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Parents November 2020

Parents brings you expert advice you can trust to help you raise happy, healthy kids at every age, every stage! Celebrate the joys of parenthood! Say yes to Parents now and get all the family-focused fun, down-to-earth tips, and advice from the heart you need to be the best mom you can be!

United States
Meredith Corporation
R 43,28
R 144,61
12 Issues

in this issue

3 min
editor’s note

Kindness Over Everything THERE IS NOTHING that makes my heart swell with pride, in that palpable, I-might-tear-up-right-here-on-the-sidewalk way, than finding out that one of my kids has been kind. I still kvell thinking about the first parent-teacher conference I ever attended, when we learned Joey had been handing out tissues to his fellow 2-year-olds anytime they cried. And I will never forget the morning during kindergarten drop-off when another parent told me that Joey had befriended her shy child, helping him over his fear of school. My son had noticed others in distress and gone out of his way to make a difference. Then there’s Gabriel. At 3, his favorite activity is sitting on a bench in our driveway, waiting for people (repairmen, delivery workers, his babysitter) to drive up so he…

5 min
your guide to making the days easier and the journey sweeter

Chase the Rainbow A way for kids to get their creativity on and give you peace and quiet? Yesss! Try this trick the next time you need your crew to entertain themselves for a stretch: Send them on a hunt-and-gather mission throughout the house and yard, searching for items that match all the rainbow’s colors. (Pot-of-gold bonus points if they declutter their rooms in the process!) TEACH YOUR CHILD TO … MAKE THEIR BED The chore takes only a few minutes, or the length of your kid’s favorite Blippi song, and can kick-start independence—i.e., you won’t have to help forever. 1 PULL BACK THE COVERS. Show your kid what their little legs have kicked, untucked, and tangled throughout the night. 2 LEARN ALL THE LAYERS. Have your child do a check around the bed: Is the fitted sheet…

3 min
your lineup of what’s new, novel, and nice to know

SOLVE When your fridge seriously can’t fit another dish, lay two chopsticks across the top of any foil-lined container. It makes an instant steady surface to cram in that one last pan of mac ’n’ cheese. BOND Bust out Family Conversation Cards at the dinner table or the next family Zoom. Questions like “If you had a superpower, what would it be?” help get everyone out of the usual “How’s school?” spiral. $26 for 100; boonsupply.com DOWNLOAD The Lockitz! app gives your phone’s locked screen a set of colorful images and games that keep your kids/phone bandits occupied, so no more having to worry they’re about to FaceTime your coworkers. $4; iOS or Android EAT Keep leftover cranberry sauce from becoming the mystery Tupperware container you avoid. Instead, spoon the Thanksgiving staple onto oatmeal and swirl it…

4 min
generation kind

FOR ANYONE WITH KIDS, 2020 has been … a lot. Parents faced a global health crisis, an economic collapse, a movement for racial justice—all with no child care. We wrestled 5-year-olds into masks, had hard conversations at the dinner table. We became, quite literally, our children’s teachers. But despite our (entirely forgivable) failings, there’s one way many of us may yet succeed. And it has to do with our shifting parenting priorities. This year “has given parents an opportunity to consider who they want to be, and who they want their kids to be,” says Tunette Powell, Ph.D., head of UCLA’s Parent Empowerment Project. And it turns out that who—or, rather, what—we want them to be is kind. When we asked 1,227 moms and dads across the country what they value most,…

2 min
what matters to parents now

73% of moms rank kindness as the quality they most hope to instill in their children—more than intelligence (51%) or a strong work ethic (51%). “I think parents today have a different focus than our parents did. It’s not about traditional success anymore; it’s about happiness and kindness.”—47-YEAR-OLD MOM OF ONE“With the current global situation, children cannot help but be exposed to the injustices, and to some degree feel they have the weight of the world on their shoulders to fix it in the future.”—35-YEAR-OLD MOM OF TWO 50% of moms believe the most important task of parenthood is showing a child how to be compassionate and kind, placing this above kids learning to be their authentic selves (28%), becoming successful high achievers (16%), or possessing intelligence (6%). Only 38% believed that…

4 min
the resilience-kindness connection

I WAS A public-school student in the ’90s and a public-school teacher in the 2010s—and the difference between how I was taught and how I learned to teach is striking. When I was a kid, teachers might label a disruptive kid “bad” and eject them from class. Now kids are taught to calm big emotions through social and emotional learning (SEL), an approach used in many U.S. schools. The thinking is simple: To raise kinder kids, we must teach them how to be kind to themselves. That starts with mastering your emotions. James Comer, M.D., M.P.H., of Yale University School of Medicine’s Child Study Center, developed SEL in 1968; it’s now used widely. In elementary school, SEL can be taught in many ways: Kids might have a daily roundtable in which…