Fairlady April 2018

FAIRLADY is a modern, glossy grown-up magazine that offers great stories and inspired solutions to the busy South African woman.

South Africa
Media 24 Ltd
R 68
R 357
6 Issues

in this issue

7 min
pia-alexa duarte

Suzy Brokensha: Pia’s joy was contagious – she deeply loved life: her family, her friends, her dogs… and there was a kind of Reuters strip that constantly ran through her head about how to make it even better – for everyone. She had an exquisite cake for every occasion, which has to be one of the great talents in life. She never sat still; she was always organising, cajoling, planning ahead. Resting in peace is not her style: she’ll be making something better somewhere. Every month she’d present a list of wonderful ideas of what to put in the next issue, and when we chose she’d always say, ‘Happy days.’ And they were. Tasneem Larney: What I will remember about Pia is her kindness. She had a gentleness in her voice, a…

1 min
and a truly inspiring letter from a reader:

The passing of Pia-Alexa Duarte really hit me. I didn’t know her, except through her writing in FAIRLADY. I wasn’t her friend or part of her family, but her death truly moved me. Maybe because she was a young woman, like me, who probably thought she had loads of time left to live and maybe even took that time for granted. I have spent years in a job that, while it pays the bills and I am treated well, does not bring me joy. Lately I have been thinking a lot about that word ‘joy’ and what it means. I watch people going through the motions of life or stressed out of their minds, including myself and those I love, and I wonder what the point of it all is if…

2 min
you said wrote & tweeted...

Male perspective I have a confession… I’m a man and I read FAIRLADY. There’s a real risk of being ridiculed by my colleagues for writing this letter, but I believe it’s important to give credit where it’s due. While on holiday, I was looking for good reading material. With the mission approved, the target selected was a pile of my wife’s FAIRLADY magazines. A careful interrogation of the front covers ensued, with the objective of selecting articles suitable for manly interest. It was a difficult choice between ‘Mother-in-law horror stories’ [October 2017] and ‘Why male fertility is in trouble’ [November 2017]. While Emilia Clarke and Jennifer Aniston were equally distracting, in the end the header ‘Grown-up sex’ [December 2017] was the ultimate decider. Yes, you can say it: ‘Typical man!’ In all seriousness,…

7 min
a handmaid's tale

if you’ve watched any really good TV over the past decade, chances are you’ve seen Elisabeth Moss in action. While many stars have sought longevity in Hollywood blockbusters, Elisabeth was drawn to television. She’s starred in premier shows like Top of the Lake, The West Wing and Mad Men, all of which have made her the unofficial Queen of TV Drama and won her several top-tier awards. The 35-year-old American actress and producer was simply looking for good writing at the time, she told Vulture last year. ‘I think that enabled me to say “yes” to some television things perhaps before everyone was saying “yes”,’ she says. Award-winning shows like The Sopranos, Breaking Bad and The Wire have ushered in a new age of TV, which some are calling the Golden…

9 min
the lost art of listening

We all know that one person. You’re trying to tell a story, but they keep interrupting – either with advice, or a counter-argument to what you’re saying, or to tell their own story – of that one time when something ‘just like that’ happened to their friend, So-and-So. Hey, maybe you’re that person. Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, phrased it perfectly. He said, ‘Most of us don’t listen with the intent to understand. We listen with the intent to reply.’ According to sound and communication expert Julian Treasure (author of How to Be Heard: Secrets for Powerful Speaking and Listening), we spend roughly 60% of our communication time listening – but even so, ‘we’re not very good at it’. In fact, we retain just 25% of…

2 min
not always right

Journalist Ronnie Polaneczky has a simple tip to make you a better listener, one she describes with a personal story in her TED Talk ‘The Power of Deliberate Listening’. After writing a story about a woman whose son had been murdered, Ronnie received an angry phone call from a reader. ‘My son was murdered,’ the woman said. ‘You didn’t write about him. You didn’t ask about my grief. How do you decide what to put in that paper anyway? I guess you didn’t care about my son and you sure didn’t care about me.’ She accused Ronnie of being cruel, ignorant and arrogant. Ronnie was infuriated: how dare this stranger accuse her of such things? But, Ronnie says, as she listened to the flurry of insults, her own anger began to shift. ‘Suddenly,…