for longer-lasting cover. 2 Brows Brush your brows with a spoolie brush then draw a line under each brow and another on top, starting at the thickest part of the brow. Fill your brows with a pencil following the direction of your hair. Use a spoolie again to blend everything. Next, use a concealer along the top and bottom of each brow, getting…

‘THE SHERIFF WHO WENT TO SERVE HIM WITH THE DIVORCE COULDN’T FIND HIM’ AN EXPENSIVE BUY Q My mother bought a stove at a furniture store on an instalment basis. She is supposed to pay R627 for a period of three years. This would amount to R22 572, which is a lot more than the actual cost of the item. She is a pensioner and this is a lot of money for her to part with each month. I went to the store with her and the manager told me that when she first came in to buy this stove, they explained everything to her. She disputes this, saying she was given a phone to talk to somebody who she couldn’t even hear and was told to agree to what…

‘IF I AM HAPPY, I EAT. IF I AM SAD, I EAT MORE’ MARRIAGETALK ANGERS HIM Q I’ve been in a “vat-’n-sit” relationship for three years. Whenever I bring up marriage, my boyfriend gets angry and defensive. He says I’m ungrateful as I already stay in his flat. I want to get married because I want to start a life with him and have children, but he doesn’t explain his anger. How can I get him to talk about our future in a calm, positive way? FRUSTRATED, EMAIL A It’s good that you want to talk about your future. It’s something couples should discuss openly from the beginning of a relationship to ensure you’re both on the same page and have the same goals. Then, as the relationship continues, you…

Q SEX AFTER AN ABORTION I’m 25 years old. I had an abortion three weeks ago. How long do I have to wait before I can have sex again? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A I’m sorry to learn about your loss. The general advice is that you can continue on your sexual journey once the bleeding you experienced after the surgery has stopped. This gives your uterus time to heal. It takes about two weeks. After that, you can continue based on when you feel ready. Depending on your reasons for the abortion and your experience, you might need mental and emotional healing too. Speak to your partner or a counsellor about how you’re feeling about the abortion as well as how you feel about continuing your sexual journey. Also, know that…

WE’VE all had those mornings when you’ve either overslept or pressed the snooze button once too often and ended up rushing to get out the door on time, shoving a piece of toast into your mouth as you go. And it’s all downhill from there. Nobody wakes up hoping to have a bad day. Yet we often set ourselves up for one by the way we handle our mornings, experts say. Some even believe your routine and what time you wake up are major predictors of happiness and success. You make or break your life between 5am and 7am, motivational speaker Benjamin Hardy, author of How To Consciously Design Your Ideal Future, writes in a recent blog post. He believes how you start your day is important because while you…

THE FIRST day of Grade 1 can be traumatic: shaking bodies, sweaty palms and plenty of tears – and those are just the parents! Some children are able to say goodbye at the school gate and walk to class with confidence. For others, it can be an anxious time at a place that is far removed from their family and friends. Anything new is scary, even for adults and more so for children. Claudia Abelheim, an educational psychologist from Joburg, offers advice on how parents can make the transition to “big school” easier for their little ones. GET YOUR CHILD READY 1 Talk about their fears. Find out what scares your child when they think about the first day at school. “This will be a very big change for them,…

JESUS uplifted those placed on the periphery of society by harmful cultural and religious norms. The dehumanised and victimised found comfort and wholeness in Jesus Christ. The challenge for us today is to offer Jesus’ comfort and wholeness to those in our society who’ve been dehumanised and victimised by gender-based violence (GBV). GBV is prevalent in our society and the church and society must respond urgently to this scourge. Domestic violence, rape, sexual harassment and all forms of violence are inflicted on individuals, based on their gender. It’s something we as a nation shouldn’t tolerate. How can we sleep in peace when we’re faced with such horrors? A BROKEN SOCIETY GBV leaves people wounded and broken, which breaks down our society. As a society we should be brave enough to…

IT’S January – you’ve just gone back to work, the kids are preparing to go back to school and the festive season is officially over. It’s back to reality. You’re consumed with thoughts of stationery for the kids, school uniforms, taking care of your siblings and parents, making sure you have enough petrol or bus fare to get to work for the rest of the month, and money for the little things that always crop up during the longest month of the year. In all this, it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself – and burn out even before the year ends. So no matter how busy you are getting the year started, take time out to take care of yourself – of your mental health, of your…

LEARNING & GROWING The Lebogang Burial Club often attends stokvel indabas and seminars to learn how to enrich the club and make its money grow. They learnt to ensure financial transparency and have set rules for finances. For example, at least two people are nominated to authorise withdrawals and their financial records are open to all members for inspection. Drawing up a constitution with the input of all the members is also important – it can outline the rules for finances as well as other guidelines. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

FOR years she spent thousands of rands on underwear. Her breasts were so large she was forced to have her size 36K bras custom-made. But it wasn’t just the staggering cost of her undergarments that hurt Nompilo “Ntathu” Zungu. There was also the unbearable back pain and the unwanted attention she was forced to put up with. “Guys would approach me, and I’d say, ‘Hi’, but they would say, ‘Hi’ to my boobs. I felt sexualised and my cleavage was always in the way – even shopping was a hassle,” Ntathu says. TAKING THE PLUNGE She’d learnt to grin and bear it but over time it took a toll so she decided to do something about it. But when she told her family she was going under the knife to…

HE’S always had a knack for music. As Siyabulela “Supta” Sithole (27) got older, he hoped to one day work with acclaimed musician Prince Kaybee. And that wish came true when he got to collaborate on the hit song, Gugulethu. The song has been nominated for a DSTV Mzansi Viewers’ Choice Award, something he wasn’t expecting but is grateful for, he tells Move!. ROAD TO THE TOP Born and bred in Maletswai in the Eastern Cape, Siyabulela met Prince Kaybee when he moved to Bloemfontein and they became friends. They waited for the perfect opportunity to collaborate, he says. “He was always one of my favourite DJ’s and when I would give him some sound to hear he would be honest with me and tell me the song just was…

OUCH! A little boy and a little girl are sitting outside a clinic. One of them is crying very loudly. Little boy: Why are you crying? Little girl: I came here for a blood test. Little boy: So? Were you afraid? Little girl: No. But, for the blood test, they cut my finger and it hurts. At this, the little boy starts crying profusely. The little girl is astonished. Little girl: Why are you crying now? Little boy: I’ve come for a urine test! TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE After buying his new hearing aid, the old man is excited as he heads back to the nursing home. “I am able to hear something two whole blocks away,” he tells his nurse. “Cool, I bet it costs a fortune .…

ETON MESS CAKE MAKES 1 LARGE CAKE PREPARATION: 20 MIN ■ 2 store-bought vanilla sponge cakes ■ 2 tubs (230g each) cream cheese ■ 125ml (½c) icing sugar ■ 800g fresh strawberries ■ 6-8 large store-bought meringues, broken into large pieces 1 Halve each sponge cake horizontally to create four layers. You can keep one cake layer aside to use later for a trifle. 2 Put the cream cheese in a mixing bowl and beat in half the icing sugar until the mixture is smooth. 3 Trim the stalks off 600g of the strawberries. Put the strawberries in a bowl, sift the remaining icing sugar over and bash to break up roughly. 4 Put one cake layer on a cake stand, spread a quarter of the cream cheese mixture over,…

‘I’VE COME TO EMBRACE ALL THAT MAKES ME WHO I AM...’ TV personality and rapper Boity Thulo is ready and excited to share her fabulous journey with Mzansi on her brand-new reality TV show ‘Boity: Own Your Throne’. Thrilled to have bagged a new title as a reality TV star, Boity real name Boitumelo Thulo, amped up her fans with a teaser she shared on social media late last year showing unseen footage of her music creation, the social aspect of her glitzy life and public engagement with her fans. The show will be based on her life behind doors and career, which she’s so far kept close to her chest. “To be honest, the decision took a lot of convincing to make, but most of it came from me…

LOW sex drive is a common sexual health issue. Throughout our lives, our libido changes. When it’s low it can be due to medical reasons such as menopause or emotional reasons such as stress. If you’ve been stuck in a rut for a while and want to up your game, one of the easiest and most affordable ways to do so is with food. “There are a number of foods that are considered to be aphrodisiac in nature” says Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza, an educational sexologist and Move!’s regular sexual health columnist. “Certain foods interact with the body to bring about the required effect but also include general health benefits.” The effects include lowering stress, relaxing blood vessels and increasing blood flow to the relevant sexual areas, she adds. Here…

A COUPLE’S VIEW Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman whose husband’s mistrust is negatively affecting her life. I love my husband very much. We’ve been married for three years. We’re both highly invested in our careers but we also spend a lot of time together. My biggest problem with him is that I find myself isolated from my friends. He wants to control my every move. When we’re apart he wants to know who I’m with and why. I have to account for every phone call and message I get. His jealousy has become so bad I feel I have no life of my own anymore. How do I cope with my jealous husband? And at what point is jealousy toxic? OVERWHELMED UNCONTROLLED jealousy can have…

As a parent, you know your child best and will be the first to spot any change in their behaviour. Any change could be an indication of a child who is struggling. Look out for these signs: a change in sleeping patterns; an increase or decrease in appetite; mood changes; or if they start to lose interest. Listen to how your child feels and let them talk. As a parent, your instinct is to interrupt and put a positive spin on the transition. Instead, allow your child to voice their concerns.…

Martin has this advice for creating a CV: ■ There are many CV formats and “modern”templates these days which are graphically appealing. Google some templates. ■ Your CV should make an impact in the shortest time. ■ Keep your CV appropriate to your industry, the skills your industry values should be highlighted on the first page. ■ It must tell a compelling but short story of your career history. Use reverse chronology – latest experience followed by the oldest experience. ■ Aim for a CV length of 2-4 pages. Recruiters do not have time for long elaborate CVs. ■ Use powerful language such as action verbs. ■ Headings should be bold so that they stand out and guide the reader to find what they are looking for. ■ Use a…

HE recently dropped his sixth album and is celebrating 23 years in the music industry. Gospel singer Sthembiso Soboyisi (43) says he’s on top of his game. His latest album, I Am Nothing Without You, and its hit singles Ndingabayini and Uthixo Wophakama, are doing very well. In fact, they’re doing much better than any of his previous work and he feels on top of the world, he tells Move!. “I’m the next big thing in South Africa,” he says. HIS BEST YET “I’m happy people are buying my album,” Sthembiso says, “and that it’s been getting a lot of radio airplay, because I live off my music.” He says God was with him during the recording process and that he can finally see the fruits of his labour. “This…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Randeka Constance Nghonyama (64) from Malamulele, Limpopo recently graduated with a diploma in electrical engineering. She went back to high school at age 40 and finished matric at 43. Move readers have their say. Well done Randeka Nghonyama. There’s something very special about that lovely province of Limpopo. SIBUSISO MVUBU She’ll own a successful company because at that stage her mind is well groomed . . . maybe she’ll rescue us from loadshedding. GEE KHUTHS Well done! You’re an inspiration to those who’ve given up. Thumbs up! MOSIMA MAUREEN These are people who inspire me and show me that I shouldn’t give up in life. TLADI WESSELS Graduating isn’t all about knocking on doors for employment. She can start her own electrical engineering company and start fixing electronics for bigger…

SHE’S been back on our screens for only a few days and already fans can’t get enough. Yes, one of TV’s biggest villains is shaking things up again on Scandal! –and her enemies aren’t too happy about it. Masasa Mbangeni is thrilled to be playing Thembeka Shezi in the e.tv soap again. A terminally ill Thembeka has returned to ask for forgiveness from her former husband, Quinton Nyathi (Brighton Ngoma) for lying to him about a lot of things – including his child’s paternity results . . . Everyone in Quinton’s circle is unsettled and watching her closely. Dintle (Mapaseka Koetle-Nyokong) and Layla McKenzie (Natasha Sutherland) are determined to find out what she’s doing back in town and are keen for her to return to wherever she’s been for the…

HE’S living proof that sometimes you have to make sacrifices for your dreams. When he gave up a nine-to-five job for the entertainment industry, he had no idea what the future would bring. But actor Bohang Moeko took the plunge anyway. And it’s been worth it. EARLY DAYS Bohang (31) wasn’t passionate about his job, he shares. While growing up, he always knew he wanted to be in the entertainment industry, but he didn’t pursue it. “My father is in construction so I studied quantity surveying at the University of Free State. I ended up with an honours degree. I left Bloemfontein and settled in Durban where I worked as a quantity surveyor for two years. “I was very unhappy with the job. I knew deep down that I wasn’t…

1 Which Beyoncé song was shortlisted for an Academy Award? A Brown Skin Girl B My Power C Spirit D Mood 4 Eva 2 The World Health Organization lists South Africa among the top five . . . -consuming nations? A Junk food B Alcohol C Water D Fizzy drink 3 The Beetles legend John Lennon’s famous round sunglasses were auctioned for about . . .? A R200 000 B R1m C R2,8m D R6m 4 Which country owns almost all living giant pandas in the world? A Australia B China C Canada D Denmark 5 Gargalaphobia is the fear of being . . .? A Dead B Happy C Thin D Tickled 6 Which organ in the human body can grow cells and regenerate itself? A Eye B Kidney…

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HIV has a tendency to make you feel inferior and sometimes worthless. You may think you’re experiencing God’s wrath, or that the forces of nature are against you. These negative emotions have the potential to dampen your spirit, hurt your self-esteem and work against your confidence. It’s important to constantly fight them before they adversely affect your journey of conquering HIV. ‘HIV DOESN’T DEFINE YOU – YOU CAN DEFINE YOURSELF BY RISING ABOVE IT’ Living with HIV requires you to take care of yourself through medication. But in addition, it’s important for you to have a positive outlook, especially when it comes to how you see yourself. You’re wonderfully and fearfully made, as well as loved unconditionally by God. You’re not an outcast. You are part of this world…

CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN Mercury, planet of commerce, moves into your financial horoscope this week. It’s a great time to use your fiscal expertise to fill your coffers. It’s, however, also a week where unforeseen expenses can wreak havoc with your cash flow, putting saving for a rainy day on the back burner. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 44, 2, 32, 41, 21, 15 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Your personal year is drawing to an end, which makes for a good week to take time out to consider the year ahead, as well as reflect. As it is, Mercury, the cosmic plotter and planner, moves into your sign this week, lending a helping hand with setting your intentions and formulating your goals. Your birthday is due soon, therefore…

“In the journey called relationships, there are a lot of things that can happen and sometimes we wonder if we have made the right choice in a spouse,” says Gladys Pule, a life coach and registered professional nurse based in Johannesburg. “You truly need to make up your mind about that flutter in your tummy that you feel where your colleague is concerned. Is it love? He has asked you to go out for dinner, but does that mean he is in love with you? “You have a fiancé and if he finds out about this dinner how will he take it? “Are you prepared to lose your fiancé because of this guy? “Sometimes we play with fire and lose what we have for something that may have been. “I…

ADROMANDO NEWAN It must be handled before we read about you in the newspapers. He must be willing to work on his insecurities. His past might be playing a role. You should go for counselling together. SIZWE DLAMINI Marriage is a partnership. Nobody owns the other, so no one has to account for everything they do. Refuse to be treated like a prisoner. Stand your ground or get out of that marriage. MDLULI LUKE He is an undercover, ticking time-bomb waiting for a moment to explode. I hope he gets help but if he doesn’t, I really hope you will pack and leave the moment he lays his hands on you.…

Primary school teachers weigh in on what is expected of your child: ■ Teach them to respect adults, starting at home, so they have respect for their teachers and other workers at the school. ■ Make sure your child wears the correct uniform. Label all their clothes and stationery clearly. Teach them to look after their possessions. ■ Get them into a routine so they get used to the structure at school. ■ Pack healthy lunches. Teach them how to use a toilet and to wash their hands before and after they eat. ■ Monitor your child’s homework, even if they attend aftercare. Check their diaries for homework – don’t just take your child’s word for it. ■ Write a signed note to your child’s teacher if they’re going to…

1 Which most accurately describes your ideal home? A Gleaming floors and beautifully polished furniture. B Comfortable but lived in. C Lots of textured surfaces so the dust doesn’t show. 2 When you have a party, you . . .? A Select your guests carefully and make detailed plans. B Invite a crowd and prepare by buying tons of wine and snacks. C Bring in a few crates of beer and have an open house. 3 When you’ve cooked dinner, you . . .? A Wash the dishes immediately and polish the table. B Rinse the plates and leave them till tomorrow. C Fold up the paper towels you ate off and throw them away. 4 Your bathroom is . . .? A Sparkling clean and the towels match the…

WOMEN from all over KwaZulu-Natal came to this gathering, hosted by Mpumelelo Msomi of the Mbaliyezizwe Zonke Foundation. The event was held at the Durban ICC. A panel of experts answered questions such as: is there such a thing as a perfect marriage? Can a marriage be saved after an affair? Can lack of sexual intimacy in marriage be revived and can a step-family really unite? The Mbaliyezizwe Zonke Foundation is dedicated to building healthy and sustainable marriages through mentoring and empowering women.…