Table of contents for 7/30/2020 in Move!

WHEN we first started working on Move!, I was ecstatic. I couldn’t believe I would be part of the team that brings you your favourite magazine week after week. I’ve loved this magazine for a long time. I was at university the first time I read a Move! and it was amazing. The stories were relatable, the people could have been my very own family and neighbours. And for some reason, I never imagined that I’d one day be able to work here. I thought magazines were for some kind of elite journalists and editors, those who’d gone to model C schools and had friends in high places. And then one day, my name made it into this magazine, and it remains one of the best moments of my life.…

The Fair Ladies Social Club advise anyone looking to join a stokvel to check that the people who are in the club have the same goals in mind. They suggest getting to know the people before making any commitments to a group – investigate the group, chat to members, find out how long they’ve been going and how they operate. They say it would be unwise to put hard-earned money into something you’re not 100% sure of or if you don’t understand their saving goal.…

SHE plays a gorgeous and dangerous girl who hijacks cars for a living in Mzansi Magic’s Gomora. There’s no doubt Siphesihle Ndaba is making her mark on the hit show as Mazet, a fearless young woman who does whatever it takes to please crime boss Mam’ Sonto, played by the legendary Connie Chiume. A few months ago the young star was a student trying to break into showbiz, but these days she can’t go anywhere without people shouting Mazet. The 22-year-old tells us she didn’t imagine her debut role would be such a big hit. “I honestly thought people wouldn’t like Mazet as she’s a villain and tempts a young man into a life of crime,” Siphesihle says. “However, once you look deeper you realise there’s more to her than…

WHILE many companies are buckling under the pressures brought on by the coronavirus pandemic, business has been thriving for Thobile Ntuli. As more and more consumers tighten their belts, they’ve been turning to the Joburg-based businesswoman to give their old shoes a new lease of life. Thobile hand paints sneakers and high-heeled shoes, turning them into custom works of art. The savvy entrepreneur has been putting in the hours, she tells us. “I’ve been busy since we went to level 4. But this is my calling. I asked for this. I told God and my ancestors this is what I want,”Thobile says. “It may have taken a long time, but it is happening the way I asked.” It has taken the businesswoman four years to grow her brainchild, Luthi Creatives.…

1 American rapper Amalaratna Zandile Dlamini is popularly known as . . .? A Saweetie B Tierra Whack C Megan Thee Stallion D Doja Cat 2 . . . is a Dutch verb which means “doing nothing”? A Ikigai B Niksen C Hygge D Lagom 3 Opec is a group of . . . of the world’s biggest exporters of oil? A 15 B 3 C 13 D 5 4 Pennywise is the name of a . . . in the horror flick It? A Clown B Butcher C Dancer D Circus 5 Reality TV star Kylie Jenner and actor Will Smith’s youngest kids are said to be part of a cult called . . .? A Celeb Society B Rich Kids Only C Organise Society D Orgonite Society 6…

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‘CONSIDER COUNSELLING FOR THE SECONDARY TRAUMA YOU SUFFERED AS A PARENT’ Mama Madikgetla is a registered social worker in private practice. She provides counselling to individuals, couples and families. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work, an honours degree in psychology and is currently pursuing a master’s degree in social work. Q BURNT BY A NEIGHBOUR My child is 17 years old. Her friends asked her to go somewhere with them and they ended up in someone’s shack. When they heard a woman screaming, her friends ran out. The woman saw my child and burnt her face and breast badly. What can we do? It was very traumatic. WORRIED MOM, EMAIL A You can report the incident to the police and open a case. They will need your child to…

LEO (22 JUL – 22 AUG) Mercury moves into your sign this week, boosting your flair with words. It’s an excellent time to channel energy and time into creative outlets like penning a book, writing lyrics or performing onstage. It’s also the ideal time to make your voice heard. You might have an inspiring story to tell or thought to air. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 41, 27, 13, 34, 29, 3 VIRGO (23 AUG – 22 SEP) As a diligent Virgo, chances are you’re up to speed with your work. It’s time for a breather. Try to get out of the rat race, pull back from the social scene and take time out to replenish body, mind and soul. Try to let go of your worries. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 11, 48,…

NEHEE LEBOO Start talking to your man like you do to other people. You are used to giving friends time and didn’t give your man time. Maybe he’s lonely too but used to it. Sometimes one has to drop their pride and attitude for a relationship to work. That’s it! MASERAME MANGWEGAPE SEBUIWA Find things you can do together. I believe he knew you were outgoing from the beginning. So, don’t change because he fell in love with that, but find a balance to accommodate him. AUBREY AYOBA MNISI Consult a professional. You should also both write down what you like and don’t like about each other. After that, look for solutions that will make you both happy without changing what kind of person you each are. Love conquers all.…

SHE was terrified when she lost her job. Like many businesses, the company Nokwanda Zondi worked for was battling to stay afloat due to the crushing impact of the corona-virus crisis. In April, she was retrenched and her only concern was keeping the wolf from the door. “When I heard I was going to be retrenched, I was gripped with fear of survival,” Nokwanda says. “I kept thinking, ‘Ngizophila ngani?’ (What will I survive on?). How will I make ends meet?’” BRIGHT IDEA South Africa’s economy had taken a pounding because of the pandemic and she worried finding a job during these uncertain times would be tough. Nokwanda, who last year completed her BTech in consumer science from the Durban University of Technology (DUT), had always loved cooking so she…

1 You have a dress you last wore five years ago. It’s no longer in fashion, so would you ditch it? A No, it may come back into fashion. B If it still fits you’d keep it, if not you’d throw it out. C Yes, to make way for new stuff. 2 When was the last time you gave old belongings away? A You’ve never done it. B At least six months ago. C Within the past few weeks. 3 Looking through your parents’ home, you find a cuddly toy your first boyfriend gave you years ago. The stuffing is starting to come out. What would you do with it? A Leave it where it is. B Dump it, like you did your first boyfriend. C Put the stuffing back…

ACTRESS FUNDISWA ZWANE It’s with great sadness that we watch such a giant player in the media industry take a bow. Thank you for being such a critical component in sharing the powerful narrative of black women within South Africa and across the globe. Thank you for your dignity, accuracy and life-changing platform. This isn’t a “goodbye” but a “hello” to a new and more beautiful chapter. So I say halala to all that’s to come! ACTRESS NOMSA BUTHELEZI-SHEZI The first time I saw my face on a magazine was in Move!. I’m so sad. Farewell, Move! magazine. ACTRESS XOLILE TSHABALALA Like all good things, they have to come to an end. We say, thank you for being part of our lives. Thank you. KWAITO STAR MSHOZA We are saddened…

SHE’S manipulative, conniving and her family has just about had enough of her. But she isn’t going anywhere, no matter how much pushback she faces, especially from the family matriarch, who can’t stand her. Actress Linda Mtoba (28) has made a dramatic return to her role as Nomonde, the not-so-innocent daughter of Zweli Dikana, played by Hlomla Dandala, on The River. This comes after she took almost a year off TV to have to her baby. When she left, she’d been the much-loved Zama Ngwenya on Isibaya. Now she’s back and rattling cages on The River. “It was a transition I needed. I have been given the opportunity to grow with my characters. Zama was sweet and Nomonde is very manipulative and being given such a character, I am really…

RELATIONSHIP DRAMA ■ I’m lucky my wife and mother are very close. I realised just how close the time I drove my mother to her doctor, which my wife usually does. When the doctor came into the room, my own dear mother introduced me as her “daughter-in-law’s husband”. ■ My wife always prefers the stairs, whereas I always like to take the elevator. I guess we were raised differently. ■ After a long time, I told my hot co-worker how I felt. Turns out she felt the same way. So I turned on the air conditioning. ■ The couple’s therapist said, “So, tell me what brings you here today?” My wife said, “It’s really difficult to live with him. He’s so literal.” I said, “My truck.” ■ My wife won’t…

Q ANKLE BOOTS ARE IN FASHION. HOW DO I STYLE THEM? A There’s no single rule on how to style ankle boots – it’s all about what looks good on you. But there are a few things you can do to achieve a great look without too much effort. Try rolling up your jeans or pants to show off the skin between the top of your boots and the cuffs. Tucking your jeans into your boots will make you look taller and leaner as you’ll create one continuous line. Ankle boots are so versatile you can even wear them with skirts and dresses.…

PEANUT BUTTER CREAM ROULADE SERVES 6 PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 10 MIN CAKE ■ 3 eggs ■ 100ml brown sugar ■ 5ml (1t) vanilla essence ■ 15ml (1T) oil ■ 15ml (1T) milk ■ 125ml (½c) flour ■ 20ml (4t) cocoa powder, extra for dusting ■ pinch of salt FILLING ■ 250ml (1c) cream ■ 30ml (2T) castor sugar ■ 45ml (3T) peanut butter Preheat oven to 180°C. Grease a 35x15cm baking tin. 1 Cake In a bowl, beat the eggs, sugar and vanilla essence until pale and creamy, about 10 minutes. Add oil and milk and gently fold through. Sift together the flour, cocoa and salt and add to egg mixture. 2 Pour the mixture into the prepared baking tin, tilting it to distribute the mixture evenly. Bake for…

‘ALLOW YOURSELF TO RELAX AND BE VULNERABLE AROUND YOUR PARTNER’ Q AM I STILL A VIRGIN? I’ve been dating this guy and he recently put his finger in my vagina. I enjoyed it but I want to know – can a person lose their virginity from finger penetration from someone else? WORRIED, SMS A The hymen is a very thin membrane which partially closes the opening of the vagina. It becomes very elastic from the time a woman reaches puberty and can easily be broken. Some believe virginity ends when the hymen is broken. But a hymen can break when anything penetrates or disturbs it, causing it to tear. Research has shown that a woman’s hymen can even break during horse riding. But the presence or absence of the hymen…

MANY South Africans are finding that their financial situations are drastically different from what they were at the beginning of the year – and things could get even harder in the months to come. In times like these, we need to be extra careful about how we manage our finances. Here’s what you need to do to protect your cash flow and make sound decisions about money. 1 MAKE SENSE OF YOUR EXPENSES Inevitably, lockdown would’ve had an impact on your spending habits, as your social life has been limited. If you’re working from home, you’re probably spending far less on transport but more on groceries because your whole family is home 24/7. ■ Draw up a new, adjusted budget to suit your current situation. Budgeting apps such as 22seven…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details, to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you’re going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

AS a child, he was always intrigued by television. He couldn’t stop looking at the ‘magic box’ that was in almost every household and he loved spending hours in front of it. But he had no idea how it all came together. Actor Siyabonga Xaba (21) had his own theories on how people made it onto the small screen. “When I was like,five-years-old, I was trying to figure out how people got into the TV. So, I came up with this crazy idea that it was like Candid Camera and people lived with cameras in their lives,” he tells us. He thought there was a hidden camera always filming him, so he tried to keep his days lively, just in case. “I tried to make my life as interesting as…

STRIPES For a casual everyday look, go for colourful striped jerseys. TIP Don’t wring or wash knits in high temperatures as this will stretch the fibres. RIBBED You can easily layer up this lightweight knit. TIP Handwash or delicate machine wash knitwear, then lay it flat to dry. FAIR ISLE This intricate multicoloured pattern is back! Pair it with skinny pants or jeans. TIP To avoid stretching, fold knitwear instead of hanging it. LONGLINE POCKET CARDIGAN Wear this with a belt to show off your shape. COCOON-DRAPE LONGLINE CARDIGAN This style accentuates a feminine silhouette. WATERFALL COATIGAN Wear this under a jacket – a great trick for plus-sized ladies. TIP To gently remove pilling by hand, use a pilling comb or a fluff shaver. MIDI COATIGAN Pair this item with…

‘I’M WORRIED ABOUT MY TEENAGE KIDS HAVING SEX’ Nthabiseng Monareng holds LLB and LLM degrees from Wits University. Nthabi has more than 10 years’ experience in the legal field, specialising in family law. She’s written books on family law and is a family law mediator. Q WORK-RELATED DEATH My sister is struggling because her husband died at work and his employer didn’t pay his family anything after his death. Surely there is some money my sister is supposed to receive from her husband’s employer, as she has no other income and was dependent on him? What can she do to ensure she receives some sort of compensation? CONCERNED SIBLING, SMS A Your sister can go to the department of labour and file a claim under the Compensation for Occupational Injuries…

“Life can seem very unfair when you know what you want but you need to depend on another person to fulfil that,” says Nomonde Precious Stamper, a social worker in private practice at Eyam Consultancy in Grahamstown. “Most women tend to draw their timeline – when to have kids, getting married, etc., and you may find yourself frustrated or being pressured by siblings moving out sooner than you, for example. “When it comes to finding a partner, we tend to be attracted to certain qualities and we may meet people with those exact qualities but it doesn’t guarantee they will be Mr Right. Mostly those qualities are led by flesh. They are material things. “When it comes to spending your life with someone, it should be emotionally and spiritually driven.…

I’ve always known my husband and I are very different people. He’s subdued, silent and an indoors kind of guy. I’m loud and enjoy socialising. Before Covid-19, I would spend a lot of my time with friends and family when I wasn’t at work. The lockdown period exposed how much we have become like strangers and I find myself lonely even though I’m with my life partner. How can I manage this loneliness in my marriage? FRUSTRATED…

Here’s how to benefit from the burdens that weigh you down. ■ External factors are beyond your control but your perception and the way you react are not. “While it may not be pleasant at the time, opportunities often arise through stress,” says health and performance educator Richard Sutton. “But it is about shifting the situation from chronic [longterm] stress that is debilitating, to acute stress that is episodic and liberating. The mind is very powerful. Use it.” ■ Reach out to those around you. Sutton says interpersonal interaction facilitates the release of the hormone oxytocin, which provides a buffer against adverse stresses. It lowers the heart rate, counteracts cortisol and boosts fearlessness. “If you want to use stress to your advantage, it’s important to stay well rested and well…

GOD trusted Mary and Joseph to raise Jesus as their child. He trusted them to take care of him, to teach him how to live in a challenging society. They taught him to be a carpenter and to be independent. They taught him to obey elders, to be humble, curious and kind. Luke 2:46 says, “After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.” PREPARE YOUR CHILDREN FOR LIFE’S DIFFICULTIES We are raised by parents who have some sort of belief about how you must live your life. I found it interesting to raise a child and take good care of them mentally and spiritually, based on what I believe as a parent. It says in Proverbs 22:6,…

LOCKDOWN has brought out many creative ways of entertaining. Like this new livestream dedicated to celebrating the progressive culture of sangomas. It’s called the Thokoza Gogo Lockdown Party, founded and produced by Yolanda Dandala, a young traditional healer from Gauteng. “I wanted to create a digital entertainment platform to shine a light on the talent traditional healers have,” Yolanda says. She says lockdown has deprived healers from gathering ceremonies of drumming and dance, so she introduced a new, modern culture of performance for healers that they can do from the comfort of their homes.…