Table of contents for 7/16/2020 in Move!

WE all have that one friend, that cousin, that sister or aunt who everyone leans on. The one you tell the bad news to first so she or he can pass it on to the rest of the family. The one who everyone calls in their time of need, who’s expected to have all the answers. She gives the best advice, she’s always available with a kind word and is seen as indestructible. These people are the strong ones, who carry the rest of the world on their shoulders. But no one is that strong. Even the toughest friends and family members need someone every once in a while. So, please, take time out and check on your strong friends. They go through more than we know and are so…

NAME: Siyakhana Savings LOCATION: Cape Town MEMBERS: 10 CONTRIBUTION: R3 000 MEETINGS: Monthly FORMED: 2018 THE FORMATION The Siyakhana Savings group started just two years ago and is made up of nine women and one man. Eight of the members are colleagues and the other two are friends of the colleagues. They decided to start the group to help one another save for big purchases and to help pay their children’s school fees. THE MEETINGS The members meet once a month, on a Saturday as close to the 15th of each month as possible. At meetings, each member contributes their share. The monthly meetings are held at a central venue that the group usually agree on. During the meetings, they discuss stokvel business, check if the books are all in…

SHE’S had an emotional few weeks. From running her industrial theatre company, The Phezulu Phambili Collective, to living in lockdown and saying goodbye to the cast and fans of e.tv’s Imbewu: The Seed, it’s been a bit hectic. But she’s taking everything in her stride, actress Fundiswa Zwane (35) tells us. We speak to her after a morning of journalling. She finds it therapeutic and it helps her tap into her best thoughts. “I believe a woman should be at the forefront of her internal revolution.” Even with everything she’s been dealing with lately, she’s at peace. “Some decisions are never easy and accepting certain things is never easy too. But certain things need to end for others to begin,” she says. TAKING A BOW The exit from her role,…

HE’S one of the most easily recognisable faces on SA television. Yet you’ll never find him throwing his weight around – he’ll go to an audition just like everyone else, thank you very much. Seputla Sebogodi may have had over 30 years in the industry and is a household name thanks to playing Generations’ Kenneth Mashaba, but he still has his feet firmly planted on the ground. He tells Move! how he had to queue for the audition for Lithapo, just like everyone else. It’s in this new role in the SABC2 telenovela that he’s now flexing his creative muscles. “You treat every day as a new day,” the 57-year-old says. “You can’t go into an audition pompous.” When he got the role of Bra Kabe, he knew he had…

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RUGBY PLAYER Librarian to university rugby player: “May I help you?” “I have to read a play by Shakespeare.” “Which one?” “William.” THOUGHTFUL TEACHER After school one day, a young Grade 1 boy is sitting at the kitchen table, eating his afternoon snack, when he blurts out, “Mom, the teacher asked me today if I have any brothers or sisters who will be coming to school.” The boy’s mother replies, “That’s nice of her to take such an interest, dear. What did she say when you told her you are an only child?” “She said, ‘Thank goodness!’” THE FUR COAT Watching her mother as she tries on her new fur coat, a young daughter says unhappily, “Mom, do you realise some poor beast suffered so you could have that?” The…

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‘I HAVE A LOVELY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY HUBBY BUT I STRUGGLE TO ORGASM DURING SEX’ Q LUBRICATION OVERLOAD I have a good sex life with my man, we just have one problem: I think my vagina becomes too wet during intercourse. Is this normal? ANONYMOUS, SMS A Most women would love to have more natural lubrication. When your body is sexually aroused, your vagina produces lubricant for ease of penetration. During a sexual experience, lubrication is produced mainly at the beginning and becomes less as the act progresses. I suggest you keep a keep a towel handy for wiping away any fluid that makes you uncomfortable. You can also place a towel on the bed or any other surface you are having sex on. Embrace your juicy body – it…

A FAMILY member dies, neighbours start coming in to offer support (ukhuza umphanga) and the grieving process officially starts. Prayer sessions are held every night to comfort the family and, in some cases, a night vigil is held the night before the funeral. This is how we know funerals, a set of rituals and experiences that have been done for as long as we can remember and has so much meaning. OUR NEW REALITY Then Covid-19 came to South Africa. The country went into lockdown, gatherings became prohibited and funerals, we were told, were only allowed if everything is kept to a bare minimum. This new reality has been crushing for many families who’ve lost loved ones during lockdown. It’s not easy, Mahlohonolo Magadla says. She had to go from…

ODWA ZIDE You both need to sit down and talk about what is affecting your relationship, otherwise it may suddenly lead to divorce, something which is very painful to experience. Running away from emotions can ruin your life. NEHEE LEBOO Talk to him about all the things that hurt you but try not to judge him. Then give him a turn to tell you what hurts him. If you want your relationship to last, you will both have to accept your mistakes and apologise or seek professional help. ARTHUR TATA MOYO Sometimes women speak about too many different things at the same time that can’t be solved all at once. The man may then keep quiet to control his emotions – respect that he doesn’t want to fight then.…

1 After being bored with the same hairstyle for months you treat yourself to a visit to a stylist. How do you imagine your partner will react when you return home with your brand new look? A Not notice until you point it out to him. B Deliberately annoy you by saying he likes the old style. C Immediately notice and compliment you. 2 While spending the day at an outdoor fair with your partner, he decides he wants to go on an extreme ride with you. If you joined him, it would ruin your hairstyle so what would you do? A Forget worrying about your appearance, go on the ride and enjoy yourself. B Go reluctantly, hoping you will comb out the damage. C Let him go on alone.…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

VOLUNTEER YOUR SERVICES In this world where people are known for putting their interests first, let me salute the young people of Bushbuckridge in the greater Manyeleti area for their selfless efforts. Led by Fumani Mnisi, they’ve taken the initiative to fix the pothole-infested road from Islington to Manyeleti Game Reserve. They fund the project themselves and through donations from road users. They buy bags of cement and sand then fix the road one pothole at a time. It brings a smile to my face to know they’re contributing to the society they want to see. Very often, people just watch their ‘MAY WE ENSURE WE DON’T WHINE ABOUT LACK OF SERVICES’ WOMEN ARE BEING SUFFOCATED Gender-based violence (GBV) has been declared a pandemic by President Cyril Ramaphosa. Men have…

ABIDE BY THE STOKVEL RULES Siyakhana Savings would like to advise people to join a savings club, as they realised that when it comes to saving for big purchases – like cars, furniture or to simply pay off children’s school fees – it’s easier when you save together rather than on your own. They add that for anyone thinking of joining a stokvel, they should be honest and expect honesty from the get-go about group expectations and any financial constrains they may have. If you want your stokvel to be featured in Move!, send us your contact details and a picture of your stokvel members to: move@media24.com…

HE’S sweet and humble in real life, just like his onscreen characters. Even though his schedule is tight because of school – he’s been taking online classes and studying from home under the lockdown – Tshiamo Molobi gives us some time to catch up. GETTING TO KNOW TSHIAMO He fell in love with acting when he was in Grade 3. And when he saw the then-young actor Junior Singo in a movie, Tshiamo was more certain than ever that he wanted to be an actor too. “I used to watch a lot of movies and I would be so inspired by them,” the 17-year-old tells us. “And I remember seeing Junior in a movie, and that just showed me I could do it at my age.” When he told his…

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Q HOW DO I BUILD A WARDROBE THAT WILL LAST? A Shopping till you drop is a thing of the past. It’s time to build a collection of items you can wear year after year. Reworked classic items will give your personal style a modern edge. Invest in classic pieces that suit you – they’ll always look good because elegance never goes out of style! You may think this sounds difficult, but you can do it. Start by buying a basic white collared shirt – a powerhouse everyday essential and a statement piece – and go from there. A white shirt is a timeless classic and is sure to be the hardest-working piece in your closet. STOCKIST EDGARS 0800-203-925, MILADYS 0800-310-290, MRP 0800-212-535, SUPERBALIST.COM WE MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO PROVIDE…

‘YOUR HUSBAND CAN CLAIM A SHARE OF YOUR PENSION’ Q CAN HE STILL CLAIM HALF? My husband resigned from work. We are married in community of property but he’s used up all his pension money on himself. I’ve had enough of this relationship and I want to know what will happen if we get divorced. Will he still be entitled to half my assets? DISSATISFIED WIFE, SMS A In the case of divorce, your husband can claim a share of your pension fund as you are married in community of property. But it will be up to you to defend your case and prove to the court that your husband did not share his pension money with you and, as a result, should forfeit a share of your pension. Although…

“Marriage takes hard work,” says Busisiwe Malangwane, a registered counsellor at BI Malangwane Counselling in Midrand. “It requires two committed people with the same vision to make a success of it. It also requires constant communication. Have you tried telling your husband you feel uncared for? “Before you make any huge decisions, seek professional help such as couple’s counselling with your husband and if that still doesn’t help you can make an informed decision about your marriage. “If you’re planning to leave your husband, and if the new person feels the same way, you do your husband no favours by continuing the marriage. “In that case, it would be wise to end it now. Being left for someone else is bad enough – but imagine how painful and hurtful it…

A PAYMENT holiday – it has an appealing ring to it, especially now that many more South Africans are struggling to pay their debts. Since lockdown started, banks have been offering clients the chance to take a break from loan repayments. Every bank’s offering is different, so these are the questions you need to ask before you sign on the dotted line. WHAT ARE THE TERMS AND CONDITIONS? In some instances, the relief happens automatically, such as when the bank makes the interest on a student loan 0% for three months. But in most other cases you’ll need to specifically request a payment holiday or the extension of your loan term. These are some of the conditions, exclusions and requirements that might apply: ■ The relief might be available only…

Actor Brighton Ngoma shared his thoughts on living with vitiligo, saying he believed he was “given this gift so I could be a vehicle to educate people”. Move! readers have their say. We love him. He’s a serious hottie! BRITTNY MATHAMBO I love this guy. If akavelanga kwi episode ndifana noba andibukelanga iscandal (If he doesn’t appear in an episode of Scandal!, I might as well not watch). NONESI KHIVA He’s perfect the way he is. Glad he’s embracing it. THABANG NTESO And he is beautiful. NONZUKISO NZUKI DIBELA I love this guy. PEARLISA JACOB My crush. MANGUNEZI OMUHLE…

SHE’S been praying and crying for years. All she wanted was a chance to have a child, to have a baby to cuddle and hold and watch him or her grow up. But it seemed like it wasn’t going to happen. Until now. Sphelele Mzimela (30) tried for years to get pregnant, but she was too scared to go to the doctor to find out why it wasn’t happening. “I was scared of finding out that maybe I will forever struggle to have babies or something.” And when she stopped trying, her prayers were answered. “It’s not just one, you know,” she tells us softly. “I am having twins.” THE MOMENT OF TRUTH When she started feeling offish, she didn’t suspect anything. “I took so many pregnancy tests, yet I…

FOR WEEKS he’s gotten together with his congregants online. But now they’ll get to see him in SABC1’s Gospel Avenue, which is back for season 2. Former Idols SA winner Khaya Mthethwa is the host of the show, which is focused on discussing the current issues facing churches. The show sits in the perfect middle ground to facilitate the innate culture of faith passed down from generations, he believes. NEW NORMAL Shooting season 2 has been interesting, says the Oasis Church pastor. They implement stringent regulations on set. “They’re very pedantic about safety, making sure people have their masks on and are sanitised.” He praised the team for how they’ve been handling the new normal. The regulations have even had people cancel their appearances on the show but “they are…

THEY may be the famous faces we see on TV or hear on the radio now, but our local faves were once chubby-cheeked tots. They’ve come a long way since then, but here’s a look at the baby pics of some of Mzansi’s stars. Thando Thabethe She recently turned 30 and it’s safe to say the actress is a lot more excited about her birthday than she was back then! Nasty C This once-shy-looking rapper now spits some crazy bars and has signed an international record deal. Enhle Mbali By the look of things, the actress was always camera-ready. Euphonik Little did the DJ know back then that he’d be ruling many dance floors today with his banging sets. Zizo Tshwete Even as a baby, the former Miss South Africa…

A POT, some water, mealie meal, a wooden spoon and a lot of arm strength. That’s what it takes to make one of SA’s staple foods – pap. And when you’ve got a few hundred people to feed at an event or dozens at your house, it takes a lot of energy to stir the pot – which is where Rea Nkhumise’s creation comes in. He’s been secretly working on this passion project for three years: an automatic pap maker. He unveiled it when he saw a tweet with a picture of a woman cooking pap in a three-leg black pot with the caption: “I can’t believe that in 2020 no one has come up with an easier way to do this.” “And that is how I decided to share…

PILCHARD SPAGHETTI Spaghetti must be the most popular pasta in the world. It is so easy to prepare and can be spiced up with a simple sauce. SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 5 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN ■ 15ml (1T) olive oil ■ 1 onion, finely chopped ■ 2 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 1 red chilli, finely chopped ■ 1 can (425g) pilchards in tomato sauce ■ 1 can (400g) butter beans ■ 70g pitted green olives, plus extra to garnish ■ 300g spaghetti, cooked ■ shaved Parmesan cheese to serve 1 Heat the oil in a frying pan over medium heat and sauté the onion, garlic and chilli for about 3 minutes or until softened. 2 Stir in the pilchards with their sauce. Cook, stirring occasionally, and break the fish up…

WE LOVE a good pamper session and manicures and pedicures are up there with our favourite treatments. Something as simple as nail grooming can be done in the comfort of your own home and can save money too! CUTTING & FILING Cutting and filing your nails are the basics of keeping them in shape. When cutting nails try not to cut too close to the skin, as you may end up piercing the skin. Use smaller rounded clippers for your fingernails and big clippers for your big toenail. Cut the nail at an angle, following the shape of it. The shape of the nail clipper doesn’t match the shape of your nail, so don’t try to cut the entire length of your nail in one go. Filing smooths the edge…

‘MY HUSBAND BELIEVES EVERYTHING HIS MOM AND SISTER TELL HIM WITHOUT ASKING ME AND NOW HE WANTS A DIVORCE’ Q WHAT’S WRONG WITH HIM? I have a boyfriend I love a lot. We live together but recently he has changed. He started to call my ex with my phone and asks me questions about my ex. But when his phone rings he goes outside and I don’t know what is going on. I think he wants to break up with me. I don’t want to lose him. What should I do? GIRLFRIEND, EMAIL A You need to make your boyfriend aware of how his behaviour is affecting you. You must make him aware of the changes you have noticed in him and he must be honest with you about the…

16 – 22 JULY LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG Your personal year is drawing to a close. This makes for the perfect week to celebrate the past year, mourn losses and formulate goals. Try to learn from your mistakes and discard habits that hampered your progress. Also take the time to recognise and give thanks to those who supported you. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 34, 18, 37, 7, 52, 23 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEP The spotlight falls on friendships. If possible, catch up in person, play games or meet for a coffee. You can also reach out on social media. It’s not only about having fun, you’re bound to be able to serve – whether a friend needs practical advice or a helping hand. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 44,…

I’ve been married to the father of my two children for about six years. I’ve come to realise, especially now during lockdown, that the way we communicate with each other is quite poor. When we talk about an issue, it feels like we are speaking two different languages. I bottle up my emotions and then I explode and become defensive during confrontations. He prefers to not speak about things and keep the peace in the marriage. He says I think I always know best and am controlling. How can we communicate as a couple so that we can resolve issues? I don’t want the children growing up thinking the way we do things is the right way.…

Alcohol is often used to try to escape depressive episodes but it can actually result in aggravating thoughts of self-harm or suicide. It is likely to lead a teen to want to experiment with other harmful, illegal substances. It can lead to high-risk sexual behaviour and increase chances of sexually transmitted diseases and teenage pregnancy. Alcohol abuse can make someone more aggressive and impulsive and make them feel entitled to another’s body, leading to sexual assault. They are likely to get involved with crime or becoming violent. Alcohol lowers inhibitions and the ability to make good judgement calls. It increases chances of accidents.…

WE TEND to forget what a blessing good health is until it is gone. Even though we cannot ensure good health, there are things we can do to increase it. The first step is to stop doing things we know cause illness. If you’re living a lifestyle that ruins your health, it’s likely illness and disease will follow. Galatians 6:7 says, “A man reaps what he sows.” Our bodies are not designed to be abused. People who spend their days looking for a party or who work endless days without rest will eventually get sick. Honour your body. Take the time to rest. Find good ways to manage your stress. It is amazing that something as simple as eating healthy food and getting enough sleep can go a long way…

LOOKING FOR LOVE ■ I’m a 58-year-old woman looking for a partner between the ages of 55 and 58. He must be neat, have his own car, be romantic and responsible, and above all, he must be honest. I live in Sasolburg and I am independent, have my own house and I’m God-fearing. WhatsApp me on 084-388-9911 ■ I am a 26-year-old lady living with HIV. I’m looking for a man who is HIV-positive. He must be between the ages of 27 and 35, with not more than two kids and he must be working and live near Pretoria. Call me on 074-499-9177 ■ I’m a 39-year-old man from Johannesburg, single and searching for a single, loving, caring and honest lady. She must be committed to God, ready to start…

‘THIS MOVEMENT IS ABOUT US COMING TOGETHER AND JOINING HANDS’ IT STARTED off with just one post on social media but has turned into a movement that has assisted over 18 impoverished families in Uitenhage in the Eastern Cape and surrounds. Sivuyile Watani initially wanted to launch an education support initiative for school-leaving learners but after the coronavirus struck the country, he decided to prioritise helping families in need. That is how the Ubuntu is Us initiative was born. He started a Facebook group and after his first post to raise awareness, donations started coming in from far and wide. “This movement is about us, Uitenhage people, coming together and joining hands to display the compassion and empathy that black communities have always been known for. Basically, to care for…