Table of contents for 7/2/2020 in Move!

TSHEGOFATSO Pule, Naledi Phangindawo, Emaan Solomons, Bandile Skosana, Sibongiseni Gabada, Sibahle Sowazi, Alexia Nyamadzawo and the list goes on. These women and children all have one thing in common – they are dead. They were killed by their loved ones, by strangers and by people who should have protected them. And they’re the ones we know about. Every year it seems we start a new list of gender-based violence victims. People who start a revolution they did not sign up to be part of. People who should today be alive and living their best lives. Tshegofatso and Sibahle, for example, should be welcoming their newborn babies into the world, having sleepless nights and making up lullabies. Instead, they’re names in a long list of women and children who are now…

FOR years she was known as the quiet Qondi in Isibaya who lived a true Cinderella story, going from being a tea server to being the queen. Now, after seven years, she’s shedding the persona and taking on a new exciting role. Jessica Nkosi is one of the new faces joining the Mzansi Magic telenovela The Queen. Jessica (30) tells us it wasn’t easy to leave Isibaya. “I feel some type of way about leaving Qondi behind. It most certainly wasn’t easy. She was the first character I ever played and Isibaya was the very first production I was a part of. It was my big break. “Isibaya shaped and moulded me, it’s where I grew as a person, as an artist and as a professional.” NEW BEGINNINGS While some…

HE’S quiet, funny and loyal to a fault. There’s nothing he won’t do for those he loves, including keeping their darkest secrets. Sicelo Buthelezi is new-kid-on-the-block Teddy in South Africa’s newest hit TV series, Gomora, and he’s not only a favourite among local viewers, he’s also found a fan in the universe’s most gorgeous woman. “Please tell Teddy that he’s a fave,” Zozibini Tunzi tweeted. “It is shocking that a whole Miss Universe knows who I am,” Sicelo says with a giggle. WHERE IT ALL STARTED When his dreams to become a soccer player didn’t quite pan out, Sicelo (21) pursued his passion for acting after high school and turns out, it was the best decision he could make. It all started when he saw a social-media post that there…

Facial recognition software uses biometrics to map facial features from a picture or video. It reads the geometry of your face, such as the distance between your eyes and the distance from your forehead to your chin. These facial landmarks, important in distinguishing your face, become your facial signature. The information can then be used to make comparisons with known faces in databases to find a match. Commercially, Apple first used the technology to unlock its iPhone X. According to the company, facial recognition decreases the chance of a stranger unlocking your phone to one in a million. Many governments use facial recognition technology at airports.…

HAVE you gone from a small comb to an Afro comb to no comb since the start of the lockdown? Have you stopped taking selfies because the hair just won’t let you be great? Are your relaxed locks a bit tense and has your ’fro shrunk in these trying times? You are not alone. You’re a bit frustrated, and so are we! Your hair is important to you and we get it, which is why your favourite magazine is here for you. Join us online for an interactive session hosted by DRUM and Move!’s beauty editor, Nthabiseng Makhokha, where we’ll try to fix your crown – virtually. She’ll be joined by hair influencer Carol Lali who’ll serve us some looks. Find out how the experts are maintaining their hair –…

‘CHEATING ALWAYS HAS CONSEQUENCES AND CAN IMPACT YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND SEXUAL JOURNEY’ Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza is an educational sexologist and businesswoman. She is a member of the Southern African Sexual Health Association (Sasha) and African Society for Sexual Medicine (ASSM). Q HE’S PUT OFF BY MY STATUS I told my new boyfriend that I am HIV-positive and now he wants nothing to do with me, and definitely won’t have sex with me. What can I do? CONCERNED, SMS A Sex and sexual health education go a long way and there are still people who stigmatise certain medical conditions, including HIV/Aids. He could be worried about becoming HIV-positive or perhaps he thinks it’s not possible for you to have children. Speak to him about seeing a social worker or counsellor…

During lockdown I’ve learnt about a side of my man I was never exposed to before. He can’t seem to openly deal with issues. With most of our arguments lately, he goes into silent-treatment mode. He knows how frustrating this is for me. I feel so isolated every time he does that. When I try to talk to him, he snaps at me. Honestly, I prefer that than the silent treatment. How do I manage a relationship with a partner who gives me the cold shoulder instead of talking things through? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL…

“Your relationship with your child is affected by your general wellbeing and mental health, especially during this time,” says Nthabiseng Madikgetla, a social worker based in Benoni. “A large part of how your child experiences this difficult time is dependent on you – they measure the seriousness of the situation by observing how you behave.” Madikgetla says taking care of your mental health means constantly taking the time to reflect on yourself. Be aware of the following: ■ Mild to severe irritation This may cause you to yell at your child, be impatient with them and overreact to their mistakes. Or you may be irritated by little things, such as when your child asks you to repeat the instruction you just gave them. If you have more than one child…

WHAT is hope? For me, it is the ability to live in a tough situation with an attitude of a better tomorrow. It is when one expects the positive during and after negative times. Hope is there when there is no promise and it sustains you in tough circumstances that seem not to go away. According to the Bible, hope is a product of experience. Romans 5:3-4 says, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Hope is an optimistic state of mind, when we begin to expect positive outcomes. Let hope be the driving force that pushes you forward even when every circumstance in your life seems to be against you. TRUST IN GOD Right…

NOT being able to open his door to the community didn’t stop Lumkile Mzukwa from launching his dream project, Lumkile’s Book Joint, during lockdown. In the heart of Gugulethu in Cape Town, he created a space – an extension to his home – where people can relax and read books. He’s had a few people visit (wearing protective masks, of course) but can’t wait for lockdown regulations to allow more people, especially youth, to experience what he has created. The joint holds his personal books, collected over 28 years. “It’s a space for the community to reflect, converse on various issues and promote development discourse. A space to promote positive outlooks about the future,” Lumkile says.…

STOP KILLING WOMEN I have read with utter disgust, anger and disappointment the story of the murder of Tshegofatso Pule, a pregnant woman whose body was found hanging with stab wounds in Roodepoort. It boggles the mind who in his right state of mind can perform such an evil act. Her story is one of the many horrible incidents engulfing our society, where femicide and gender-based violence have become the order of the day. Although these stories are published daily, it appears that this horrific and unacceptable behaviour continues to rear its ugly head. According to Women in Action website, the gender nature of domestic violence has unfortunately seen an increase in the number of women being murdered by their intimate male partners. ‘DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HAS UNFORTUNATELY SEEN AN INCREASE’…

‘I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE ON ISIBAYA AND FINALLY THE OPPORTUNITY CAME’ HE HAD to head into lockdown just a few weeks after landing his dream job. He spent his time exercising, meditating and bonding with family, waiting for the day he’d be called back to set. And the day came when the country moved to level 3 lockdown, and he now spends his days being Mickey Sibiya in Mzansi Magic’s Isibaya again. “I’ve always wanted to be on Isibaya and finally the opportunity came when I least expected,”Tiisetso Thoka tells Move!. PLAYING MICKEY “I got pinned for the role,”Tiisetso says, meaning they liked him for it. “They told me there’s a character they want me to play but they wanted me to come up with the ideas of how…

WITH their makeup-free faces, the glow of goddesses is what some of our local ladies are serving on Instagram – and we’re here for it! With no need for glam for appearances, gigs or events, here’s a look at some of our faves in all their natural glories.…

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‘LYING ABOUT QUALIFICATIONS IS A SERIOUS OFFENCE’ Q MY FAKE QUALIFICATIONS I’m being taken to a disciplinary hearing at my workplace for lying about my tertiary qualifications. I told them I have a master’s degree but I’m actually in my final year. I fear I may lose my job and that I will be blacklisted as a result. Is this possible? ANONYMOUS, EMAIL A When an employee lies about their qualifications, the employer has a right to hold a disciplinary hearing and subsequently dismiss the employee. This is because lying about qualifications is a serious offence and a criminal charge of fraud can be laid. Your employer can also bring a high court application and sue you for damages to recover the money they were paying you as a salary.…

You’re likely to be chatting to colleagues over Zoom, Microsoft Teams or some similar application every day. Bear in mind that when you are on a video call, people can see the room behind you so keep the background neutral and neat. If you’re expected to be on the phone all day, your employer should provide a headset. Holding the phone to your arm or cradling it between your shoulder and neck will cause you a world of pain. A lot of corded and Bluetooth wireless headphones have built-in microphones for taking calls. It’s worth getting a good pair of earphones or headphones if you have many video meetings.…

LULEKA LULU MAMGCINA MTSILA Pray about it. Ask yourself if he has always been this way. If he was not like that before lockdown, it could mean there is something going on with him, maybe cheating, sickness or stress. Find the reason and take it from there. LEBOGANG MAKAMA You can’t force him to deal with things your way. This lockdown will either strengthen your relationship or break it. He is a fully grown man who knows what he wants. Maybe the two of are not compatible. Choose what you want and be happy. PENUEL EDGAR DLADLA Try to talk to him when he is in a good mood. If the mood is not good, do stuff he loves, stuff that will remind him why he fell in love with…

SOME people find healing through song, some through music and others in art. She found it in fabric. Lebogang Sadiki (26) believes she has a calling. But instead of telling futures and healing all kinds of ailments like a sangoma, her vocation is different. She’s been called to bring light and appreciation for various cultures, which is why she started S’Africa Lamp Designs. “I kept on bumping into older people who would refer to me as gogo or nkgono. At first I didn’t understand why, until I started having vivid dreams. That’s when I knew there was something special about me,” she recalls. Born and raised in Winterveld, Pretoria, Lebogang decided she had to honour her ancestors somehow to show she was proud of her forefathers and her culture. She’s…

1 Gomora actress Ama Qamata landed a leading role in which Netflix show? A Queen Sono B Blood & Water CTjovito D Kalushi 2 Zakes Bantwini has been selected to contribute to whose Modern Loneliness Remix EP? A US singer Lauv B Jay-Z C Pharrell Williams D John Legend 3 The hashtag symbol is technically called a . . . ? A Underscore B Ampersand C Octothorp D Asterisk 4 The 100 folds in a chef’s hat represent 100 ways to cook or bake . . . ? A Pasta B An egg C Bread D Pastries 5 The unicorn is the national animal of? A Ireland B Austria C Scotland D Denmark 6 The . . . can mimic almost any sound it hears, including chainsaws? A Hummingbird B…

FINDING FRIENDS AND FAMILY ■ I am looking for my long-lost friend Nomawonga Tamba from the Eastern Cape. The last time I saw her was in 1974. We both attended Bensonvale Training School in Sterkspruit. If you know her whereabouts, please call me on 083-353-3348 ■ My name is Victor and I’m looking for my friend Ntsizwa from Waterval Boven in Mpumalanga. I last saw him when we were doing our first year in human resources management in the then-Technikon Pretoria (Mbombela branch) in 1996. His father was a taxi owner. Please call me on 076-122-0397 ■ I am looking for Julia Dladla who used to live in Mabopane. Her relatives are Theresa, Mapule and Tsepo Dladla. If anyone has info, please SMS me on 072-562-3953 ■ My name is…

IT WAS during my third year in university, while studying to become a nurse, that I had a stroke. My life took a big knock – one day I was fine and able to walk, and the next I couldn’t, as the stroke affected my left arm and leg. I couldn’t believe it was happening to me. I always saw stroke patients during my practical work at hospital, but now it was happening to me! I had a lot of questions. I asked God, “Why me? Why would You punish me like this? Will my boyfriend still love me like he did before I became paralysed?” FROM ANGER TO PRAISE I had a lot of time to think while lying in that bed. Not being able to walk made me…

Actress Zola Nombona showed off her newborn son recently. “Mommy and her Cub. I’m so in love it’s ridiculous,” she posted. Move! readers have their say. Congrats to my favourite actress. SIMO JULITH MAKGOBA My favourite actress. She’s talented, though. FREEMAN FREEZAR SIBANDA Love you, gal, and congrats. NORMA XABA Welcome, baby boy, to this big and noisy world. FAITH CHINDOVE Siyabonga, God bless your son. LESEDI XABA Wow, congrats to her! ONEZWA MTUZULA…

SHE’S not one to let the grass grow under her feet. After the success of her debut album Tugela Fairy, she’s already working on her second record. And to tide fans over Simmy recently released another single, Ngihamba Nawe. “Ngihamba Nawe came about when Sino Msolo, Sun-EL Musician and I were in studio together vibing. Sun-EL was playing different sounds and samples, Sino added some strings from his guitar and in that moment I knew it had to be a happy song – that is how the chorus came to life.” JUGGLING MUSIC Simmy, real name Simphiwe Nhlangulela (26), writes her tunes based on first-hand experiences. “The music I write is inspired by personal experiences and me telling stories I’ve been exposed to through the experiences and challenges of those…

THE heartache and pain are as intense as they were that awful day almost six months ago, when she learnt her son had drowned on a school trip. Anto Mpianzi (45) is trying to move on with her life and trying not to dwell on the death of her youngest child, Enock, but there are too many unanswered questions. The 13-year-old learner died at a Parktown Boys’High school camp at the Nyati Bush and Riverbreak near Brits in the North West. “Some questions have been answered, but most of them are still unanswered,”Anto tells Move!.“At this point, I know my child died. This is still really hurting me, and I do not want to start thinking again.” Enock’s family have begun legal proceedings to sue the basic education department and…

GAMMON SAMP AND BEANS The gammon adds a rich meaty flavour to ordinary samp and beans. SERVES 6 PREPARATION: 5 MIN SOAKING: OVERNIGHT COOKING: 2 HR 15 MIN ■ 500g samp and beans, soaked overnight ■ 500g smoked gammon ■ 1,5L (5c) water ■ 30ml (2T) oil ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 2 garlic cloves, chopped ■ 60ml (¼c) chicken stock ■ salt and freshly ground pepper ■ handful of parsley, chopped 1 Drain the soaked samp and beans and put in a large pot with the gammon. Add the water and simmer for 2 hours or until the gammon is tender. 2 Stir vigorously and use a fork to flake the meat. 3 Add the oil, onion, garlic, stock and salt and pepper. Continue to simmer until all the…

‘MY GIRLFRIEND IS SO DISHONEST IT’S HARD TO TRUST HER’ Q MY PARTNER ALWAYS LIES My girlfriend is so dishonest it’s hard to trust her. Everything she says or does has a catch. I always find out the truth later and when I confront her, she’s defensive. I can’t keep up with her anymore. Is there any hope? ANONYMOUS, SMS A There may be a number of reasons why she does that. They can be psychological and even related to a trauma. She needs help to identify the cause of her behaviour so that it can be addressed. A mental-health professional will be able to assist her best. You can choose to support her. However, she first needs to admit she has a problem and needs help. Q HE SPENDS…

CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL Mercury, master of the mind, is currently in retrograde in your sign, which could have an impact on your perceptions and thought processes, for better and for worse. It’s a time where a remark misunderstood may feel like a personal onslaught and result in a bad mood. However, reflection can be rewarding and introspection growth-provoking. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 30, 4, 26, 42, 19, 28 LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG With relationship-oriented Venus out of reverse gear, the scene is set for smoother interaction on all levels. It seems to be your friendships in particular that should ensue effortlessly, which makes for a perfect week to catch up with your friends so reach out to them during this time. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 25,…

AMAZINGLY FIT Five mornings a week my husband goes to the gym, gets on the elliptical trainer, sets the timer and buries his nose in a book. Recently, he’s noticed an amazingly fit middle-aged woman who seems to run circles around everyone, takes few breaks and rarely even breaks a sweat. “It’s not fair,” he complains. “By the time I’m dragging myself off to the showers, she’s hopping back on the elliptical for another session.” One day he comes home with a sheepish grin. “Well,” he says, “I just found out how she does it – identical twins.” HOME SWEET HOME While Thembi is dining out with her kids, a man comes over to their table and starts talking. He asks where the kids go to school. She tells him…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…