Inhaltsverzeichnis für June 2019 in True Love

I didn’t grow up in what’s considered a typical nuclear family with mom, dad and siblings – I spent most of my formative years with my grandmother and mother. Growing up, my mom spoke no ill about my father, basically leaving it up to me to get to know him when the time came. Throughout those years, I could never shake the feeling he was always there in the shadows, celebrating my victories and feeling bad when things weren’t going my way. Fast forward to the present, and my father and I are closer than I could ever imagine. The gentle giant I call dad is my biggest cheerleader – giving constructive criticism on the latest TRUE LOVE issue (he’s also a journalist), comforting me when I lose loved ones…

LADIES COATS Heat up the freezing streets with a good quality coat. For the less adventurous, you can't go wrong with a classic colour like black, grey or navy. If you're in the mood for something new, we're digging checks and tweed. MAN TRENCH The trench keeps re-inventing itself every year. What’s cool is that you can pair it with anything in your wardrobe – from a casual sports luxe-inspired ensemble, to a corporate tailored suit. Get yours now! LADIES…

When was your fashion label, Imprint, launched? I registered my company in 2012 after winning a competition. But it was under a different name when I started. Imprint, as a brand, was born in 2015 when I was redesigning my business after attending Design Indaba as an emerging creative. What drives Imprint? Imprint is more than just prints – it feels like a gift tha chose me. The definition of Imprint is a for It points to the fact that I'm a qualified accoun fashion imprinted itself on me. But the mea just end there, it extends to the fact that, thr bold prints and silhouettes, my clothes lea on everyone. Tell us about your journey. I've always loved fashion. My first exposur home, watching my mom sew. I would…

BEAUTY ESSENTIALS CLAIRE MAWISA "I'M A BIG BELIEVER IN USING MASKS IN WINTER. EVERY THIRD DAY OF THE WEEK, I APPLY A HYDRATING OR BRIGHTENING MASK TO KEEP MY SKIN PLUMP AND GLOWING." AZANIA MOSAKA "MY SKIN TENDS TO BREAKOUT IN WINTER, BUT GEL CLEANSERS ARE THE BEST SOLUTION. I ALSO APPLY A SERUM THAT PROTECTS AND NOURISHES MY SKIN, AND SEALS IN THE MOISTURE." ZONKE DIKANA "IN WINTER, I SWITCH THINGS UP AND USE CLEANSERS THAT ARE NOT HARSH OR STRIP MOISTURE FROM MY SKIN. I ALSO WEAR MAKE-UP OFTEN FOR GIGS AND SHOOTS, SO MICELLAR WATER IS ALWAYS IN MY BAG SO I CAN GENTLY REMOVE MAKE- UP ON THE GO." We all want our skin to stay clear, radiant and healthy throughout the year, but this can…

Giorgio Armani Sì Eau De Parfum Fiori R1 590 Sì Eau de Parfum Fiori is a new floral blend and tasty “Chypre Néroli” that will transport you into new territory. Infused with mandarin and blackcurrant nectar, this potion features bright luminous notes on top. The vanilla and white musk base lingers on the skin and enchants the senses. Yves Saint Laurent Black Opium Eau De Parfum Intense R1 130 Decadent and opulent, Black Opium Eau de Parfum Intense is the stronger, bolder and more seductive take on the classic eau de parfum. The opening notes of liquorice blue absinthe give way to orange blossoms dipped in dark coffee. Elizabeth Arden White Tea Wild Rose Eau de Toilette Spray R575 White Tea Wild Rose conjures the surprise of…

“Thank you to the Fresh Breakfast team for laying the entertainment red carpet for us. We will continue on that path for the next three hours…” Dineo Ranaka’s words blare out of my car speakers as I listen to Metro FM’s mid-morning show, The Bridge, on the Monday when we’re meant to, finally, meet for our interview. My mind immediately tries to decipher how she came to be so gifted with words — so, I make a mental note to ask her this question later. Ten minutes after this thought, a WhatsApp voice note from the 35-year-old radio and club DJ sends my excitement levels crushing down. She is, yet again, asking that we postpone our interview because — following a weekend packed to the brim with her DJing gigs…

Unlike my on-air persona, I’m generally a relaxed and easy-going person. I like to have fun and don’t take myself too seriously. Before anything else, I’m a parent. I’m passionate about being a father. Late American writer James Baldwin says children may not always do what you say, but they will rarely fail to imitate what you do. Your kids watch you when no-one else can see you, when you are most comfortable and when you are your true self. They observe you without even knowing, which is why it’s important to be authentic and a role model around them. While I try not to take myself too seriously, I make sure that what my daughter sees is real and honourable. I hope my daughter will learn to see herself…

GLOWING AND GLOSSY HOW TO Glossy Eyes 1. Create a soft shimmering look by starting with a glossy primer on your eyelids using your fingertips. 2. Dab a liquid, gel or cream shadow to give your eyes a wet, shiny look. 3. Top up the cream eyeshadow with a liquid eyeshadow in a shimmering colour for a gleaming effect. GRAB A VIBRANT PEACH HOW TO Eye and Cheek Tint 1. Start by applying a pastel peach cream eyeshadow over your eyelids. 2. Using an eye brush, apply a gold tint to create a shimmer. 3. Sweep a peach colour along your cheekbones and fan the colour out towards your temples. 4. Apply a setting mist over the blush and eyeshadow to maintain the look. GEOMETRIC HOW TO Petal Metallic Lip…

THE BIG SWITCH Aisha Pandor spent years pursuing her PhD in Human Genetics, only to leave it all behind after being bitten by the entrepreneurial bug. While some may view this as time wasted, as a businesswoman, it’s enabled her to seek out groundbreaking ideas. “I will always love science, because that and research are where the greatest discoveries of our time come from. I moved over to business because I was quite impatient around scientific output and execution. I felt that for gene therapy to be applied into something that benefits the broader population, it would take decades to see my research findings come into fruition,” she explains. Her second reason was that South Africa’s issues — urgent need for better education, unequal living conditions, racial tensions and many…

When it comes to the bedroom, numbers aren’t withheld in conversations among friends – from the number of rounds in one night to where a particular man sits in the rankings of skill or size. But this openness doesn’t extend to bank balances. Your best friend is more likely to know how many men you’ve slept with, or how let down you are after the first night with a new man, than they are to know your gross salary or how disappointed you are about the low amount of your annual increase. You’re more likely to know that they bought a new vibrator, and far less likely to know the remaining balance on their credit card. Conversations about sex are detailed and thorough. Switch to money, though, and the intimacy…

What’s considered a fair cost breakdown in a child maintenance agreement? Raphuti sets it out as follows: Monthly cash payments: The maintenance amount is usually paid to the parent who has primary care of the child. The maintenance order will state the amount, as well as when and how payment is to be made. There is usually an annual increase on the anniversary of the maintenance order. The increase is either by CPI (Consumer Price Index), as notified by Statistics SA (or its equivalent). Medical expenses: If parents can afford private medical care, both parents must pay for the child’s medical needs. This is usually done by one parent making cash contributions to the other parent’s medical aid, or having the child in the medical aid schemes of both parents.…

Violence, even with reason, can destroy. If you beat with the aim of hurting your children, you shame and take away their power. In the same breath, you teach them that someone can take away their power. When they feel powerless, they will assume that, they too, have the right to take away someone else’s by using violence. Words have the capacity to build or break. Calling your child names takes away their true identity and they grow attached to the identity you’ve given them. This constitutes abuse. Not allowing for mistakes. Avoid having your child feel like they can’t make any errors.There’s a fine balance between over-correcting and allowing your child to make blunders so they can learn the lesson. Bad intentions. Are you trying to instill fear in…

Go on a soul searching mission. Rediscovering yourself is vital in creating new habits. Ask yourself the following questions: What did I enjoy doing as a child? When last did I feel happy? What excites me? What fulfils me? What self-love actions can I practise daily? Don’t force yourself to do what you’re not up to. Be kind and gentle with yourself. It takes 21 to 30 days to form new habits. On days when you don’t feel like doing anything, allow yourself to rest and rejuvenate, then try again the next day. Forcing yourself will cause resentment. Do one thing daily that supports your new habit. Don’t bundle many new habits. Commit to one at a time and break it down to smaller tasks. Reward yourself for accomplishing them.…

How did you become the Cooking With Lamb ambassador? It was a typical case of being at the right place at the right time. I was working at a food festival in Monte Casino, Joburg, and had prepared a lamb curry. Lamb and Mutton SA was also there, and offered me the ambassadorship. I'm originally from Botswana, and after studying at the Nelson Mandela University, I started a catering business, and eight years later, completed a culinary qualification at HTA School of Culinary Art. What does your role as ambassador entail? #IAmAmbassador is the official consumer education project for Lamb and Mutton SA. I do live cooking demos at different food shows and expos. This ties in perfectly with my passion for educating consumers, as I also conduct cooking classes…

The competition runs from 20 May to midnight on 12 August 2019. You may enter as many times as you like. *Each SMS costs R1,50. You must be the owner of the cellphone or have permission from the owner of the cellphone to use it to enter the competition. Staff of Media24, the prize sponsor and their families may not enter. You have to send the correct answer to the question to stand a chance to win. Winner must be over 18 years old. Prize does not include transport to and from the event and meals not specified. Winners will be chosen by random draw and will be notified telephonically. If a winner can’t be reached within three calls during business hours, a new winner will be chosen. Media24 and…

BEY BOLD We're obsessed about this picture of our Queen, Beyoncé Knowles, surrounded by Adidas sneakers, to celebrate her partnership with the brand. The Instagram image went viral and hit 2 million likes in less than an hour! RAW MATERIAL TV presenter, Nomalanga “The Flame” Shozi, and photographer, Trevor Stuurman, front the G- Star RAW S/S19 campaign, bearing the punchy slogan, “It’s you. Own it.” In a celebration of unique personalities, we like that the campaign speaks to the outspoken and confident, with items designed to make you stand out. Nice one, G-Star! ADIDAS PRIMEKNIT LUX BRA Where can a woman find the support and comfort she needs when working out? Well, Adidas presents the new Primeknit LUX Bra. This first-of-its-kind sports bra that gives you freedom of movement, so…

SOCK CONE HEEL BLOCK RUNWAY INSPIRATION SLOUCHY…

What are you working on? I’m currently working on a suite of large narrative paintings. I’ve been finding ways of reinterpreting details or elements of these ‘classic’ images into my own visual language. For my paintings, I primarily work on wood panel and use a combination of drawing and painting materials, such as charcoal, pencil, watercolour, ink, and acrylic paint. Describe your artistic style in three words? Trying. My. Hardest. How did you end up working at Gallery Momo? They offered me a three-month Artist Residency in Joburg, providing me with a concentrated period of time to devote to a particular idea or exploration.…

OUR MAN CRUSHES’ WINTER GROOMING TIPS: KAT SINIVASAN, TELEVISION PRESENTER “I ALWAYS MAKE SURE TO CHANGE MY MOISTURISER AND GET A DEEP HYDRATING CREAM FOR WINTER. DRY, ASHY SKIN IS NOT A LOOK I WANT WHEN I’M IN FRONT OF THE CAMERAS.’’ STHEMBISO KHOZA, ACTOR “THE NATURE OF MY JOB SEES ME SHOOTING A LOT OF OUTDOOR SCENES, SO MY FACE, HANDS AND LIPS TEND TO GET DRY AND CHAPPED. I ALWAYS CARRY LIP BALM AND HAND CREAM ON SET.’’ REFILOE ‘CASSPER NYOVEST’ PHOOLO, MUSICIAN “I APPLY FACE WASHES AND OILS SPECIFICALLY MADE FOR BEARDS AND FACIAL PORES, TO KEEP MY SKIN HEALTHY. I’M ALWAYS ON STAGE OR TRAVELLING, SO GROOMING MY FACIAL HAIR IS IMPORTANT.’’ When switching up your beauty essentials for winter, show some love and throw in…

CO-OWNER OF NEO LUXURY BAR, BONGEKA LWANA, A NICHE PERFUME BAR THAT CURATES ONE-OF-A-KIND EXCLUSIVE SCENTS FOR MEN AND WOMEN, ON THE BEST COLOGNES FOR MEN THIS SEASON. WHY DID YOU CHOOSE TO GO INTO THE FRAGRANCE BUSINESS? I STARTED THE BUSINESS WITH MY SISTER, TOBEKA LWANA, AS WE SAW THE NEED AND MARKET FOR TAILOR-MADE FRAGRANCES FOR BOTH SEXES. SCENTS ARE A VERY PERSONAL ELEMENT OF ONE’S BEAUTY REGIME AND REPRESENT YOU WHEREVER YOU GO, SO WE THOUGHT WE COULD OFFER OUR CLIENTELE EXCLUSIVE PRODUCTS THAT NO-ONE ELSE HAS. WHICH SCENTS WORK BEST FOR MEN DURING THE COLD MONTHS? IN WINTER, THE HIGHER THE CONCENTRATION AND THE STRONGER THE SCENT, THE BETTER. COLOGNES WITH A STRONG MUSKY OR VANILLA TONE ARE IDEAL AS THEY LAST THROUGHOUT THE DAY. MEN’S…

BUBBLES If you have a mini afro, then you can definitely pull off this look. It’s vintage, yet ultra cool. Firstly, make sure that your hair is hydrated, which means feeding it with hair food or spritzing it with a water and essential oil combo. Use an afro comb to comb out your hair. Then, divide the hair into six rows from ear to ear, and then separate it into five rows from your forehead to the back end of your head. Tie each block with wool, making sure that you don’t do it too tightly, as that will lead to breakage. For a more playful look, use colourful elastic bands. ALL TO THE SIDE This is the simplest yet most chic style by far! It doesn’t require much effort…

At some point while wondering what I’d done to deserve the hurtful stories written about me, I decided that that wasn’t my battle to fight — so I gracefully exited that battlefield. I’ve never been scared to try or to fail. Failure, on its own, is an educational institution. I’m not going to deny that validation feels good, but I’m not addicted to it. Validation, like anything in excess, is bad for you! Running a business is no 100-metre sprint, it’s a marathon! Always choose the progression of the business, not the criticism. Be very clear about who to please! You need patience, endurance and resilience to make money as an entrepreneur. It comes faster for some, and takes longer for others. I have not drilled to the point of…

Quality I most admired in my dad is… He was not a quitter. When life threw its worst at him and sometimes because of his errors of judgement, he took it in his stride and kept his chin up. He was never ashamed to be himself. I think living with the worst version of yourself is the greatest kind of bravery. I never grow tired of watching… Amistad. It speaks to the long chain of human lives. We are here because there were others before, and our lives make no sense if they are disconnected from those that came before us. At this moment, we are the very reason they existed at all. We have to pass that forward and leave this world better than we found it. If I…

The Rustenburg-born social entrepreneur started her company, Rethaka Foundation, in 2013, but is currently re-strategising and building a lifestyle brand for African women titled Life With Thato. What inspired Rethaka Foundation and the subsequent repurpose bags? The decision came about when I took a look around my community at age 18. I had seen many problems that grown-ups had failed to address. I felt if we applied ourselves, we could find innovative solutions. I’ve always been conscious about waste and wanted to make a difference – my purpose is to serve people and make an impact. That is how Rethaka Foundation came about – we produce solar powered recycled schoolbags. In the past four years, I put my head down and mastered how to serve people. I now consider profit…

Job titles matter, because words are powerful. They give us the confidence and sense of purpose we need to go about our days. That bursting sense of pride you feel, but publicly deny, when you’re introduced as the “Head of Department” or “CEO” by one of those tjatjarag relatives at a family gathering, cannot be ignored. But, what happens when you finally get the salary offer of your dreams, sans the equally fancy job title? You’re allowed to scream before asking bra God, “Why couldn’t I just get the job without any of the drama!” A senior salary and a junior title may be a non-issue for some, but experts warn that by going this route, you could potentially “outprice” yourself on the job market. A few months into her…

“I don’t get enough sleep, that’s for sure. I go to bed between midnight and 2 am, then wake up just after 6 am to start my day with a quick gym session, then get my kids ready for school. When I’m particularly stressed, some yoga helps keep stress at bay. In terms of organising my life, if it’s not in my diary, it doesn’t exist – and that includes my personal life. I also swear by this app that helps me communicate with my team effectively. I like holding my meetings later in the day and reserve my mornings – my most productive time – to work through my biggest priorities of the day.”…

The situation: An invite to an outing you can’t afford THE STRATEGY: Quality time is important. Be honest. Don’t make up stories as it could give the impression you don’t value spending time with friends. THE SCRIPT: “I’d love to join you, but I don’t have the funds. I can’t afford a full spa day, but how about we all go for manicures next month?” The situation: Group contributions THE STRATEGY: Clubbing together for a baby shower gift, or to help following a bereavement, can be difficult. Even when friends know your financial troubles, they expect you to pitch in. Tell them you need to be excluded, but give assurance you’ll find a way to be giving. THE SCRIPT: “It’s a great idea to club together, but please count me…

Rules can make any relationship more smooth sailing. Set rules and know what you want. The mistake most people make in a sex buddy set-up is expecting the other person to read their mind. Be clear on what you want and stick to it. This arrangement is meant to get the itch scratched. If you start catching feelings – get out. Treat the situations as a ‘drive-through’. Order your meal, collect it and leave. Sleepovers can be problematic as conversations are inevitable, and when they happen, feelings come into play. Never make a sex buddy someone who is easily accessible. Once you have an integrated world, then it can become tricky. My best advice is to find someone out of your circle, someone you don’t have shared interests with. Emotions…

“Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”- Exodus 20:12 7 JANUARY 1980 Yours is the first face I saw when I came into the world. At first, I was scared. It was so cold and bright. But then I heard your voice. I remembered it immediately — warm, deep and comforting. I didn’t expect you to be so big. My whole body fits into your two hands. 7 JANUARY 1987 I love my new bike. Thank you so much. I wasn’t certain if I’d be able to ride it, but I knew you’d teach me. I’m enjoying it now. Daddy, you’re my Superman. I’m not afraid of anything. I know I have the strongest dad…

If you’re worried about your man’s health, get him signed up for a group. Support group leader Ronnie Nkabinde shares how he could stand to benefit by joining one: Various experts give members professional advice and information. This includes diet and other lifestyle adjustments. People who don’t know where to go or who to talk to because they don’t belong to any support group, are always frustrated. They can feel lonely and depressed as family has no time for them, and friends also tend to disappear. Support groups are part of the healing process, and that’s also where people get more information about their illness, the treatment they are receiving, as well as the side effects of the illness and various treatments. This is usually much more information…

MOROCCAN CANNED PILCHARDS Serves: 4 Prep Time: 30 mins Ingredients 200 g butternut cubed 200 g sweet potato, cubed 2 cinnamon sticks 2 T oil 1 onion finely chopped 2 cloves garlic 3 T Moroccan spice 2 x 400 g cans pilchards 1 x 400 g can chickpeas Handful coriander Method: 1. In a saucepan, add butternut, sweet potato and cinnamon, cook in 1/2 cup water until vegetables are tender. Remove from stove and set aside. 2. In another saucepan, heat oil and sauté onions and garlic together. Add Morrocan spice and cook for another 5-7 minutes on low heat, stirring continuously. 3. Separate the fish and sauce and set the fish aside. Pour the sauce into the pan, followed by cooked vegetables, and the water that remains. Add coriander…

Zamantungwa Khumalo, 29 This Mail & Guardian special projects editor is an adventure junkie who also enjoys winter sports. Biggest epiphany while in Lesotho? As a black South African woman, I thought these type of activities were inaccessible to me. I didn’t even know that I could ski right here in Lesotho, and it’s also not as expensive as people think. It was lovely to see black families exposing their children to unique activities. Best way to holiday in a cold destination? Honestly, South Africans are not used to winter, therefore we don’t understand the importance of layering properly! If you layer with the right materials, you won’t have to pack many clothes. Also, normal clothing shops don’t stock the suitable items needed for cold destinations, so do your research.…

“It’s such a pity that we’ll only fully know our way around the ship on the eve of our departure,” jokes one of the guests right after embrakation, remarking on the majestic 16-deck, 65-ton floating paradise that is the MSC Musica. To say that it’s a maze, would be an understatement. What could have easily been a five-minute stroll to the restaurant wing from my cabin, took up to 15 minutes of getting lost and finally succumbing to asking for help at reception. By the way, leave all your space issues on land, because although the cabins are comfortable, the bathrooms are quite compact. The MSC Musica is also wheelchair-friendly, which is a great perk! Unlike the frustration one experiences when getting lost on land, there was something rather amusing…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN Embrace your creative self and let the harmony of the spheres inspire you. Supersonic ideas come when you stop talking. Friends and finances have been doing a disappearing act, and ‘no’, it’s not a conspiracy. Your die-hard fans will always be there, particularly at your birthday party. LOVE: Put a ring on it – this year has fairytale plans for you. Your birthday month is magnetic, with Cupid shining his spotlight on you from the 9th. Enjoy being loved. WORK/MONEY: Sharpen your focus to get what you want, but stay within the rules. When doors slam shut, be smart and find alternatives. Stay with the loyal team, walk by the rest. CANCER 21 JUN – 22 JUL Get a new hairdo – your self-esteem…

Florals have always been spring's go-to print. This winter, the wheels have turned, with blackened florals seen on every shop front – from blouses to delicate maxi dresses and more. Give the look a winter makeover by layering a turtleneck underneath a floral dress, or pair the look with the season's slouchy knee-high boots. This trend definitely gets our stamp of approval!…

HOW TO STYLE KNITWEAR Shake things up and rock your jerseys like never before: 1. Repurpose your knitwear as a layering piece, rather than a simple cover up. 2. Wear it underneath your jumpsuit or waistcoat for an updated look, or tuck it into your pants or skirt for a refreshed winter ensemble. 3. Tie a belt over the jersey for an edgier feel. ADESUWA AIGHEWI…

Scent is an extension of your personality and every woman’s favourite beauty spoil. Choosing your signature perfume is based on your personal preference, as well as whatever emotions that fragrance evokes. These potions can be investments, so it’s important to know the basics and how to make sure yours is captivating and true to who you are. WHAT’S IN A SCENT? Some are designed to trigger certain seasonal moods. These should combine sweet notes, such as cinnamon, vanilla and amber. Some winter perfumes usually combine the mild citrus scent of lemons, oranges, and other tropical fruits. These are also mixed with sugary undertones, such as honey and caramel. If you're not crazy about smelling sweet, you may lean more towards sultry and darker scents. In that case, you should look…

SONNYBOY MAGANO – HAIRSTYLIST AND SONNYMAGIC HAIR AND BEAUTY LOUNGE OWNER WHICH UNISEX HAIRSTYLES DO YOU RECOMMEND? A PIXIE CUT, BUZZ CUT OR SLICKED BACK HAIR CAN LOOK CLASSY AND EDGY, DEPENDING ON THE STYLE YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE. WHAT I LOVE MOST ABOUT THESE STYLES IS THAT THEY'RE EASY TO MAINTAIN AND ACCENTUATE A WOMAN’S FACE. WHICH PRODUCTS CAN BE USED TO MAINTAIN THE CUT AND COLOUR? I ALWAYS ADVISE MY CLIENTS TO DO A MOISTURE TREATMENT WITH KERATIN EVERY TWO WEEKS, ESPECIALLY IF THEIR HAIR IS DYED. A TREATMENT LOCKS IN MOISTURE AND NOURISHES THE HAIR. IF YOU HAVE SLICKED BACK RELAXED HAIR, CORNROWS OR DYE, I'D SAY ALWAYS WEAR A SILK OR SATIN SCARF, INSTEAD OF A DOEK OR STOCKING, AS THESE CAN DEPLETE YOUR HAIR'S NATURAL…

DR NTHABISENG KUMALO Age: 31 Occupation: Medical Doctor “My friend felt I needed to come out of my style shell and explore the fashion and beauty scene more. So this makeover came at the right time, and I’m grateful that she recommended me as a candidate,” she says. MAKE-UP “Nthabiseng has beautiful skin. I applied a few drops of liquid primer to help set the make-up. To emphasise her gorgeous round eyes, I used a soft purple eyeshadow and a brown eyeliner. I then followed with purple lipstick and topped it off with lip gloss to give it shine,” says Faith Seuoe, make-up artist. HAIR “The doctor takes such good care of her hair, which shows because it looks really healthy. I felt a chunky straight back would suit her…

Widowed is…a true and untold South African story of women who lost their husbands, and haven’t had the opportunity to talk about this painful chapter of their lives. Most of them have been harbouring certain feelings and have no-one to communicate them to. It’s a story of healing, and one that also aims to reconcile families. Filming the show…opened me up to a world that I knew existed, but whose intricacies I didn’t quite understand. Each episode opened my eyes to new lessons and awoke character traits in me that I didn’t know I had. Biggest lesson I learnt from hosting Widowed…was that if you’ve never lost a loved one, you’ll never quite understand how far-reaching grief is. The show has taught me not only to be sensitive to the…

MUSICIAN, BATHABISE ‘THABSIE’ VOKWANA AND HER DAD, MIKE BIYELA Bathabise on her dad Biggest lesson dad taught me… He always reminds me why humility is key. I love how wise he is. What I love about our relationship… My dad is the gentlest man I know. He goes to the ends of the world for those he loves. We get on so well, that there’s nothing I cannot share with him. Fondest memory… Growing up, my dad taught my younger sister and I karate — he holds a black belt. He put us through some tough training but that, in turn, taught me the value of hard work and discipline. Bab’ Biyela on his daughter What I love the most about Thabsie… Her humility and independence. She is very courageous…

Don’t die in silence. Voice your job title concerns earlier on in the recruitment process. Know your industry. Check the industry norms and benchmarks before suggesting an appropriate title. Do your research. Do not demand a high salary without looking at the role and the responsibilities, the market and industry pay. Look into the company’s internal policy. Consider the impact and level of responsibility of the new job title you are proposing. Make calculated moves. When making money and career moves, observe what other people who have walked a similar path have done, and try to emulate their strategies.…

Utilise your support system. Be it family, other entrepreneurs, mentors, investors, or entrepreneur support networks, because it’s difficult, and you often experience a lot of self-doubt. Have a unique combination of skills, insights and an ability to execute. This will give you a competitive advantage and place you miles ahead of your peers. It will also help you worry less about what your competitors are doing, and make you solutions driven. Have a good business partner. In my case, having a partner who complements me from a skills perspective, and one who also challenges my decisions in a constructive way, has been a great help. It’s also reassuring to have someone who shares in the difficulties of starting a business. Be goal-focused. In growing the business, set realistic goals and…

Be calm, first, so you can act positively. Talk and communicate with your kids. Make them understand what it is that they have done wrong. The more you speak to your kids, the more of your ideas and your thoughts they get in. Give them options, outline the limits clearly. As they grow older, you can then teach them how to negotiate boundaries respectfully. Point at what they did, and never attack their character. This way, children get to understand that it’s their behaviour and actions that are problematic, and not them. Consistency is key. This will help reaffirm everything that you have taught them so far, and not send any mixed messages.…

Mashigo says that if your current relationship is built on mutual respect, trust and open communication, then do this: Share your fears with your partner. Don’t compare yourself with his ex. Explain how his relationship with his ex affects you and how it’s breaking the trust in your relationship. Share how you’d like your partner to interact with his ex. Ask him to keep his distance and to explain his position to his ex. Give your partner time to deal with his ex as there may be unresolved issues. Try to understand their relationship, ask questions and be willing to negotiate. If none of the above works, it might be best to move on. Don’t compromise your values.…

Anyone who knows me well will tell you that I’m the type of person who can finish three seasons, with 13 episodes each, in a weekend. As soon as I get home from work, I plant myself on the couch, turn on the television and vegetate till I fall asleep past midnight. Watching television has become a full-blown addiction for me. It’s a tool I used to avoid facing my fear of stepping out into the world more, connecting with others, working towards my life goals, reading more serious books and losing a roll or two from my stomach. I’m what you’d call a “series fanatic”. I have every series binge-watching platform at my disposal. I’ve always been like this. I was extremely shy when I was younger, and still…

“Sharing details of our favourite moments on social media is a natural and exciting part of life for most people today. But it can also be anxiety-inducing.” Take it from me – taking dating and relationship cues from social media is a bad strategy. But we’ve all been there. Do you remember when the “boyfriend allowance” caused a flurry of dissatisfaction in many an erstwhile satisfied girlfriend in 2017? That launched the criminally inane pastime that now persists as Boyfriend Olympics. If he doesn’t send you money for no reason, is he even your boyfriend? More recently, South African Twitter split in half when a male user accused most women of peppering gifts in flavours that prioritise their own tastes. This came after a girl posted a video of herself…

As if having the cutest love story is not enough, Bohang Moeko and Shantal Dietrich are fitness die-hards too. Theirs is the quintessential modern-day love story — Moeko first laid eyes on Dietrich on social media in 2017, then later had a brief encounter with her at an audition. It was only after a mutual friend posted about Dietrich on Instagram that he plucked up the courage to DM her. There we go, DMs aren’t just for shady banter! The pair started working out together before hitting it off in the romance department. While you may not be as fortunate to meet your #fitnessgoals with your partner, we can all be inspired by this duo. HOW THEY STARTED “We’re both not too big on #BodyGoals, we believe in simply working…

STICKY LAMB RIBLETS Serves: 4 Prep time: 1 hr Ingredients 1 kg lamb riblets 4 T rustic Karoo rub ½ cup balsamic vinegar ½ cup honey ½ cup brown sugar ¼ cup worcestershire sauce 3 cloves garlic 1 cm stick ginger, crushed Method 1. Preheat oven to 180°C. Season lamb rib-lets with spice rub and rub it in with your hands. Set aside. In a small saucepan, mix the rest of the ingredients, bring to boil, then remove from stove. 2. Place riblets on an oven tray or grilling skillet, pour the marinade on top. Place in oven and grill for about 30 minutes, until lamb is tender and cooked. 3. Serve with fennel salad. CURRIED SHEEP TRIPE Serves: 4-6 Prep time: 5 hrs Ingredients 1 kg sheep tripe, cleaned…

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