Table of contents for 3/25/2020 in Move!

RECENTLY, at my cousin’s funeral, I looked around as people greeted one another. There were hugs and kisses and various other forms of greetings in a room full of hundreds of mourners. And all I could think about was: “OMG, if one person has the coronavirus, a lot of us are screwed.” I even asked if people are not yet taking precautions and I was told “it hasn’t arrived on our shores just yet”. Well, now it has. I know there’s been an outpouring of info out there about how to minimise the spread of this pandemic, but I would like to appeal especially to our communities to take precaution when greeting one another. I know we are preparing for funerals, traditional events and weddings. I know it’s our way…

Couldn’t have thought of anyone better myself . . . hope she’s not speaking on behalf of these greedy suit-wearing puppets. WANDILE MWANDLA She is a genius, happy for her. BOPHELO BO BOIMA I always wanted to see more of this woman going places. She’s a good speaker. I remember her on One Day Leaders, she nailed that part. ZODWA GUMBI So, someone please balance me, asseblief? So just because Masechaba is a radio and TV personality she’s not allowed to venture into other career paths? So she must stay in the showbiz industry forever? NTANDOKATHIXO ZULU Congratulations, Masechaba, good to see my black people going up and up. CHARLIE CHARLIE…

SHE is nothing like the saintly Maletsatsi we used to watch in Scandal!. In fact, Moipone couldn’t be more different, and her money-loving ways and decisions about her daughter are raising eyebrows across Mzansi. Moipone was once a beauty queen in Alexandra and is struggling to come to terms with how her life has turned out. But she refuses to accept that she’s not living the life of milk and honey and this is when she makes controversial decisions. Veteran actress Joyce Skefu (55) tells Move! how she loves playing Moipone in SABC2’s Lithapo. CONTROVERSIAL CHARACTER From the first time she laid eyes on the script, she knew she had to be Moipone. “As soon as I was told about who she really is I was like, ‘Can we shoot…

HE’S proof that you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it. It’s taken seven years to get to where he is and it’s all because he didn’t give up. Slikour, real name Siyabonga Metane (38), has turned his website into a digital content agency. The former rapper also recently partnered with Channel O in a first of its kind deal which will see his YouTube channel content feature on the network. A TOUGH INDUSTRY Slikour remembers the hardship of starting out after he was called problematic following the release of his song, Blacks R Foolz in 2012. In the song he addresses topics like industry deals going to white artists. Slikour tells Move! he has no regrets over the song. “But I must remember that South Africa…

SHE grew up in a house filled with taxi owners and they all had one thing in common – they were all men. Which is why Bontlefeela Mogoye isn’t scared of getting into male dominated industries. She first started out as a major in the South African National Defence Force, now she’s facilitating conversations about getting more women involved in the taxi industry. She recently went viral while driving a taxi around Johannesburg and she’s decided to use that to make the space more open to women. WHERE IT ALL STARTED It all started as a joke when she drove a taxi to go source clothes for her styling project. “I was sourcing clothes for Africa’s 50 Most Powerful Women for Forbes Africa magazine and my friends were taking videos…

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PAP ARANCINI We used pap instead of rice for these delicious stuffed balls. MAKES ABOUT 12 BALLS PREPARATION: 30 MIN CHILLING: 15 MIN COOKING: 30 MIN ■ 15ml (1T) olive oil ■ 200g bacon pieces ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 2 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 4x250ml (4c) cooked pap, room temperature ■ 250ml (1c) grated mozzarella ■ 125ml (½c) grated mature cheddar ■ 125ml (½c) grated Gouda ■ salt and freshly ground pepper CRUMB ■ 2 eggs, whisked ■ 30ml (2T) milk ■ 125ml (½c) flour ■ 250ml (1c) breadcrumbs ■ oil for deep-frying GREMOLATA ■ handful fresh parsley, chopped ■ 2 garlic cloves, crushed ■ grated zest of 1 lemon ■ salt 1 Heat the oil in a pan and fry the bacon until crispy. Add the onion and…

SELBY MAHUMANE Marriage is not a one-man show. You work on things together. If there are major decisions that need to be taken in your marriage, one must ask for the opinion of the other. By so doing, you will avoid later disappointment. LULEKA LULU MAMGCINA MTSILA It means you no longer think about only yourself. Know that you have a partner now. You can’t do things alone. You must consult your partner beforehand and you must love one another as you love yourselves. PENUEL EDGAR DLADLA In whatever you decide to do, it must be decided between the two of you. Be each other’s pillars. When one is down, be strong for them and vice versa. In all you do, make it a solution you came to together.…

There are strict procedures that need to be adhered to in terms of the Labour Relations Act when you are retrenched. HOW RETRENCHMENT WORKS Employers must be able to precisely explain how many people will be laid off, why they’re being retrenched and when it will happen. This must be followed by consultations during which employees can make suggestions to avoid lay-offs. The employer has to consider employees’ suggestions and give them feedback. If retrenchment is unavoidable, employees need to be informed of it individually and their severance compensations discussed. They’re also entitled to certain legal notice periods. Employers may reach an agreement with employees not to work during their notice period, but employees must still be paid during that time. Notice periods differ but a general guideline is: ■…

Last year we did some research with you, our wonderful readers, and you gave us so many great tips and suggestions. And we have listened to you! From next week your favourite magazine, Move!, will now only be available every second week – instead of weekly, as so many of you requested. This is because we understand that times are tough, your groceries are getting a little bit too expensive and the kids always need new school supplies. But we also know you can’t do without your Move! fix and we would like to make sure you don’t miss out anymore. So, from April, you will be able to get your favourite mag twice a month. But don’t worry, your Move! will still have the same content you love –…

SHE’S been bullied for everything from boozing to her looks and clothes. And most recently, people laid into her simply because she was out having a good time. In a video circulated on social media, Zahara is seen laughing, dancing and generally having a blast with her buddy, Mshayi. Nothing wrong with a little innocent fun between friends, right? But when the Afro-soul sensation is heard singing along to his gqom track in the wrong key, the knives really came out on social media. Was she drunk, people wanted to know. Had she fallen off the wagon? Not at all, Zahara (31) tells us. Earlier that day, she had performed for a 30 000-strong crowd at a stadium in Khayelitsha, Cape Town. After belting out her best ballads, she wanted…

SHE’S all about self-care and she has entered the spotlight with a new poetic offering about just that. Poet Sana King (20) has written a book, Songs Broken Women Sing, about cutting out things that shouldn’t be in your life. “I wrote the book in the space of a week. I released energy I had bottled up. When I read the book for the first time, it was healing. “I could relate to it. That, for me, was confirmation that if I can feel it, someone else might get that feeling too.” Through her collections of poetry, Sana, real name Thobile Pamela Mavuso, has learnt to heal and wants her audience to have a sense of belonging through her work. “You can just read the book and restore your energy.”…

FAUX LOCKS Nompumelelo Matlakala (22), Polokwane “I was inspired by my mom. She’s had dreads for a long time and they’re neat and well looked after. Plus, I love the natural look.” TIP Achieve beautiful dreadlocks in a few hours with faux locks. They’re neat and light. Use oil sheen spray to keep them fresh. BLONDE BRUSH CUT Sihle Vuso (24), Port Elizabeth “I love this style because it’s trendy. I was inspired by [model] Amber Rose. The colour suits my skin tone.” TIP For hair as short as this, use a soft-bristled brush and a wax to keep it in place. Recolour every six weeks, but only on new growth. PURPLE DREADS Lindo Sibiy a (28), Soweto “I’ve always felt more comfortable with dark colours but in the holidays…

TUBERCULOSIS is one of the leading causes of death worldwide. And although it is an entirely separate medical condition, it is important that it’s discussed alongside HIV. WHAT IS TB? Tuberculosis (TB) is a disease that affects your lungs but there are other forms that affect your brain and bone marrow. It’s airborne, which means you can get it by breathing it in. If not treated, TB can lead to death. In 2018, about 10 million people worldwide fell ill with TB. Countries that accounted for 87% of those TB cases included South Africa, China, Indonesia, the Philippines, Pakistan, Nigeria and Bangladesh. ‘TB CAN BE TREATED OVER A PERIOD OF SIX MONTHS’ LINK TO HIV Although TB is a separate disease, it is often confused with HIV. This is mainly…

ARIES 21 MAR – 19 APR Others, namely your friends, may be the cause of frustration and irritation. Try to minimise confrontation. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 5, 42, 13, 39, 31, 27 TAURUS 20 APR – 20 MAY It’s a week to seize the day, rather than letting grass grow under your feet. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 34, 10, 21, 52, 15, 49 GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN Info overload can turn you into a ball of nerves or you can run out of steam by spreading yourself thin. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 32, 11, 48, 36, 1, 38 CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL This week, little time may be left to dwell in your own space. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 34, 10, 40, 6, 30, 25 LEO 22 JUL – 22…

“You need to ask yourself a few questions,” says Busisiwe Malangwane, a registered counsellor and owner of BI Malangwane Counselling. “Why would you want to depend on another human being for your own survival? If you find such a man and you break up, what will happen to you and your needs then? “Sometimes people you depend on mistreat you. This means that if they abuse you (be it physical, emotional, verbal or otherwise), you might end up tolerating it as you depend on them for everything. “Times have changed – most men now are attracted to women who are ambitious and educated. They now love being challenged as opposed to having a women who sits around doing nothing all day. “Eventually you’ll also get bored of this life of…

‘IT TAKES EFFORT TO PUT OUR SPOUSE ABOVE OURSELVES’ THE idea of a married couple becoming one is a spiritual one. It is built on the understanding that after marriage, there are no longer two single individuals, but now the two people in the marriage make one unit, one couple. This is not to say that either one of them loses their individuality. They are, of course, still two separate people with distinct personalities, with individual needs and desires, hopes and dreams. However, when we choose to join with another in marriage, we focus on the “we” and “ours” rather than on “me” and “mine”. We journey alongside our partner. TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER Your spouse is now a major part of you. Just as you would protect and…

ON 27 April, South Africans will be celebrating Freedom Day. The day has received more criticism than celebration over the past few years, especially from the youth. “Without the land, it is disingenuous to celebrate freedom because the struggle for freedom centred and originated on the land question,” one young person said. This is a sentiment held by many young people. And to ignore these views will have dire consequences. FREEDOM AS A STATE OF BEING A growing number of South Africans hold the view that we can’t continue to celebrate Freedom Day while many citizens are still without running water, electricity, land, good healthcare and a good education system. These issues are indeed all true and they need urgent and critical attention. However, I don’t believe attaining these things…

LOOKING FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY I’m looking for Tseko Motaung from Sebokeng. He was a soldier in Pretoria around 1994. If anyone knows him, please contact me 078-035-7831 ■ My name is Amanda Skhokhiya and I’m from Witbank. I was born in 1990. I am looking for my biological father, Mandla. He used to work at an Ackermans store in Middelburg, Mpumalanga. His best friend was Frans who worked at a Checkers. They lived at Jabulani Hostel. My late mom was Pinky Pumpu Skhokhiya. If anyone knows him and where he is, please share that information with me on 076-767-9590 LOOKING FOR LOVE I’m a 40-year-old man from Gauteng looking for a woman who is willing to settle down in a serious relationship. She must be between 35 and 45.…

AUTHOR Phumlani Pikoli held his latest book launch at the revamped Exclusive Books store in Brooklyn, Pretoria. The book, Born Freeloaders: A Novel, follows a crew of young friends through a time of drinking, wild parties and other recklessness, but also tells of South Africa’s colonisation and the consequences thereof. Publisher Pan Macmillan South Africa adds, “And alongside the friends’ uneasy awareness of their privilege is a heightened sense of discomfort at their inability to change the world they were born into.”…

For the past few weeks, social media has been abuzz with the story of an Australian boy named Quaden Bayles, who has dwarfism, who gained global fame after his mom filmed him talking about being bullied by fellow learners. This shows that bullying exists everywhere and can start at a very early age. Another form of bullying that is not receiving the much-needed attention is one that takes place in the workplace. This behaviour is mostly perpetrated by those who abuse their power or privilege to settle personal agendas. The reason it is hardly seen as a form of bullying is that society generally believes adults cannot be bullied. This is false. Adults are people too and they also have emotions. Workplace bullying affects the wellbeing of the employees who…

A COLLECTIVE This group advises anyone who is a member of any stokvel or thinking of joining one, to open a saving accounts for the group. This avoids a member being responsible for cash and possibly misusing it. They also suggest that all the decisions that are made concerning the stokvel must be made as a collective. Decisions should be captured so it can be referred to. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

SHE’S just joined one of the most sought-after soapies in Mzansi. Sibusisiwe Jili is the latest addition to Mzansi Magic’s The Queen. She plays the already popular Georgina “GG” Zulu, the eldest daughter to Petronella (Thembsie Matu) and Mjekejeke (Sipho Manzini), a warrant officer who just transferred from the Free State. She’s been partnered with Vuyiswa Jola (Zandile Msutwana) at the Tembisa police station. GG only became a police officer as a last resort because of unemployment. “She’s a hard worker, go-getter and, most importantly, loves looking good at all times with her weaves and nails on point. Although she can be viewed as a slay queen, she can change it up and be aggressive when needed. She clashes with Vuyiswa who thinks she would be a great cop if…

IT’S one thing to get a surprise gift, but imagine that gift was your first trip across the globe! That’s exactly what was in store for actress Nomzamo Mbatha’s mother, Phumzile Mbatha (58), after her celeb daughter treated her to a holiday in Istanbul, Turkey. “Unfortunately, I missed her birthday last year as I was in LA. I decided to do something different this year to celebrate how hard she works and for the woman that she is,” Nomzamo (29) gushes. It’s no surprise Phumzile was excited yet nervous for her first trip overseas, but flying business class, staying in a lavish hotel, having breakfast at a palace and enjoying a trip on a yacht to discover the city’s Asian and European sides, we’re sure she had the time of…

THE END IS NEAR A local priest and a local pastor are standing by the side of the road holding up a sign that says, “THE END IS NEAR! Turn around now before it’s too late!” They plan to hold up the sign to each passing car. “Leave us alone, you religious nuts!” shouts the first driver as he speeds by. From around the bend in the road they hear a big splash. “Do you think,” says one clergyman to the other, “we should just hold up a sign that says ‘bridge broken’ instead?” FAIR PLAY One morning a mother is called to pick up her sick son at the school nurse’s office. When she walks through the main entrance, she notices a woman with curlers in her hair wearing…

Q HOW OFTEN SHOULD I WASH/ CLEAN MY MAKEUP BRUSHES? A If you wear makeup two or more times in one week then it’s best to wash your brushes every week. This will prevent the spread of bacteria and skin inflammation. Use a mild shampoo and conditioner to clean them, and make sure you dry them flat away from direct sunlight. Use your hands to clean your makeup brushes because you will be as gentle you need to be but still effective. Do not waste water by washing your brushes with running water and then rinsing them again with running water. Rather fill the basin to wash and rinse. If you’ve got too many brushes, replace the water halfway through your stash. STOCKISTS AFRITRUE (CLICKS) 0860-254-157, DENMAN (DIS-CHEM) 0800-201-170, FISHFINGERS…

Q A FRAUDULENT SALE My stepsister sold my father’s house after her mother passed away in 2015. She stole the title deed that was in both my father and her mother’s name. She sold the house without my father’s permission. He’s 75 and learnt she’d sold the property only when he was evicted. He is so depressed now. What can I do? BETRAYED, EMAIL A I suggest you take your father to a Legal Aid office near you (legal-aid.co.za to find your local branch or call 0800-110-110) or to a law clinic at a university. Ask that they help him with a court application to have the sale of the house reversed. An attorney can be appointed free of charge and the attorney can assist your father in defending the eviction.…

Q HE WON’T LEAVE ME ALONE I’ve been dating a guy, but I don’t want to be with him anymore. He keeps coming after me, telling me he loves me. I told him I don’t love him and I want his advances to stop. How do I get rid of him? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A If you have already told him more than once that you want to end things with him and he does not listen, the next step is to report him to the nearest police station for harassment and institute legal proceedings against him. Legally, harassment is defined as repeated unwanted contact and you have the right to take action. The contact does not have to be threatening for the police to help you. Q I WANT TO…

INTIMACY IN OUR HOME We have a one-bedroom flat and our three year old sleeps in a cot in the same room as us, often creeping into our bed in the middle of the night. I know this might be normal for many couples, but how do we make sure we remain intimate? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL It is very important that your child is not exposed to your sexual activities. They will not understand that the behaviour is for adults only and may engage in what they see with others and think it is acceptable. I suggest you plan your intimate time for when your child is not home. When they’re at school or visiting trusted family and friends, plan quick date nights that include lots of intimacy. Otherwise, find a…

Male infertility is a growing problem in their practice, says Lizanne van Waart of Wijnland Fertility in Stellenbosch. Common causes of male infertility are: ■ Abnormal sperm production or function. Causes can range from undescended testicles, health issues such as diabetes, and infections like chlamydia, gonorrhoea and HIV. ■ Cancer treatments such as radiation and chemotherapy can affect sperm production. ■ Damage to the reproductive organs can cause problems with the delivery of sperm, as can sexual problems such as premature ejaculation and certain genetic diseases. ■ Sometimes the problem is structural – like a blockage in the testicle. ■ Smoking, alcohol, marijuana use and anabolic steroids can all interfere with fertility, as can some medicines prescribed to treat high blood pressure, bacterial infections and depression. ■ Exposure to radiation,…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi Grootboom advise a woman who is confused about the concept of oneness in a marriage. I got married last December. At our wedding, there was a lot of talk about two people becoming one. What exactly does this mean? When we went to premarital counselling, the person who took us through the process couldn’t give us a satisfactory answer. We are still confused about what the concept of “oneness” means in marriage and we want to start our journey off on the right foot. CONFUSED WIFE…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/ activity.…